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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
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Originally Posted by
Triscuitable
*SniP
In the time it took for me to reestablish contact (he tends to hang out with friends he can physically see), I learned several things:
- He graduated
- His sister graduated from college
- His sister MARRIED
- He lives in Santa Monica, quite a step up
This is the kind of stuff I learn when I don't talk to old friends for years. :smalltongue:
Too true! Just made contact with as buddy who tranfer schools. Wish we can hang, but he is to far to bike.
Hurray for re-contact :smalltongue:!
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
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Originally Posted by
Qaera
Anyone resident in the EU (or Croatia, for some reason), the good people of the European Union's Fundamental Rights Agency are trying to put together the widest survey of LGBT+ life across Europe, and would really appreciate you taking the time to fill out
their survey.
That sounds amazing, I will surely participate-
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Originally Posted by FRA Survey
This is the biggest ever European survey of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and/or transgender people (LGBT). The survey is looking for responses from anyone who considers themself to be LGB and/or T, who is aged 18 years and above and lives in the European Union or Croatia.
No asexual? But I wanted to do a survey... ;_;
On another note, *Hugs Techno*
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
TIL that I mind "she" while feeling male a lot less than I mind "he" when feeling female. Weird.
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
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Originally Posted by
Keveak
No asexual? But I wanted to do a survey... ;_;
It includes options for asexuals. :smallsmile:
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
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Originally Posted by
Poppy Appletree
It includes options for asexuals. :smallsmile:
It does, but you are eventually kicked out of the poll if you give mostly heterosexual responses (concerning who you had sex with recently); I assume the poll doesn't reject heterosexual transexuals.
I said I wasn't trans, said I was asexual when given the choice of my sexual orientation, then a bit later said I had sex with a single man. I've tried responding I was attracted to no one, and also that I was attracted to men, but both still lead me to getting kicked out. (I suppose the early questions I got on self-identification were irrelevant to my getting kicked out, so I'm not detailing my answers for these).
So yeah. :smallfrown:
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
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Originally Posted by
Serpentine
I think I want an ouroborus. Is that tacky? It's just a snake-based symbol of eternity and unification holds so much more meaning for me than just a rock on a strip of metal...
Just a ROCK?!?!?! :furious: And I suppose Gaja just sells grape juice, does he?!
*deep breath* Well, I guess not all of us have dwarven aesthetics. But stay out of my cave.
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Originally Posted by
Lix Lorn
My soul weeps upon reading man, a missed opportunity for the greatest of prizes flying away on gilded budgie-wings... and then I see gorgeous and well, I was out of it anyway.
I'm sorry, my gorgeous creature, but Mabel is the only woman for me. I would still give you a jewel, though. For some reason I think of lapis lazuli for you -- the best gold-flecked indigo blue kind. Would you like that?
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Originally Posted by
Arachu
Right though, *hugs*. You're a wonderful person, and I'm sure you'll find love someday.
I'd kill for his mastery of the English tongue.
... And I just pictured a giant tongue with a saddle. I've been not sleeping for longer than I thought. @_@
Kind of like the cover to the Rolling Stones album "Live Licks"? :smalltongue:
*hugs* Thank you.
I usually regret these lovelorn moods that settle on me, though, since I have lots of love in my life -- just because none of it is the sticky stychomythic stick-it-to-me-baby sort doesn't make it less precious.
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Originally Posted by
Musashi
Amazing. Praying mantises are my favourite insects: I wish they lived in my area. I like how they develop, growing new features every time they shed. It's like they gain levels.
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Originally Posted by
pffh
And now for something that (shock and horror) is actually on topic for the thread:
Over the last few weeks (months? possible but not sure) I've been feeling more and more well gay. Not that I've been acting like a stereotypical gay man but my something (longing possibly? attraction? I don't know words are hard!) and it's been bothering me for a while and I'm not happy about it.
One of the reason I'm not happy about it is because I'm bi and not gay and have always leaned more towards women. In fact I've always leaned so much towards women that I've been convinced most of my life that I was straight because I had no problem completely ignoring everything else.
Another reason is that I don't actually know anyone that isn't straight so I haven't really I guess talked with anyone about anything and haven't really done anything about it other then a few measly attempts at going to a gay bar alone (oh god going to bars alone is sooooo boring).
Also I'm allowed to be irrationally annoyed at myself. :smallmad:
Have you enjoyed the pleasure of men before, or is it a heretofore unrequited background desire? Maybe if you swing for a little while and get it out of your system, you will return to your sexuality comfort zone.
Going to bars alone is only boring if you don't wind up meeting people. Not just for hook-ups, I mean, but for chats too. If it's boring, perhaps ur doin it rong?
Our distance aside, I would offer you some experiences except that you'd never go back to women after.
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
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Originally Posted by
Keveak
That sounds amazing, I will surely participate-
No asexual? But I wanted to do a survey... ;_;
On another note, *Hugs Techno*
Do it anyway! It'll give an option for "do not experience sexual attraction". Apparently Musashi got kicked out but I imagine the reason still gets logged so it might still help.
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Originally Posted by
Musashi
It does, but you are eventually kicked out of the poll if you give mostly heterosexual responses (concerning who you had sex with recently); I assume the poll doesn't reject heterosexual transexuals.
I said I wasn't trans, said I was asexual when given the choice of my sexual orientation, then a bit later said I had sex with a single man. I've tried responding I was attracted to no one, and also that I was attracted to men, but both still lead me to getting kicked out. (I suppose the early questions I got on self-identification were irrelevant to my getting kicked out, so I'm not detailing my answers for these).
So yeah. :smallfrown:
That is so weird. I gave "heterosexual" responses to the sex questions, having only had sex with one person who is not of the same gender or biological sex to me, and I got to the end. Does it tell you why you get kicked out? I mean, if you answer all those different ways, are you sure it's not a glitch of some kind?
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Originally Posted by
Kneenibble
Just a ROCK?!?!?! :furious: And I suppose Gaja just sells grape juice, does he?!
*deep breath* Well, I guess not all of us have dwarven aesthetics. But stay out of my cave.
There there. We may be approaching the rocks from different viewpoints but I think we can be rock allies. The rock and mineral appreciation that joins us is stronger than the technical viewpoints that separate.
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Originally Posted by
Kneenibble
Our distance aside, I would offer you some experiences except that you'd never go back to women after.
Heyyyy.
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
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Originally Posted by
Kneenibble
Have you enjoyed the pleasure of men before, or is it a heretofore unrequited background desire? Maybe if you swing for a little while and get it out of your system, you will return to your sexuality comfort zone.
The latter and yeah I've thought about that.
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Originally Posted by
Kneenibble
Going to bars alone is only boring if you don't wind up meeting people. Not just for hook-ups, I mean, but for chats too. If it's boring, perhaps ur doin it rong?
Probably. I guess I'm just used to going with friends and chatting with strangers that are not brought in by the friends has always been an afterthought. More of a spur of the moment decision at three or four in the morning that yes I would like to meet someone new or go home with someone tonight.
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Originally Posted by
Kneenibble
Our distance aside, I would offer you some experiences except that you'd never go back to women after.
Having seen your picture I don't think I would I mind :smallredface:
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
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Originally Posted by
Musashi
It does, but you are eventually kicked out of the poll if you give mostly heterosexual responses (concerning who you had sex with recently); I assume the poll doesn't reject heterosexual transexuals.
I said I wasn't trans, said I was asexual when given the choice of my sexual orientation, then a bit later said I had sex with a single man. I've tried responding I was attracted to no one, and also that I was attracted to men, but both still lead me to getting kicked out. (I suppose the early questions I got on self-identification were irrelevant to my getting kicked out, so I'm not detailing my answers for these).
So yeah. :smallfrown:
*Hugs*
That's no fun at all. ;_;
I hope future surveys will be less strange, because you would definitively make it a much better survey. ^_^
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Originally Posted by
KenderWizard
Do it anyway! It'll give an option for "do not experience sexual attraction". Apparently Musashi got kicked out but I imagine the reason still gets logged so it might still help.
I tried, and then got excluded because I didn't notice that I am almost three months too young to participate. :smallredface:
Sorry for making a fuss about not being included in a survey I am too young to do. m(_ _)m.
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
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Originally Posted by
Kneenibble
I'm sorry, my gorgeous creature, but Mabel is the only woman for me. I would still give you a jewel, though. For some reason I think of lapis lazuli for you -- the best gold-flecked indigo blue kind. Would you like that?
:smallredface:
That would be nice.
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
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Originally Posted by
Musashi
Thanks :smallredface:
He's got little free time, no interest in D&D, and is not very motivated to discuss LGBT+ stuff with complete strangers (unlike me, ironically). I respect all this... and also enjoy having a semi-private place for myself.
Yeah, that's not very noble, but since I'm communicating very little about us, I figure it's something I can live with. I enjoy keeping a distance between Meatspace and Internet.
Oh, that's perfectly fine, I was just being a tad curious.
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Originally Posted by
KenderWizard
Anyone resident in the EU (or Croatia, for some reason), the good people of the European Union's Fundamental Rights Agency are trying to put together the widest survey of LGBT+ life across Europe, and would really appreciate you taking the time to fill out
their survey.
Croatia is currently handling their membership, that's probably why.
I started filling it out, but then they started asking about the requirements for legal gender change (why are they even asking this? Can't they look it up themselves?) and because I've been too scared to look those up myself yet I gave up... ._.
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Originally Posted by
TechnoScrabble
So...one of my best friends (who is also one of my Sergeants) found out I'm bi and is now so freaked out that he threatened to punch me in the face if I continued dating his sister.
EFF. THAT.
Ugggh. :c
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Originally Posted by
Kneenibble
Our distance aside, I would offer you some experiences except that you'd never go back to women after.
:smallconfused:
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
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Originally Posted by
Astrella
:smallconfused:
>>>Because Kneenibble is just that hot/kinky/good at sexyfuntimes, I believe was the implication. xD
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
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Originally Posted by
KenderWizard
That is so weird. I gave "heterosexual" responses to the sex questions, having only had sex with one person who is not of the same gender or biological sex to me, and I got to the end. Does it tell you why you get kicked out? I mean, if you answer all those different ways, are you sure it's not a glitch of some kind?
I don't think it's a glitch, it basically thanked me for wanting to take the survey but that I wasn't part of the target group. I just tried again, saying I didn't know who I was attracted to this time, and I still won't go further.
*shrugs* It's no big deal for me. I barely qualify as an LGBT+ individual, if at all, anyway.
Oh, by the way, I took the test in French (it being my first language), but I don't think it had an influence on the rest... did it?
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
*Hugs noparlpf and his ex*
*Also hugs TechnoScrabble*
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Originally Posted by
SiuiS
If it makes you feel better, spiders are acceptable only inversely to their proximity with my face. Minimum measure being about 4 meters before payho freakout.
Spider in the middle of the rainforest, adorable. Spider in the room OH DEAR GOD KILL IT WITH FIRE! :mitd:
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Huh. Lost one.
Yes, for the record, KenderWizard did indeed suggest the signature. I'm exploring options, but that wouldn't work for me; I have just enough synesthesia-type stuff going that it would be ... Like changing my tone and inflection and attitude only for the very last word of a conversation.
I am trying to find a suitable ASCII wizard hat now though :smalltongue:
Would that greater-than-next-to-a-vertical-line symbol work? (I've only ever seen it in Dwarf Fortress >.>)
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Yes and no. As was said before In this thread; "he used to be bisexual. Now he's monogamous" (implying that once you've got your one partner you shouldn't look around ever, not promiscuity on part of bisexuals).
Well, there's no reason someone would have to keep being attracted to a given sex while being married to the other. There's also no reason they can't be, though. It doesn't really make sense to measure sexuality by who someone's actively pursuing sex with.
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Originally Posted by
Heliomance
TIL that I mind "she" while feeling male a lot less than I mind "he" when feeling female. Weird.
There's probably a good reason for that. This is one of those times when that's not necessarily important, though. *Hugs*
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Originally Posted by
Musashi
It does, but you are eventually kicked out of the poll if you give mostly heterosexual responses (concerning who you had sex with recently); I assume the poll doesn't reject heterosexual transexuals.
I said I wasn't trans, said I was asexual when given the choice of my sexual orientation, then a bit later said I had sex with a single man. I've tried responding I was attracted to no one, and also that I was attracted to men, but both still lead me to getting kicked out. (I suppose the early questions I got on self-identification were irrelevant to my getting kicked out, so I'm not detailing my answers for these).
So yeah. :smallfrown:
I'm American, so I'm not really able to take it in the first place. That's pretty messed-up, though. *Hugs*
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Originally Posted by
Kneenibble
Just a ROCK?!?!?! :furious: And I suppose Gaja just sells grape juice, does he?!
*deep breath* Well, I guess not all of us have dwarven aesthetics. But stay out of my cave.
Just a rock? Since when were rocks mundane? We're made of salt and carbon! :smallfurious:
I should be careful with that school of thought, though - there's no way I could put up with having a beard. :smalltongue:
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Kind of like the cover to the Rolling Stones album "Live Licks"? :smalltongue:
*hugs* Thank you.
I usually regret these lovelorn moods that settle on me, though, since I have lots of love in my life -- just because none of it is the sticky stychomythic stick-it-to-me-baby sort doesn't make it less precious.
I should look at more album covers... :smalltongue:
I won't judge you for feeling that way. There's certainly nothing wrong with it. *More hugs*
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Amazing. Praying mantises are my favourite insects: I wish they lived in my area. I like how they develop, growing new features every time they shed. It's like they gain levels.
I like them for their adorable little Xenos eyes. And the arms. The horrible, horrible arms. :smallbiggrin:
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Originally Posted by
Astrella
Croatia is currently handling their membership, that's probably why.
I started filling it out, but then they started asking about the requirements for legal gender change (why are they even asking this? Can't they look it up themselves?) and because I've been too scared to look those up myself yet I gave up... ._.
*Facepalm* *Hugs*
~Bianca
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
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Originally Posted by
Keveak
*Hugs*
That's no fun at all. ;_;
I hope future surveys will be less strange, because you would definitively make it a much better survey. ^_^
I tried, and then got excluded because I didn't notice that I am almost three months too young to participate. :smallredface:
Sorry for making a fuss about not being included in a survey I am too young to do. m(_ _)m.
Hey, I'm not eighteen until Sunday and I don't live in the EU. I figure I'll try it anyway just out of curiosity.
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
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Originally Posted by
Arachu
Would that greater-than-next-to-a-vertical-line symbol work? (I've only ever seen it in Dwarf Fortress >.>)
It's gotta have stars on it or the magic won't work.
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
http://i1204.photobucket.com/albums/...f/Untitled.jpg
>:|
Edit: Well I guess I shouldn't feel too bad because I don't even live in the EU.
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
Meh, any survey that doesn't allow sweet little Musashi and Nopey to post isn't a worthwhile survey.
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
That's exactly what I got! Well, the same, but in French, and incidentally, I've heard that everything sounds sexier in French. Although it didn't really sound sexy at all. Oh, look at the time, it's Random-Babblin'o'clock.
Aww, why so nice, everyone? *free hugs*
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
Oh, wow. I did not enjoy that survey at all. :(!
Emotional rant ahead: (spoilered due to content related to sexual assault and difficult stuff)
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At one point there's a bunch of questions regarding the most serious physical or sexual assault that's happened to you in the past five years.
I was the victim of a sexual assault some years ago, and being asked a bunch of questions about the situation (and the offender (and how I handled it)) by a machine survey has shaken me pretty badly. :smallfrown:
The worst part is, I can't help but feel that I'm being too sensitive about it and am being selfish for wishing they had put some kind of trigger warning up before.
Except that there really is no being too sensitive about this. Or at least, it is obvious that it stirred up a whole lot of bad feelings and I have to acknowledge them now I'm aware of them.
I guess they decided not to include a "skip this if it makes you uncomfortable"-button for practical reasons, but that doesn't really prevent me from feeling weird now.
I guess what I can take with me from the survey is that I'm not done working with it. Complicated. *sigh*
Of course, it doesn't help that the assault has been surfacing the past few weeks due to a guy I met in a bar who wanted me to be more... assertive in our .. conversation - and that started a lot of thoughts about power, powerlessness and how I feel about my body and other people. Kind of hard to talk about in polite company, but I hope I haven't stepped on anyone's toes.
And I really needed to get this off my chest.
Also.
Hello! I guess it's been.. months? since I posted here. *waves*
I've been lurking a bit, though. You're still pretty swell. :)
It's SPRING in Denmark, and aside from days with pouring rain, time for wearing short shorts and reading books outside. Book reading is, of course, mainly a front for looking at cute guys in short shorts.
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
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Originally Posted by
Carecalmo
Oh, wow. I did not enjoy that survey at all. :(!
Emotional rant ahead: (spoilered due to content related to sexual assault and difficult stuff)
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At one point there's a bunch of questions regarding the most serious physical or sexual assault that's happened to you in the past five years.
I was the victim of a sexual assault some years ago, and being asked a bunch of questions about the situation (and the offender (and how I handled it)) by a machine survey has shaken me pretty badly. :smallfrown:
The worst part is, I can't help but feel that I'm being too sensitive about it and am being selfish for wishing they had put some kind of trigger warning up before.
Except that there really is no being too sensitive about this. Or at least, it is obvious that it stirred up a whole lot of bad feelings and I have to acknowledge them now I'm aware of them.
I guess they decided not to include a "skip this if it makes you uncomfortable"-button for practical reasons, but that doesn't really prevent me from feeling weird now.
I guess what I can take with me from the survey is that I'm not done working with it. Complicated. *sigh*
Of course, it doesn't help that the assault has been surfacing the past few weeks due to a guy I met in a bar who wanted me to be more... assertive in our .. conversation - and that started a lot of thoughts about power, powerlessness and how I feel about my body and other people. Kind of hard to talk about in polite company, but I hope I haven't stepped on anyone's toes.
And I really needed to get this off my chest.
Also.
Hello! I guess it's been.. months? since I posted here. *waves*
I've been lurking a bit, though. You're still pretty swell. :)
It's SPRING in Denmark, and aside from days with pouring rain, time for wearing short shorts and reading books outside. Book reading is, of course, mainly a front for looking at cute guys in short shorts.
Well, form what im hearing, that is one mean survey. Jokes aside, I hope you feel better *Hug*
And yes, book "reading" is wonderful :smallwink:.
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
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Originally Posted by
Carecalmo
Oh, wow. I did not enjoy that survey at all. :(!
Emotional rant ahead: (spoilered due to content related to sexual assault and difficult stuff)
Spoiler
Show
At one point there's a bunch of questions regarding the most serious physical or sexual assault that's happened to you in the past five years.
I was the victim of a sexual assault some years ago, and being asked a bunch of questions about the situation (and the offender (and how I handled it)) by a machine survey has shaken me pretty badly. :smallfrown:
The worst part is, I can't help but feel that I'm being too sensitive about it and am being selfish for wishing they had put some kind of trigger warning up before.
Except that there really is no being too sensitive about this. Or at least, it is obvious that it stirred up a whole lot of bad feelings and I have to acknowledge them now I'm aware of them.
I guess they decided not to include a "skip this if it makes you uncomfortable"-button for practical reasons, but that doesn't really prevent me from feeling weird now.
I guess what I can take with me from the survey is that I'm not done working with it. Complicated. *sigh*
Of course, it doesn't help that the assault has been surfacing the past few weeks due to a guy I met in a bar who wanted me to be more... assertive in our .. conversation - and that started a lot of thoughts about power, powerlessness and how I feel about my body and other people. Kind of hard to talk about in polite company, but I hope I haven't stepped on anyone's toes.
And I really needed to get this off my chest.
Also.
Hello! I guess it's been.. months? since I posted here. *waves*
I've been lurking a bit, though. You're still pretty swell. :)
It's SPRING in Denmark, and aside from days with pouring rain, time for wearing short shorts and reading books outside. Book reading is, of course, mainly a front for looking at cute guys in short shorts.
*Hugs!* Okay, now that I know the survey's like that I just flat-out disapprove of it. :smallannoyed:
~Bianca
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
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Originally Posted by
Carecalmo
Oh, wow. I did not enjoy that survey at all. :(!
Emotional rant ahead: (spoilered due to content related to sexual assault and difficult stuff)
Spoiler
Show
At one point there's a bunch of questions regarding the most serious physical or sexual assault that's happened to you in the past five years.
I was the victim of a sexual assault some years ago, and being asked a bunch of questions about the situation (and the offender (and how I handled it)) by a machine survey has shaken me pretty badly. :smallfrown:
The worst part is, I can't help but feel that I'm being too sensitive about it and am being selfish for wishing they had put some kind of trigger warning up before.
Except that there really is no being too sensitive about this. Or at least, it is obvious that it stirred up a whole lot of bad feelings and I have to acknowledge them now I'm aware of them.
I guess they decided not to include a "skip this if it makes you uncomfortable"-button for practical reasons, but that doesn't really prevent me from feeling weird now.
I guess what I can take with me from the survey is that I'm not done working with it. Complicated. *sigh*
Of course, it doesn't help that the assault has been surfacing the past few weeks due to a guy I met in a bar who wanted me to be more... assertive in our .. conversation - and that started a lot of thoughts about power, powerlessness and how I feel about my body and other people. Kind of hard to talk about in polite company, but I hope I haven't stepped on anyone's toes.
And I really needed to get this off my chest.
Also.
Hello! I guess it's been.. months? since I posted here. *waves*
I've been lurking a bit, though. You're still pretty swell. :)
It's SPRING in Denmark, and aside from days with pouring rain, time for wearing short shorts and reading books outside. Book reading is, of course, mainly a front for looking at cute guys in short shorts.
(Hugs gently)
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
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Originally Posted by
Carecalmo
EDIT: Double post!
You can delete posts in the Edit section.
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Originally Posted by
Carecalmo
Oh, wow. I did not enjoy that survey at all. :(!
Emotional rant ahead: (spoilered due to content related to sexual assault and difficult stuff)
Spoiler
Show
At one point there's a bunch of questions regarding the most serious physical or sexual assault that's happened to you in the past five years.
I was the victim of a sexual assault some years ago, and being asked a bunch of questions about the situation (and the offender (and how I handled it)) by a machine survey has shaken me pretty badly. :smallfrown:
The worst part is, I can't help but feel that I'm being too sensitive about it and am being selfish for wishing they had put some kind of trigger warning up before.
Except that there really is no being too sensitive about this. Or at least, it is obvious that it stirred up a whole lot of bad feelings and I have to acknowledge them now I'm aware of them.
I guess they decided not to include a "skip this if it makes you uncomfortable"-button for practical reasons, but that doesn't really prevent me from feeling weird now.
I guess what I can take with me from the survey is that I'm not done working with it. Complicated. *sigh*
Of course, it doesn't help that the assault has been surfacing the past few weeks due to a guy I met in a bar who wanted me to be more... assertive in our .. conversation - and that started a lot of thoughts about power, powerlessness and how I feel about my body and other people. Kind of hard to talk about in polite company, but I hope I haven't stepped on anyone's toes.
And I really needed to get this off my chest.
Also.
Hello! I guess it's been.. months? since I posted here. *waves*
I've been lurking a bit, though. You're still pretty swell. :)
It's SPRING in Denmark, and aside from days with pouring rain, time for wearing short shorts and reading books outside. Book reading is, of course, mainly a front for looking at cute guys in short shorts.
Oh geez. *hugs* if wanted. A couple of years ago I had a rather..."forward" admirer (female), and ended up in a pretty awkward situation because I'm totally good at handling situations like that. So I have a slight inkling how you might feel, although nothing like as extreme as your experience.
I'm really sorry, I think I recognise your name, but I don't remember you well. Would you mind reintroducing yourself?
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Originally Posted by
noparlpf
Oh geez. *hugs* if wanted. A couple of years ago I had a rather..."forward" admirer (female), and ended up in a pretty awkward situation because I'm totally good at handling situations like that. So I have a slight inkling how you might feel, although nothing like as extreme as your experience.
I'm really sorry, I think I recognise your name, but I don't remember you well. Would you mind reintroducing yourself?
I have pretty obvious admirers of both sexes. Thing is, one of them I've known since we were in the first grade. If anything, it's incredibly awkward for her to bring up totally irrelevant topics when I haven't spoken to her.
And she does it all the time, gives me these weird looks, and then looks away, etc. It's bizarre and frustrating.
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
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Originally Posted by
Carecalmo
Oh, wow. I did not enjoy that survey at all. :(!
Emotional rant ahead: (spoilered due to content related to sexual assault and difficult stuff)
Spoiler
Show
At one point there's a bunch of questions regarding the most serious physical or sexual assault that's happened to you in the past five years.
I was the victim of a sexual assault some years ago, and being asked a bunch of questions about the situation (and the offender (and how I handled it)) by a machine survey has shaken me pretty badly. :smallfrown:
The worst part is, I can't help but feel that I'm being too sensitive about it and am being selfish for wishing they had put some kind of trigger warning up before.
Except that there really is no being too sensitive about this. Or at least, it is obvious that it stirred up a whole lot of bad feelings and I have to acknowledge them now I'm aware of them.
I guess they decided not to include a "skip this if it makes you uncomfortable"-button for practical reasons, but that doesn't really prevent me from feeling weird now.
I guess what I can take with me from the survey is that I'm not done working with it. Complicated. *sigh*
Of course, it doesn't help that the assault has been surfacing the past few weeks due to a guy I met in a bar who wanted me to be more... assertive in our .. conversation - and that started a lot of thoughts about power, powerlessness and how I feel about my body and other people. Kind of hard to talk about in polite company, but I hope I haven't stepped on anyone's toes.
And I really needed to get this off my chest.
Also.
Hello! I guess it's been.. months? since I posted here. *waves*
I've been lurking a bit, though. You're still pretty swell. :)
It's SPRING in Denmark, and aside from days with pouring rain, time for wearing short shorts and reading books outside. Book reading is, of course, mainly a front for looking at cute guys in short shorts.
I'm rather surprised that there wasn't a warning exactly because of how this dragged up old memories for you. Anyway I hope you'll feel better soon and may lots of cute guys in very short and tight shorts walk past you :smallsmile:
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
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Triscuitable
I have pretty obvious admirers of both sexes. Thing is, one of them I've known since we were in the first grade. If anything, it's incredibly awkward for her to bring up totally irrelevant topics when I haven't spoken to her.
And she does it all the time, gives me these weird looks, and then looks away, etc. It's bizarre and frustrating.
By "awkward" I meant "culminated in her pretending she had been too drunk the previous night to remember what she did".
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pffh
I'm rather surprised that there wasn't a warning exactly because of how this dragged up old memories for you. Anyway I hope you'll feel better soon and may lots of cute boys in very short and tight shorts walk past you :smallsmile:
I think they said that if one felt uncomfortable answering a question one could put "I don't know" instead, but that's not really a "dude watch out this might bring up traumatic memories" kind of warning.
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
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pffh
I'm rather surprised that there wasn't a warning exactly because of how this dragged up old memories for you. Anyway I hope you'll feel better soon and may lots of cute guys in very short and tight shorts walk past you :smallsmile:
I'd guess they didn't put a warning up because it would add to the self selection bias, but I didn't take it.
I'm sorry, Carecalmo.
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
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Musashi
I don't think it's a glitch, it basically thanked me for wanting to take the survey but that I wasn't part of the target group. I just tried again, saying I didn't know who I was attracted to this time, and I still won't go further.
*shrugs* It's no big deal for me. I barely qualify as an LGBT+ individual, if at all, anyway.
Oh, by the way, I took the test in French (it being my first language), but I don't think it had an influence on the rest... did it?
First off, *hugs*.
Second, you're Demisexual - 'technically straight' or not, you're definitely LGBT+. It's pretty messed-up that that survey overlooked you (and Nope for that matter, but at least he isn't European).
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Kindablue
It's gotta have stars on it or the magic won't work.
Clearly, we need to make asterisk-shaped LED's. What do you mean, "eye strain"? :smallconfused: :smalltongue:
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Triscuitable
I have pretty obvious admirers of both sexes. Thing is, one of them I've known since we were in the first grade. If anything, it's incredibly awkward for her to bring up totally irrelevant topics when I haven't spoken to her.
And she does it all the time, gives me these weird looks, and then looks away, etc. It's bizarre and frustrating.
*Hugs* I can understand how frustrating that is for both of you. :/
~Bianca
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
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pffh
Having seen your picture I don't think I would I mind :smallredface:
You can get in the queue with the rest of us.
Everyone wants Kneenibble.