Originally Posted by
NerdyKris
People who don't understand what's wrong with the word "slut" should think of it like this.
Imagine you're at work. You mess something up, people laugh. Then someone calls you a slut. Because, hey, that's just what people call you when they insult you.
You're at the bar. You turn a woman down who's hitting on you. She calls you a slut. Because she wants to make herself feel like she rejected you.
Imagine you're with your friends. One friend constantly refers to other men with sexual insults. Always. Non stop. Any description of a person involves a comment about their appearance or sexuality. Eventually, you don't feel comfortable around that friend. Are they judging you that way? Who are they to call you a slut? What business is it of theirs how many women you've slept with and under what circumstances? What does that have to do with the person in question's driving skills or poor attitude at the cash register?
Eventually you internalize the message. Sex is bad, and guys that enjoy sex are bad. It's something to be ashamed of. If you ask that they stop using that term, they go to great lengths to explain why the problem is with you. Why do you have such a problem with the word? Clearly you're the one that's hung up on sex, not them. Eventually you just accept that all women see you as a sex object first, and a person second, and your worth as an individual is first based on how much they'd like to sleep with you, even if you're their brother, son, or father.
And that's what's wrong with using the word "slut" as a generic insult.