I'm not around this thread anymore, but I wanted to congratulate you on your coming out! :smallsmile:
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My aussie friend said that they should have results from the vote on Weds (so Tues on the freedom-calendar).
Thank you! I'm so glad that all of you are here, even if you're not posting regularly. Coming out was one of the best choices I've made in life. Everything is so much better now. Plus, one of my friends was able to come out when he heard that I did, too (incidentally, he's an aussie)! We all help each other out ^^
I haVE A GIRLFRIEND NOW :smallbiggrin::smallbiggrin::smallbiggrin::smallbi ggrin::smallbiggrin:
Yay Heliomance!!!!
In other news, my parents will be visiting in about a month for an early Christmas get-together, and while they have been supportive via phone and Facebook, this will be the first time the'll be seeing me as female in person. I have heard from one person in my local trans support group that her family didn't react well in person even though they had been supportive from a distance, so I'm wondering how to approach this situation.
I know that since I'm genderfluid I could present as male the whole time they're here if I have to, but that would just be avoiding the issue and I'd rather be able to be female while they're here, so any advice?
Good news: I'm starting HRT I've been on spiro for a week now and should be starting estrogen at the end of the month. And I know that it isn't enough time for anything to really be affected and it's probably just placebo at this point but I'm feeling really happy genderwise this whole week
Bad news: now that gender has let up crushing down my happiness a little, other things have started filling in the gaps. I've been feeling real lonely and unlovable lately.
I had to ask for a restroom key when I was out in boymode yesterday. They didn't know which one I needed so I had to grab it myself. Rode that high all day long :D
I posted an excessively long coming out video today.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=NZ7dQh...ature=youtu.be
And another pic.
https://i.imgur.com/dii27Zz.jpg?1
Hello lovely humans,
I am brand new to this thread, although I have lurked on and off the forums a tiny bit over the past couple of years. I confess to being one of those lonesome queers in a mostly straight/cis D&D world, or at least I thought so until I stumbled on this thread. I just wanted to say how happy reading this made me. I'm currently in a state of being astonishingly broken up by the unforeseen ending of my most recent group, where I was playing a character that was really helping me work through a variety of my trans issues. But it's just really nice to know that y'all are out there, and I'm sending lots of loving vibes to everyone. So much respect to the years of continuity and community here.
Background music while I typed this: the soundtrack to the lovely campy gay movie "Were the World Mine."
*pauses in doorway*
Hi . . .
I was at church camp and somewhat accidentally came out to my cabin-mates as . . . whatever. Not straight. Liking girls.
Turned out it was the lesbian cabin (well, not technically, but we all like girls.) They were super accepting and casual, although this bit was a little awkward:
"So who do ya like?"
"Um . . ."
"Don't worry about it, everyone falls in love at camp."
"Uh well, sorry to be awkward, but . . . you."
So anyway, I guess I'm out of the closet (sort of, to strangers who I may or may not see again next year). Felt pretty good to not quietly pretend to be straight.
I'll be lurking the thread now :smallsmile:
http://tags.news.com.au/prod/newskey...06844163591045
Yay Australia!
Welcome, welcome! Feel free to jump in at any time. Only Dire Moose bites, and only then if you're food.
Congratulations, and welcome! Hopefully your experience at camp will give you the confidence to be more open with those who have known you longer. I was lucky enough to have a similar experience, though I was on the staff side of things. And, why not have a romance at camp? It's a time for making memories.
As part of a workshop I was starting today, we did a bunch of getting-to-know-each-other exercises. One of which involved splitting off into pairs and telling your partner a bunch of fun facts about yourself. They would then introduce you to the group, reciting as many facts as they could remember. When it came to my turn, I casually dropped that I use they/them/theirs pronouns.
When my partner got up in front of the group to introduce me, he started off with "This is YossarianLives, he prefers they/them pronouns!"
I want to be mad or upset but it's just too funny. You can't make this stuff up. :smalltongue:
hello i didn't realize there was a 'friendly banter' forum and have been lurking out parts of the forums for like 5 years
Filraen, hi.
Were the World Mine is very good. I think it even captures the essence of the Shakespeare's original play well: the magic of young love.
...I think I just accidentally made a transgender character.
You know how for some of us, characters just kind of show up and tell you who they are? That happened. I don't think Darren would know terms like "gender identity" or "transgender," but he'd say something like "I guess I've been dressing like a boy all my life. It's just me, you know? I'm just Darren. It's safer on the streets to be a boy in any case." If someone introduced him to the idea that transgender was a thing, he'd probably agree that he was a trans guy, but for a street rat in medieval high fantasy that's not likely to be a thing.
So, um... I know I said I wasn't going to do this, but I was feeling really bad about my appearance as a girl and hit a really bad depressed spot. My wife had some stuff from when she had been transitioning before SRS so...
Yeah, I had my first dose of estrogen last night.
Interesting. Don't waffle on that stuff, some people say that when people start and stop a few times, they build up a resistance of some kind. See how you are feeling after a couple days. I had huge amounts of relief from depression within the first week.
So over the past 7 or 8 years I've noticed that my sexuality has kind of flipped itself around. A decade ago almost 80% of the people I was attracted to were women or very femmy. Nowadays almost 2/3rds of the people I'm interested in are men. On one hand the change itself doesn't really disturb me. It just feels natural. On the other hand it kind of feels like I'm losing a community and an identity a little bit. And this is probably paranoid of me but I'm worried that I'm somehow going to turn completely straight and that I'll lose a part of myself that way.
Yeah. Take lots of notes.
You are presumably going to want to try to get under actual care by a doctor who knows how to do this stuff. The first definitely does not imply the second, so do your own research too! I basically had to do half the legwork of researching HRT for my medical team, and if I hadn't gotten a lucky break with a leading person in my area it would have been much closer to 100%.
If you keep track of what you have already done, it helps to figure out what doses and such they can put you on. I personally am a huge fan of injectables, and I do not use blockers at all, but YMMV. It's actually pretty affordable that way.
Which is actually a second point of mine - my T level is plummeting dangerously low WITHOUT blockers, and I still have the relevant anatomical pieces equipped. It confused my doctors a bit. So, soon I get to go get some genetic testing to see if I get to add a lavender and gold circle flag to the ones I get to fly for Pride. To say I have mixed feelings on this is an understatement, though at least one of them was really, really irrational.. something along the lines of..
So.. yeah. Still processing that. And the fact that I might have to start taking low dose testosterone, pre-op.Quote:
Originally Posted by Stupid internal dialogue
I always try to make something for TDoR. This time it's a poem.
Spoiler: TW: Murder, Transphobia, TDoR, The HolocaustTwo hundred ninety-five poor souls set free,
Burning in fires of nineteen thirty-three,
What made men cut them down with twisted glee?
A mind whose nuance you can't clearly see.
But some are so bold as to disagree,
That their existence was more than a plea,
And still they say I was not meant to be,
But even so, you have forgotten me.
I found out yesterday that my mom wants me to not do anything transition related until after I finish my PhD and get a job- which is at least 2 years away and probably 3 or 4. And probably 2 or 3 years as a postdoc after that. So, probably about 6 years. And somehow I think that if I waited (which I'm not going to) she'd find something else that I should wait for.
I was hoping that since coming out to her went ok it would only be my proudly transphobic relatives who'd try to keep me from transitioning. So much for that idea.
Hopefully she'll come around eventually. I'll still be seeing a therapist starting in January and hopefully hormones sometime next year, and I don't need financial support from any of my family, but having someone who said they'd be supportive decide not to be still hurts.