I'd go with 2. In the Thinkagram to Ansom, Jillian points out that she likes being a barbarian because she's free to make friends or enemies or lovers of whoever she pleases.
Wanda's manipulations essentially forced a choice on Jillian. That, to an independent person like Jillian, would be unforgivable. Once she got free of the spell, she realized what was going on and who did it to her...