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2012-08-21, 02:43 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitP 26: No Time For Snappy Titles
Yeah, that was my answer, but I also remembered a picture I saw a picture a long time ago that was two panels, one was a group of guys(college age cis-males) cheering on two lesbians as they publicly made out and the other was the same guys expressing complete disgust as two guys just sat there one annoyed and the other 40%sad and 60% annoyed as they held hands and had their inside arms around each other.
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2012-08-21, 02:55 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitP 26: No Time For Snappy Titles
So, I've realized that it's the small victories that make it feel worth it to keep on going.
One of the things I've been worried about for a bit is the fact that I'm tall. I'm between 6'1" and 6'2", so not a giant, but I've done my fair share of towering in my day. Especially over my female friends and co-workers.
But, as I was leaving work today, I ended up following a woman that was almost exactly my height. I tried, likely unsuccessfully, to mimic the way she was walking, too (which probably looked really weird ont he security cameras, but meh).
So yeah. Little things that make you feel good .
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2012-08-21, 02:58 PM (ISO 8601)
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Hello, everyone.
I've thought about this long and I think this is the time I should come out to my parents (at least to my father) as being transgender. I wanted to wait with this, but I feel that since I still live at home and am rather close to them, I can't really experiment or seek actual professional help without their help or them noticing things I can't really explain (I'm a terrible lier). Do you guys have any advise on how to approach this?
My father is a very tolerant man, I know he cares about me and is quite liberal towards homosexuals and I know he has read books about gender, so I know he's at least familiar with what it means.
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2012-08-21, 03:01 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitP 26: No Time For Snappy Titles
Aww! *Hugs* It's nice to meet you!
I'm sorry I can't offer any good advice - I'm still pretty darn new to this, myself. But what I can do is wish you as much luck as I can!
Your dad doesn't seem like he'll have much of a problem with it, but what about your mom? Did you not mention her because you don't know, or because it's not as good of a story there?
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2012-08-21, 03:01 PM (ISO 8601)
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2012-08-21, 03:18 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitP 26: No Time For Snappy Titles
I didn't mention her, because partly I don't know and partly because I think her suggestion will be less positive. She's a lot more conservative and hostile against anything thats abnormal. I'm a vegetarian for example, and although my father accepted this and even applauded me from a young age for standing for what I believe and for being myself, my mother was very intolerant and not understanding (she is now though). Although I know she has no problem with homosexuality, on multiple occasions when we were out and she noticed a transwoman on the streets, she would look disproving, point and stare and whisper to us about it. Although this was many years ago, I do fear her initial response.
I know my father can keep a secret and we've had secrets for my mother before, so i think it's best to talk to them separately.
I know. I've been walking around with these feelings for years now. Maybe I should have told them much earlier, but I guess I was afraid and I wasn't sure enough. It took a huge while before I realised that not-accepting what I feel like inside was harder then accepting it and dealing with it.
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2012-08-21, 03:19 PM (ISO 8601)
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2012-08-21, 03:31 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitP 26: No Time For Snappy Titles
Yeesh. That's disconcerting, to say the least. Maybe talking to your dad first is the best way to go; if he's the more level headed of the two, you can take it slow, and get the "easier" of the two out of the way first.
The other side of the coin, of course, is that the longer you wait to talk to her, the longer it will be until she accepts you for who you are.
Hmm...I really can't suggest which would be better, as I don't know you or your parents well enough to say. All I can really do is act as a sounding board for ideas on how you might want to approach it. Hopefully you can get things to work out right .
I'm inclined to say yes, just because I want to see if you can, and how you'd do it.
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EDIT: I got hit by depression really hard this afternoon. I was thinking about how much I've lost out on by spending so many years hiding and wishing. I hate being scared - scared of what other people might think, scared of what my family and friends might think, scared of myself and expressing myself...I've wasted my whole life being scared and dreaming about being someone, something else, but it's the only thing I know anymore.
And I still can't cry about it!Last edited by Absol197; 2012-08-21 at 08:07 PM.
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2012-08-21, 06:43 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitP 26: No Time For Snappy Titles
There was a study done that I will try to find stuff for because I can't post citation, that checked physical symptoms of arousal in men. It was specifically testing homophobia versus male erotica, but one o the things they found was that all men, straight or gay, show signs of arousal when watching girl on girl pornography. It also showed a big correlation between homophobic men and arousal during male on male pornography.
True. Oddly, isn't that what the whole slut shaming debacle is about? That girls aren't allowed to be anywhere as open about that stuff as boys?
I wish I did. Um... Organize? Have all your information ready just in case.
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2012-08-21, 06:48 PM (ISO 8601)
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On Facebook yes, not in the thread though.
There's still a huge difference between arousal and attraction though. (Also not sure what they exactly mean with physical arousal, but a response down there can come from a lot of other things as well.)
Hope it's good news!
Hmm, well, what would you feel most comfortable with? Would you like to address this face to face in a conversation with your dad? Maybe you'd rather write him a letter explaining stuff so he has some time to think it over before you have a chat about it? One general advice is to avoid delving too deeply in terminology and focusing more on how you feel and what you think about this and what you want to do with it.
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2012-08-21, 07:29 PM (ISO 8601)
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2012-08-21, 07:36 PM (ISO 8601)
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Yeah, I mean my heart is nothing but rainbows, but the first time I ever wanted to kiss a guy (or really anyone) was when he showed the people at a sleepover lesbian hentai to me at four in the morning. I was definitely more into him though.
To the part in parentheses: yeah, like cuddling(only happened like twice, but yeah. It can happen)
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2012-08-21, 07:41 PM (ISO 8601)
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2012-08-21, 08:08 PM (ISO 8601)
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That sounds nice. And don't worry too much. Yeah, 6'1 is pretty tall, but I've known women that tall. I used to know a family of giants. The shortest was 6'2 or 6'3 and his mother and sister were both taller.
I'd say just go for it. Talk to your dad first and then work out what to tell your mum.
Interesting. See if you could find it again?Jude P.
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2012-08-21, 08:32 PM (ISO 8601)
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Ugh >_< I hate these in-between phases where I don't feel like a girl but really want to. Not fun.
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2012-08-21, 09:26 PM (ISO 8601)
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Maybe because I don't expect hormones or bottom surgery, but I've found that I feel like a girl when I want to. If that makes sense.
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2012-08-22, 01:41 AM (ISO 8601)
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Okay so why do I have to be stuck with the personality I have? I'm bisexual, and quite interested in sex, but have a mini panic attack and can't do anything about it when someone else is in the room with me. I'm a hardcore pacifist, but my emotional response to suffering pain and violence can best be summed up as "manic relieved laughter catharsis."
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2012-08-22, 04:08 AM (ISO 8601)
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*Hugs Lixie and Absol*
SpoilerI haven't had any moments like that, but I couldn't help but notice that a certain enemy in Mass Effect 3 looks moderately pregnant... And used to be shunned, repressed and hidden by their society... Right after I first started wondering whether I might actually want to have kids someday but before I could quite handle the answer... >.>
*Would have some links if she didn't go way overboard in the rough draft* :B
Well, classically Succubi were out for men's souls and Incubi were more about impregnating young women and/or giving them nightmares (they varied a lot more for some reason). The former pretty much taught that women are heartless monsters who will take everything you have if you make one bad decision and the latter... Er, I think the latter might have been used to defend people from incest accusations. >.>
These days it seems to be more quirky/hot vs. creepy, but it still varies (especially when the demons' true forms are horrific, but that's sorta rare). Someone had them being the same beings just shape-shifting back and forth to gather and mutate semen for a while, but I don't know when or where that version was popular. Also, Succubi kill more often than not while Incubi tend to use people for some evil reason or another.
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2012-08-22, 04:17 AM (ISO 8601)
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^^ Poor golly. Though I will say that at least you don't respond with violence. I'm insane like that too, kinda, except only when I'm completely alone with someone and I kinda freeze up if I'm into them in any way. Well, when I think somethingight happen.
Hmm... Well then.
(to be fair We'd been good friends since the beginning of eighth grade and that was the late February of eighth grade. And that were the first time I'd been exposed to a real life example of those feelings, so you can bet I wasn't able to control anything yet.)
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2012-08-22, 04:20 AM (ISO 8601)
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2012-08-22, 04:25 AM (ISO 8601)
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Of course. And it being a side note to the original purpose of the study, and so just an artefact of the numbers, makes it even less definitive.
Hmm, well, what would you feel most comfortable with? Would you like to address this face to face in a conversation with your dad? Maybe you'd rather write him a letter explaining stuff so he has some time to think it over before you have a chat about it? One general advice is to avoid delving too deeply in terminology and focusing more on how you feel and what you think about this and what you want to do with it.
I will so endeavor. It was listed in a book on the views and opinions of a radio talk show host, titled Someone's Gotta Say It! that someone left at my work one day. Interesting read, though I've since lost it somewhere in my apartment. A pity, I'd like to check the citation or myself.
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I spent the day in Berkeley with some friends, shooting the breeze an ogling all the nice outfits I saw today. I really want to get that "learn to sew" plan in gear! I think I'm starting to bump up against the issue of my girlfriend being okay because I'm not pushing any issues though. We are both aware we will hve to sit down and discuss my immediate plans, but haven't had time. I'm starting to worry a little bit >_<
On the upside, the anxiety will push me to get it done instead of letting sleeping dogs lie.
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2012-08-22, 08:05 AM (ISO 8601)
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I've thought about this and don't really know. My mother is now going away for 2 days, meaning it will be me and my dad alone all day at home, so this would be ideal time to talk to him, but I feel I haven't prepared it enough to do it now, but I'm not sure if I'll get a better opportunity soon.
First I had planned on maybe slowly touching the subject of being trans today and maybe do the full talk next week somewhere, but I'm afraid I might start crying and not be able to have the talk, without having the talk. So that might be the wrong approach.
I'm honestly not sure how to do it. I could try writing a letter, but I think I'd prefer talking to them, but writing the letter could be a good preparation anyway.
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2012-08-22, 09:59 AM (ISO 8601)
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I look up the average height (68") and Standard Deviation (2.5") of women in the U.S. 68 inches according to the HANES study and the. So, 2 Standard Deviations is 73 inches, 2.5% of the individuals would be above that. There are 300 million Americans, which gives us 150 million women. 2.5% of 150 million is 3 750 000. Rare, but not exceedingly rare.
I'm not on Facebook and MSN. Tell him to get back here, I miss him.Last edited by Asta Kask; 2012-08-22 at 10:07 AM.
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2012-08-22, 10:49 AM (ISO 8601)
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2012-08-22, 11:10 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitP 26: No Time For Snappy Titles
Hoolllllyyyy Crap this thread moves fast!!
Awww, don't be depressed. There are so many ways to have a child, most of which aren't biological. So if you would really like a bundle of joy, unfortunately this is the case, there are many children out there for adoption and such. People put too much emphasis on biology when it comes to "claiming" their children. The person who raises and loves you unconditionally, despite if you are blood related or not, are the ones who are your mom and dad. My wife's biological father is a big a#$^*le and I don't like him in the least, but he isn't the one who raised her, her dad did, who is an awesome man, albeit weird So when you hear someone talk about having a baby, don't get depressed, get excited, that one day, you too may have a little child to call your son/daughter, and be able to raise them in a loving, accepting environment.
Oh really? Well, that awesome, beautiful, stupendous, gorgeous, amazing, fun, smart, intelligent, Wunderbar Lix can just keep exploding then
If you do choose to come out to your father, the best advice I can give is just be honest. If he is a tolerant and loving dad, as he seems to be from what you describe, he will accept the news and still love you all the same. But also realize that this is big news(not bad, mind you, but BIG) and sometimes it takes a moment to soak it all up, so be patient with them while they try and process it. Tell them what you need from them, love/support/understanding, and that will help them as well. Remember, they have known you as a male(from what I saw on your "gender" icon) for their entire lives and it is somewhat of a shock to be told that your son will become your daughter.
Now, having said all of that, nothing that you will be telling them is bad or negative, and if this is really what you want, you should at least put the ball in their court, as it were. Because if you go this whole time and never tell them anything, or try and include them in this big change in your life, you won't ever know if they will go with you on this Journey, and regret is the worst of things. So, be honest, tell them how you feel and ask how they feel, and keep the lines of communication open......that is my advice anyway. Take it or leave it I hope even a little bit of it helps.
As a man, I can completely support this. Blunt is awesome.Last edited by Irish Musician; 2012-08-22 at 11:28 AM.
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2012-08-22, 11:10 AM (ISO 8601)
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2012-08-22, 11:13 AM (ISO 8601)
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2012-08-22, 11:58 AM (ISO 8601)
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I would totally quote this if my sig had any room left.
Hehe, shoulda seen it when I first joined in - now it's five pages a week, then it was five every two days. X3
Awww, don't be depressed. There are so many ways to have a child, most of which aren't biological. So if you would really like a bundle of joy, unfortunately this is the case, there are many children out there for adoption and such. People put too much emphasis on biology when it comes to "claiming" their children. The person who raises and loves you unconditionally, despite if you are blood related or not, are the ones who are your mom and dad. My wife's biological father is a big a#$^*le and I don't like him in the least, but he isn't the one who raised her, her dad did, who is an awesome man, albeit weird So when you hear someone talk about having a baby, don't get depressed, get excited, that one day, you too may have a little child to call your son/daughter, and be able to raise them in a loving, accepting environment.
Oh really? Well, that awesome, beautiful, stupendous, gorgeous, amazing, fun, smart, intelligent, Wunderbar Lix can just keep exploding then
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2012-08-22, 12:34 PM (ISO 8601)
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