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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice XX: One X Short of an Awesome Title
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Originally Posted by
Rawhide
"If I had more confidence, I'd ask you out."
...you know... I think I have to use that line now...
There was this guys once. Well, a boy. He was like 19. He told me something along the lines of "I'm not confident enough to ask you out, so I'm just going to state that we will be going out, so you can't say no".
He had such a cute smile, as well.
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Originally Posted by
term1nally s1ck
If you fake being confident for long enough, the affect it has on your interactions with other people, and the experiences you get from it, plus the behaviours becoming ingrained into your mind by habit, makes you an ACTUALLY confident person.
Ding da ding, we have a winner. :smallsmile:
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice XX: One X Short of an Awesome Title
Nah, I've only been pretending to be a winner for 6 months so far, got a bit to go yet. :smallwink:
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Originally Posted by
JadePhoenix
There was this guys once. Well, a boy. He was like 19. He told me something along the lines of "I'm not confident enough to ask you out, so I'm just going to state that we will be going out, so you can't say no".
He had such a cute smile, as well.
Ha, interesting. But not quite the angle I was going for. That was perhaps, for many women, a little too confident...
"If I had more confidence, I'd ask you out."
"Didn't you, by extension, just ask me out?"
"Why yes, yes I did..."
If the person lacked the confidence to ask someone out, they would lack the confidence to say that they lack the confidence and, by stating that they lack the confidence, they are also indirectly asking them out. I love paradoxes and this presents two in a neat little package.
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Originally Posted by
term1nally s1ck
If you fake being confident for long enough, the affect it has on your interactions with other people, and the experiences you get from it, plus the behaviours becoming ingrained into your mind by habit, makes you an ACTUALLY confident person.
This is what happened to me. I figured if I never talked to people I didn't know, they wouldn't talk to me and I'd just stay in that area of low confidence and having few friends. This is not to say that having few friends is necessarily a bad thing, as the friends I had (and still have) were/are very good friends, but considering they went to different universities than me, I wanted and needed more. So I just forced myself out there and I ended up in a good place.
It's a long process though, and people can be confident in one area and not at all in another. I have always been confident in my mental abilities and hand-eye coordination for instance, but only about two years ago did I become really confident in my social abilities.
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I still don't get how someone saying s/he likes you would change your opinion much, at all. I mean, s/he probably wouldn't be asking you out if they didn't like you. It's kind of stating the obvious. This isn't to say that's wrong for it to influence your opinion, obviously, I just think it's interesting that stating what I see as implicit changes things for you.
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The Succubus
The reason people like confidence is because it shows independance of thought and character. If you always asking "Should I do this?" or "Is this okay going to be okay?" or "I'm really worried about something", I'm afraid it does get rather tiresome.
That's not to say pigheaded arrogance is better - no one likes being told they're repeatedly wrong or that they should do as you because you're amazing and brilliant.
On the other hand, I tend to find that arrogance is often mistaken for confidence in the short term, since they share a lot of signifiers. Meanwhile, a lack of confidence tends to look much less like confidence at first glance, so it's rarely mistaken for it.
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Y'know...about confidence, mine specifically...
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I'm a pretty confident person, if I say so myself. If I'm attracted to a girl I'l flirt with her sure. Dance with her, sure, hug her, sure.
But when it comes to ''making the move'' I always freeze and back out, convinced that it's impossible she likes me. Any advice, other then ''just go for it'' which has so far...not helped.
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But when it comes to ''making the move'' I always freeze and back out, convinced that it's impossible she likes me. Any advice, other then ''just go for it'' which has so far...not helped.
Make a list. Put down all the reasons you think there are not to like you. Then read it. Read it again. All while asking yourself: "How much of this is actually, absolutely, hand-on-chest-graves-of-my-forebears-true? What of it is kind of true but not sooo bad? What actually is sooo bad?" And who knows? You might just find out a thing or two. Remember them. And once you're there, don't you ever dare looking back. That is all.
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Castaras
Ding da ding, we have a winner. :smallsmile:
If you don't got it, fake it till you do.
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Coidzor
If you don't got it, fake it till you do.
Fake it till you make it is what I've always heard. Whatever it is, it's good advice Like all advice, the important thing is to actually do something with it.
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Dallas:
There's one trick I have for you, which makes 'making the move' really really really easy.
First thing to note is: You don't need to do an 'asking out'. Just hang out with the person, and have a good and flirty time.
Your goal is to end up heading back to either yours or theirs to hang out/grab a drink/any reason to end up there.
There *is* one moment you have to make happen. You have to kiss her.
At some point, try and get to where you're sitting down near each other, either on a couch or ideally on her bed (no, not because of that...it's because the setting is more private, so the next trick works better.)
Make some mild compliment about her hair, reach out, and stroke the ends of it with the back of a couple of fingers. Just once or twice, then go back to what you were talking about.
After a minute, reach out and carry on stroking her hair. Don't say anything, just do it.
There's 3 reactions she might make.
One, she pulls away. This means her reaction to you reaching for her is to get away. Kissing her now is a BAD plan.
Two, she freezes in place, and just watches you, possibly carrying on the conversation. At this moment her brain is going 'ohgodishegoingtokissmeomgomgomg'. Kiss her. She'll kiss back. If she didn't want you to do it, at the first sign of anything like that, she'd be backing out.
Three, she leans into your hand. If this one happens, and you don't immediately cup her face and kiss her I will come to your house and play skrillex for 17 and a half MONTHS. On full volume.
Oddly enough, once you've kissed a girl, the whole 'asking out' becomes kind of...unneeded. At this point, any time you spend together is a quasi-date.
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I like guys who lack some confidence. The shy guy who gets flustered when you make the first move. They make you feel like you're so amazing that they can't even find words to talk to you or look at you directly. Sometimes they stutter which is adorable. I do have a thing for shy guys, I find it very sexy when I'm in the mood for being in control.
But they need to have some confidence too. I don't like guys who keep apologizing, for instance, and that you need to keep comforting by telling them it's okay. Or guys who constantly ask if it would be fine if they did X.
So I guess it's a matter of degree or something.
About grandparents, I always think of 60 as a "grandparent age" and 50 as a "young grandparent age". I think it's due to my cultural background. First of all, I'm French, where the average age for a first child is 30. While my parents were younger when they had their first child, they were 30 when they had me (their third child). And just now (I'm 26) someone I know had a baby, and it was the first one (it was a friend from high school). None of my brothers have children either (but they're male. The 30 year old average was for females, it's higher for males).
That gives me a really different perspective on life. For instance now that I'm in the US I hear of 14 year olds being babysitters. When I was in France it was more common to be a 14 year old who was babysat. Cars can also be driven much earlier, etc. Basically many things are allowed or common at a much younger age and it's very weird to me. I find myself much too young to have a kid right now so I can't imagine having one when I was 15. Yet a bunch of people do it and they're fine, so obviously it's possible.
I have to add something: I remembered one of my best friend's mother had her very young, and people commented on that all the time when I was a kid. I just did the math, she had her when she was 21. So that's what was considered very young where/when I grew up, to give you a frame of reference.
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice XX: One X Short of an Awesome Title
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Originally Posted by
term1nally s1ck
Three, she leans into your hand. If this one happens, and you don't immediately cup her face and kiss her I will come to your house and play skrillex for 17 and a half MONTHS. On full volume.
I don't know what that is, but it sounds scary. :smalleek:
As for the rest, good advice on the whole, I'd say.
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term1nally s1ck
Oddly enough, once you've kissed a girl, the whole 'asking out' becomes kind of...unneeded. At this point, any time you spend together is a quasi-date.
Usually, yes. Watch out for girls that try to strong-arm you into formally asking them out after you've already started dating and making out though. That might be something that was just a consequence of still being in secondary school at the time though, in retrospect.
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Originally Posted by
Coidzor
I don't know what that is, but it sounds scary. :smalleek:
Skrillex is an artist from a genre often misspelled "dubstep," correctly called "sonic vomit." The entire genre, Skrillex included, is basically like driving in a car very fast, against the wind, with the front windows up and the back windows rolled down, while listening to over-produced, bass-heavy versions of songs that, if you're lucky, may have been decent in their original form. It's the subgenre which gives all electronic music a bad name for the generation currently in their twenties, much as ridiculous, unlistenable hardcore techno did the previous.
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Coidzor
Usually, yes. Watch out for girls that try to strong-arm you into formally asking them out after you've already started dating and making out though.
I don't see much problem with this. If anything, I'd rather have it be clear if things are committed/exclusive or not. A kiss is not a promise, while a promise is.
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Vacant
"dubstep"
All this is missing is the wub wub wubs
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There is totally such thing as really good Dubstep. Caspa & Rusko, the Bug, Pinn Panelle's live dubstep covers are good.
Um.
Yeah, that's my contribution right now.
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Lissou
[...] where the average age for a first child is 30.
This is becoming more and more the norm, and I don't understand it. I mean, it makes sense from a logical "I'm not ready to be chained to a kid for 18 years until I'm full on in a career and have fully explored all of my 'wild oats' options" perspective, but not from a biology perspective. Having been exposed to quite a bit of reading on it and had confirming conversations with fertility specialists, I know that the woman's body starts turning on her at that point. Yes, many woman have kids in their 30's, but that's the time when the prospect becomes less likely to be successful and more likely to be problematic for both mother and child. This is where the 'biological clock' function comes in. Women who know that at some point they will want children but haven't yet start to get messages from their bodies saying "look, let's do this before we can't, mkay?" Sure, modern medicine is making that success more and more likely, but waiting that long is still almost guaranteeing that you'll need more medical intervention during and after pregnancy than if you'd started earlier. And those risks escalate with frightening speed once you hit that point. By the time you're 40 many doctors will recommend seriously examining the risk assessment.
Besides, who wants kids still hangin' around when you're staring down 50 and thinking about retirement?
I realize I'm in the minority on some (man?) of these feelings, but it's just something I don't understand. I always wanted kids (not as soon as I had mine, though) but I also always imagined them all fully grown and on their own by the time I was 50, just like my parents and most of their contemporaries when I was growing up. Alarra's 10 years my junior, and her parents were done having kids in time to be empty nested by 50 too. In fact, she'll be under 50 when Pudding Troll turns 18 too.
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Lissou
I find myself much too young to have a kid right now so I can't imagine having one when I was 15. Yet a bunch of people do it and they're fine, so obviously it's possible.
I have problems with this implication. Despite my ranting above, I strongly feel that 15 is FAR too young to be willingly starting a family. I think if you ask the 15 year olds, they'll tell you that too. Just because there are anecdotal stories of things working out okay in the end doesn't mean that "everything was fine". There are a TON of hardships involved in being a school aged parent. Some of those youngsters have the drive and support to overcome their circumstances, but many more don't and end up in a bad place unable to break out.
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Originally Posted by
term1nally s1ck
Dallas:
There's one trick I have for you, which makes 'making the move' really really really easy.
First thing to note is: You don't need to do an 'asking out'. Just hang out with the person, and have a good and flirty time.
Your goal is to end up heading back to either yours or theirs to hang out/grab a drink/any reason to end up there.
There *is* one moment you have to make happen. You have to kiss her.
At some point, try and get to where you're sitting down near each other, either on a couch or ideally on her bed (no, not because of that...it's because the setting is more private, so the next trick works better.)
Make some mild compliment about her hair, reach out, and stroke the ends of it with the back of a couple of fingers. Just once or twice, then go back to what you were talking about.
After a minute, reach out and carry on stroking her hair. Don't say anything, just do it.
There's 3 reactions she might make.
One, she pulls away. This means her reaction to you reaching for her is to get away. Kissing her now is a BAD plan.
Two, she freezes in place, and just watches you, possibly carrying on the conversation. At this moment her brain is going 'ohgodishegoingtokissmeomgomgomg'. Kiss her. She'll kiss back. If she didn't want you to do it, at the first sign of anything like that, she'd be backing out.
Three, she leans into your hand. If this one happens, and you don't immediately cup her face and kiss her I will come to your house and play skrillex for 17 and a half MONTHS. On full volume.
Oddly enough, once you've kissed a girl, the whole 'asking out' becomes kind of...unneeded. At this point, any time you spend together is a quasi-date.
Yeah, natural progression seems to be the best way. My last girlfriend, we stayed up talking into the small hours, just chatting, getting to know each other sitting together on the sofa. We were getting very slowly closer, and after a while, I just asked "Would you take it terribly amiss if I were to kiss you about now?"
She blushed, indicated that she wouldn't, and so I did :smallbiggrin:
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My ideal would be to have one kid in the last couple of years of my 20s, and a second in the early years of my 30s (before the risk of Down's Syndrome gets high...). Kinda starting to run out of time there, now :smalltongue:
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Lissou
I like guys who lack some confidence. The shy guy who gets flustered when you make the first move. They make you feel like you're so amazing that they can't even find words to talk to you or look at you directly. Sometimes they stutter which is adorable. I do have a thing for shy guys, I find it very sexy when I'm in the mood for being in control.
But they need to have some confidence too. I don't like guys who keep apologizing, for instance, and that you need to keep comforting by telling them it's okay. Or guys who constantly ask if it would be fine if they did X.
It's tricky. Shyness and social awkwardness can be adorable and, yes, attractive. I could, potentially, be as attracted to a shy person as to an obviously/forwardly confident one, but... They still need to be comfortable in themselves to be a candidate for a relationship. There are, I suppose, different varieties of confidence, and different ways of exhibiting it. Meeting-girls/guys-wise, most of the time at least having the ability to be (or pretend to be) publicly self-confident is the best way to go. But even when/if you're not displaying your confidence, that doesn't mean you're a lost cause. But it also doesn't mean it's not compatible with a more subtle, inward variety.
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*waits for someone to come along and say what I'm trying to, but so's it makes sense with less rambling*
And yeah, I've said before that the "natural progression" is by far my favourite form of relationship development. My last relationship started pretty much as described, except with more tickling. And it was confirmed with a "so does this mean you're mine, now?" "What sort of person do you think I am?!"
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Zeb The Troll
This is becoming more and more the norm, and I don't understand it. I mean, it makes sense from a logical "I'm not ready to be chained to a kid for 18 years until I'm full on in a career and have fully explored all of my 'wild oats' options" perspective, but not from a biology perspective. Having been exposed to quite a bit of reading on it and had confirming conversations with fertility specialists, I know that the woman's body starts turning on her at that point. Yes, many woman have kids in their 30's, but that's the time when the prospect becomes less likely to be successful and more likely to be problematic for both mother and child. This is where the 'biological clock' function comes in. Women who know that at some point they will want children but haven't yet start to get messages from their bodies saying "look, let's do this before we can't, mkay?" Sure, modern medicine is making that success more and more likely, but waiting that long is still almost guaranteeing that you'll need more medical intervention during and after pregnancy than if you'd started earlier. And those risks escalate with frightening speed once you hit that point. By the time you're 40 many doctors will recommend seriously examining the risk assessment.
Besides, who wants kids still hangin' around when you're staring down 50 and thinking about retirement?
I'm 23. I am not going to find a woman I can stand enough to want to be legally shackled to her if the relationship fails after reproducing with her any time soon, largely because I'm the cautious sort and believe in not marrying someone the same year that one meets them. That, and it's been over 3-4 years now since the relationship I had with the last serious contender for life/reproductive partner went up in flames. Since then, I have only had inconsequential flings, short-term relationships, or just been met with outright failure and humiliation at actually having had romantic rivals and lost to them in this day and age.
So not quite got my head in the game seriously and I lack any clear pool to draw from, as my social circle is a rather dry, desolate place aside from one or two women of foolhardy sexual character, and considering the biggest of those is currently sleeping with anyone who is male and isn't either "in love" with her or her fiance, I see no reason to consider such an individual, even to use for base urges, much less try to form a lasting pair-bond with. :smallyuk:
So that's at least a year to marriage and reproduction if I met her today, and frankly, I am not in a place where I could start such a courtship right now... My preference would be for 2-3 children so that none of them go all "only child mentality" on us or the rest of the world. So that adds up to about 5 years before finishing reproduction if I started now while young and poor.
If I waited until I had some kind of financial solvency and could theoretically afford the mountain of expense that young humans generate, that'd likely add 3-4 years onto it, though the courtship portion could be done in parallel to that at least.
So, yeah, one part changing culture, another part incompetency and ineptitude of young people who have their childhoods extended. Add in the expensive, meaningless pre-requisite that any degree that's not related to grad school is and the student loan debt from that and there's a lot of pressures, not the least of which is the bit where when one is actually surrounded by a sea of potential mates due to school, long-term pairing is discouraged by the official ethos of hook-up culture.
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Serpentine
*waits for someone to come along and say what I'm trying to, but so's it makes sense with less rambling*
Confidence translates to being comfortable in one's own skin and with a woman*, so if they don't know how to get the job done, they know enough to find out and finish it. If you know what I mean. :smallwink: The fact that they know they're worth your while and that helps them make themselves worth your while is just gravy.
Shyness is extra work to get them out of the shell and into participating fully, and while it can be quite fun to train someone to do the job as one likes it, especially after one's gotten them trained, it's still more tiring than a partner who is ready to meet one half-way from the get-go.
*substitute whatever physical body-sex the reader is or has here.
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Originally Posted by
term1nally s1ck
Make some mild compliment about her hair, reach out, and stroke the ends of it with the back of a couple of fingers. Just once or twice, then go back to what you were talking about.
After a minute, reach out and carry on stroking her hair. Don't say anything, just do it.
Note: This does not work if you've already been playing with her hair for the whole length of the time you've known each other. Business as usual does not make for romance :smalltongue:.
(What can I say, I like playing with people's hair.
On the other hand, at the moment there's like half a dozen pretty girls that let me play with and comb their hair whenever I feel like it, so I am totally fine with the current situation :smallbiggrin:)
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I'm 23. I am not going to find a woman I can stand enough to want to be legally shackled to her if the relationship fails after reproducing with her any time soon, largely because I'm the cautious sort and believe in not marrying someone the same year that one meets them. That, and it's been over 3-4 years now since the relationship I had with the last serious contender for life/reproductive partner went up in flames. Since then, I have only had inconsequential flings, short-term relationships, or just been met with outright failure and humiliation at actually having had romantic rivals and lost to them in this day and age.
So not quite got my head in the game seriously and I lack any clear pool to draw from, as my social circle is a rather dry, desolate place aside from one or two women of foolhardy sexual character, and considering the biggest of those is currently sleeping with anyone who is male and isn't either "in love" with her or her fiance, I see no reason to consider such an individual, even to use for base urges, much less try to form a lasting pair-bond with. :smallyuk:
So that's at least a year to marriage and reproduction if I met her today, and frankly, I am not in a place where I could start such a courtship right now... My preference would be for 2-3 children so that none of them go all "only child mentality" on us or the rest of the world. So that adds up to about 5 years before finishing reproduction if I started now while young and poor.
If I waited until I had some kind of financial solvency and could theoretically afford the mountain of expense that young humans generate, that'd likely add 3-4 years onto it, though the courtship portion could be done in parallel to that at least.
So, yeah, one part changing culture, another part incompetency and ineptitude of young people who have their childhoods extended. Add in the expensive, meaningless pre-requisite that any degree that's not related to grad school is and the student loan debt from that and there's a lot of pressures, not the least of which is the bit where when one is actually surrounded by a sea of potential mates due to school, long-term pairing is discouraged by the official ethos of hook-up culture.
"I'm not going to make the cutoff" is not the same as "I don't plan to start trying until I'm in my 30s".
Also, in my own personal view, "I want to wait until my life is perfect before I add that much inconvenience" is a terrible excuse. Trust me when I say that there will never be a "perfect" time to have kids. There will always be just one more thing you need to take care of first. As an example, "finish my degree" transitions to "when I get a career job" and then becomes "when I get that promotion" and then "now's not good because I'm too busy with my new position" and so on. Of course, not everyone thinks "I need to have absolutely zero other distractions before I can do this" but the prevailing attitude does seem to be "I need to be done worrying about me before I can start worrying about another little person being absolutely dependent on me". I'm 40 with a solid career (though my current contract is ending soon) and Alarra finished her master's degree three years ago and there are still things in our lives that it would have been nice to have taken care of before taking on the burden of an infant/toddler. It's just nonsensical, to me, to have that as a prerequisite. "I want to be married first" makes sense to me. Sometimes that doesn't happen by the time you're 24, but it's still a responsible decision. "I want to be not living in my parents' basement first" makes sense to me. "I want to be 30 first" does not.
Again, I'm not trying to say anyone's wrong for having that as a criterion, I'm just saying that I don't understand that viewpoint from a social or health standpoint.
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Drascin
Note: This does not work if you've already been playing with her hair for the whole length of the time you've known each other. Business as usual does not make for romance :smalltongue:.
(What can I say, I like playing with people's hair.
On the other hand, at the moment there's like half a dozen pretty girls that let me play with and comb their hair whenever I feel like it, so I am totally fine with the current situation :smallbiggrin:)
1. Given that humans are, for whatever reason, geared up to think about sexytimes 24/7, business as usual certainly can be a precursor to sexytimes. You might be surprised how many people you think of sexually and who think of you sexually. It's just a thing humans do.
2. Context is important. An action in one environment doesn't mean the same thing as an action in another environment. If I gave someone a backrub when we're out with a bunch of people, it would be quite easily platonic. If I did it when they were lying on my couch or bed, home alone...that's pretty muddy, no matter how well you know each other, or one's history of backrubs.
Trust me on this. I've been in theater. When you have to help a girl out of her clothes as a friendly gesture, you get the idea of context pretty sorted out.
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DeadManSleeping
1. Given that humans are, for whatever reason, geared up to think about sexytimes 24/7, business as usual certainly can be a precursor to sexytimes. You might be surprised how many people you think of sexually and who think of you sexually. It's just a thing humans do.
2. Context is important. An action in one environment doesn't mean the same thing as an action in another environment. If I gave someone a backrub when we're out with a bunch of people, it would be quite easily platonic. If I did it when they were lying on my couch or bed, home alone...that's pretty muddy, no matter how well you know each other, or one's history of backrubs.
Trust me on this. I've been in theater. When you have to help a girl out of her clothes as a friendly gesture, you get the idea of context pretty sorted out.
A frontrub tends to be pretty clear, regardless of context. :smalltongue:
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Zeb The Troll
Besides, who wants kids still hangin' around when you're staring down 50 and thinking about retirement?
This is kind of assuming you have a couple of kids and then no more, though. My father was 28 when he married my mother (who was 18 at the time) and they had several children in fairly rapid succession (4 over 8 years, IIRC), then there was a seven-year gap before myself and my twin brother were born. That meant, of course, we were only 6 years old when he turned 50! Mind you, that was 1976, and things were still quite old-fashioned; he worked to bring the money in, Mother stayed home looking after the children.
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The Succubus
A frontrub tends to be pretty clear, regardless of context. :smalltongue:
It's business, it's business time...
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Clearly the best thing to do is turn up wearing nothing but your socks.
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Serpentine
Clearly the best thing to do is turn up wearing nothing but your socks.
No shirt, no shoes, and I still get service.
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Y'know...about confidence, mine specifically...
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I'm a pretty confident person, if I say so myself. If I'm attracted to a girl I'l flirt with her sure. Dance with her, sure, hug her, sure.
But when it comes to ''making the move'' I always freeze and back out, convinced that it's impossible she likes me. Any advice, other then ''just go for it'' which has so far...not helped.
Very hard, ain't it? That's why I ended up going with just stating that I liked them, but that comes with its own downsides. However, at least then it's on the table.
That makes me think though, how many people here are bad at reading intent (in words) or body language? I suck at just watching a person and learning from that their opinion of me. (Especially in the sense of "are they laughing at me or with me and is it because I was funny or because it was lame?")
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Originally Posted by
Serpentine
Clearly the best thing to do is turn up wearing nothing but your socks.
Dress code: Black tie.
Just a tie.
And it is black.
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice XX: One X Short of an Awesome Title
... And now I'm thinking "Naked Fun Time" in my head.
Thanks guys.