Originally Posted by
ezekielraiden
Then it sounds like you already know what you need to do. Try, as much as possible, to be positive. Tell your friend that you're upset with how things are going, but that you want to repair the situation, not break things more. Note how you *want* to have him there, and truly enjoy most of his roleplay stuff, but that you feel frustrated because his actions negatively affect the group and yet he seems oblivious to these problems.
Like...it's not about attacking him, it's about honestly telling him how you feel and why you're upset. If he cannot handle honest communication shared without rancor, then you don't want him in this game anyway. If he tries to pull a victim card, be clear about how deeply frustrated you are and how the group agrees that his actions are hypocritical and tedious for you all. Again, emphasize that this is not about assigning blame, but rather about being forthright when problems happen and trying to fix them rather than letting them continue to fester until they explode.