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2012-12-19, 05:55 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again
Has it been less than four months since you broke up? Did you end on a very bad note? Have you had a new beau in that timespan while she has not? Do you plan on referring to your time together in the text instead of just a simple, "Hey [name], wish you a happy birthday!"? Do you still have a lot of feelings for her that might grow regardless of the outcome of sending the text?
If any of the answers to these questions is "yes", then don't. Otherwise, go for it if you want to. Heck, you might even throw in a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year, though it might be better to wait for a later text with that, if you even want to do it by then.Last edited by Morph Bark; 2012-12-19 at 05:55 AM.
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2012-12-19, 02:24 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again
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2012-12-19, 08:51 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again
This ... I can understand just cuddling and whatnot with a friend, but much beyond that it gets weird. That is my new official position. And I really need to talk to her before this ends up being an event too far set in the past. We hung out today and yesterday studying for exams, and we're going to hang this weekend, but uggh.
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2012-12-20, 10:54 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again
I'm very much in the "it doesn't need to be sexual" boat. Something like 85% of my friends are female, and I don't think there's a single one of them I haven't either been a pillow for or vice-versa. There's nothing sexual about it (well, except for that one girl...), we just flop on each other.
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2012-12-20, 04:07 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again
Sorry if this is a bit confusing/rambly.
So lately I've been toying with the idea of making an OKC account. I'm not entirely sure why, or even why not. I dunno, I guess I'm just a bit tired of being alone but then again I'm not sure.
I dunno, I realise this whole post is a bit nonsense. Sorry
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2012-12-20, 04:58 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again
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2012-12-20, 05:06 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again
Well, I suppose that makes more sense than I'm making Yeah sure, I'll give it a go. I imagine in the next couple of days this thread will see one of those "what should I improve about my profile" posts, so I aoplogise in advance for that.
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2012-12-20, 05:14 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again
Scientific Name: Wombous apocolypticus | Diet: Apocolypse Pie | Cuddly: Yes
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2012-12-20, 07:16 PM (ISO 8601)
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2012-12-20, 07:37 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again
Well, here we are, in theory. Let me know what you think please
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2012-12-20, 09:30 PM (ISO 8601)
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2012-12-21, 04:02 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again
Well, it takes a considerable amount of muscle to repeatedly swing an axe, so you'll know they stay in shape. But then there's always going to be that awkward bit in the relationship when you have to say "it's either me or the axe".
If it helps, I enjoy non-sexy cuddles as much as sexy cuddles. Humans are predominantly social animals and tactile contact is a good way of strengthening group cohesion. ^_^
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2012-12-21, 07:10 AM (ISO 8601)
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2012-12-21, 07:19 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again
Scientific Name: Wombous apocolypticus | Diet: Apocolypse Pie | Cuddly: Yes
World Building Projects:
Magic: The Stuff of Sentience | Fate: The Fabric of Physics | Luck: The Basis of Biology
Order of the Stick Projects:
Annotation of the Comic | Magic Compendium of the Comic | Transcription of the Comic
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(you can't take the sky from me)
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2012-12-21, 07:36 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again
Of course they will go for the axe. The axe effect is very powerful. It chops down trees and eats it's lunch and doesn't afraid of anything.
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2012-12-21, 07:43 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again
Scientific Name: Wombous apocolypticus | Diet: Apocolypse Pie | Cuddly: Yes
World Building Projects:
Magic: The Stuff of Sentience | Fate: The Fabric of Physics | Luck: The Basis of Biology
Order of the Stick Projects:
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2012-12-21, 11:41 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again
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2012-12-21, 01:59 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again
To be honest, it's rare for someone to be able to easily kill someone they consider to be a person. There's usually a disconnect from the victim. I remember one killer saying that if he went on one more date with his victim, that he likely would've known her too well to kill her.
Also, no calculating killer is going to hunt from a dating site. Too much data is passed across the servers. Even if the killer is hiding behind multiple proxies, they still need to provide their victim with a meeting location. Even a private chat room bears this risk, but is the least risky method available on the internet.
Also, you should always meet people for the first time in well-lit public places. Granted, this won't tell you if they want to kill you but are hiding it, but many would-be killers don't want to go through that whole song and dance. They want a more instant gratification & will have some trouble hiding their lack of enthusiasm. More importantly, they'd be getting to know you, making you more of a person & less of a potential victim.
The best way to find a victim, even in today's digital age, is still to find people walking home at night, alone, in the dark. (Those who work nights on corners in illegal professions pretty much have to put themselves in this situation, unfortunately.) For a pickier killer, it would be to stalk their prey & learn when they'll be alone, and plan every detail of their capture. Dating sites are not a great tool for this.
It's a good thing I'm not evil.Last edited by Thajocoth; 2012-12-21 at 02:02 PM.
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2012-12-21, 02:09 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again
What a wonderful answer! All very good points. I don't know why this makes me so happy...I'm just pleased to see such an intelligent answer...it reminds me why I love being on this forum. I crave intelligent conversation!
Edit: What about someone who is killing another for retribution? Or a hit man? Or someone who is in the military?Last edited by TheWombatOfDoom; 2012-12-21 at 02:10 PM.
Scientific Name: Wombous apocolypticus | Diet: Apocolypse Pie | Cuddly: Yes
World Building Projects:
Magic: The Stuff of Sentience | Fate: The Fabric of Physics | Luck: The Basis of Biology
Order of the Stick Projects:
Annotation of the Comic | Magic Compendium of the Comic | Transcription of the Comic
Dad-a-chum? Dum-a-chum? Ded-a-chek? Did-a-chick?
Extended Signature | My DeviantArt | Majora's Mask Point Race
(you can't take the sky from me)
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2012-12-21, 02:19 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again
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2012-12-21, 02:19 PM (ISO 8601)
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2012-12-21, 02:36 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again
I've actually never played that series.
Scientific Name: Wombous apocolypticus | Diet: Apocolypse Pie | Cuddly: Yes
World Building Projects:
Magic: The Stuff of Sentience | Fate: The Fabric of Physics | Luck: The Basis of Biology
Order of the Stick Projects:
Annotation of the Comic | Magic Compendium of the Comic | Transcription of the Comic
Dad-a-chum? Dum-a-chum? Ded-a-chek? Did-a-chick?
Extended Signature | My DeviantArt | Majora's Mask Point Race
(you can't take the sky from me)
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2012-12-21, 03:57 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again
The first two would need to hunt their prey. Learn their patterns. Figure out how to get them alone. Where I mentioned "pickier killers", these would fall into that category as they have very specific targets. If they do otherwise, they'll get caught. So they won't be hunting on a dating site.
I remember reading about a Canadian hit man who decided to retire & gave the Canadian government info on everyone who'd hired him over the last decade in exchange for not getting in trouble for the murders. Hiring a hit man is, therefore, just as dangerous as trying to get rid of a body by burying it. As many villains have stated, "If you want something done right, you need to do it yourself."
Someone in the military... It's rather interesting that you brought that up. From what I gather, most people don't consider it murder if it's done for war, which is why I left it out. I do consider it to be murder. For this purpose though, it's also irrelevant. A soldier doesn't have to worry about their own government punishing them for doing the exact thing that their government trained them for & told them to do, and they're certainly not going to lure their enemy out using the internet. It's a tactic that just won't work.Last edited by Thajocoth; 2012-12-21 at 03:57 PM.
Avatar by me. It's Incendius Darkscale, a Good Dragonborn Dragon Sorcerer, Demonskin Adept, Prince of Hell, worshiper of the Platinum Dragon (Bahamut), specializing in Fire and Lightning, wielding a staff in each hand.
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2012-12-21, 07:28 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again
Speaking of luring people out over the internet; A rather disastrous long-distance relationship where I've come to realize she was just using me, followed by a series of false starts has left me associating women with nothing but longing and rejection and being used and pain.
Now here's the hard part: I still want one. Even though I associate women with nothing positive, I still want one.
My inner dialogue has gone past the point of "how do I find someone who's healthy for me?" to "how do I purge myself of these desires?".
Looking at what I've just written I'm pretty certain I need counseling of some kind. Any thoughts as to what kind of counselor would be appropriate?
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2012-12-21, 07:41 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again
Avatar by me. It's Incendius Darkscale, a Good Dragonborn Dragon Sorcerer, Demonskin Adept, Prince of Hell, worshiper of the Platinum Dragon (Bahamut), specializing in Fire and Lightning, wielding a staff in each hand.
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2012-12-21, 09:16 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again
I've heard some people have had luck with expanding their circle of acquaintances and contacts in their general geographic region, certainly. To a much greater extent than any but a lothario would get on the sexual-romantic end anyway.
Good luck, though I can't remember any of the pointers beyond the most basic ones google would pop up immediately anyway.
Hey Jane, get me off this crazy thing called love.
I can't imagine what you'd be doing with a friend that wasn't also a lover beyond cuddling anyway. Well, I suppose there's naked parties and skinny dipping but I always figured that was people just attempting to put me on rather than real things that actually happen.
You'd better have talked by now.
Beyond see a professional, I don't know how much we can really say on this subject as far as advocating one type over another. Not that I'm really aware of fine types beyond professionally trained and not professionally trained.
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2012-12-23, 01:23 PM (ISO 8601)
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2012-12-24, 07:56 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again
I wouldn't discount the military using the internet to hunt victims (a dating site I'd say might hold some useful information about a horny terrorist). While I'm not saying whether or not I believe the military is attributable to murder, I will say that they are attributed with killing, and they hunt their prey just like other predators. Either way, I think we're unfortunately getting into a risky topic there, as well as off topic...sigh.
This is the first Christmas in a long time I actually have a girlfriend, and we've been dating since the beginning of the Fall. She makes more than I do financially, and has bought me a crap ton of stuff. I don't make as much and feel guilty that I can't get her as much. How do I talk to her about this without sounding ungrateful for the gifts?Scientific Name: Wombous apocolypticus | Diet: Apocolypse Pie | Cuddly: Yes
World Building Projects:
Magic: The Stuff of Sentience | Fate: The Fabric of Physics | Luck: The Basis of Biology
Order of the Stick Projects:
Annotation of the Comic | Magic Compendium of the Comic | Transcription of the Comic
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2012-12-24, 08:33 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again
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2012-12-24, 08:36 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again
I've gotten her a few things and she loved what I got, so that's all good. I'm just uncomfortable with the amount she spent in general...we could have saved some of that for things to do later. I'm very careful with money because I've been crapped on by the world more times than I can count.
EDIT: Maybe I'm just not used to getting stuff...I'm usually the generous one...Last edited by TheWombatOfDoom; 2012-12-24 at 08:37 AM.
Scientific Name: Wombous apocolypticus | Diet: Apocolypse Pie | Cuddly: Yes
World Building Projects:
Magic: The Stuff of Sentience | Fate: The Fabric of Physics | Luck: The Basis of Biology
Order of the Stick Projects:
Annotation of the Comic | Magic Compendium of the Comic | Transcription of the Comic
Dad-a-chum? Dum-a-chum? Ded-a-chek? Did-a-chick?
Extended Signature | My DeviantArt | Majora's Mask Point Race
(you can't take the sky from me)