That makes two of us. *Decides it kind of sounded like flirting with everyone or something, Iunno* :smalltongue:
D: *Hugs!*
~Bianca
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Beanbags and fleece blankets!
Absolutely! I hope it could bring some positivity for you!
Well, they wouldn't be mandatory, people could do whatever they like! :smallsmile:
Oh no. :smallfrown: Hugs?
*hugs* I glad things are calming down for you! Hopefully things will work out alright.
I do not use Facebook, so I didn't know. I'm so sorry, that hurts so much, especially when you're in love. I know they don't help much, but I can give you as many *hugs* as you need.
I know! I would love to have one of them! Why couldn't you just order one? I've been considering it. Are they prohibatively expensive or something? Or would your parents notice the package and/or card charge?
:smallsigh: I've been feeling kinda down recently. I've been wanting to find someone to date for a while, but now things get even more difficult. It would feel disingenuous to call myself as a man, because there's a high probability that I won't be staying that way for long. And it definitely wouldn't be fair to her, seeing as how hard a time Zorg and his girlfriend are having. Especially since I already know. But because I've barely started any kind of transition, and won't really be able to for at least half a year, I seriously doubt anyone who likes girls would be interested in me at all.
Bisexuals exist, Absol. Yes the dating pool for those that don't nicely match the binary is a lot smaller, but it's not nonexistant. There are people out there that honestly don't mind about their SO being trans - and some that actually find it a turn-on.
A bit of both - I'm sure I can save up enough money, but it'll take a bit (longer if I finish converting my XBox to a computer like I'm planning) and I'll have to buy it through my cousin. >.>
What Helio said~ *Hugs*Quote:
:smallsigh: I've been feeling kinda down recently. I've been wanting to find someone to date for a while, but now things get even more difficult. It would feel disingenuous to call myself as a man, because there's a high probability that I won't be staying that way for long. And it definitely wouldn't be fair to her, seeing as how hard a time Zorg and his girlfriend are having. Especially since I already know. But because I've barely started any kind of transition, and won't really be able to for at least half a year, I seriously doubt anyone who likes girls would be interested in me at all.
~Bianca
That's not true, absol. I have dated people from all across the spectrum of body/gender/appearance types. I never hated or judged any of them, and I loved them all. It will be hard, but do not lose faith in yourself, and you will find who you are looking for in a partner.
We all believe in you, and will be here to provided many wonderful hugs through the good times and the bad.
*hugs*
I'm sorry to hear that Lil Shiro. Do you want to talk about it?
*hugs*
Consciously choosing how yor consciousness works actually seems like it is more genuine, not less.
I would also like to point out that you're not forcing femininity per se, since making a choice and then plowing through is supposed to be a masculine trait.
None of my friends seem to have noticed that there's anything off with my discussing dresses and shoes. I'm sure the old friends are unsung it odd, but the newer ones are either too nice or too unsure to mention anything.
I was wondering about that based on someone mentioning getting it done before hormone treatment. Do you have to let it grow out in order for the technician to see it? That introduces a much larger component of human error than I'd like, but then I wouldn't trust any software to get it all either..,Quote:
Got my first electrolysis appointment on Tuesday, which is good - but I have to let my facial hair* grow out, which is bad. Not liking looking in the mirror at the moment, but at least I'm getting it done now before my hair grows out or I start going femme. I'd hate to have to let it grow for treatment when I would otherwise feel comfortable going female.
How painful was it? And what was the price range? You're dollar is about five cents more valuable than mine, yes?
Envy envy envyQuote:
And in other news my GF and I have prettymuch sorted things out. They're still up in the air in regards to our future as a couple, but we've sorted out things in regards to moving out, telling parents and so on. So even with a degree of uncertainty about some things we're doing ok.
He is glad of a sign of positive change, even though in a Vacuum the specific seems weird.
An then share the notes! It's a fascinating critter.
ouch. Ya wanna talk about it, luv? Or just commiserations?
Wait - why are we using "he" for Zorg? Isn't "she" more appropriate?
I had honestly disconnected my understanding of the situation from any of the component parts. But yes, that is something I should definitely be more mindful of. Especially given my phone's penchant for 'correction'. Thanks.
Thanks :smallsmile: I hope so too, but even if it doesn't we've done everything we possibly can to try, so there will be minimal regrets.
This isn't very helpful, but since the potential for singleness is something I've been thinking of I understand your situation. My conclusion was that I would have to stay singleQuote:
:smallsigh: I've been feeling kinda down recently. I've been wanting to find someone to date for a while, but now things get even more difficult. It would feel disingenuous to call myself as a man, because there's a high probability that I won't be staying that way for long. And it definitely wouldn't be fair to her, seeing as how hard a time Zorg and his girlfriend are having. Especially since I already know. But because I've barely started any kind of transition, and won't really be able to for at least half a year, I seriously doubt anyone who likes girls would be interested in me at all.
This is discussing in terms of "I want that dress" or "do you think I could make those shoes worK?", so more obvious there :smallwink:
I'm not sure the exact reasoning - I believe it improves conductivity during treatment from what was briefly said (as well as establishing how much will be needed by seeing growth patterns), but I'll be sure to ask more detailed questions tomorrow.Quote:
I was wondering about that based on someone mentioning getting it done before hormone treatment. Do you have to let it grow out in order for the technician to see it? That introduces a much larger component of human error than I'd like, but then I wouldn't trust any software to get it all either..,
How painful was it? And what was the price range? You're dollar is about five cents more valuable than mine, yes?
They gave me some price info and the people I'm seeing charge on a sliding scale the more you get. You can have up to 6 hours at once (3 hours treatment with two rigs) and that works out quite a bit cheaper than just a single hour. Again, I'll get more specifics tomorrow and it'll probably vary with some shopping around.
That's why I love her :smallredface:Quote:
Envy envy envy
Thankyou, yes, it would be appreciated.
*Hugs*
As for the QUILTBAG Kantian death squad here, I am thinking whether I am a bit paranoid about seeing homophobia where none exists. I was at a concert of a band recently, where there was a fellow with his arm around another guy that could be perfectly fine be read as them just being friends, but just could maybe also be interpreted differently (I know I did). The place was rather metal in nature but the band was one that had played when my mother was in university and is popular to this day so the audience was not so hardcore as would be usual there. Most of the people in the room where young though.
Anyway, so the fellow mentioned is rather energetic in front of the stage, when a rather strong looking man, clad in metal attire and wearing a kilt, grabs the back of his neck and I overhear him threatening him with rather serious violence if he doesn't stop (doing something?). The said fellow then leaves.
A friend who seemed to know the guy in a kilt talked to him and said some time later that the energetic fellow had been really drunk and that had been what had caused the problem. Nevertheless, I was feeling rather uncomfortable the whole evening. Think that I might be slightly too paranoid about stuff like that.
TL,DR: A guy at a concert that could be read as both gay or not-gay was told to behave himself under the threat of violence, later it turned out that this had nothing to do with his possible orientation but with him being too drunk and too energetic. Me still felt uncomfortable. Too paranoid?
*hugs Shiro* - Sorry it didn't work out for you. You're a really sweet guy.
I know, but even when I thought I was a part of the binary, I was having lots of trouble finding anyone, even for just a one-time coffee date (I think a grand total of two in the entire six years since college started). And now that my dating pool has shrunk so considerably, compounded with the fact that I have no idea how to go about finding people outside the binary, I'm quite lost.
Thanks, but as I'm sure everybody knows, not everyone is as accepting and loving as you are.
That's kinda what I'm afraid of. I've been okay, if a bit saddened by remaining single for now, but I'm worried that something similar to what happened when I realized I was trans** will: one day, unexpectedly, I just couldn't take dreaming and imagining it anymore, and I wanted somthing more. That hasn't happened yet with regards to dating, but it might, and I'll have no idea when until it happens. And then what am I going to do?
How much do they cost? I haven't looked it up, but I can't imagine they can be too outrageous, right?
EDIT: I just looked it up, and assuming my weak Google-fu found the correct site, $250 is definitely not an easy amount of funds to pull together. :smalleek:
Those two outcomes are about the best one can hope for. You've really gotten lucky to have someone who's willing to try so hard for you. I'm jealous :smallsmile: .
* I've been wondering: why the asterisk after the word trans? I've seen that most everyone else does it, so I've been doing it, but I don't understand why.
Mystic Muse, I must say: I love your Ravenpony avatar! :smallbiggrin:
I think that the asterisk in trans* comes from its use as a wildcard character in computing - i.e. * stands for any string of characters possible. So * could mean man, woman, gender, person, noneofyourbusiness, batman, aminase, hippopotamus, jsogja409a248t2a or anything at all.
Okay, got it!
Also;
Who hasn't felt that they were secretly a silent nighttime protector of the innocent, but were unfortunately born without ultra-rich parents, lots of gizmos, and an awesome butler :smalltongue: ?
That's actually a good point - has Marvel or DC ever done a trans superhero at all? Brings back fond memories of the time when we tried that ourselves with Queerkitty, Kenderwoman (and her mighty hammer) and I think Birchgrove did one as well. :smalltongue:
Maybe not, but we are out there! Just find someone who can accept you for you, and it'll all work out fine.
I know I did, but that was until I helped form the Less Useful Than Aquaman Squad.
You know, for those of us who want to be heroes, but fall just a little short of being super. :smallwink:
I've actually had an idea for a trans character for Werewolf: the Forsaken. She's a transwoman who, before her change, went entirely through transition, including several surgeries. But, because of her newfound werewolf healing, very soon after the Change, she reverted to her original body. Hormones don't work anymore, etc. One of her personal goals is to find some kind of Gift, Ritual, or spirit-magic of some kind to permanently transform her to her proper body. Now I just need to find a ST who's willing to have a character like that in his/her game...No, there's ABSOLUTELY no Mary-Sue, wish-fulfillment-ness going on in the construction of this character. Move along, nothing to see here <_< >_>
As for actual superheroes, no, I can't think of any off the top of my head. But then, I don't read many comics - all I know about most superheroes is what I see in the movies, which I know is not a very good place to catch up on canon :smalltongue: .
EDIT: Lentrax - The one problem with that, for the moment, is that I still haven't full accepted me for me. I'm working on it, but not quite there, yet. Thanks again for your encouragement, though!
Its what I am here for. :smallsmile:
And I cannot recall any hero being trans, but I do know there was/are a couple of same-gender relationships in both DC and Marvel, although the only DC one I can think of right now is Green Lantern from one of the Alternate Earths.
edit: Arrgh! Been working all night, and now I can't type! I keep misspelling or leaving out words. And I don't even know how many ='s I've deleted in the last half hour.