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Reluctance
Caca. Sktarq's post is admittedly on the extreme end of crazy girl drama, but everything else here is bog-standard breakup messiness. Yes, it all sucks. It's an expected part of the territory nonetheless.
Reluctance, you sound kinda... hard. Keep that up, please. Hard words are usually worth their weight in gold.
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Reluctance
Find out what it's like when a girl is actually interested/attracted. Having to extract conversation from her with that much effort is not part of the package.
I might have overemphasized the wrong parts.
In the past, whenever I've tried even remotely hanging out with people who's opinion I valued, be it someone I respect or someone I like, I lose the ability to speak properly. Nervousness kicks in, and everything gets dry, and it becomes impossible for me to break out of it on my own. I had to practice a bit that day to keep from locking up that night. Whether or not she has such similar problems is to be seen, but I know that it takes a bit of work to get the confidence needed to maintain a conversation properly on my end.
As for the future, who really knows what life's going to swing your way? I don't blame her for her opinion. A year ago, I still had a grandmother, didn't recognise my birth Mother's face, weighed 30 more pounds of fat, and still thought I was destined to burn in hell for my sins. Of course things change, and with 10 credit hours of College and 40 hours of work per week coming up, I wasn't expecting to do too much in the short term to be perfectly honest.
I'm not looking for short term, though. While I work on upgrading myself and pointing my life in a decent dirrection, I would like someone willing to make that journey with me. Even if I'm far too young for now, so long as I don't neglect the rest of my life for it, I don't see anything wrong with keeping an eye out for someone that makes me feel good and could help me on my life's path.
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Reluctance
That you think you have to earn the girl is a big hint. Real life works rather differently from a ninety movie. If you absolutely must, [500] Days of Summer at least highlights how you don't always "win" the girl, and how life does move on after.
I suppose I can add that to the list of pop-culture I need to investigate. I was stuck on the Super Nintendo in the 90s, not watching movies. Earning the girl was a mindset because the good ones don't usually come easy, and the few that I've come across that were good, I sabotaged myself over and lost.
It could very well be that the right one will come across, and other than continuing to strive for self perfection as I've been doing, I might not have to do anything else to win her. But I'm not adverse to putting in a bit of effort for someone worth it, either.
I've sorta always been raised that the special someone would be a decent person. And that because of this, I should bring my absolute best to be with said someone. That thinking isn't too terribly flawed, is it?
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Reluctance
Does not compute.
I guess I see what you mean there! I'm not sure the best way to explain it.
I hadn't dated in highschool and such for several reasons: When I was young, I grew up with trash, and I didn't want to link myself to it. As mentioned earlier, some of those that weren't trash, I screwed myself on. There were lots of ways such dating would and could go wrong, ways I tried to keep friends out of (and failing, only taking their examples to avoid those mistakes). And most importantly, I wasn't ready myself to do so, which is why I mainly hung out casually with people.
I've hung around a lot of people of various calibur; some who were trash and draged my life down a bit, some that were destined for better things and who helped inspire me to do to better, and others that were like me, somewhere in the middle. It's hard to be able to tell quickly, but after a while, the ability to determine where a person's character lies is eventually aquired, even if it isn't perfect and can be fooled.
Even when it comes to romance, such things can eventually be made clear, though lots of people, possibly including myself, are blind in such situations. I figured out a little bit of what I did want in a partner through the experiences I have had. I know, at the very least, what I want to avoid, and what I want to look for.
And honestly, other than worrying about what I might do wrong, I've yet to come up with a reason to doubt trying for this.
I probably made that much more confusing than need be.