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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
So... still jittery after last night...
In short, a person at the new place I'm living screamed transphobic hate at me for about an hour last night, calling me a "crossdressing freak" and worse(apparently because they got drunk...).
Thankfully the other people here came to my protection but... my confidence has drastically plunged.:smallfrown:
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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Originally Posted by
Togath
So... still jittery after last night...
In short, a person at the new place I'm living screamed transphobic hate at me for about an hour last night, calling me a "crossdressing freak" and worse(apparently because they got drunk...).
Thankfully the other people here came to my protection but... my confidence has drastically plunged.:smallfrown:
*all the hugs*
So sorry to hear that. Try to distract yourself from it as much as you can. The jerk doesn't deserve to spoil your mood.
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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Originally Posted by
Togath
So... still jittery after last night...
In short, a person at the new place I'm living screamed transphobic hate at me for about an hour last night, calling me a "crossdressing freak" and worse(apparently because they got drunk...).
Thankfully the other people here came to my protection but... my confidence has drastically plunged.:smallfrown:
I'm so sorry. Can you talk to the manager or something? You deserve to feel safe in your own home.
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
No manager, but the owner of the house seems to be on my side at least.
In brighter news... turning 23 today(October 1st). Feels... weird. Time has gone so quickly by.
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
Bighuge hugs for all the trans peeps, especially those in Australia.
The bigot organisations here have started to turn their attention in that direction in earnest, and it's going to get ugly before long :smallannoyed:
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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Originally Posted by
Togath
So... still jittery after last night...
In short, a person at the new place I'm living screamed transphobic hate at me for about an hour last night, calling me a "crossdressing freak" and worse(apparently because they got drunk...).
Thankfully the other people here came to my protection but... my confidence has drastically plunged.:smallfrown:
Ugh, that sounds really awful, I'm sorry you had to go through that.
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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Originally Posted by
Togath
So... still jittery after last night...
In short, a person at the new place I'm living screamed transphobic hate at me for about an hour last night, calling me a "crossdressing freak" and worse(apparently because they got drunk...).
Thankfully the other people here came to my protection but... my confidence has drastically plunged.:smallfrown:
Yikes, I'm so sorry that happened.
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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Originally Posted by
Togath
So... still jittery after last night...
In short, a person at the new place I'm living screamed transphobic hate at me for about an hour last night, calling me a "crossdressing freak" and worse(apparently because they got drunk...).
Thankfully the other people here came to my protection but... my confidence has drastically plunged.:smallfrown:
Im sorry that happened to you. *offers hugs*
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Togath
No manager, but the owner of the house seems to be on my side at least.
In brighter news... turning 23 today(October 1st). Feels... weird. Time has gone so quickly by.
Hey, you're exactly 2 years and 2 days older than me!
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
I had several accidental almost outings today, thankfuly i managed to take control of the situation and no one suspected a thing.
'96 best year
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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Originally Posted by
Togath
So... still jittery after last night...
In short, a person at the new place I'm living screamed transphobic hate at me for about an hour last night, calling me a "crossdressing freak" and worse(apparently because they got drunk...).
Thankfully the other people here came to my protection but... my confidence has drastically plunged.:smallfrown:
Ouch!
Is it the kind of living environment in which you can complain to the management about harassment, or would that do more harm than good?
Edit: Ah, I missed your next post. That’s hopefully good?
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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Serpentine
Bighuge hugs for all the trans peeps, especially those in Australia.
The bigot organisations here have started to turn their attention in that direction in earnest, and it's going to get ugly before long :smallannoyed:
And after you finish hugging the people in Australia, aim them this way. I am watching the hate in Australia in growing horror, because MY area gets an open public vote on transphobia in the spring. I'm recruiting and training counselors at this stage, because I can forsee the abuse already.
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
So despite the rough day a few days ago, my birthday went well.
Went to a local Asian market and bought a bunch of fun noms~
A pomelo and a starfruit, as well as some water caltrops, persimmons, dried dates(the kind without the weird sugar syrup), quinces, as well as some candies and ingredients(ranging from star anise to agar powder to awesome black currant and soda gummies!:smallbiggrin:).
Also found some sort of thing I remember having in bubble tea. Seems to be congealed coconut water that has fruit flavors added.
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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JusticeZero
And after you finish hugging the people in Australia, aim them this way. I am watching the hate in Australia in growing horror, because MY area gets an open public vote on transphobia in the spring. I'm recruiting and training counselors at this stage, because I can forsee the abuse already.
*Offers hugs*
Hopefully sensible and kind heads will prevail. There are always decent people in places-just gotta hope there's more of them than the asshats.
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Originally Posted by
Togath
So despite the rough day a few days ago, my birthday went well.
Went to a local Asian market and bought a bunch of fun noms~
A pomelo and a starfruit, as well as some water caltrops, persimmons, dried dates(the kind without the weird sugar syrup), quinces, as well as some candies and ingredients(ranging from star anise to agar powder to awesome black currant and soda gummies!:smallbiggrin:).
Also found some sort of thing I remember having in bubble tea. Seems to be congealed coconut water that has fruit flavors added.
Happy belated birthday! I'm glad it went well!
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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Togath
... as well as some water caltrops,
Water... caltrops?
Do you mean chestnuts?
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
I suppose the more succinct and direct way of asking my question is this: If I use the word "transsexuality" when referring to concepts or states as opposed to people, am I wrong and/or offensive? If so, what should I say instead?
Wrong thread! Find in The Other Thread if you want to discuss.
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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Serpentine
I suppose the more succinct and direct way of asking my question is this: If I use the word "transsexuality" when referring to concepts or states as opposed to people, am I wrong and/or offensive? If so, what should I say instead?
The word "Transsexual" has fallen out of favor in favor of "Transgender", although many elder trans people still identify with and prefer "Transsexual". The newer generation considers the term TS to be overly obsessed with genitalia and physical acts. "Transgender" or simply "Trans" is normally used for everything by most people who discuss the subject.
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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Serpentine
I suppose the more succinct and direct way of asking my question is this: If I use the word "transsexuality" when referring to concepts or states as opposed to people, am I wrong and/or offensive? If so, what should I say instead?
Once Upon A Time ArlEammon had a stroke and died at the computer. He wrote offensive words on the GITP forums. . .
I blame the Black Fairy.
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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ArlEammon
words
Just so you know, the second noun you used is, like, the most offensive slur for a transperson. I would strongly suggest editing it out.
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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YossarianLives
Just so you know, the second noun you used is, like, the most offensive slur for a transperson. I would strongly suggest editing it out.
Are we counting proper nouns?
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Do pronouns count as proper nouns?
Because technically, the second one used was "I" (and so was the first one). :P
However, I know what you ACTUALLY meant, and never knew that. I'll keep that in mind for the future-thanks for letting me know, YL.
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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JNAProductions
Are we counting proper nouns?
...
Do pronouns count as proper nouns?
Because technically, the second one used was "I" (and so was the first one). :P
However, I know what you ACTUALLY meant, and never knew that. I'll keep that in mind for the future-thanks for letting me know, YL.
Ha, yes. I was trying to figure out a way to refer to the word in question, without actually writing it. (Or saying "The S Word," which brings other, less offensive things, to mind.) Glad I could help.
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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Originally Posted by
YossarianLives
Just so you know, the second noun you used is, like, the most offensive slur for a transperson. I would strongly suggest editing it out.
I edited it out. Sorry folks.
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
See, when I hear the word "transsexual", I think of Transylvania. And this.
From what I've seen, and this is probably strongly influenced by the fact that I only hang around with people who assume good faith until proven otherwise, is that at worst it marks you as being unhip and behind on the latest terminology, but it's rare for archaic to be the same as offensive.
You might stumble a bit on issues that fall under the trans umbrella without actually transitioning their gender. (This is where you find your queers, your nonbinaries, and whatever new terms have popped up in the last fifteen minutes.) Again, from my experience, very few people will take offense if you're just unhip and archaic. Note how ArlEammon had his goof pointed out, apologized and corrected himself, and it isn't being held against him.
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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Anymage
See, when I hear the word "transsexual", I think of Transylvania. And
this.
God, how I love this musical.
There's a good 2015 version with Stephen Fry on YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VIPckPtYmXk
Unlike the movie, the actor playing Rocky can sing and act.
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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Serpentine
Water... caltrops?
Do you mean chestnuts?
Spiky black bat-shaped things. Seems they are sometimes called Water Chesnuts depending on region.:smallsmile:
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
Ack! Sorry all, that was in the wrong thread. I'll move it over to the right spot.
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
Sigh. Recently in my country, two women were arrested for PDA. Inclusive Marriage was sanctioned in my country seven frigging years ago.
Some weeks ago, I was riding the train back home from work. I was standing beside what I thought were school friends (I later realized they were a couple) and on the back of the train, a group of men were drinking and being loud and, well, kind of annoying (yet nothing to really complain about, altho they did smell to alcohol). I noticed people were looking back at me, when (after paying more attention to these two guys) I realized people were making fleeting glances at them. A mother with her kids actually preferred to be near the drinking pals than near these other couple beside me. I think I noticed people moving away from the couple too (but that could just have been my head).
I must admit I am not very into social movements and I'm not even personally affected by these kind of things that go around me (I don't even have any close gay friends), but I have to say... those were depressing days for me. So I guess I'm asking... How do you do it? How do you handle this kind of, dunno, stupidity in the world?
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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joeltion
How do you do it? How do you handle this kind of, dunno, stupidity in the world?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0IagRZBvLtw
Since we started remembering old musicals.
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
I have a doctor's appointment to talk about HRT in two weeks and I have never been so simultaneously excited and nervous in my life. :smalleek::smallsmile:
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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The Extinguisher
I have a doctor's appointment to talk about HRT in two weeks and I have never been so simultaneously excited and nervous in my life. :smalleek::smallsmile:
Good luck! Hope it goes well for you!
I will be callig to make my appointment as soon as I know I have reliable health insurance again. So, basically, who knows.
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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The Extinguisher
I have a doctor's appointment to talk about HRT in two weeks and I have never been so simultaneously excited and nervous in my life. :smalleek::smallsmile:
Good luck! IME that sort of appointment usually goes pretty well, but it can get dragged out unnecessarily if the doctor decides they want to drag things out. Here's hoping it works or ya.