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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
Sex can be so difficult in so many other ways than merely "Where do we get the equipment" and "How do we get stains out."
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Ugh. Does anyone else get waves of insecurity and paranoia about what other people think of them? In the past, I've discovered some people being rather two-faced to me, especially about my being transgendered. Several people who were my friends basically pretended to be supportive and pleasant to my face, but said some very hurtful things when I wasn't there, or when they thought I wasn't listening. I don't know, I've never been particularly secure, but since transitioning I've been especially sensitive, and I always have this voice in my head telling me that every compliment I get is disingenuous, and a nagging doubt that anyone actually likes or appreciates me.
*Hugs*
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I don't really have any close friends that could betray my trust, but I can sympathise with the fear of people hiding cruelty. I am constantly terrified that people will ridicule me or scorn me for something I thought was all right. ._.
People can be very mean to those they don't know well. ;_;
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Dreams are weird @.@ Such an odd dream last night. I was Lea and chasing down some criminal in a bubble then I was flying through the sky having been fired by a catapult.
Makes more sense than most of my dreams, even the ones I remember usually don't have much logic to them. :smallsmile:
Such as the one where it jumped between several scenes and had some happen simultaneously. Apparently my subconsciousness made up a version of Buffy the Vampire Slayer where they fight zombies and recieve cryptic messages through hidden subtitles that can only be seen through special 3D glasses. @_#
Nothing like Musashi or Golentan's dreams, but I am still keeping an eye on my Id. >_>
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
Seems to be a week of ups and downs for people, but glad you are feeling better, Helio.
And it isn't just you. We all feel worried about stuff and about what others think. I've kinda learnt to roll with it. I know for some people, they just can't do that, but I find it helps me.
*hugs for everyone in need of them*
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I go to sleep for...goodness, nearly twelve hours, and suddenly two more pages? Whoa.
*hugs* for all who need them. Even if I'm not quite conscious enough to say words that are supportive.
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Ok, so what's the Italian pronunciation then? I've always heard it the way you're pronouncing it.
It's basically the same, but the accent is different. It's prettier with an Italian accent.
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
I forget if I've posted this picture in this thread before, but I used it in a silly message board game -- my native part of the forum -- just now and it gives me so much pleasure I have to put it here too.
So this is my favourite photograph out of the archives I manage. It's from a college in the late 20s. Apparently the administration was implementing gender-segregated seating at college dinners, so some of the students dressed in drag and went as other guys' dates... in protest.
I love it so much. ;___; Look how happy they are, as if the protest allowed them an expression that had already been dying to come out.
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Kneenibble
So this is my favourite photograph out of the archives I manage. It's from a college in the late 20s. Apparently the administration was implementing gender-segregated seating at college dinners, so some of the students dressed in drag and went as other guys' dates... in protest.
I love it so much. ;___; Look how happy they are, as if the protest allowed them an expression that had already been dying to come out.
I'm surprised they could pull this off - or just consider the very idea - almost a century ago! Awesome photograph, thanks a lot for sharing. :smallsmile:
And now I wonder who they were and what the rest of their lives was like. *facepalms* I ask myself the same question every time I see old documents, it's getting borderline obsessive.
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You know, that picture reminds me of a song...
In other news, I think I've snagged myself a gentleman. Of course, nothing official, but neither of us is exactly playing it cool. How does one tell, exactly? When are these things made concrete? Where do babies come from?
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In other news, I think I've snagged myself a gentleman. Of course, nothing official, but neither of us is exactly playing it cool. How does one tell, exactly? When are these things made concrete? Where do babies come from?
Congratulations. You can usually tell when you introduce the other person as your girl/boyfriend without even thinking about it or you know when it just feels right. And for the last question: When two people love a stork very much they contract Santa to build a womb in his workshop which the stork then impregnates and delivers to the couple.
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I always thought you just went out and found one in the cabbages one day.
Edit: As for knowing for sure what the status of the relationship is, try talking about it.
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I suspect that my sexual orientation is at least partially the result of psychological hangups. As I am now, I'm exclusively gynosexual. However, I'm absolutely fine with the idea of me in a female body with a guy.
Kinda good to know I ain't the only one who feels like this ^^
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"Your father was weregay!"
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Sodomy and cocktails?
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For the record, I would now like to come out as a Mad Scientist. Thank you SMBC.
Can I come out as a really lazy Mad Scientist?
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Anyway, on the subject of names from earlier. I know asking someone what their "real name" is, is rude. So what is better? Assigned name? Birth name? Former name? Just wondering is all.
None of those would offend me.
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I kept getting up to go get water because for some reason, the paladins needed water.
As a re-enactor, I can tell you that water is vitally important. On a battlefield, the water carriers are more important than any other combatant. A battle in medieval armour is three to five minute battles, each pausing for 5+ minute breaks each time for catching your breath and drinking water.
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How did the other trans women feel about their sexual identity? Were you stable or did you flip-flop?
I spent about two weeks going 'Okay am I serious or am I just trying to be a special snowflake cause I read about it', but I haven't flip flopped once.
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I suspect that my sexual orientation is at least partially the result of psychological hangups. As I am now, I'm exclusively gynosexual. However, I'm absolutely fine with the idea of me in a female body with a guy. Also, there were one or two occasions in the past week where, just for a brief moment, I came close to honestly thinking of myself as a girl. And in those moments, the idea of a boyfriend didn't seem repulsive anymore.
I kinda get that.
It's only recently that the idea of doing anything sexual before transition is actually a thing I'd even vaguely consider.
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Congratulations. You can usually tell when you introduce the other person as your girl/boyfriend without even thinking about it or you know when it just feels right. And for the last question: When two people love a stork very much they contract Santa to build a womb in his workshop which the stork then impregnates and delivers to the couple.
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I always thought you just went out and found one in the cabbages one day.
That's where the stork leaves it, duh. :smalltongue:
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I've got a date this Friday! :smallbiggrin:
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Triscuitable
I've got a date this Friday! :smallbiggrin:
Just remember that they are very high in sugar.
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Trilby
Anyway, on the subject of names from earlier. I know asking someone what their "real name" is, is rude. So what is better? Assigned name? Birth name? Former name? Just wondering is all.
The way I understand it, and I'm not a trans person, just asking about it at all is rude. I've heard it talked about as 'birth name', but it can have a lot of very unpleasant emotional baggage associated with it. Better just leave it alone. Personally I don't see that it's my business, really. And I hate an unsatisfied curisoity more than most people.
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Asta Kask
The way I understand it, and I'm not a trans person, just asking about it at all is rude. I've heard it talked about as 'birth name', but it can have a lot of very unpleasant emotional baggage associated with it. Better just leave it alone. Personally I don't see that it's my business, really. And I hate an unsatisfied curisoity more than most people.
Yes, it's usually considered rather rude to inquire about it. If I know you well enough, and it's actually relevant (it usually isn't), then I might tell you. Otherwise, you probably shouldn't ask.
Thanks everyone for the reassuring words.
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I've got a date this Friday! :smallbiggrin:
Congrats! n.n
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Musashi
I'm surprised they could pull this off - or just consider the very idea - almost a century ago! Awesome photograph, thanks a lot for sharing. :smallsmile:
And now I wonder who they were and what the rest of their lives was like. *facepalms* I ask myself the same question every time I see old documents, it's getting borderline obsessive.
I know exactly what you mean. It's what led me into this profession.
It is not outside my power to put names, faces, and at least some life story to any of those individuals, but I would have to do it at work and I just haven't got the time when I'm there right now.
Of course, if you e-mailed the archives in request, I would be professionally obliged to find the answer. :smallwink:
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You know, that picture
reminds me of a song...
In other news, I think I've snagged myself a gentleman. Of course, nothing official, but neither of us is exactly playing it cool. How does one tell, exactly? When are these things made concrete? Where do babies come from?
The moustachioed drag prince in your linked video is very sexy.
Good for you! I say only this: he is a damned fool if he doesn't consider himself your gentleman and you desire that.
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I know exactly what you mean. It's what led me into this profession.
It is not outside my power to put names, faces, and at least some life story to any of those individuals, but I would have to do it at work and I just haven't got the time when I'm there right now.
Of course, if you e-mailed the archives in request, I would be professionally obliged to find the answer. :smallwink:
And how would one go about emailing that request?
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The moustachioed drag prince in your linked video is very sexy.
Why do drag kings so often go for 'staches instead of full beards. The King float/competion on gay pride here rarely has one with a full beard.
And yes that is once sexy moustachioed person both before and after.
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I apologized to my sister just now... I had good reasons to be upset, but I did snap at her. She hasn't responded yet, though. :/
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Aaand I just remembered that dream where my parents cut my hair in my sleep. Granted, it was a really good haircut (I should've realized it was a dream at that point), but it was also really convincing. I was so relieved when I woke up and found my hair where I left it. :shudder:
... Then there were those ones I got when I was reconnecting with my emotions. Those were... Wow. Those were epically messed up. Like, 'Freudian imagery permuted with every element of body-themed horror ever' messed up. Wait, that was just the first two - still, though, the others actually topped those.
... Those were pretty cool in hindsight, though. Like, the way scary movies and whatnot are. 'Rage' was especially awesome (I still have trouble believing that so many super-predators' body parts could fit together so well on such a humanlike frame).
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I have a recurring dream where I shower in stars, and entropy is the shower drain. And then it gets too abstract to properly describe, but it is epic.
Also vaguely LGBT related. Towards the end of it I usually wind up having sex (in the most abstract, and entirely non-physical way possible) with everyone. No exceptions. And then giving birth to myself, with the cosmos as a byproduct.
Cool... @_@
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O.O
Damn, the only time something that awesome happenned to be me was when I started having lucid fever dreams and halucinated a bit.
I was running around a volcano with a bunch of paladins who kept forming factions and attacking each other trying to get a magic sword. I kept getting up to go get water because for some reason, the paladins needed water.
Then I woke up properly and stumbled to my bean bag where I started to converse with the weather. Not things like the sun etc, more like North eastly wind with a spot of rain or light cloudcover over Manchester.
That could have so many symbols if it were used out of context. :smallbiggrin:
What did the weather have to say? I never knew they were conversationalists.
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Musashi
Last time, I had a pretty incoherent and normal dream turn into some horrible nightmare a la "And then there were none", except set in the Cthuhlu mythos, apparently, because the victims were killed in what I could only describe as an event of "reality going haywire". It started when the room we were in started getting completely weird and creepy, and when the first people started letting out bloodcurdling screams, we got out as fast as we could without even looking and never opened the damn room again. We knew that would happen again, but the rituals to avert this were very obscure, and we had no idea if they even worked.
I woke up briefly but fell asleep again immediately, and I was back inside the dream, lucid and conscious, but unable to wake up. Reality glitched a couple times again, I was terrified.
When I woke up for good, I had an euphoric, newfound appreciation for the stable, tangible reality of, well, reality.
TL;DR: Nyarlathotep tried to crash my dream.
Oh, if I had a nickle for every time... *hugs*
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I thought my descent into maleness was a lot faster and more sudden than I normally shift identity. Apparently it was just a day or so's glitch, almost certainly caused by the aforementioned flirting, and today I'm back to feeling girly. And really happy, too - I'm starting to enjoy a female identity :smallbiggrin:
*Hugs* That's good to hear. Er, read. Reassuring to know. :smallbiggrin:
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Kneenibble
I forget if I've posted this picture in this thread before, but I used it in a silly message board game -- my native part of the forum -- just now and it gives me so much pleasure I have to put it here too.
So this is my favourite photograph out of the archives I manage. It's from a college in the late 20s. Apparently the administration was implementing gender-segregated seating at college dinners, so some of the students dressed in drag and went as other guys' dates... in protest.
I love it so much. ;___; Look how happy they are, as if the protest allowed them an expression that had already been dying to come out.
That made my day. :smalltongue: :smallsmile:
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Lyesmith
In other news, I think I've snagged myself a gentleman. Of course, nothing official, but neither of us is exactly playing it cool. How does one tell, exactly? When are these things made concrete?
*High-five* Good for you. :smallsmile:
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Where do babies come from?
Well, when a man and a woman and a sentient android curious about its own existence love each other very much... :smalltongue:
Speakin' of, it occurs to me that "android" doesn't properly describe human-shaped robots (considering that said robots do not necessarily have to be masculine-formed) - I propose calling them "anthroids", both for gender neutrality and because I think that word sounds cool. :smalltongue:
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I've got a date this Friday! :smallbiggrin:
Woo! :smallbiggrin:
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That could have so many symbols if it were used out of context. :smallbiggrin:
What did the weather have to say? I never knew they were conversationalists.
Freud me up! :D I do love how with Freud you can twist everything to fit very easily.
They ain't. I did most of the talking. But I do remember there being something about football. That must have been light cloud cover over Manchester :P
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Lyesmith
You know, that picture
reminds me of a song...
In other news, I think I've snagged myself a gentleman. Of course, nothing official, but neither of us is exactly playing it cool. How does one tell, exactly? When are these things made concrete? Where do babies come from?
I really like that song.
Good luck with your gentleman. As to being official, it's best to talk about it, like asking "so where do we stand?" or something. As to where babies come from, currently for me, surrogates and adoption papers.
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I've got a date this Friday! :smallbiggrin:
Good luck! Be yourself! Have fun! Use protection!(last one just a personal tradition and the closest thing to a catchphrase that I have)
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Good luck! Be yourself! Have fun! Use protection!(last one just a personal tradition and the closest thing to a catchphrase that I have)
Funny, another friend of mine said the same thing. Meanwhile, the friend of my new girlfriend said she'd hurt me if I did anything to her to hurt her. :smalleek:
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Trilby
Freud me up! :D I do love how with Freud you can twist everything to fit very easily.
Ever look at a rifle really closely? :roach:
Sorry about that, I couldn't resist. :smalltongue:
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Funny, another friend of mine said the same thing. Meanwhile, the friend of my new girlfriend said she'd hurt me if I did anything to her to hurt her. :smalleek:
Well, if it hurts you're doing it wrong anyway. :smalltongue:
Good luck on your date.
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I can't escape my maleness. Even if I don't do it, it happens.
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You mean puberty? :smallconfused:
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Ever look at a rifle really closely? :roach:
You'll shoot your eye out, kid. :roach:
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Funny, another friend of mine said the same thing. Meanwhile, the friend of my new girlfriend said she'd hurt me if I did anything to her to hurt her. :smalleek:
At least it wasn't the friends of your new SO's ex. :smallwink:
But, yes, crazy overprotective friends are fun.
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Funny, another friend of mine said the same thing. Meanwhile, the friend of my new girlfriend said she'd hurt me if I did anything to her to hurt her. :smalleek:
I'm that way with my metaphorical sister(my primary female best friend)
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Ever look at a rifle really closely? :roach:
Sorry about that, I couldn't resist. :smalltongue:
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At least it wasn't the friends of your new SO's ex. :smallwink:
But, yes, crazy overprotective friends are fun.
My crazy overprotective friend is split between said aforementioned metaphorical sister and the guy I like. You could say he's my ex, we were just waiting on my parents' blessing. Like that's gonna happen. But I found it attractive(still do) that he wants to help heal things with my family.
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A question has arisen! It is twofold:
1. Can a transexual crossdress?
2. Do some transexuals crossdress?
I say yes and probably but I haven't asked (which is why I'm doing so now). What do you think?
(if this is offensive to anyone, I really am genuinely sorry. I can't see it being, but I'm notoriously bad at telling that sort of thing)
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A question has arisen! It is twofold:
1. Can a transexual crossdress?
2. Do some transexuals crossdress?
I say yes and probably but I haven't asked (which is why I'm doing so now). What do you think?
(if this is offensive to anyone, I really am genuinely sorry. I can't see it being, but I'm notoriously bad at telling that sort of thing)
Yeah, my answers would be the same as yours. I don't crossdress myself, but I'm sure some transsexual people do. Although I suppose if you consider dressing out of necessity as a gender you don't identify as to be crossdressing, then every transsexual person I know of has crossdressed.
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I can't escape my maleness. Even if I don't do it, it happens.
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*Hugs* My id is the only part of me that doesn't know your pain. It's a bit of a jerk. :/
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A question has arisen! It is twofold:
1. Can a transexual crossdress?
2. Do some transexuals crossdress?
I say yes and probably but I haven't asked (which is why I'm doing so now). What do you think?
(if this is offensive to anyone, I really am genuinely sorry. I can't see it being, but I'm notoriously bad at telling that sort of thing)
I do it every time I wear my jacket. It's okay with that, though. I like that jacket. :smallcool:
Probably needs a bit of tailoring done, though... >.>