I think it's very different. I consider it a pretty bad way to handle this sort of thing, at least when a second date has already been agreed upon. What's going on with me and her right now I do consider stringing along.* Passive rejection is when, in the initial dating period, a person doesn't explicity say she doesn't want to stop dating but rather postpones dates or says that she is busy. The idea is that the other person will get the hint and stop asking them out. People sometimes complain about this as a technique, but it is no really no different than not asking someone for a second date when you didn't like the first date.