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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
Boyfriend is moving in and just joined the forum. I don't know which is the more shocking news. :smalltongue:
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
Well, where is he? Let's see him? Is he worthy?
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Here I am. How are you meant to see if i am worthy of the almighty Mynxae. LOL
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bfm1991
Here I am. How are you meant to see if i am worthy of the almighty Mynxae. LOL
/facepalms-and-groans Oh dear. I'm doomed. :smallredface:
Nah, he's a dear. Love him to bits. :smallbiggrin: We're off for cuddles, as it's 2:20am here in QLD, Aus! Enjoy your time of day, whatever it may be everybody! :smalltongue:
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Ooooohhhh...:smalleek:
It's three hours to go before we leave, and I'm starting to get really, really, REALLY nervous :smalleek: ...and twitchy...and hyper...
What if I choke? What if I mess up? What if they're mad at me? Gaaaaah! >_<
Oh, man, this waiting and dreading stuff is exhausting!
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
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Originally Posted by
bfm1991
Here I am. How are you meant to see if i am worthy of the almighty Mynxae. LOL
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Mynxae
/facepalms-and-groans Oh dear. I'm doomed. :smallredface:
Nah, he's a dear. Love him to bits. :smallbiggrin: We're off for cuddles, as it's 2:20am here in QLD, Aus! Enjoy your time of day, whatever it may be everybody! :smalltongue:
Well, he seems friendly enough.... Hopefully we see more of him around these parts. (Do not misconstrue the intent of those words, y'all. :smalltongue:)
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Absol197
Ooooohhhh...:smalleek:
It's three hours to go before we leave, and I'm starting to get really, really, REALLY nervous :smalleek: ...and twitchy...and hyper...
What if I choke? What if I mess up? What if they're mad at me? Gaaaaah! >_<
Oh, man, this waiting and dreading stuff is exhausting!
You'll be fine hon. Relax. Take a deep breath.
Great, now I'm getting excited. *Good luck hug*
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Absol197
Ooooohhhh...:smalleek:
It's three hours to go before we leave, and I'm starting to get really, really, REALLY nervous :smalleek: ...and twitchy...and hyper...
What if I choke? What if I mess up? What if they're mad at me? Gaaaaah! >_<
Oh, man, this waiting and dreading stuff is exhausting!
Take a deep breath, then another, and maybe if you manage to start hyperventilating you'll pass out and wake up in three hours and miss this bit. I definitely feel you, I'm kind of anxious about some stuff. Best of luck.
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bfm1991
How are you meant to see if i am worthy of the almighty Mynxae.
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Absol197
Ooooohhhh...:smalleek:
It's three hours to go before we leave, and I'm starting to get really, really, REALLY nervous :smalleek: ...and twitchy...and hyper...
What if I choke? What if I mess up? What if they're mad at me? Gaaaaah! >_<
Oh, man, this waiting and dreading stuff is exhausting!
Take a run. Or a brisk walk. And good luck.
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
My, my, Asta. I didn't know you were the probing type. :smallwink:
May all of everyone's secrets be revealed to you.
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I pride myself in the thoroughness of my examination. Mynxae, do you need him alive after the... procedure? :smalltongue:
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And prevent cuddles between the two of them? I should think not.
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
What would a dream that one's ex came out as gay mean?
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My immediate amateur idea would be that you're subconsiously trying to tell yourself you weren't at fault. After all, if they were gay, there's no way you could be the reason.
But I never actually took psychology. So what do I know?
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noparlpf
What would a dream that one's ex came out as gay mean?
IANAPsychologist, but having read a bunch of stuff on neuroscience, I think that dreams don't mean much. For the most part they seem to be stories your conscious mind makes up to explain the random thoughts that pop up during REM sleep.
At most, it probably means you're stressed about your ex and/or coming out. Or you were thinking about your ex and/or coming out and while you were sleeping your brain needed to file those thoughts away in long-term storage and so you experienced them again during the transfer.
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PairO'Dice Lost
Well. Today sucked.
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This morning at work we had a free sponsored medical clinic thingy where some healthcare people came in and gave flu shots, checked blood sugar, dispensed nutrition advice, did a normal checkup, and such. I'm not a fan of needles at all and would gladly have passed on it, but it's sponsored by my employer's insurance company as part of a Healthy Incentives program, and each thing you do gives you a discount on your insurance premiums for a year (up to 2/3 off if you do the maximum number of activities), so given the insurance prices around here I figured I could put up with my trypanophobia if it meant saving that kind of money. We had to fill out a bunch of forms beforehand, one of which had questions about relationship status, orientation, sexual practices, etc. for demographics and benefit eligibility purposes. (On a side note, I was impressed by the form; the questions dealt with more than just the gender binary, included most of the LGBTQA* in the orientation answers, and stuff like that.)
One of the possible activities was giving blood. Those of you familiar with US laws on the subject probably see where this is heading. :smallannoyed:
I answered all the questions honestly and figured that would be the end of it. Now, I haven't had sex before, with another male or otherwise. I don't have anything that would be communicable via blood donation, HIV or otherwise. I emphatically did not want to give blood today because eew needles and I stated as much on the form. Yet that didn't stop the nurse there from coming over and telling me--in the public waiting room, mind, not in the private room where they were discussing test results with people--that "people like me" aren't allowed to give blood. When I told her that I had not checked the giving-blood box on the activity selection form, I had checked the never-had-sex-with-men box, and oh by the way there were probably some people two floors up who hadn't heard her and would she like to say that again a little louder, she apologized for misreading the giving-blood checkbox...but reiterated (loudly) that it's not allowed and that I shouldn't go try to give blood somewhere else, because I could be lying about not being a MSM.
Because if you're gay and you really want to give blood, you're obviously going to tell the truth about your orientation and then lie about your sex life. :smallconfused:
So basically I got to skip breakfast and give up my lunch break in order to be poked with needles, humiliated in front of my co-workers and manager, and unexpectedly outed to a bunch of people. My manager said he's going to file a complaint with the insurance company over the unprofessional conduct, but the damage is done; some of the co-workers who were present have expressed some not-exactly-gay-friendly views in the past, and when I ran into one of them later in the afternoon, instead of exchanging the usual friendly smalltalk she very unsubtly snubbed me.
Every Wednesday we have a catered lunch where the whole company eats together and gossips networks, so I guess I'll find out then how many of those coworkers who apparently skipped LGBT sensitivity training are still willing to talk to me. Tomorrow is going to be a looong day. :smallsigh:
Jeez. Man, I have nothing constructive to add, but I'm sorry, I hope you feel better, and boy howdy would I stick it to that crappy nurse.
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Serpentine
I doubt it. And in any case I'm pretty sure that's the sort of thing that should be made available at the start :smallannoyed:
Yeah. Definitely grounds to enforce punishment, and I think you should.
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Mynxae
Boyfriend is moving in and just joined the forum. I don't know which is the more shocking news. :smalltongue:
Wanna see him! Where is h--
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Originally Posted by
bfm1991
Here I am. How are you meant to see if i am worthy of the almighty Mynxae. LOL
Oh. Hi!
And with our eyes. Duh~
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Absol197
Ooooohhhh...:smalleek:
It's three hours to go before we leave, and I'm starting to get really, really, REALLY nervous :smalleek: ...and twitchy...and hyper...
What if I choke? What if I mess up? What if they're mad at me? Gaaaaah! >_<
Oh, man, this waiting and dreading stuff is exhausting!
We're here for ya homie!
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Jeez Asta, that's terrifying.
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bfm1991
Here I am. How are you meant to see if i am worthy of the almighty Mynxae. LOL
Welcome!
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Absol197
Ooooohhhh...:smalleek:
It's three hours to go before we leave, and I'm starting to get really, really, REALLY nervous :smalleek: ...and twitchy...and hyper...
What if I choke? What if I mess up? What if they're mad at me? Gaaaaah! >_<
Oh, man, this waiting and dreading stuff is exhausting!
*HUGS*
I need to come here more. Sorry ya'll.:smallfrown:
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noparlpf
What would a dream that one's ex came out as gay mean?
Anxiety dream. Could be something related to one thing in that dream. Could be just general anxiety.
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Asta Kask
Kender... have you ever considered mixing the power of tea and whisky in one glass? Or would the power splinter the glass immediately?
Turns out, much like lemonade and icecream, the combined worth is less than the separate totals. Whisktea is ... frankly difficult to drink. But can be worth it during a cold. But just having tea and then hot whiskey is better. Btw, I don't go in for all that water and cloves and sugar and what-have-you for hot whiskey. My hot whiskey is heated whiskey.
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Socratov
On de division of housework. I'm partly agreeing and partly not. that it happens doesn't make it bad. I admit to have seen a gender inequality between rewards etc. But on the other hand studies have shown that the difference is often put because women tend to go on a sebattical (so to speak) to have and raise kids. Most of the time the rewards like salary etc. are based on the amount of education, nature of the function and the amount of work experience in a given field. Now if Person A has less experience then Person B it could stand to reason that Person B gets a bigger reward. So my question is (one that is sadly rather hard to research): what part of the genderinequality is explained by a difference in work experience and difference in capabilities, and what part is to blame on us men beïng mysoginistic *******s (in general)?
Well, that's what I'm saying, that it can be explained, but the explanations also point towards inequalities. There are way more women taking on a greater share of the housework than there are men who force them to via misogynistic abuse (although not none). In an individual couple, sure, the partner that takes a slower career track, maybe a less-valued career like caring rather than a business or academic career, who takes time off to look after the babies, and doesn't push for promotions or go networking, sure, it makes sense that that partner looks after more of the chores while the other makes more of the money. But when that partner is overwhelmingly the female partner in heteronormative couples? That's when you realise that even though no one in the story is necessarily sexist, a sexist culture means the woman is still suffering from an unequal playing field. The only actual biological difference is pregnancy (which almost exclusively happens to women). Everything before and after, including looking after babies, could be equally shouldered by men and statistically isn't.
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noparlpf
Can Europeans donate in Europe? None of you are allowed to donate here, and even people who've spent just a few months there can't.
The restrictions seem a little strict to me. Why can't people be tested for these things and come in with a doctor's note saying "this patient doesn't actually have x, y, or z"?
Well, yes, otherwise none of us would have blood banks. :smallconfused: All other things being equal (no blood-borne diseases or wacky gayness cooties) I think people are generally always allowed to donate in their own country. People from Great Britain aren't allowed donate here. Obviously you should exclude people who just straight-up have blood-borne diseases, or need their own blood (I need my blood, unfortunately, otherwise I'd donate) or are on medicine that prevents donation (I think I also qualify here) and then, they screen the blood anyway, so everyone else should be golden!
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bfm1991
Here I am. How are you meant to see if i am worthy of the almighty Mynxae. LOL
I'm going to assume "bfm" stands for "BoyFriend (of) Mynxae". :smallbiggrin:
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Absol197
Ooooohhhh...:smalleek:
It's three hours to go before we leave, and I'm starting to get really, really, REALLY nervous :smalleek: ...and twitchy...and hyper...
What if I choke? What if I mess up? What if they're mad at me? Gaaaaah! >_<
Oh, man, this waiting and dreading stuff is exhausting!
I hate waiting and dreading, it's always always always the worst part! Seriously, nothing has ever gone worse than I thought it would when I was dreading it. (Things have gone worse than expected when I thought they would be fine, but that's more unexpectedness than anything else.) Good luck!
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I don't have time to quote everybody who supported me and gave me motivational hugs, but thank you. To everyone.
I'll post up the play-by-play tomorrow, but suffice it to say, it went very well :smallsmile: . We have some difficult things to talk about, my parents and I, but now we're all on the same page, which is nice.
:smallsigh: Okay! Long day, I'mma go sleep now. Good night, y'all!
~Phoenix~
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Absol197
I don't have time to quote everybody who supported me and gave me motivational hugs, but thank you. To everyone.
I'll post up the play-by-play tomorrow, but suffice it to say, it went very well :smallsmile: . We have some difficult things to talk about, my parents and I, but now we're all on the same page, which is nice.
:smallsigh: Okay! Long day, I'mma go sleep now. Good night, y'all!
~Phoenix~
Sounds good. Congrats.
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YAY! Great job, hon, I knew you could do it! I'm glad that your parents seem at least somewhat OK with it.
*celebratory hugs*
~Laura
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Today on choir our new director was leading the class because the one I've always had who you can't help but love to death was filling out grades. During rehearsal, he was trying to fix our dipthong on the word gaze, and he said what sounded like "no gays." We just laughed a bit, as I don't think this director likes boobs either. (two guys, one girl, woman has a husband of many years, my director has been partnered to our best choreographer for 20 years(and is extremely professional aside from a handful of inside jokes I've picked up on.) the new guy is either really really metro, or shares my tastes.)
One of the leaders by personality(not an official officer) said, "No gays, Mr. [director], that's cool." I turn to him and say, "okay then, I go." after a couple of confirmatory questions, namely "what?" "are you gay?" and "really?" he said that I earned some of his respect for that. After class he asked a bit more, and he said that being out about it got me some respect. He's a really cool guy, he tries to get to know everyone, sees their value, and respects character and apparently confidence. Just thought I'd share that story with you all.
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PairO'Dice Lost
Well. Today sucked.
This morning at work we had a free sponsored medical clinic thingy where some healthcare people came in and gave flu shots, checked blood sugar, dispensed nutrition advice, did a normal checkup, and such. I'm not a fan of needles at all and would gladly have passed on it, but it's sponsored by my employer's insurance company as part of a Healthy Incentives program, and each thing you do gives you a discount on your insurance premiums for a year (up to 2/3 off if you do the maximum number of activities), so given the insurance prices around here I figured I could put up with my trypanophobia if it meant saving that kind of money. We had to fill out a bunch of forms beforehand, one of which had questions about relationship status, orientation, sexual practices, etc. for demographics and benefit eligibility purposes. (On a side note, I was impressed by the form; the questions dealt with more than just the gender binary, included most of the LGBTQA* in the orientation answers, and stuff like that.)
One of the possible activities was giving blood. Those of you familiar with US laws on the subject probably see where this is heading. :smallannoyed:
I answered all the questions honestly and figured that would be the end of it. Now, I haven't had sex before, with another male or otherwise. I don't have anything that would be communicable via blood donation, HIV or otherwise. I emphatically did not want to give blood today because eew needles and I stated as much on the form. Yet that didn't stop the nurse there from coming over and telling me--in the public waiting room, mind, not in the private room where they were discussing test results with people--that "people like me" aren't allowed to give blood. When I told her that I had not checked the giving-blood box on the activity selection form, I had checked the never-had-sex-with-men box, and oh by the way there were probably some people two floors up who hadn't heard her and would she like to say that again a little louder, she apologized for misreading the giving-blood checkbox...but reiterated (loudly) that it's not allowed and that I shouldn't go try to give blood somewhere else, because I could be lying about not being a MSM.
Because if you're gay and you really want to give blood, you're obviously going to tell the truth about your orientation and then lie about your sex life. :smallconfused:
So basically I got to skip breakfast and give up my lunch break in order to be poked with needles, humiliated in front of my co-workers and manager, and unexpectedly outed to a bunch of people. My manager said he's going to file a complaint with the insurance company over the unprofessional conduct, but the damage is done; some of the co-workers who were present have expressed some not-exactly-gay-friendly views in the past, and when I ran into one of them later in the afternoon, instead of exchanging the usual friendly smalltalk she very unsubtly snubbed me.
Every Wednesday we have a catered lunch where the whole company eats together and gossips networks, so I guess I'll find out then how many of those coworkers who apparently skipped LGBT sensitivity training are still willing to talk to me. Tomorrow is going to be a looong day. :smallsigh:
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*HUGS*
I...I'm sorry.
*HUUUUUGS*
Lets hope the lady loses her job.
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And her ability to get another one in that field.
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Mynxae
Boyfriend is moving in and just joined the forum. I don't know which is the more shocking news. :smalltongue:
So then, no flirting?
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bfm1991
Here I am. How are you meant to see if i am worthy of the almighty Mynxae. LOL
Hi!
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Mynxae
/facepalms-and-groans Oh dear. I'm doomed. :smallredface:
Nah, he's a dear. Love him to bits. :smallbiggrin: We're off for cuddles, as it's 2:20am here in QLD, Aus! Enjoy your time of day, whatever it may be everybody! :smalltongue:
Awww..
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supernerd
Today on choir our new director was leading the class because the one I've always had who you can't help but love to death was filling out grades. During rehearsal, he was trying to fix our dipthong on the word gaze, and he said what sounded like "no gays." We just laughed a bit, as I don't think this director likes boobs either. (two guys, one girl, woman has a husband of many years, my director has been partnered to our best choreographer for 20 years(and is extremely professional aside from a handful of inside jokes I've picked up on.) the new guy is either really really metro, or shares my tastes.)
One of the leaders by personality(not an official officer) said, "No gays, Mr. [director], that's cool." I turn to him and say, "okay then, I go." after a couple of confirmatory questions, namely "what?" "are you gay?" and "really?" he said that I earned some of his respect for that. After class he asked a bit more, and he said that being out about it got me some respect. He's a really cool guy, he tries to get to know everyone, sees their value, and respects character and apparently confidence. Just thought I'd share that story with you all.
That's...interesting. Glad you made a friend.
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Thanks to everyone. xD And AK, no using tools that may or may not be deadly on my boyfie! :smalltongue:
And to clarify for KenderWizard (and probably everyone else /shrugs), 'bfm' means Blake for Max. (our names) :smalltongue: Boyfriend of Mynxae does fit quite well though I might add.. :smallsmile:
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I just had a fantastic night out to the local gay club with LGBTsoc. Great fun. Got clocked a couple of times, sadly, but gay club, so no-one gave a damn. I actually got asked by one guy how long I'd been on hormones! Proper pronouns used all round, a really friendly atmosphere, a bit of judicious flirting, and a respectable quantity of alcohol all combined to make a really good time ^_^
Made a few new friends, too, though sadly nothing more :P
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Absol, that's great hon!
Helio, I am jealous!
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...SiuiS, your avatar fills me with all sorts of questions. :smallconfused:
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...SiuiS, your avatar fills me with all sorts of questions. :smallconfused:
It's a changeling from MLP: FiM. :smalltongue: Technically, so was the last one.
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Mynxae
It's a changeling from MLP: FiM. :smalltongue: Technically, so was the last one.
It's a changeling who looks like Rarity. I don't recall what the last one looked like.
The questions that come to mind are
-Is this an alternate universe Rarity?
-Is this a changeling doing a bad imitation of Rarity?
-Did Chrysalis take over the world and turn everypony else into Changelings?
On a more relevant topic, my legs are so friggin' irritated after I've shaved them. This is very not pleasant. I'm not really sure what to do at this point.
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What're your shaving practices? Possible factors include but are not limited to:
- Water temperature. Hotter is better.
- Razor sharpness and quality. The more times you have to go over your skin to cut the hair, the more irritating it will be.
- The shaving... lubricant? you use. Soap works, but I find it makes me try. You can get moisturised and sensitive skin gel, which you might like to experiment with. I've also, oddly enough, had success using hair conditioner for it.
- Treatment afterwards. I've found I get dry skin after shaving unless I moisturise. Do you do anything like that?
- Any other chemicals involved. Could be the strips or cakes attached to the razor, your lubricant, your soap, anything else you put on it... Is there much stuff that comes into contact with your legs?
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Serpentine
What're your shaving practices? Possible factors include but are not limited to:
- Water temperature. Hotter is better.
I tried to make the water pretty hot. I'm guessing having to go over my legs with a buzzer first didn't help matters at all.
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- Razor sharpness and quality. The more times you have to go over your skin to cut the hair, the more irritating it will be.
Not very sharp, so I'll keep that in mind. Does it matter what kind of razor I use?
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- The shaving... lubricant? you use. Soap works, but I find it makes me try. You can get moisturised and sensitive skin gel, which you might like to experiment with. I've also, oddly enough, had success using hair conditioner for it.
I didn't really use anything, because I didn't have anything that seemed like it would function well on hand. This probably contributed to my problem quite a bit.
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- Treatment afterwards. I've found I get dry skin after shaving unless I moisturise. Do you do anything like that?
I used a decent amount of lotion afterwards.
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- Any other chemicals involved. Could be the strips or cakes attached to the razor, your lubricant, your soap, anything else you put on it... Is there much stuff that comes into contact with your legs?
Not really. Wasn't sure what to use in terms of lubricant, and pretty much only used a razor and buzzer. I also used Lotion afterwards because it seemed like a good idea.
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So, it's national coming out day. And I was going to come out to my school's GSA yesterday, but... we were talking about our coming out stories ( I haven't yet) and every time I opened my mouth to begin my story, other people had already begun talking. I think I'm too shy for my own good...
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Not very sharp, so I'll keep that in mind. Does it matter what kind of razor I use?
I don't know, honestly. I've heard that men can tell when someone's used their razor to shave their legs because it's immediately blunter, but I don't know whether that means much. I'm inclined to recommend the best razor you can afford, but that may just be the marketing industry getting to me.
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Mystic Muse
I didn't really use anything, because I didn't have anything that seemed like it would function well on hand. This probably contributed to my problem quite a bit.
ACK! :eek: Criiiiiiinge :smallyuk:
Yeah, I think that could be your problem right there. You really, really need something. Some razors come with it in-built, but at the very least use some soap!
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Serpentine
ACK! :eek: Criiiiiiinge :smallyuk:
Yeah, I think that could be your problem right there. You really, really need something. Some razors come with it in-built, but at the very least use some soap!
Alright. Anything I can do to hopefully speed up recovery on the legs?
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I'm not really up on skincare, I'm afraid. Keep lathering on the moisturiser and stuff, I suppose.
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So, it's national coming out day. And I was going to come out to my school's GSA yesterday, but... we were talking about our coming out stories ( I haven't yet) and every time I opened my mouth to begin my story, other people had already begun talking. I think I'm too shy for my own good...
Well, there's always today! Go get 'em! You can do it! No time like the present! *insert whatever pithy motivational phrase you would find most effective*! :smallbiggrin:
On that note, I never changed my "interested in" on Facebook after coming out to my friends. I might take the opportunity to do that today given the special occasion, but then again I really don't want to deal with the ensuing ****storm from the extended family right now. Hmm. Will have to think on that a bit more.
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Update on yesterday's situation:
My manager filed his complaint about the nurse, hasn't heard anything back yet. Probably won't for a bit, if at all.
Lunch was...unpleasant, but not as bad as I expected. Most of the people who'd said stuff in the past apologized and said they didn't mean it and wouldn't have said anything if they'd known there was "a gay" in the room, which was a pleasant surprise--I didn't bother to point out that they shouldn't have said any of that anyway because, y'know, common decency...but hey, baby steps. There were, however, two of them (the girl I mentioned before and one other) who decided to turn it into a religious/moral debate, and we had a small audience as I basically played Whack-a-Mole with their arguments for an hour or so.
I've had plenty of practice with that sort of debate (:smallannoyed:) and it seemed like they didn't, so it went well. Having most of the people around be on my side for once was a very nice change of pace (yay California!), and while I doubt I changed their minds at all we're at least back on exchanging-idle-chitchat terms again. So, yay, crisis mostly averted unless the re-org that's going on gets one of them shuffled onto my team or vice versa, but that's down the line and not something to worry about right now.
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
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Serpentine
I don't know, honestly. I've heard that men can tell when someone's used their razor to shave their legs because it's immediately blunter, but I don't know whether that means much. I'm inclined to recommend the best razor you can afford, but that may just be the marketing industry getting to me.
I can never tell if someone's used my razor on their legs. /shrugs And I've had both my sister and my current boyfriend use it for that purpose and had no clue till they told me. :smalltongue:
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Serpentine
ACK! :eek: Criiiiiiinge :smallyuk:
Yeah, I think that could be your problem right there. You really, really need something. Some razors come with it in-built, but at the very least use some soap!
I used to use proper 'shaving soap' but now I just use regular soap. Just need to make sure I moisturise afterwards otherwise it's really dry. I've tried using shaving foam but it just tends to feel weird on my skin so I don't use it.
On shaving legs: Used to do it, shaving foam is better for it, but soap works generally too.
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SiuiS
Jeez Asta, that's terrifying.
Is it... safe?
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Absol197
I don't have time to quote everybody who supported me and gave me motivational hugs, but thank you. To everyone.
I'll post up the play-by-play tomorrow, but suffice it to say, it went very well :smallsmile: . We have some difficult things to talk about, my parents and I, but now we're all on the same page, which is nice.
:smallsigh: Okay! Long day, I'mma go sleep now. Good night, y'all!
~Phoenix~
Things are rarely as horrible as we think. Except when they are. It's good to hear that things went well. Sweet dreams.
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Mynxae
Thanks to everyone. xD And AK, no using tools that may or may not be deadly on my boyfie! :smalltongue:
I'm just asking if it's safe. :nale:
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Serpentine
The default response to "women get paid less or are less likely to get hired because they take time off for kids" is almost always "that is a good reason for women to get paid less or to not hire a woman". My response is "well men should get time off for kids too".
Sorry for my late reaction, had little internet for some time... I'm not saying it's a good reason, but I am saying that, because of biological reasons, it happens that women take more time off then men. All I'm saying is that it could be the main reason and quite explainable.
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Mystic Muse
...SiuiS, your avatar fills me with all sorts of questions. :smallconfused:
Oh? Such as~?
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Originally Posted by
Mynxae
It's a changeling from MLP: FiM. :smalltongue: Technically, so was the last one.
This is true XD
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Originally Posted by
Mystic Muse
It's a changeling who looks like Rarity. I don't recall what the last one looked like.
Mi Amore Cadenza's evil twin's glowing green eyes in the dark.
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The questions that come to mind are
-Is this an alternate universe Rarity?
-Is this a changeling doing a bad imitation of Rarity?
-Did Chrysalis take over the world and turn everypony else into Changelings?
Those are less fun than I thought :smallfrown: :smalltongue:
I believe it is the last one; someone did all the mane 6 as changelings based on their dominant coat color. I'm not sure if it's a "changelings win" story or not. They are in thread though. I'll find the link.
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On a more relevant topic, my legs are so friggin' irritated after I've shaved them. This is very not pleasant. I'm not really sure what to do at this point.
The soap you see Barbers lather and leave on the face soaks into the hair and softens it, makes it easier to cut while also helpin the blade drag vet your skin without issue. All razors are mechanically identical (blades at an angle) and usually the same blade as well. The differences are in blade count, pivot strength if there is one, and whether they have a moisturizing strip.
At the very least, buy a dollar bar of dove soap, and slick up your legs. As for how to tend it now, well... Go easy on the skin, drink plenty of fluids and be sure to shave again soon, so the skin doesn't get the same level of stress.
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That's good Dice. At least they were willing to apologize to you.
It's a start right?
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Socratov
Sorry for my late reaction, had little internet for some time... I'm not saying it's a good reason, but I am saying that, because of biological reasons, it happens that women take more time off then men. All I'm saying is that it could be the main reason and quite explainable.
As I said, if that's true, then I think the correct response is to give men more time off to match it, not declare it acceptable. There are a number of countries where this is already available, so it's not as though it's impossible, and it's not exactly fair to the men, even, that women get all the time with their children.
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Catching up on other posts as well...
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Originally Posted by
Serpentine
I don't know, honestly. I've heard that men can tell when someone's used their razor to shave their legs because it's immediately blunter, but I don't know whether that means much. I'm inclined to recommend the best razor you can afford, but that may just be the marketing industry getting to me.
ACK! :eek: Criiiiiiinge :smallyuk:
Yeah, I think that could be your problem right there. You really, really need something. Some razors come with it in-built, but at the very least use some soap!
WEll it's not so much as "This razor has been used to shave [insert bodypart], it's more like someone besides me has used this raozr and now it shaves... different... (partially becuase every time shaving you blunt a part of the blades and shaving different parts blunts different areas on the blades). I can heavily recommend shaving soap/cream for a smoother process and less shaving wounds.
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SiuiS
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The soap you see Barbers lather and leave on the face soaks into the hair and softens it, makes it easier to cut while also helpin the blade drag vet your skin without issue. All razors are mechanically identical (blades at an angle) and usually the same blade as well. The differences are in blade count, pivot strength if there is one, and whether they have a moisturizing strip.
At the very least, buy a dollar bar of dove soap, and slick up your legs. As for how to tend it now, well... Go easy on the skin, drink plenty of fluids and be sure to shave again soon, so the skin doesn't get the same level of stress.
That's one excellent suggestion, I'd only like to add that using a warm soaked towel on the shaving are beforehand not only feels awesome, but yields the best results when it comes to shaving. This opens up the poresin the skin as well as make the hairs more flexible, done right the area will be smooth like a baby's buttoks :smallamused:
Antoher thing to do is to cool the skin after shaving with either a freezing cold wet tower, by rinsing in cold water (colder = better, it will close the wounds and ease the skin). For maximum results treat your skin with one of those eucalyptus based aftershaves. If you smear that on you'll have the idea you're oozing freshness :smallwink:
I advise against alcohol btw...
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Originally Posted by
PairO'Dice Lost
Well, there's always today! Go get 'em! You can do it! No time like the present! *insert whatever pithy motivational phrase you would find most effective*! :smallbiggrin:
On that note, I never changed my "interested in" on Facebook after coming out to my friends. I might take the opportunity to do that today given the special occasion, but then again I really don't want to deal with the ensuing ****storm from the extended family right now. Hmm. Will have to think on that a bit more.
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Update on yesterday's situation:
My manager filed his complaint about the nurse, hasn't heard anything back yet. Probably won't for a bit, if at all.
Lunch was...unpleasant, but not as bad as I expected. Most of the people who'd said stuff in the past apologized and said they didn't mean it and wouldn't have said anything if they'd known there was "a gay" in the room, which was a pleasant surprise--I didn't bother to point out that they shouldn't have said any of that anyway because, y'know, common decency...but hey, baby steps. There were, however, two of them (the girl I mentioned before and one other) who decided to turn it into a religious/moral debate, and we had a small audience as I basically played Whack-a-Mole with their arguments for an hour or so.
I've had plenty of practice with that sort of debate (:smallannoyed:) and it seemed like they didn't, so it went well. Having most of the people around be on my side for once was a very nice change of pace (yay California!), and while I doubt I changed their minds at all we're at least back on exchanging-idle-chitchat terms again. So, yay, crisis mostly averted unless the re-org that's going on gets one of them shuffled onto my team or vice versa, but that's down the line and not something to worry about right now.
Go you! :smallbiggrin:
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Okay, I'm actually back now! :smallsmile:
So here's how things went yesterday, for those of you who are interested:
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The drive up went pretty well. We steered the conversation away from what was going to happen, so we didn't get that awkward pre-meeting stuff (I'm not sure what that would be like, but I'm sure it exists :smalltongue: ). We did talk about politics, because that's one of my mom's favorite topics, and it's relevent in the States, with our election coming up.
We got to Boulder much earlier than we needed to, so I directed us to a little local coffee shop that I like.
Then, the actual meeting. At first, it looked like I was going to mess up. I was so scared and nervous. It took probably five minutes of me staring at the letter I had written, looking like an idiot, before I realized that that wasn't how I wanted to remember that moment, and that I wanted to say it myself. I blocked out as much as I could of my surroundings, and barreled through my letter (slowlyy enough to be understood, of course).
At first, at least with my mom, it looked like it was going to be a disaster. She kept saying that she could handle gay, but not this. :smallfrown: My therapist really helped out, though, and I was able to get my brain back in gear and give some explainations.
My mom was really quiet during the car ride home, but by the end, she had calmed down, and explained that what she was most worried about was my job, and my being safe in a world that is, frankly, still a very scary place.
She still doesn't quite understand everything (when she asked about why I had been down on Sunday, and I explained it was about all the people I interact with not seeing me the way I want to be seen, she asked, "Why does that matter?"), but she at least seems like she's accepted it. She was happy last night, at least :smallsmile: .
We'll see how it goes, but I have hope!
Also, I got to leave my door open for the first time in a while last night, so I got a visit from the black kitty fairy! :smallbiggrin: He hogs the bed something fierce, but I don't really mind.
~Phoenix~
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You have to remember it's something of the shock to find out that you've been wrong about your child's gender all along... what did your dad say?
And cats are awesome. Especially black cats. Although mine's getting gray.
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That's great news, Phoenix :smallbiggrin:
So happy to hear that while, yes, it will be difficult your mum is at least trying to understand and she's thinking about you in a positive (protective) way :smallsmile:
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I've been getting hella crazy razorburn on the backs of my thighs. I'm figuring because it's an area that doesn't really get much rough treatment so is more sensitive.
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Razorburn is one of the main reasons why I epilate, rather than shaving. Sure, it hurts more while doing it, and it takes ages, but it lasts an awful lot longer and there's less irritation afterwards.
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That's wonderful, Phoenix. I also am curious as to what your dad said.
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Absol197
Okay, I'm actually back now! :smallsmile:
So here's how things went yesterday, for those of you who are interested:
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The drive up went pretty well. We steered the conversation away from what was going to happen, so we didn't get that awkward pre-meeting stuff (I'm not sure what that would be like, but I'm sure it exists :smalltongue: ). We did talk about politics, because that's one of my mom's favorite topics, and it's relevent in the States, with our election coming up.
We got to Boulder much earlier than we needed to, so I directed us to a little local coffee shop that I like.
Then, the actual meeting. At first, it looked like I was going to mess up. I was so scared and nervous. It took probably five minutes of me staring at the letter I had written, looking like an idiot, before I realized that that wasn't how I wanted to remember that moment, and that I wanted to say it myself. I blocked out as much as I could of my surroundings, and barreled through my letter (slowlyy enough to be understood, of course).
At first, at least with my mom, it looked like it was going to be a disaster. She kept saying that she could handle gay, but not this. :smallfrown: My therapist really helped out, though, and I was able to get my brain back in gear and give some explainations.
My mom was really quiet during the car ride home, but by the end, she had calmed down, and explained that what she was most worried about was my job, and my being safe in a world that is, frankly, still a very scary place.
She still doesn't quite understand everything (when she asked about why I had been down on Sunday, and I explained it was about all the people I interact with not seeing me the way I want to be seen, she asked, "Why does that matter?"), but she at least seems like she's accepted it. She was happy last night, at least :smallsmile: .
We'll see how it goes, but I have hope!
Also, I got to leave my door open for the first time in a while last night, so I got a visit from the black kitty fairy! :smallbiggrin: He hogs the bed something fierce, but I don't really mind.
~Phoenix~
Fan~Tastic! That sounds about perfect. If you think about it, this is probably the best way someone could handle news which literally shatters their worldview. I'm glad it went so smooth. :smallsmile:
Also! Kitty fair is best fairy (with apologies to Kenderfairies the world over; it was a close election! But the teacup crawled in my lap and purred :3)
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Zorg
I've been getting hella crazy razorburn on the backs of my thighs. I'm figuring because it's an area that doesn't really get much rough treatment so is more sensitive.
It may be because the mechanics of getting your arms and legs into position is throwing off the angle of the razor. Do you have a swivel-head on it?
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Congratulations, Phoenix! :smallbiggrin:
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Originally Posted by
supernerd
*adorable choir story*
Good for you for speaking up!
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Originally Posted by
Mynxae
Thanks to everyone. xD And AK, no using tools that may or may not be deadly on my boyfie! :smalltongue:
And to clarify for KenderWizard (and probably everyone else /shrugs), 'bfm' means Blake for Max. (our names) :smalltongue: Boyfriend of Mynxae does fit quite well though I might add.. :smallsmile:
Oh, cuteness! :smallbiggrin:
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Originally Posted by
Heliomance
I just had a fantastic night out to the local gay club with LGBTsoc. Great fun. Got clocked a couple of times, sadly, but gay club, so no-one gave a damn. I actually got asked by one guy how long I'd been on hormones! Proper pronouns used all round, a really friendly atmosphere, a bit of judicious flirting, and a respectable quantity of alcohol all combined to make a really good time ^_^
Made a few new friends, too, though sadly nothing more :P
Further awesomeness! Apparently yesterday was a good day for the Rainbows!
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Originally Posted by
Leona
So, it's national coming out day. And I was going to come out to my school's GSA yesterday, but... we were talking about our coming out stories ( I haven't yet) and every time I opened my mouth to begin my story, other people had already begun talking. I think I'm too shy for my own good...
I hate when that happens!
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Mystic Muse
Alright. Anything I can do to hopefully speed up recovery on the legs?
Coconut oil. Soothes any kind of skin irritation. I use it on lips, post-welt insect bite rashes (I have allergic reactions to mosquitoes), and eczema rashes. It's a mild anti-inflammatory and a mild anti-septic, and it's also a nice moisturising oil, and it's really a food, so there's nothing in there that's bad for your body.
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PairO'Dice Lost
Update on yesterday's situation:
Good on you! I hope things continue to improve.
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Originally Posted by
Asta Kask
You have to remember it's something of the shock to find out that you've been wrong about your child's gender all along... what did your dad say?
And cats are awesome. Especially black cats. Although mine's getting gray.
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Originally Posted by
Zorg
That's great news, Phoenix :smallbiggrin:
So happy to hear that while, yes, it will be difficult your mum is at least trying to understand and she's thinking about you in a positive (protective) way :smallsmile:
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Originally Posted by
Lentrax
That's wonderful, Phoenix. I also am curious as to what your dad said.
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Originally Posted by
SiuiS
Fan~Tastic! That sounds about perfect. If you think about it, this is probably the best way someone could handle news which literally shatters their worldview. I'm glad it went so smooth. :smallsmile:
Also! Kitty fair is best fairy (with apologies to Kenderfairies the world over; it was a close election! But the teacup crawled in my lap and purred :3
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KenderWizard
Congratulations, Phoenix! :smallbiggrin:
Thanks for everything, guys! You're all awesome! :smallbiggrin:
My dad (step-dad, technically; I'll have to do the real dad/step-mom around Christmas :smalleek: ) was a bit more level-headed, as is typical for him. He definitely seemed worried (his company, JP Morgan chase, where he's a regional big-wig, helped sponser a local pride parade about three months or so ago, and he remembered that the statistics involving trans people were much more troubling than those for gay/lesbian people), and that was the big thing with him.
All in all, I think the future is looking brighter! :smallsmile:
Zorg, weren't you going to come out to your dad sometime soon? I hope that goes well, it sounds like it will be difficult to begin with...
~Phoenix~
I keep forgetting to do the signature thing, so I have to go back and edit it in...>_< I'm just not used to doing it yet!
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Originally Posted by
Mystic Muse
On a more relevant topic, my legs are so friggin' irritated after I've shaved them. This is very not pleasant. I'm not really sure what to do at this point.
Serps has commented on this, but I'll throw in my two coppers anyway.
Try some sort of shaving cream/gel/soap/lubricant. Definitely important. Make sure you shave with the grain, also important, and if necessary, perpendicular to it, but save a pass antiparallel until there's no other choice. Soak in hot hot water first, which I think you got. Depending on the quality of your razors and the thickness of your hair, you might want to use a new disposable razor every time. I know if I shaved my legs it would basically kill a disposable razor like the ones my mum uses. Not sure about after-shaving treatment, but I usually put a cool cloth over my throat after I finish to soothe it a little, because shaving there is a pain because the hair just sticks in all different directions.
You could also try an epilator, though you should balance immediate discomfort (the epilator smarts) with tomorrow's discomfort. I don't know which is more likely to cause ingrown hairs, but I'd guess a razor, especially shaving against the grain.
On a slightly related note, ingrown hairs are a *****, especially depending on where they happen. But let's not go into that, it's private.
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Originally Posted by
Leona
So, it's national coming out day. And I was going to come out to my school's GSA yesterday, but... we were talking about our coming out stories ( I haven't yet) and every time I opened my mouth to begin my story, other people had already begun talking. I think I'm too shy for my own good...
Oh hey, so it is. Pity I don't know people. Best advice: Just go for it. If you start talking just as somebody else does, one of you will back down, and if you don't end up going first, there's a fair chance they'll defer to you next because you'd already started.
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PairO'Dice Lost
Update on yesterday's situation:
My manager filed his complaint about the nurse, hasn't heard anything back yet. Probably won't for a bit, if at all.
Lunch was...unpleasant, but not as bad as I expected. Most of the people who'd said stuff in the past apologized and said they didn't mean it and wouldn't have said anything if they'd known there was "a gay" in the room, which was a pleasant surprise--I didn't bother to point out that they shouldn't have said any of that anyway because, y'know, common decency...but hey, baby steps. There were, however, two of them (the girl I mentioned before and one other) who decided to turn it into a religious/moral debate, and we had a small audience as I basically played Whack-a-Mole with their arguments for an hour or so.
I've had plenty of practice with that sort of debate (:smallannoyed:) and it seemed like they didn't, so it went well. Having most of the people around be on my side for once was a very nice change of pace (yay California!), and while I doubt I changed their minds at all we're at least back on exchanging-idle-chitchat terms again. So, yay, crisis mostly averted unless the re-org that's going on gets one of them shuffled onto my team or vice versa, but that's down the line and not something to worry about right now.
Well, that didn't turn out too bad. Best of luck.
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Originally Posted by
Serpentine
As I said, if that's true, then I think the correct response is to give men more time off to match it, not declare it acceptable. There are a number of countries where this is already available, so it's not as though it's impossible, and it's not exactly fair to the men, even, that women get all the time with their children.
But obviously taking care of children is women's work. Duh. Men are emotionless money-makers, not parents.
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Originally Posted by
Absol197
Okay, I'm actually back now! :smallsmile:
So here's how things went yesterday, for those of you who are interested:
Spoiler
Show
The drive up went pretty well. We steered the conversation away from what was going to happen, so we didn't get that awkward pre-meeting stuff (I'm not sure what that would be like, but I'm sure it exists :smalltongue: ). We did talk about politics, because that's one of my mom's favorite topics, and it's relevent in the States, with our election coming up.
We got to Boulder much earlier than we needed to, so I directed us to a little local coffee shop that I like.
Then, the actual meeting. At first, it looked like I was going to mess up. I was so scared and nervous. It took probably five minutes of me staring at the letter I had written, looking like an idiot, before I realized that that wasn't how I wanted to remember that moment, and that I wanted to say it myself. I blocked out as much as I could of my surroundings, and barreled through my letter (slowlyy enough to be understood, of course).
At first, at least with my mom, it looked like it was going to be a disaster. She kept saying that she could handle gay, but not this. :smallfrown: My therapist really helped out, though, and I was able to get my brain back in gear and give some explainations.
My mom was really quiet during the car ride home, but by the end, she had calmed down, and explained that what she was most worried about was my job, and my being safe in a world that is, frankly, still a very scary place.
She still doesn't quite understand everything (when she asked about why I had been down on Sunday, and I explained it was about all the people I interact with not seeing me the way I want to be seen, she asked, "Why does that matter?"), but she at least seems like she's accepted it. She was happy last night, at least :smallsmile: .
We'll see how it goes, but I have hope!
Also, I got to leave my door open for the first time in a while last night, so I got a visit from the black kitty fairy! :smallbiggrin: He hogs the bed something fierce, but I don't really mind.
~Phoenix~
Sounds pretty good. Congrats on coming out. Best of luck with their adjustment.
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Originally Posted by
Asta Kask
You have to remember it's something of the shock to find out that you've been wrong about your child's gender all along... what did your dad say?
And cats are awesome. Especially black cats. Although mine's getting gray.
Yeah, especially if they don't understand transsexuality and whatnot. People are uncomfortable with new things and with things they don't understand.
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If I had a kid and ze came out as transgender, I'd be worried sick. Depression rates, suicide rates, exposure to violence and threats are all through the roof compared to the cisgender populations... I'd support hir, but I wouldn't be exactly calm about it. There is very real cause for worry.
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It may be because the mechanics of getting your arms and legs into position is throwing off the angle of the razor. Do you have a swivel-head on it?
I do have a swivel head but it's still a possibility. Food for thought certainly and something to be careful of. I'm shaving instead of epilating so I can use a "laser beam" to turn my legs "silky smooth".
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Originally Posted by
Absol197
Zorg, weren't you going to come out to your dad sometime soon? I hope that goes well, it sounds like it will be difficult to begin with...
Firstly, glad your Dad is grounded. Yeah, still need to do that in the near future. Difficulty is getting time to go see him interstate that coincides with my work (just had two managers resign and a third might also be walking!) and his medication schedule (he has two weeks of happy pills and two weeks of crazy pills).
Blarg, all this complicated scheduling makes my head hurt sometimes.
And since you've been a good girl :smallwink:
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Originally Posted by
Absol197
EDIT:
Thanks for everything, guys! You're all awesome! :smallbiggrin:
My dad (step-dad, technically; I'll have to do the real dad/step-mom around Christmas :smalleek: ) was a bit more level-headed, as is typical for him. He definitely seemed worried (his company, JP Morgan chase, where he's a regional big-wig, helped sponser a local pride parade about three months or so ago, and he remembered that the statistics involving trans people were much more troubling than those for gay/lesbian people), and that was the big thing with him.
All in all, I think the future is looking brighter! :smallsmile:
Zorg, weren't you going to come out to your dad sometime soon? I hope that goes well, it sounds like it will be difficult to begin with...
~Phoenix~
I keep forgetting to do the signature thing, so I have to go back and edit it in...>_< I'm just not used to doing it yet!
Sounds like things went about as well as they could possibly go. I hope you and your parents can get through talking about what you need to. Sorry I'm late in offering you congratulations. Seems like you did a great job, I think my throat might have just seized up if I had been in your place.
Oh and that happens to me with the name thing all the time
~Laura
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KenderWizard
... pregnancy (which almost exclusively happens to women)...
I agree with basically everything you said but that little bit of inclusiveness made me really happy. :smallsmile:
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Heliomance
I just had a fantastic night out to the local gay club with LGBTsoc. Great fun. Got clocked a couple of times, sadly, but gay club, so no-one gave a damn. I actually got asked by one guy how long I'd been on hormones! Proper pronouns used all round, a really friendly atmosphere, a bit of judicious flirting, and a respectable quantity of alcohol all combined to make a really good time ^_^
Made a few new friends, too, though sadly nothing more :P
Neat; glad you had a great time! :smallsmile:
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PairO'Dice Lost
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Ugh, still really frustrating that the whole debate had to take place; but I'm glad there's been a decent amount of damage control at least.
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Absol197
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I'm really really glad it went well, Phoenix. Also congratulations at making such a big step. :smallsmile:
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Asta Kask
If I had a kid and ze came out as transgender, I'd be worried sick. Depression rates, suicide rates, exposure to violence and threats are all through the roof compared to the cisgender populations... I'd support hir, but I wouldn't be exactly calm about it. There is very real cause for worry.
I think one thing to watch out for if your child comes out to you as trans is to not put that first. Like, your child is probably well aware of that too and I think it's important that they get acceptance first especially for something as stressy as this and that the concerns are saved for later.
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Zorg
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Those are awesome. :smallbiggrin:
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I also have pictures, sorta. My therapist (not psychiatrist) appointment went really well yesterday and he congratulated me on my progress and I also went in a lot more femme-y than usually and I just felt really happy about it in general so I rewarded myself with some nail polish:
Also does anyone here follow Rain; cause the last update: :smalleek:
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Wow so much to read through!! :smallbiggrin: Least it keeps work from getting boring.
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bfm1991
Here I am. How are you meant to see if i am worthy of the almighty Mynxae. LOL
A Challenger Appears........:smallamused:
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noparlpf
What would a dream that one's ex came out as gay mean?
Probably that the taco you ate for dinner isn't sitting well with you.....:smallsmile:
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Mystic Muse
...SiuiS, your avatar fills me with all sorts of questions. :smallconfused:
......as well as other emotions that are deeply confusing.....:smallwink:
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Absol197
A wonderful Story
~Phoenix~
That is amazing and I can't say how happy I am to hear that it all went well. Every time love is shared it fills my heart with hope that maybe...... possibly, this world is getting better, rather than getting worse. Baby Steps.......
~Matthew~
Because I want a cool signature too!!!!:smallredface:
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If only there was some automatic function you could set to post the same text beneath your posts every time... a signature if you will :smallwink:
@ Astrella - that's a really nice colour :smallsmile:
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Astrella
I think one thing to watch out for if your child comes out to you as trans is to not put that first. Like, your child is probably well aware of that too and I think it's important that they get acceptance first especially for something as stressy as this and that the concerns are saved for later.
Yes, and apart from acknowledging the new gender, I would try to keep everything as near business as usual as possible. And obviously, if someone messes with my kid they mess with me.
But I'd still worry.