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How to tell a trans person they are beatiful
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Beatiful, eh? :smallamused:
:smallfrown: Aww, that's no good. No need to feel too horrible about things said in the heat of the moment on receipt of very unhelpful advice. One thing, though; what on earth does "society fixing me in my CAGAB" mean?
:smalleek: OMFG. If my (incredibly big and scary) father chaperoned me, I would definitely never have found a partner. Hope your father is considerably less terrifying to outsiders than mine is!
... This is such a brilliant idea! I wonder if I can convince my parents that my little brother needs a chaperone...
Even better idea!
Also, everyone, I'm glad the argument-based-on-a-misunderstanding has died down. Remember; support thread! I think a good rule is, before you post something, think about if it's irrelevant and if it's argumentative or part of an ongoing argument, and if the answer is yes, spoiler. Or don't post it, if it's not important! :smallsmile:
Coercively Assigned Gender At Birth? It's the only way I can make sense of it. So if society fixes Qaera in a single gender - the gender ze was assigned at birth - it means they refuse to acknowledge hir as genderfluid?
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Although I'm not sure how you coerce a baby. Seems to me there's not much to coerce before they can express a will of their own. Ah, well.
Kender, what does your dad look like? Is he, like, 200 cm and at least 100 kilos? Big bushy beard, and a bear pelt as a cloak? I'm kinda picturing Stoick from HTTYD as my default image of a big scary father type.
I don't think I'd want my dad to chaperone my siblings or me on a date. I don't think he would in the first place though. My mum's more likely, and that would be even worse. The only real date I've ever been on involved some sneaking out and whatnot.
On the other hand, I can understand the fatherly desire to protect one's young. My dad's out of the house 'cause they got a divorce a few years back, so I'm pretty protective of my sister, and to a lesser degree (because he's getting big and knows more martial arts than I do) my brother. I told my sister that if guys come after her, there will be a row of heads on pikes in the front yard to deter further suitors. (Unfortunately I don't know where I can buy a pike, and I don't know how to forge weapons.)
I'm now picturing Shiro's dad giving him rather explicit encouragement. Or handing over some candy and flowers in his name. Or being a little too open and a little too loud with embarrassing childhood stories while talking to date's mom.
We shall now talk about first date horror stories, so no matter what happens to Shiro, he'll remember that this sort of mortification happens to everybody, and it's not just the universe singling him out.
(My personal favorite involves getting locked out of the garage where I parked, and having to spend half an hour finding someone who could let us in so we could go home. The date had been pretty nice before then, too.)
Ah, thank you! I did try googling it, but not very hard because I'm particularly exhausted at the moment. Bedtime soon....
No beard, but otherwise, big and frowny. Not 2m tall, though. I can definitely see him going for a bear pelt as a cloak, but he's more of a sniper than a bear wrestler. Not that he wouldn't. A big dog knocked me over when I was a toddler and he chased it down to kill it in a fatherly rage. The owners had to come rescue the dog.
I happen to have a picture of KenderWizard and her father.
OHHHHHHH.
Yeah that's exactly what I did. I've been under the weather since Wednesday, so I also didn't try very hard to find it.
Oh geez. If that were my daughter the dog wouldn't have gotten two steps before I pinned it and showed it who was alpha male. But I wouldn't kill it.Quote:
No beard, but otherwise, big and frowny. Not 2m tall, though. I can definitely see him going for a bear pelt as a cloak, but he's more of a sniper than a bear wrestler. Not that he wouldn't. A big dog knocked me over when I was a toddler and he chased it down to kill it in a fatherly rage. The owners had to come rescue the dog.
My dad always has a short beard, but he doesn't look particularly scary. I'm probably scarier.
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[insert hysterical laughter here]
Oh man I am so out of it. I hate being sick but it makes things so much funnier.
On that note, I'm going to go watch today's MLP.
The image link won't work for me, but can I assume it's the image from the Papa Wolf trope?
Ahh. Sorry about that. Perfectly valid use of the term then. I was just in a genetics-jargon frame of mind.
As noted above, the conversation had me thinking of it in terms of genetic jargon, where it's used almost exclusively to refer to Allelic heterogeneity or (or the more general genetic heterogeneity).
Incidentally, I still mis-defined it: what I explained is allelic heterozygonity rather than allelic heterogeneity.:smallredface:
How dare you buck the odds! Quickly- throw them into the de-person-ing machine!
Oh, you poor dear.
I hope yours is at least well behaved. Mine is always inappropriately slapping waitresses in the rear unless his wife is there too.
So, I've finished KS at last. Not 100%, but I don't want to do the bad endings. Finished up with Lilly. That path answered so many questions. And it was interesting - it was far more like a traditional romance than the others. Lilly being utterly at ease with her blindness meant she didn't have any issues to be overcome - it was just a guy and a girl falling in love. Sure, one of them has a weak heart and the other's blind, but it's not that big a deal, you know?
I think in order of preference, the paths for me go Lilly=Emi>Rin>Hanako>>>Shizune.
I also thought it was very interesting how Lilly's path was a heck of a lot better for Hanako than Hanako's path was.
I was hanging out with one of my cousins today. At some point, he asked me if I was wearing fake fingernails.
I'm not. :smallbiggrin:
Guh, I remember when that actually used to help bad days... :/
*Hugs* Hope you feel better (and that you get well soon).
My hair is red, brown, blonde and slightly grey at the same time.
It's hypnotic, I tell you. :roach:
Thanks for posting these. :smallsmile:
So my 16th birthday party just ended.
It was seven hours of D&D and it was awesome! 16th level gestalt.
My birthday cake had a rainbow on it, sadly I don't think I have digital pics. None of the sodas i chose were conventional, a&e cream soda, strawberry big k, squirt, and ginger ale. It was great, both groups had an amazing time playing several short campaigns fashioned by the participants. The other group had some really good times, but the most awesome moment of our group was when the boss TPKed and the thrall was allowed to survive solely to tell our heroic story. Basically, one guy was pretty much killed(sent to a plane of eternal suffering where gods go to die) another got a round of attacks taking out 350ish of it's 1008HP, and I was eaten. Then the other guy(a half fiend clericy class/melée) was sent to the plane of eternal suffering. In response to having all but me and the thrall left, with the thrall doing like 60 damage a round, I knew this wasn't going to work out unless I could full attack and get three crits. I had earlier rolled a one on a save against finger of death, and when ressurected lost my most important extremely powerful level and my fourth attack. So being quite nerfed and having to kill this thing in one round, seeing that I was gonna die anyways, I went suicide supernova and dealt over 1000 damage. The flavor was amazing. We destroyed the shadow of creation ordained to destroy this world through our heroic sacrifice, and only the thrall is left to tell the tale.
Such a great party!
Well apparently according to my friends it's not safe to leave me alone with people since I will hit on them even though they are orange. Yes that is right my friends cousin was orange and she told me he wasn't always orange and he would be so cute if he wasn't orange and she promised to hook us up next weekend (when he's hopefully less orange) so :smallbiggrin: I don't like orange people but he would be very cute if he weren't orange.
I'm rambling and drunk so here is the gist of it: Cute orange guy hopefully not orange next weekend when me and him are being hooked up together.
Wow, the thread is very active now... If I've missed a post from someone, sorry for not replying...
I looked what was on TV this night (I've just watched a re-run of an episode I've missed), and found something that grabbed my attention at the "TV guide" page:
On English, translated by Google Translatewith some corrections by mejust accept the weird grammar, it's the use of pronouns which is interesting, and how transsexualism is described:
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British documentary from 2009. In America it is legal to give children under 16 years hormone blockers to stop the approaching puberty. This is done to you then be able to follow through with hormone treatments so that they can change sex. In this documentary we meet three families where the children felt that they were born the wrong sex and therefore wish to undergo a sex change. Eight-year-old Josie was born a boy but has lived as a girl for two years. Cold is also eight years old and was born a boy but has always preferred the girly things. The two have both been diagnosed with gender Dysphoria, Transsexualism. Sixteen-year-old Chris was born a girl and started his treatment to change sex when he was fourteen.
Production year: 2009
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SpoilerBrittisk dokumentär från 2009. I Amerika är det lagligt att ge barn under 16 år hormonblockerare för att stoppa den annalkande puberteten. Det görs för att man sedan ska kunna följa upp med hormonbehandlingar så att de kan byta kön. I den här dokumentären möter man tre familjer där barnen känt att de är födda med fel kön och därför vill genomgå ett könsbyte. Åttaåriga Josie föddes som pojke men har levt som flicka sedan två år tillbaka. Kyla är också åtta år och föddes som pojke men har alltid föredragit tjejiga saker. De två har båda fått diagnosen gender dysphoria, transsexualism. Sextonårige Chris föddes som flicka och började sin behandling för att byta kön när han var fjorton år.
Produktionsår: 2009
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OK, so maybe it's just a short TV guide preview... and it gets the pronouns right, as far as I can see. But it shouldn't be "sex change operation", and AFAIK gender dysphoria isn't the same as transsexualism. It's more like... symptoms, right? That something is *wrong*? :smallconfused: :smallfrown:
I don't think I would have thought much over this short text before 2011, and I certainly wouldn't have paid attention to the use of "sex change" instead of transition or sex reassignment surgery. ._.
Discussion with Coidzor:
SpoilerHmmm... You have a very good point, but I get the feeling you don't seem to sympathise with those who identify as pan-sexual... Am I wrong to do so?
I could have sworn I read it last time I read it. (I guess it could have been edited.)Quote:
That's not in the English language article on wikipedia in the definitions section or the firs half of it which I have read, and, indeed, bisexual as a definition as I've seen it has never delved into cis or trans vocabulary except when necessitated by arguments made by pansexual individuals.
Heh. Yeah, I'm aware of that phenomena. :smallsigh: :smallyuk:Quote:
Certainly someone who likes only women, whether they be cis or trans could use the label, but then again, there are men who regularly seek out and choose to engage in sex with other men for pleasure who will identify as straight until they're blue in the face.
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Indeed, in the same way there can be bisexuals who like cismen, transwomen, and ciswomen but don't like transmen and so on.
Drat, that was certainly not my intention, either to insult or confuse my preferences with gender identities... and yet I did. :smalleek: :smallfrown:Quote:
I would urge you to be very careful in how you proceed here and how you voice it. What you've said here already has a great potential to turn into something insulting here, or just read as already being insulting from the implications it carries.
What I meant to state was that considering the various (contradicting) preferences I have, I'm bound to be attracted to persons outside the binary gender identities, not just trans but also gender queer, Two Spirit, etc.
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Really, in general from what I've experienced of people who aren't bigots whose perspective is ignorant or actively counterproductive, cross-dressing and androgyny should not be taken to determine whether someone is straight or gay, or even really be a factor as far as one's sexuality's identity but more along the lines of preferences and kinks on the level below that, and thusly should not be even implied to be what determines whether someone is bisexual.
I've forgotten what we were talking about. :smalleek: :smallfrown:
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Technically it only implies attraction to both sexes - this could easily be interpreted to mean 'either' and 'any combination'. :smalltongue: :smallsmile:
I'm pretty sure that Pansexual already has that covered, though.
SpoilerI think I might actually start using Pan' instead of Bi' - I'm no longer quite so freaked out by vaginas (:relievedsigh:), and I'm pretty sure that I'd react to them about the same way on males as females (much as I already did with their masculine equivalent). :smallsmile: :smallredface:
Well, maybe the Internet isn't the best test for this, but at least I know I've made progress. :shrug:
Thanks!
Sadly, it makes all too much sense. :smallfrown:Quote:
I didn't know that bit about the castes, but that actually makes a lot of sense... :/
SpoilerThere's a disturbing connection with how the conquering Aryans had lighter skin tone, and how the higher castes (usually?) have lighter skin tones than those of lower castes.
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SpoilerYep. :smallbiggrin:
It also happens that Old-Kingdom Egypt is one of my favorite civilizations - that should help draw parallels and whatnot. :smallsmile:
Spoiler:smallsmile: Especially the similarities of the various river nations.
I don't remember... again...Quote:
Why yes... It appear that I do. :smalltongue: :smallredface:
I know it's just because it was a few days ago since I posted the post you're replying to, but I still feel like I'm having dementia... ._.
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Spoiler*Hugs* If it's bothering you, it's important. I'm sure you can post about it (even really explicit things can be toned down through careful wording), but if you'd rather you can PM me. :smallsmile:
SpoilerThe most "innocent" stuff, I guess, is how I sometimes I wonder what it would be like to be a woman... but at the same time I'mhappycontent being male, and I'm having mild castration anxiety, especially around my largest kitchen knife. :smalleek:
The less innocent stuff... well, sometimes I wonder what it would be like being a woman... while having sex with men (plural).
I could blame smut, but it's not smut's fault if I identify myself with the woman, even if she's in centre of the piece, right? ._.
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SpoilerActually, I did think that he was a transwoman for a bit, but I paused to play Bioshock for a bit and realized that I didn't know. :smallredface:
There's nothing wrong with making assumptions here or there (in fact, they're probably a factor of our ability to recognize patterns), as long as you don't also assume that you're always right. People tend to assume that all assumptions are bad, but... Well, there's a bit of a catch in that logic. :smalltongue:
SpoilerGods of the North, I do hate when some people think they're always right, and refuse to understand why they're wrong on some topic. :smallannoyed:
Tangent: I hate how Internet makes some people think they always must "win" discussions on Internet. I've fallen for that too. ._.
There are the Red Martians in ERB's John Carter of Mars series. :smallredface:Quote:
I'm more of a Green-Skinned Space Babe type myself (only with red skin - curse you, Studio Gainax!), but Golentan is pretty adorable. :smalltongue:
I believe I previously told a few thread editions ago (but maybe I didn't) how I through getting "crushes" on various female aliens in SF (one more "exotic" than the other), I started to wonder why I wouldn't get attracted to "ordinary" human males, if I could find four-armed Green Martians with tusks (like Sola Tarkas) attractive. :smallredface:
:smallbiggrin: Have you done gymnastics in the past? Pole dancing... is really demanding, AFAIK. :smalleek:
You can claim (indirect) relationship between pole dancing (especially the new, "non-smutty" form of pole dancing) and Chinese pole, a circus performance art. :smallsmile:
*hugs* I'll look into those. :smallsmile:
If you're looking to avoid that after-sessions, but still excel at pole-dancing, I recommend CrossFit. They've got gyms all over the world, but they post the daily exercises the day before they do them in the gyms. Not all gyms do the same thing, but they usually stick to this pattern. A little warming up (15 minutes), and then these exercises (you can modify them to your limits, or just above) will help you build exceptional endurance and stamina. I've been going to these gyms for about a year now. It's brutal, but really good for me.
Oh, and it's going to burn. A lot. :smallbiggrin:
I find deep heat helps with muscle pain for me. I suffer iiregular cramp like thingies, so I have some by my bed.
The worse day for me was when I left it in the bathroom and mistook it for tooth paste on night. That was nasty @.@
And what do you guys think your best features are? For me it is probably my eyelashes. I always look like I have mascara on :P
^ - Those dark circles that I get under my eyes when I get enough sleep look kind of like light eyeshadow. :smallbiggrin:
:smalltongue: Good for you. :smallbiggrin: Any idea what caused his temporary orangeness?
At least they use the right pronouns... I'd say that dysphoria's closer to a symptom (type), yeah. :/
Interesting-sounding program, though. :smallsmile:
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I've forgotten what we were talking about. :smalleek: :smallfrown:
So have I...:smallredface:Quote:
I don't remember... again...
I know it's just because it was a few days ago since I posted the post you're replying to, but I still feel like I'm having dementia... ._.
*Hugs* Really, though, you're being too hard on yourself. It's okay to forget things here or there, but stressing over it can actually hurt memory (gods know I know that :smallsigh:). :/
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SpoilerThe most "innocent" stuff, I guess, is how I sometimes I wonder what it would be like to be a woman... but at the same time I'mhappycontent being male, and I'm having mild castration anxiety, especially around my largest kitchen knife. :smalleek:
The less innocent stuff... well, sometimes I wonder what it would be like being a woman... while having sex with men (plural).
I could blame smut, but it's not smut's fault if I identify myself with the woman, even if she's in centre of the piece, right? ._.
SpoilerFar as I'm concerned, there's no fault to be had anyway. Could be gender-fluidity, could be a kink - in any case, there's nothing wrong with it.
It's worth noting - I haven't actually noticed dysphoria affecting me 'down there' until somewhat recently. Now that it is (or rather, now that I'm not externalizing so much any more)... Well, let's just say I'm not as proud as I used to be. :smallyuk:
But still, I get castration anxiety too... There's definitely a difference between modifying a body part and damaging one. :smalleek:
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SpoilerGods of the North, I do hate when some people think they're always right, and refuse to understand why they're wrong on some topic. :smallannoyed:
Tangent: I hate how Internet makes some people think they always must "win" discussions on Internet. I've fallen for that too. ._.
SpoilerTrust me, the Internet doesn't cause stubbornness. Ask anyone I grew up in the general vicinity of (myself included). :smallsigh:
High DEX bonus, then? :smalltongue:
Oh, what my flexibility could have been were I in better shape as a youth...
I once worked out the things that most attract me to science fiction characters. My ideal sci-fi crush is A) a computer, android, or other artificial life form, B) "feminine" in identity, C) Hyper intelligent and Witty, and D) capable and willing to crush me (well, foes) like an insect (whether mentally or physically). It helps if they are either extremely forceful personalities or extremely reserved.
For example, I kept D'awwing during portal 2 because I just wanted to hug GlaDOS. And in my current favorite RPG (exalted) I would totally turn Akuma for She Who Lives in Her Name. Helps that I have a negative opinion of free will, but still...
Other crushes include but aren't limited to: Cortana (Halo), Mike (The Moon is a Harsh Mistress), Chi (Chobits), That One Robot Whose Name Escapes Me (I Robot series: books, not movie), The Other Yada Yada (Foundation series), Several Characters from Blade Runner (movie, not book), Nathan Brazil (Well World), The Borg (yes, the borg as a whole I had a crush on)...
Weirdly, many of the beings I have crushes on I also have serious moral reservations about, and would fight tooth and nail to prevent their being able to impose their will on bystanders. GlaDOS, the Borg, SWLiHN, and a few others I do not think are ready for polite company. Though I hope they could clean up nice if they started recognizing the value of other people as individuals...
Ah, I'd forgotten about that little tidbit. Certainly explains a few past events, that.
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I don't particularly care one way or the other, so long as neither side is dictating to the other what they must or must not be in order to be X or Y. It gets old really quickly.
That said, if one really wants to express curiosity about my personal feelings.SpoilerMost of the distinctions drawn I find to be increasingly asinine and needlessly artificial, even by the standards set by the milieu of sexuality, or just plain individual conscience and preference of the micro level rather than macro level and demanding top billing.
That's part of the general problem when it comes up, I suppose. Very tricky to word it without putting one's foot into someone's mouth.