After that, we'll break the profile into two sections: The petition and Most Private Thing, and everything else. Everything Else, go back to the "imagine I'm a hot chick, why would I write you?" exercise. It's a collection of descriptions and nerd jokes that could cover any generic nerd equally well. You blend in perfectly with the pack of other generic nerd boys. You then further hurt your chances with "message me if ... you want to take the initiative" and "looking for ... casual sex". Really, again, tell me why a girl would prefer you over the competition.
For guys, you might get some attention as a bi dude offering casual sex. Any guy looking for more than a quick encounter will see the huge "I'm questioning" mess (you're 27, dude), see you flat-out state that you prefer women, and stay well clear.
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I have that petition because 1) a friend of mine has the same link on her profile, and 2) it's a subject close to my heart. I may move it to the end of the intro or delete it (if the petition isn't over, my Facebook and Twitter walls may be better for it).
I don't get the part about "warm fuzzies", and I'm not sure if you think I have too much text or too little. Nor do I get the "crash and burn" stuff. I certainly can not find the part where I said that I didn't like to write about myself. :smallconfused: I will edit the Favourite books etc part either way, I know I have tendency to name drop such things. (On the other hand, I think that many persons write way too little in that section.)
First, the petition. You have no problem giving age limits and geographic limits on who you're looking for. Those in turn are dependent on the site being able to have clear, concrete values for those. Since gender is at least as important as age to most people, saying "I am a $gender, interested in $gender(s)" means that you want clear, defined values for these, too. Your only options are to attempt to create an exhaustive list (that will inevitably leave someone off), or leave the whole thing as an open text box (making useful searches a pain). The site already has one excursion into silliness on that front, it doesn't need more.
MPT, meanwhile, is really really terribad. Sounding so unsure, and being so wishy-washy about it, sounds like you're only saying that stuff to put social justice notches on your bedpost in the hopes of being attracted to the girls you really want*. The whole "I see all sorts of beauty because I have opened my mind" is responsible for the creation of a very obnoxious bisexual stereotype. You don't want to be that. If nothing else, the implication is that homos could cure themselves if they only opened their minds and learned to appreciate the beauty of the opposite sex. You're saying "I will fetishize you based on what you are". You're saying "I'm trying to pass being indiscriminate off as a virtue". You should post
here and ask peoples thoughts. It really is that bad.
*(The funny part of it is that the girls you really want - cis, white, young, affluent, etc. - aren't into that. When they don't think they're being rated on their social justice cred, more often than not they'll happily expound on how they want Manly Men. And how a man who takes it from other men can't possibly be manly enough. Even ones who go off the deep end the other way make a conspicuous exception. They're happy to earn feminist cred by claiming "only women (and trans guys) need apply"**. Bi guys are either lumped in as rapacious privilege-mongers, or fail to exist.)
**(Who these girls actually get around to doing is another story. But that's for some other time.)