Relationship Woes and Advice XXVIII: Happy and Perfect!

[Crow]

Honestly sounds like you need a real relationship, because you've described married life for most of the people I know who are still married (including myself, after the first one) once you've moved past the puppy dog stage. Successful marriage is about both partners providing value that the other finds desirable, after all. In this case, climbing up to clean the gutters, and someone to help out with projects around the house; common value niches. :)

I think you are going to have to bite your lip and do things the old fashioned way.

The good news is, if you are as honest and straightforward about what you're looking for as you've been here; and honest with them about what you bring to the table, you should be able to sift quickly through the time wasters (I imagine all the **** partners I've had to be like NPCs generated by the world to teach me how to be more selective. Of course that means I was somebody else's NPC too!).