My response now is "I don't think basic respect should be beyond what I should expect from other people". If you're not hurting anyone by being you, it shouldn't be too much to expect others to NOT hurt you for being you. This twisted line of thinking is pretty danged equal to things like racism and other -icms that have no place in society. Would these same people advocate dyeing or bleaching skin color? Or, say, a woman turning into a man just to avoid discrimination? I don't think so! (At least I would hope not!) But what they're asking is the same thing! "Change who you are so that other people don't discriminate you". It's frankly a disgusting line of thought.