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Wow. This was an eventful weekend. Think I got in trouble due to an idiot and a homophobic individual. Made the best of it I could.
golentan: not sure what to suggest. Best of luck, sorry.
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See variations on death of a thousand cuts.
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Lemon juice enema? Sounds nice. We could probably do better, but that might be excessive.
Is this how I should behave in a gay bar?
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Yes, this is why I was laughing at the idea of knowing it all. Ever, let alone in your first relationship.
Okay, I was afraid you were laughing at me because my comment was arrogant or stupid. We're on the dame page then!
Goes to prove it's only those times I think everything is clear that I cause silly misunderstandings.
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Therapist went well today. :)
Even managed to work up courage to buy some foundation on the way back~
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Therapist went well today. :)
Even managed to work up courage to buy some foundation on the way back~
Good on you!
Make-up buying is another thing I can do as a cis female that I have no interest in. Can one donate the ability to buy make-up without embarrassment? I'm already slated to donate my uterus to a trans female friend if it becomes possible within a biologically reasonable time (maybe ten years?), and if I could donate a couple of cup sizes I'd do that too.
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mmcdkb2CcdE
Two nerd-icons speak about their life and acting. Section really relevant to this thread begins at about 1:13:20.
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Lemon juice enema? Sounds nice. We could probably do better, but that might be excessive.
I'm pretty sure that rape jokes are supposed to be pretty damn distasteful, actually.
Excessive might be another word for it though.
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I'm pretty sure that rape jokes are supposed to be pretty damn distasteful, actually. Excessive might be another word for it though.
Good catch. It's amazing how integrated that sort of thing is into public consciousness, especially as "okay to do as punishment for legitimate crimes". We tend to dehumanize our criminals.
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I'm pretty sure that rape jokes are supposed to be pretty damn distasteful, actually. Excessive might be another word for it though.
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Did I do something wrong? I'm sorry, no rape joke was my intention, just trying to be silly.
Maybe I should leave this thread, I can't do anything right.
I can't give advice, I'm creepy when I try to fit in, and the only advice i'd want right now... probably isn't the best to ask for.
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Did I do something wrong? I'm sorry, no rape joke was my intention, just trying to be silly.
Maybe I should leave this thread, I can't do anything right.
I can't give advice, I'm creepy when I try to fit in, and the only advice i'd want right now... probably isn't the best to ask for.
Don't leave! Ask for whatever advice you need, we're here to help people! If need be, folks can talk in PMs if you don't want to ask in public.
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No, it wasn't you that made the joke, MuffinPuffin. Don't leave. *Hugs* I don't find you creepy at all.
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Don't leave! Ask for whatever advice you need, we're here to help people! If need be, folks can talk in PMs if you don't want to ask in public.
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No, it wasn't you that made the joke, MuffinPuffin. Don't leave. *Hugs* I don't find you creepy at all.
Thanks you two, I really appreciate it.
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I don't want to offend people by asking for it but... Ok, here I go
I need advice for staying closeted, ways to make me stop wanting to transition as I... can't.
Not now, maybe not ever.
I want to suppress my urges, I can't follow them.
I was debating leaving because this thread makes me feel bad that I can never experience or face the hardships that other have. However, Reading the thread helps me deal with them a bit, as I know I personally couldn't do the things others need to do. Hearing others describe their situations makes me think that maybe I'm lieing to myself. That its all just a big lie, one of the lies I tell myself that I think is true until I say it, then it laughs in my face for getting me to believe it.
Its worse because not too recently I told someone one of those "lies" and it was true, so "this one" is trying to come out.
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Thanks you two, I really appreciate it.
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I don't want to offend people by asking for it but... Ok, here I go
I need advice for staying closeted, ways to make me stop wanting to transition as I... can't.
Not now, maybe not ever.
I want to suppress my urges, I can't follow them.
I was debating leaving because this thread makes me feel bad that I can never experience or face the hardships that other have. However, Reading the thread helps me deal with them a bit, as I know I personally couldn't do the things others need to do. Hearing others describe their situations makes me think that maybe I'm lieing to myself. That its all just a big lie, one of the lies I tell myself that I think is true until I say it, then it laughs in my face for getting me to believe it.
Its worse because not too recently I told someone one of those "lies" and it was true, so "this one" is trying to come out.
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This might be better answered if we understood why you believe you can't transition.
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Thanks you two, I really appreciate it.
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I don't want to offend people by asking for it but... Ok, here I go
I need advice for staying closeted, ways to make me stop wanting to transition as I... can't.
Not now, maybe not ever.
I want to suppress my urges, I can't follow them.
I was debating leaving because this thread makes me feel bad that I can never experience or face the hardships that other have. However, Reading the thread helps me deal with them a bit, as I know I personally couldn't do the things others need to do. Hearing others describe their situations makes me think that maybe I'm lieing to myself. That its all just a big lie, one of the lies I tell myself that I think is true until I say it, then it laughs in my face for getting me to believe it.
Its worse because not too recently I told someone one of those "lies" and it was true, so "this one" is trying to come out.
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Why can't you transition?
What "lie" do you tell yourself?
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Thanks you two, I really appreciate it.
Spoiler: Support for me.
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I don't want to offend people by asking for it but... Ok, here I go
I need advice for staying closeted, ways to make me stop wanting to transition as I... can't.
Not now, maybe not ever.
I want to suppress my urges, I can't follow them.
I was debating leaving because this thread makes me feel bad that I can never experience or face the hardships that other have. However, Reading the thread helps me deal with them a bit, as I know I personally couldn't do the things others need to do. Hearing others describe their situations makes me think that maybe I'm lieing to myself. That its all just a big lie, one of the lies I tell myself that I think is true until I say it, then it laughs in my face for getting me to believe it.
Its worse because not too recently I told someone one of those "lies" and it was true, so "this one" is trying to come out.
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How much can you trust the mental health specialists in your area? If they're reasonably bound to privacy, then I'd recommend finding one, and talking through your emotions with them on a regular basis.
For me, the main problem with not transitioning has been depression, for which anti-depressants are proving useful. What is your medical service like in your area?
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This might be better answered if we understood why you believe you can't transition.
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Sorry, I guess that was to be expected.
There is a multitude of reasons, first, I don't think i could go through with it, I don't think im strong enough to change myself so quickly like that.
Secondly, I kinda mentioned it before, but im sure the doubt would cripple any efforts at succeeding.
Third, I don't know if ive tricked myself into believing that I am trans or not.
Fourth, I'm in a long term (3 years next week, if that helps) relationship i love that shows no signs of stopping... I don't think i could continue the relationship If i transitioned. Not because they wouldn't want to date me per-say, but because I don't want to force it on them. My SO is the best thing about me, and I don't want to do anything of inconvenience. I don't want them to be dating the trans person. I don't know how people treat trans people around here (Reason 5), but i don't want to cause hardships. And even if we do break up, right now I care too much that I don't want them hearing about me years later and now im a different gender and how they would feel if that happened.
Sixth, if eventually Iget over my breakup and I AM ready to transition, sunken cost fallacy. I would feel terrible for not acting on it sooner
Seventh, I can't see myself in 10-20 ect. years away. I don't know If i'd still want to be trans when I'm older. I don't know if I could be a trans old person, or parent.
Theres some reasons, hurriedly written and mostly being doubt, there may be others, but I cna't think of them right now.
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Why can't you transition?
What "lie" do you tell yourself?
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How much can you trust the mental health specialists in your area? If they're reasonably bound to privacy, then I'd recommend finding one, and talking through your emotions with them on a regular basis.
For me, the main problem with not transitioning has been depression, for which anti-depressants are proving useful. What is your medical service like in your area?
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My current health specialist situation:
Poor, jobless, Canadian, teenager.
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Sorry, I guess that was to be expected.
There is a multitude of reasons, first, I don't think i could go through with it, I don't think im strong enough to change myself so quickly like that.
Secondly, I kinda mentioned it before, but im sure the doubt would cripple any efforts at succeeding.
Third, I don't know if ive tricked myself into believing that I am trans or not.
Fourth, I'm in a long term (3 years next week, if that helps) relationship i love that shows no signs of stopping... I don't think i could continue the relationship If i transitioned. Not because they wouldn't want to date me per-say, but because I don't want to force it on them. My SO is the best thing about me, and I don't want to do anything of inconvenience. I don't want them to be dating the trans person. I don't know how people treat trans people around here (Reason 5), but i don't want to cause hardships. And even if we do break up, right now I care too much that I don't want them hearing about me years later and now im a different gender and how they would feel if that happened.
Sixth, if eventually Iget over my breakup and I AM ready to transition, sunken cost fallacy. I would feel terrible for not acting on it sooner
Seventh, I can't see myself in 10-20 ect. years away. I don't know If i'd still want to be trans when I'm older. I don't know if I could be a trans old person, or parent.
Theres some reasons, hurriedly written and mostly being doubt, there may be others, but I cna't think of them right now.
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You don't need to apologize. You're entitled to as much privacy as you want. Do you think it would be useful to talk in depth about the reasons with us, or would you rather not?
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You don't need to apologize. You're entitled to as much privacy as you want. Do you think it would be useful to talk in depth about the reasons with us, or would you rather not?
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Thats about as in-depth as I can be right now i think...
Just venting makes me think things, and its nice to be able to say it, I hate that i cant really talk about this with anyone....
I might go more in depth later, now i mostly feel guilty for going from trying to fit in to OMG MUFFIN ITS A SUPPORT GROUP OF COURE THINGS GOT SERIOS WHEN YOU NEEDED HELP ARGLHARGLEBARGLE
Thanks a lot guys.:smallredface:
Oh, the "lies" were about my sexuality, and about my attraction and what i wanted in my relationship.
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@MuffinPuffin: I don't post much these days but you can always feel free to post serious stuff here. That's the point.
So I'm just gonna post something not-serious but semi-relevant to the thread.
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(I am a transgender man. I have very recently started to transition. I am discussing the haircut I want with my friend. We are both huge fans of Doctor Who.)
Friend: “You’ll look like a completely different person.”
Me: “Yeah, I know. It’s—oh, my god!”
Friend: “What?”
Me: “I’m gonna regenerate! That is so cool!”
Friend: “Whoa…”
(And from then on, my transition was known as my ‘regeneration’.)
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Sorry, I guess that was to be expected.
There is a multitude of reasons, first, I don't think i could go through with it, I don't think im strong enough to change myself so quickly like that.
Secondly, I kinda mentioned it before, but im sure the doubt would cripple any efforts at succeeding.
Third, I don't know if ive tricked myself into believing that I am trans or not.
Fourth, I'm in a long term (3 years next week, if that helps) relationship i love that shows no signs of stopping... I don't think i could continue the relationship If i transitioned. Not because they wouldn't want to date me per-say, but because I don't want to force it on them. My SO is the best thing about me, and I don't want to do anything of inconvenience. I don't want them to be dating the trans person. I don't know how people treat trans people around here (Reason 5), but i don't want to cause hardships. And even if we do break up, right now I care too much that I don't want them hearing about me years later and now im a different gender and how they would feel if that happened.
Sixth, if eventually Iget over my breakup and I AM ready to transition, sunken cost fallacy. I would feel terrible for not acting on it sooner
Seventh, I can't see myself in 10-20 ect. years away. I don't know If i'd still want to be trans when I'm older. I don't know if I could be a trans old person, or parent.
Theres some reasons, hurriedly written and mostly being doubt, there may be others, but I cna't think of them right now.
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1. You don't have to 'go through with' anything. You are free to be yourself, and to go as far as you want. If that means crossdressing, wearing girly jeans, or a full-on no-holds-barred transition, then so be it. Do what it takes for you to be comfortable with you.
2. There is doubt in everything. It is only when you laugh in the face of doubt, spread your wings and fly, that you learn where your true boundries are. To quote a song 'You'll never know what you can do until you get it up as high as you can go.'
3. How would you trick yourself into believing you are trans? Have you ever talked with anyone about how you feel?
4. Do you know how she feels about trans* people in general? Maybe you could find a way to bring it up with her? Relate a story about someone who is trans*? (Not sure about the ages of you and your SO, but the trans* Homecoming queen in California is a good story.)
5. Really depends on the answer to number 4.
6. Honey, I am 30 years old. I have been married to my wife for seven years. And I have come out as trans with the belief that I truly want to transition. I doubt whether the changes will be that great, but I have put off how I feel long enough. I don't really think that there can ever be a point where the cost would be too great.
7. I don't thinkanyone can ever know the future, but if you truly feel you are trans, then I don't think you will feel different in ten years. Or longer. But it is critical you speak with a professional in any event. You need to sort some things out, and if you still feel you are trans down the road, you have a place to start.
I don't want you to feel like I am singling you out or trying to put you down, I am just trying to suggest some answers to your problems.
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Sorry, I guess that was to be expected.
There is a multitude of reasons, first, I don't think i could go through with it, I don't think im strong enough to change myself so quickly like that.
Secondly, I kinda mentioned it before, but im sure the doubt would cripple any efforts at succeeding.
Third, I don't know if ive tricked myself into believing that I am trans or not.
Fourth, I'm in a long term (3 years next week, if that helps) relationship i love that shows no signs of stopping... I don't think i could continue the relationship If i transitioned. Not because they wouldn't want to date me per-say, but because I don't want to force it on them. My SO is the best thing about me, and I don't want to do anything of inconvenience. I don't want them to be dating the trans person. I don't know how people treat trans people around here (Reason 5), but i don't want to cause hardships. And even if we do break up, right now I care too much that I don't want them hearing about me years later and now im a different gender and how they would feel if that happened.
Sixth, if eventually Iget over my breakup and I AM ready to transition, sunken cost fallacy. I would feel terrible for not acting on it sooner
Seventh, I can't see myself in 10-20 ect. years away. I don't know If i'd still want to be trans when I'm older. I don't know if I could be a trans old person, or parent.
Theres some reasons, hurriedly written and mostly being doubt, there may be others, but I cna't think of them right now.
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Few of these reasons are really solid, if you ask me. Your relationship is a serious issue, and to a lesser extent the attitudes of people in your area, but everything else? Meh.
1- If you decide to transition, you can do it at whatever speed you're comfortable with. Some people take years between realizing their identity and making any move whatsoever. Some (like me) do it very fast. You can slow down at any stage if you want to. Transition is a lot of small steps, not one big, instant transformation.
2- Doubt is normal. Fear is normal. But it won't prevent you from doing anything if you decide to.
3- No, you haven't "tricked" yourself. As I often say, even seriously thinking you might be trans is significant in itself. Most cis people don't even think about it.
6- Well, you say it yourself. It's a fallacy. So yeah. However, what is true is that the longer you wait, the harder it gets.
7- First, not all trans people want to be trans people. I'm a woman, a trans woman. Being trans is not something I want, I just want to be a woman -- it's just that in order to be one, I need to be trans. Second, although no one knows what will happen later, gender identity is relatively stable. There are a lot of people who transition at 50+ y.o. after repressing their urges for decades (which may involve depression, suicide attempts, substance abuse, etc.). Repressing urges is not necessarily the easiest path.
As I said, the relationship and other people's reactions are more thorny issue, but it doesn't mean it can't be done. You can probe to see your significant other's opinion on this, or if the people around you are open or not. I'm not an expert on this, but I know some people have been able to transition while maintaining previous relationships. It can be done. It's not a lost cause.
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Poor, jobless, Canadian, teenager.
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Hey, a fellow Canadian! I'm from Montreal.
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1. You don't have to 'go through with' anything. You are free to be yourself, and to go as far as you want. If that means crossdressing, wearing girly jeans, or a full-on no-holds-barred transition, then so be it. Do what it takes for you to be comfortable with you.
2. There is doubt in everything. It is only when you laugh in the face of doubt, spread your wings and fly, that you learn where your true boundries are. To quote a song 'You'll never know what you can do until you get it up as high as you can go.'
3. How would you trick yourself into believing you are trans? Have you ever talked with anyone about how you feel?
4. Do you know how she feels about trans* people in general? Maybe you could find a way to bring it up with her? Relate a story about someone who is trans*? (Not sure about the ages of you and your SO, but the trans* Homecoming queen in California is a good story.)
5. Really depends on the answer to number 4.
6. Honey, I am 30 years old. I have been married to my wife for seven years. And I have come out as trans with the belief that I truly want to transition. I doubt whether the changes will be that great, but I have put off how I feel long enough. I don't really think that there can ever be a point where the cost would be too great.
7. I don't thinkanyone can ever know the future, but if you truly feel you are trans, then I don't think you will feel different in ten years. Or longer. But it is critical you speak with a professional in any event. You need to sort some things out, and if you still feel you are trans down the road, you have a place to start.
I don't want you to feel like I am singling you out or trying to put you down, I am just trying to suggest some answers to your problems.
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1. If i did decide to trans a bit, i think id have to do some cosmetic surgery. Its funny, growing up I never understood why people would want to change how their bodies, but when I learnt about what trans people can get done my reaction was "wait, you can do that?/well, Duh. that makes sense."
2. Did i ever mention you have a poetic writing voice? Its very strong. I wish I had a strong writing voice, mine degrades when I write a lot/quickly,
3. Hard to explain, I'll think about it
4. *cough* ahem... errr.... ok, so at one point she brought up (out of the blue) a news article where some person decided they were a woman. After being married to someone for 40 or something (its been a while since I heard it, can't remember well). And my SO said that she'd still love me if I decided my orientation was different, as long as I still loved her. I asked her even if I was trans and she said yes, but I was so nervouse asking and trying to remain cool/non-suggestive that I failed reading her.
Normally this would be great news... but i can't stop thinking about it... what if that was just ... why would she lie? that was stupid of me to think. But do I really want to put her through that, is the fact that Trans and in a relationship a possibility making me think that I could do it when the smart choice is to leave it be?
6. Congratulations... you're right. I stopped thinking about the future to stop me from worrying, I should apply that to this situation too.
And thanks for trying to help me
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1. If i did decide to trans a bit, i think id have to do some cosmetic surgery. Its funny, growing up I never understood why people would want to change how their bodies, but when I learnt about what trans people can get done my reaction was "wait, you can do that?/well, Duh. that makes sense."
2. Did i ever mention you have a poetic writing voice? Its very strong. I wish I had a strong writing voice, mine degrades when I write a lot/quickly,
3. Hard to explain, I'll think about it
4. *cough* ahem... errr.... ok, so at one point she brought up (out of the blue) a news article where some person decided they were a woman. After being married to someone for 40 or something (its been a while since I heard it, can't remember well). And my SO said that she'd still love me if I decided my orientation was different, as long as I still loved her. I asked her even if I was trans and she said yes, but I was so nervouse asking and trying to remain cool/non-suggestive that I failed reading her.
Normally this would be great news... but i can't stop thinking about it... what if that was just ... why would she lie? that was stupid of me to think. But do I really want to put her through that, is the fact that Trans and in a relationship a possibility making me think that I could do it when the smart choice is to leave it be?
6. Congratulations... you're right. I stopped thinking about the future to stop me from worrying, I should apply that to this situation too.
And thanks for trying to help me
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It's why I am here.
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At Lentrax: And that's why I wish I was here. :smallredface:
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Few of these reasons are really solid, if you ask me. Your relationship is a serious issue, and to a lesser extent the attitudes of people in your area, but everything else? Meh.
1- If you decide to transition, you can do it at whatever speed you're comfortable with. Some people take years between realizing their identity and making any move whatsoever. Some (like me) do it very fast. You can slow down at any stage if you want to. Transition is a lot of small steps, not one big, instant transformation.
2- Doubt is normal. Fear is normal. But it won't prevent you from doing anything if you decide to.
3- No, you haven't "tricked" yourself. As I often say, even seriously thinking you might be trans is significant in itself. Most cis people don't even think about it.
6- Well, you say it yourself. It's a fallacy. So yeah. However, what is true is that the longer you wait, the harder it gets.
7- First, not all trans people want to be trans people. I'm a woman, a trans woman. Being trans is not something I want, I just want to be a woman -- it's just that in order to be one, I need to be trans. Second, although no one knows what will happen later, gender identity is relatively stable. There are a lot of people who transition at 50+ y.o. after repressing their urges for decades (which may involve depression, suicide attempts, substance abuse, etc.). Repressing urges is not necessarily the easiest path.
As I said, the relationship and other people's reactions are more thorny issue, but it doesn't mean it can't be done. You can probe to see your significant other's opinion on this, or if the people around you are open or not. I'm not an expert on this, but I know some people have been able to transition while maintaining previous relationships. It can be done. It's not a lost cause.
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Hey, a fellow Canadian! I'm from Montreal.
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London area myself, hopefully GTA soon. Hows the attitude around there?
And yeah, teenager, but still putting relationship high on my list or priorities. I think being a teenager helps make 3 years even more important.
1. I feel like I don't look like I would want if I were a woman, I don't care about how I look now, but that's because its not important to me wait scratch that. I lIke long hair and button ups and I think I would look nice in a dress anyways (A nice red one) and My hair styled itself really "girly" recently and I loved it and it made me feel better about my chin and I hate it when i have to get my hair cut because people think its getting long but.... wow, I care a lot more than I thought. But maybe I just liked the hair because it made me look girly, what am I saying, I JUST said that, maybe I liked it because it made it possible that if I was trans I could "pull it off", which is making me think im trans?
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KNOW!
6. When I first heard about sunkun cost fallacy, I had to have some one sit down and explain that it was a bad think. My first reacion was "Yep, that sounds about right."
I don't gamble or do drugs.
7. Yeah, I say "trans" because its easier than writing "maybe sometimes I wish I was born a woman instead" every-time.
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Umm... that story about your SO sounds like she knows and is sending you a signal that it's okay to come out to her. At least talk with her about it.
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Re: LGBTAI+ #50: Warning: This topic has exceeded its maximum awesome level.
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Umm... that story about your SO sounds like she knows and is sending you a signal that it's okay to come out to her. At least talk with her about it.
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I know I know,but... thats commitment, and there is only one thing I'm good at/doesnt scare me to commit to.
No prize for guessing.
Also, it was like, months ago, around last fall.
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WHOA, hello, totally new forum layout. Very not-functional looking.
I haven't checked into this thread in ages. What's up with the handy blacklist tag by the name?
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Re: LGBTAI+ #50: Warning: This topic has exceeded its maximum awesome level.
Oh, hi, Jayce, how have you been?
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People have answered your posts already, but I'm going to add my 2 coppers...
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I don't think im strong enough to change myself so quickly like that.
It doesn't have to be "quick." I started my transition 7.5 years ago, and I'm far from where I want to be. (That is mostly because of finances - going to school means no money for surgery.) If you do decide to transition, do it at your own pace, whatever pace that is.
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Fourth, I'm in a long term (3 years next week, if that helps) relationship i love that shows no signs of stopping... I don't think i could continue the relationship If i transitioned. Not because they wouldn't want to date me per-say, but because I don't want to force it on them.
As others have said, she sounds like she would be supportive. The only way to know is to talk to her.
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Seventh, I can't see myself in 10-20 ect. years away. I don't know If i'd still want to be trans when I'm older. I don't know if I could be a trans old person, or parent.
That is a very valid concern. But it is something only you can decide. But it is also not a decision that has to be made right away. Take your time and really think about it. Analyze the issue. Take it apart and study it from all the angles. Eventually, you will know.
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Life is confusing and inefficient and I hate it. So pretty normal, I guess. You?