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Dancing_Zephyr
2010-01-27, 12:04 AM
On the bus home from school two girls stopped by the back exit of the bus, which is located near the mid-section of the bus just in front of a stair which leads to the rear seats which are on a slightly raised platform. Now this wouldn't be bad normally, but the front of the bus was packed to its limits and behind the girls was enough room to have another 3-4 people. I asked them to move to the back, rather than stopping part of the way and they didn't move. They asked if I was talking to them and I told them that if they were in the way, which they were, then I was talking to them. They didn't move. Eventually, after enough people left the bus they weren't in the way anymore and I was able to move past them to the back of the bus, but by this point the point was rather moot as there was plenty of standing room.

Was I wrong to ask them to move?
Is bus etiquette sufficiently different in different locations?


Also, misery enjoys company, I'd enjoy your bus or transportation problems if you'd like to post them.

randman22222
2010-01-27, 12:07 AM
On the bus home from school two girls stopped by the back exit of the bus, which is located near the mid-section of the bus just in front of a stair which leads to the rear seats which are on a slightly raised platform. Now this wouldn't be bad normally, but the front of the bus was packed to its limits and behind the girls was enough room to have another 3-4 people. I asked them to move to the back, rather than stopping part of the way and they didn't move. They asked if I was talking to them and I told them that if they were in the way, which they were, then I was talking to them. They didn't move. Eventually, after enough people left the bus they weren't in the way anymore and I was able to move past them to the back of the bus, but by this point the point was rather moot as there was plenty of standing room.

Was I wrong to ask them to move?
Is bus etiquette sufficiently different in different locations?


Also, misery enjoys company, I'd enjoy your bus or transportation problems if you'd like to post them.

There's nothing wrong in asking them that! Actually, I've been in the same position a couple times...

What annoys me is when I'm on the 'drunk bus' late on the weekends, and everyone decides to start singing something, or chanting something, or what not. Let me hear my thoughts, please!

xPANCAKEx
2010-01-27, 03:25 AM
Dancing_Zephyr

have to say, if you'd used that approach with most people you'd come across as a smart ass. Its not what you asked, but the way you asked it that probably produced such stubborness. When they asked if you were talking to them, a simple "yeah, sorry, its a bit crowded down here" would probably have worked better than something approaching sarcastic. You catch a lot more flys with honey than vinegar. Of course there are occasionally people so obstainate who will refuse no matter how nicely they're asked, but fortunately they're few and far between

Of course you could also try just moving into that space yourself with a simple "excuse me" - that usually works.

as for loud people - thats the reason i usually have noise reducing headphones. Even when not listening to music they still act as ear plugs. Of course they can't stop you witnessing drunken punch ups on the bus, but hey...

Zeb The Troll
2010-01-27, 03:41 AM
You catch a lot more flys with honey than vinegar.If I don't do it, someone else will...

http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/flies.png

xPANCAKEx
2010-01-27, 04:34 AM
If I don't do it, someone else will...

http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/flies.png

curse you xkcd for having an answer to everything

but yes - point still stands...

Lioness
2010-01-27, 05:52 AM
Nothing wrong with asking the girls to move back. I would've done the same in that situation. I get really annoyed when the bus driver refuses to let me on because it's 'full'. It's not full, but everyone stopped at the middle and no-one has the guts to tell people to move. Either that or the bus driver can't be bothered yelling at them.

It's a common problem on the buses, especially after school. No school kids want to be told what to do (I'm one of them, excuse me for trying to distance myself from the average), but most of them grudgingly move back if you yell at them enough.

Eldan
2010-01-27, 08:09 AM
curse you xkcd for having an answer to everything

but yes - point still stands...

That's however only true with brown balsamico, not with other vinegar. Or at least my experiments seem to indicate it. Balsamico is quite sweet anyway.

Emperor Ing
2010-01-27, 08:13 AM
(Censored by the Inquisition)

You didn't do anything wrong, the people you may or may not have been talking to though were just being inconsiderate morons.

Krade
2010-01-27, 09:32 PM
I find that, as a whole, people usually take way more space than they should need. The bus, unfortunately, is no exception.

PJ the Epic
2010-01-27, 09:43 PM
I don't ride public transit, as I live in a small town. But on our school bus (which is commonly overflowing), I must fight (not literally) with another kid for a seat, because he refuses to move his backpack, and therfore, I'm left without a seat. It's really quite frustrating, until I realized that I could walk faster than our bus gets to school, leaving at the same time.:smallbiggrin:

Pika...
2010-01-27, 09:48 PM
Eh, I sometimes wonder what is worse; public buses or school buses.

First time on a public bus a woman was shouting "stop so I can use the restroom", then was about to lower her skirt to pee in the bus. It was early day and she did not look homeless or anything to boot.

Just two weeks ago I was behind a school bus driving to my local FLAG from home (there are around five schools only a few minutes from my home), and there was this (high school? possibly older middle school?) girl literally getting gangbanged in the very back-right seat. There were a few girls as I am guessing lookouts and physical cover, as a guy/male kid gets up from crouching on the seat, pulls up his pants, and then another male kid looking on from a seat in front comes back and starts. You could see the girls legs, arms/hands and the top of her head. All this visible as a driver behind the bus. :smalleek:


Basically, the point of these stories is there is no bus etiquette.

PJ the Epic
2010-01-27, 09:50 PM
Eh, I sometimes wonder what is worse; public buses or school buses.

First time on a public bus a woman was shouting "stop so I can use the restroom", then was about to lower her skirt to pee in the bus. It was early day and she did not look homeless or anything to boot.

Just two weeks ago I was behind a school bus driving to my local FLAG from home (there are around five schools only a few minutes from my home), and there was this (high school? possibly older middle school?) girl literally getting gangbanged in the very back-right seat. There were a few girls as I am guessing lookouts and physical cover, as a guy/male kid gets up from crouching on the seat, pulls up his pants, and then another male kid looking on from a seat in front comes back and starts. You could see the girls legs, arms/hands and the top of her head. All this visible as a driver behind the bus. :smalleek:


Basically, the point of these stories is there is no bus etiquette.

Okay, that's bad. Really, really bad. AHHH NO MORE PUBLIC TRANSPORT FOR ME!!!:smalleek:

CoffeeIncluded
2010-01-27, 10:03 PM
Eh, I sometimes wonder what is worse; public buses or school buses.

First time on a public bus a woman was shouting "stop so I can use the restroom", then was about to lower her skirt to pee in the bus. It was early day and she did not look homeless or anything to boot.

Just two weeks ago I was behind a school bus driving to my local FLAG from home (there are around five schools only a few minutes from my home), and there was this (high school? possibly older middle school?) girl literally getting gangbanged in the very back-right seat. There were a few girls as I am guessing lookouts and physical cover, as a guy/male kid gets up from crouching on the seat, pulls up his pants, and then another male kid looking on from a seat in front comes back and starts. You could see the girls legs, arms/hands and the top of her head. All this visible as a driver behind the bus. :smalleek:


Basically, the point of these stories is there is no bus etiquette.

Holy...:eek:

And I thought the people screaming and tackling each other in the back of the bus and nearly opening up the emergency exit door was bad.

Pika...
2010-01-27, 10:09 PM
Holy...:eek:

And I thought the people screaming and tackling each other in the back of the bus and nearly opening up the emergency exit door was bad.

Haha.

What can I say, this is Florida.

Zeb The Troll
2010-01-27, 11:52 PM
If I had been the one following that school bus, police would have been involved, I assure you.

Pika...
2010-01-28, 12:11 AM
If I had been the one following that school bus, police would have been involved, I assure you.

Eh, what would be the point?

Teens have sex, it's a fact, and girls like that will always exist.

I remember seeing something similar when I was in high school while on premise when after school. Circle of guys and a trashy girl in the middle leaned against the car shop door.

Another case I heard of in my old school was a line of guys waiting to get into the guys' bathroom, and when the teacher came in what did they find?

Again what good would getting the police involved have gotten me? And I would have needed a camera or something to prove it since they could have just pulled up their pants in seconds, but then that would have gotten me in jail for child pornography...

Maximum Zersk
2010-01-28, 12:34 AM
Eh, what would be the point?

Teens have sex, it's a fact, and girls like that will always exist.

I remember seeing something similar when I was in high school while on premise when after school. Circle of guys and a trashy girl in the middle leaned against the car shop door.

Another case I heard of in my old school was a line of guys waiting to get into the guys' bathroom, and when the teacher came in what did they find?

Again what good would getting the police involved have gotten me? And I would have needed a camera or something to prove it since they could have just pulled up their pants in seconds, but then that would have gotten me in jail for child pornography...

So, generally, a Catch 22 then?

Zeb The Troll
2010-01-28, 12:39 AM
What would be the point!? Seriously? Maybe because it's CHILDREN having SEX in PUBLIC?

And because, while on the bus, which is technically school property, the driver has a legal responsibility to prevent the children on board from breaking the law. Having sex in public is against the law. The driver knowingly turning a blind eye to children having sex on his bus is against the law. I'm not against the kids having sex, per se (well, that's actually a complicated conversation and kind of beside the point here). I'm against them doing it in public and I'm against those who are charged with the responsibility of their well being turning a blind eye. The driver that allowed that to happen on his watch needs to lose his job.