Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again

[Form]

*hugs*

There are different types of loneliness and it's not that weird to feel that way. Sometimes being with a group of people can even trigger the feeling.

[Sholos]

*moar hugs*

Especially when you're single and out with a bunch of couples who keep reminding everyone that they're a couple.

[JabberwockySupafly]

While you may not know me very well, consider additional hugs/good vibes/positive karma sent your way. I know that feeling and it can hurt. Sometimes being alone doesn't mean being by yourself, but being with friends will hopefully alleviate that feeling.

[Skeppio]

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Late-night over-tired whinging that no one should care about and I'll probably be embarrassed for posting later:
It's almost my birthday, I'm spending it with a bunch of friends just the way I want to, and I'm suddenly feeling very lonely.
End whinge.

Welcome to every day of my life, minus the 'bunch of friends' parts.
My birthday's coming up soon too, though I don't have much reason to care.

[The Rose Dragon]

I feel like I could use some advice, even though at this point I know what I should do, and just need to be talked into actually doing it, and maybe some help on how to.

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There are two girls. One of them, let's call her Tea, I met last March, and I've had a crush on her since around late April the same year. Unfortunately, by the time I realized this (when I briefly dated this other girl, actually) and decided to do something about it, she started sending some very mixed signals. I am fairly certain she is single, but I don't know how she feels about me, and I'm kind of a coward. While we talk on the phone, I haven't had a chance to meet her privately since December, as we've both been busy with grad school, and I don't want to confess or do anything of the sort without meeting her. We agreed to meet after my finals are over, but I am still afraid I will chicken out once I do meet her because of some mixed signal she will send.

The other girl, let's call her Coffee, I met last Halloween, but we didn't really start interacting before February. She's cute, she's fun, she is interesting, we get along great... and she's taken. In fact, I knew her boyfriend well before I met her (it is possible they started dating after I met him). Unfortunately, my brain does not seem to register this, and I have difficulty moving on, or being comfortable around them (separately or together, doesn't seem to matter). I don't know if they or any common friends we have realized this or not, but I'm sincerely hoping they didn't, because I have no idea how any of them would react to learning this.

So I've got two girls, with no idea what to do next. Any help you can give would be appreciated.

[Chen]

Take the risk and ask the first one out directly. If things go well it might resolve the second problem too.

[noparlpf]

New thread, anybody?

[Coidzor]

New thread, anybody?

How are we doing the handoff these days anyway?

[The Succubus]

Don't look at me - last thread I started spontaneously combusted.

[celtois]

NEW THREAD


Sorry if I'm stepping on anyones toes. I just figured there was no reason to sit around waiting. If it was someone else's turn let me know and I'll wipe the post and let it sink off the front page.

If not, let me know if anything else needs updating on the first post.