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2014-05-31, 06:35 AM (ISO 8601)
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2014-05-31, 06:41 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ 51: Lay That Hammer Down!
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2014-05-31, 06:49 AM (ISO 8601)
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Offers pile of hugs. It's absolutely ridiculous, I needed both of those two and a whole bunch of other stuff like proof of nationality, crime register, etc...
And yeah, the gendered thing really hurts... I'm not looking forward to getting letters addressed to "mister" Lena lastname when my name change is done.
*hugs again*
Hope you can resolve it in time. :s
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2014-05-31, 06:52 AM (ISO 8601)
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2014-05-31, 07:05 AM (ISO 8601)
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It happens to all women. It's just sexism, if that's of any comfort to you.
(I even got a letter that addressed me as Mr [lastname] when I cancelled my subscription to a feminist magazine. A feminist magazine. Just imagine that. And they had the chutzpah to ask why I didn't want to read that magazine anymore.In that very same letter. And my first name is very obviously female. )Last edited by Themrys; 2014-05-31 at 07:11 AM.
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2014-05-31, 07:13 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ 51: Lay That Hammer Down!
Eh. Parting depends on the hair. Slick it all back, it looks suave or severe, both of which are tones that get more effect on the other side of the gender spectrum. Whether my hair was back in a loose braid (with part) or pulled into a severe, Mitsurugi style dear-god-large puff, is the difference between being seen as a concerned party or an authority figure respectively.
Oh spirits, a kitten in medium as soft! I am undone
I signed up for a free magazine sample. The sign-up email asked me for my payment method, which I listed as 'payments' instead of credit card (because if I write 'cancel' on the payment stub, I get my free magazines but no subscription). The confirmation email asked me for my credit card info to guarantee fast delivery. Just this week I got an invoice asking for payment or payment information.
I have yet to recieve my free magazine...
Capitalism. n.n
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2014-05-31, 07:38 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ 51: Lay That Hammer Down!
I'm glad I didn't have to send all of that... I did have to give ID and a proof of citizenship, I think. And a proof that I'm using that name. I don't remember really, it's a bit of a blur. But yeah, no crime register.
On the gender thing... much awkwardness to come. (Why can't they let you choose how you want to be called? It's like if they checked marital status to settle on Miss/Mrs.)
... that's pretty horrible and typical.Ash nazg durbatulūk, ash nazg gimbatul, ash nazg thrakatulūk agh burzum-ishi krimpatul.
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2014-05-31, 08:01 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ 51: Lay That Hammer Down!
It is so much easier in England. To legally change your name, you have to... start using a different name. That's it.
Various places may want proof of your name change, in which case you need to write a declaration, sign it, and get it witnessed by two people. There is no Central place you have to register it with, and it's up to you to inform everywhere that needs to know of your new name. Most places will also change your title on request (though not all - I think the department for work and pensions has me on file as Mr Tamsin <last name>).Quotebox
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2014-05-31, 08:12 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ 51: Lay That Hammer Down!
The DWP is a joke though, so that's hardly a surprise.
As for all of the above that is accurate, for the most part. Sometimes, and especially, i believe, for a GRC (gender recognition certificate) a change of details has to be witnessed by a legal professional, such as a solicitor or magistrate. (Magistrates aren't legally trained but they count).
However, if a court system has you involved, as a witness, apellant, accused or anything, then they will change gender references, pronoun usage, and titles upon request.
Sources: I work in an appeals tribunal, and have previously worked in a magistrates court.Last edited by HMS Sophia; 2014-05-31 at 08:45 AM.
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2014-05-31, 09:30 AM (ISO 8601)
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2014-05-31, 10:18 AM (ISO 8601)
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Thaaaaat... actually really, really annoys me. The messy-headed ponytails on guys, I mean. I desperately want to go at them with a hairbrush.
This turned up in my facebook feed: a photoshoot of non-binary people, including that kid who got set on fire a while ago.
(would it be really, really bad for me to say "unf, that Rain person"?)Last edited by Serpentine; 2014-05-31 at 10:18 AM.
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2014-05-31, 10:47 AM (ISO 8601)
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2014-05-31, 11:20 AM (ISO 8601)
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2014-05-31, 11:23 AM (ISO 8601)
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2014-05-31, 11:51 AM (ISO 8601)
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2014-05-31, 11:51 AM (ISO 8601)
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2014-05-31, 11:52 AM (ISO 8601)
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WELCOME!!!!!!!!!!!
They should just be happy I am not mentally beating them with my words of rage
As a guy with long hair, I tend to have a mix of "messy" and "neat" styling of my ponytail. As well as a mix of higher and lower placement for it. But I tend not to care if a ponytail makes me look more masculine or feminine, because so what either way, ya know?
MatthewLast edited by Irish Musician; 2014-05-31 at 11:53 AM.
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2014-05-31, 12:37 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ 51: Lay That Hammer Down!
... I came to appreciate that mountains make poor receptacles for dreams.
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2014-05-31, 12:43 PM (ISO 8601)
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1)Completely agree. Love the fact that I have no idea who is what, which just makes it all the better.
2) and yes I hate websites that do that crap. scroll *stop everything to close something*, scroll *stop everything to close something*, scroll *stop everything to close something*, scroll *stop everything to close something*........AAAAARRRRGGGGHHHHHH!!!!!!!
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2014-05-31, 01:09 PM (ISO 8601)
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...really? I get no pop-ups, though I might've gotten one when I first opened it
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2014-05-31, 01:10 PM (ISO 8601)
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Yeah, that was so accurate it's scary. Didn't notice I was picking at my nails through it and now my thumb's bleeding.
I hope not. *looks awkwardly at new person upthread's name*
And here's a couple of (kinda low res) photos my sis-in-law took when we went to the Miss Fisher costume exhibition:
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And a life update:
SpoilerStill fighting depression, had a few like panic attacks and such, still not working but I'm on benefits now at least (been about 8 months since I was in hospital). My daughter moved away but she comes down and stays for a weekend every month now and a week during holidays, and she's using female pronouns with me so life's kind of going well in some ways.
Biggest problem is I sleep far too much, like 16 hours some days, just have no enthusiasm to get out of bed some days.Last edited by Zorg; 2014-05-31 at 01:11 PM.
Princess in the streets.
Princess in the sheets.
Don't touch me I'm royalty.
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2014-05-31, 01:22 PM (ISO 8601)
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The whole screen gets covered with other news stories if you pass the cursor over any of the category boxes at the top of the screen, which on my monitor take up enough of the screen by themselves that you can't see any of the pictures completely without scrolling back up to see the top of the person's head that that box is cutting off, and when you do scroll up another larger box falls out of the category boxes telling you about other stories, and then there's the Facebook, Pinterest, whatever things on the side that move around as you scroll down the article.
... I came to appreciate that mountains make poor receptacles for dreams.
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2014-05-31, 01:30 PM (ISO 8601)
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Hee~
And here's a couple of (kinda low res) photos my sis-in-law took when we went to the Miss Fisher costume exhibition:
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And a life update:
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Biggest problem is I sleep far too much, like 16 hours some days, just have no enthusiasm to get out of bed some days.
Here, Zorg. Have a thing. I tend to think of is because of the first line.
[Music]Last edited by SiuiS; 2014-05-31 at 01:31 PM.
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2014-05-31, 01:33 PM (ISO 8601)
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Yeah... I noticed my anxiety ticks flaring up while playing it myself. It is scarily accurate.
Aaah, you're just so frickin' cute! And I adore that outfit, very jealous.
Yeah, I recognize the sleeping a lot, just existing feels so tiring a lot of the time.
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2014-05-31, 01:43 PM (ISO 8601)
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... Yeah. Like, I follow my basic routine I go to work, I come home, I eat but it's... Hard. Doing anything is hard unless it's a lizard stimulus. I'll deal with things in front of me, but I won't seek them out, y'know? Music helps, though.
Here, Zorg. Have a thing. I tend to think of is because of the first line.
[Music]
I am a fan of Halestorm's covers
Think I'll send it to some people I know.
Aaah, you're just so frickin' cute! And I adore that outfit, very jealous.
Yeah, I recognize the sleeping a lot, just existing feels so tiring a lot of the time.Last edited by Zorg; 2014-05-31 at 01:44 PM.
Princess in the streets.
Princess in the sheets.
Don't touch me I'm royalty.
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2014-05-31, 01:47 PM (ISO 8601)
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Holy crap that picture Zorg!!!! I don't even want to wear feminine clothing and I want to wear that dress. Though I definitely could not pull it off anywhere near as well as you did.
I am sorry for the negative cloud following you right now, though. Silver lining though, are the female pronouns, so maybe focus on that and it might help dissipate that storm. Hugz if you would like them (I can't ever remember who likes them and who doesn't, so please don't take offense!)
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2014-05-31, 02:17 PM (ISO 8601)
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Aye, I've tried converting all my hobby urges into perfecting my Kung fu (currently, basic fitness) but small things, easy things, like drawing for a while, or a quick stretch or some weights for five minutes during a good, amped song, or maybe just some writing, can really help. Anything to keep the momentum going. To find the flow again.
Matt: aye. Reminds me of Bioshock infinite.
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2014-05-31, 02:29 PM (ISO 8601)
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*Gives Caroline big hugs*
Hey~
Hey Kitty~ *Hugs* ^_^
SpoilerHmm... I've been kind of meeting that in the middle by brushing my hair, then pulling it back from the sides into a loose ponytail with my normal part. Sometimes a bit will stick up until I smooth it out, and there's almost always a bunch of hairs at the base of my skull that stick out that don't get entirely covered up because the tail's higher. If I'm doing it because I just feel like it, though (instead of just needing it out of my face and/or something I'm working on), I like to leave a bit loose at the front and keep it behind my ear. X3
*Wonders if you have any advice on handling those base-of-skull hairs? Has been considering laying on her bed so gravity pulls it back, isn't sure if that'd work very well*
You look so fancy and cute. :D
And a life update:
SpoilerStill fighting depression, had a few like panic attacks and such, still not working but I'm on benefits now at least (been about 8 months since I was in hospital). My daughter moved away but she comes down and stays for a weekend every month now and a week during holidays, and she's using female pronouns with me so life's kind of going well in some ways.
Biggest problem is I sleep far too much, like 16 hours some days, just have no enthusiasm to get out of bed some days.
~Bianca
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2014-05-31, 02:44 PM (ISO 8601)
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Ok. This is a bit awkward to come out and ask, actually. I've made a new account just for it. This seemed like the best place for it, and I've been told that you guys are pretty knowledgeable. Just going to start it out slow.
How does one know if one is asexual?
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2014-05-31, 03:11 PM (ISO 8601)
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There's no checklist of criteria for asexuality, of course, but as someone who identifies as asexual myself, I'd recommend looking at this page.