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    I met a really awesome girl last night. Funny, witty, nice, we really hit it off, got on like a house on fire, there was some kissing involved.

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    I'm pretty sure I've had that exact dream before. You have my sympathies.
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    Out of curiosity, how long has it been since you went to see an eye doctor? Your prescription might have drifted without your knowledge.
    Nah, that's not the problem. Problem is that I never really learned the dimensions of my car. I have great trouble knowing where the edges of it are. It's not that I don't see things, or don't see them clearly, it's that I don't realise the far side of my car has got too close to them because I don't have an instinctive knowledge of how far out it goes.

    Oh well. I've booked another driving lesson with my old instructor, hopefully that'll help.
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    Thanks. I've lost cats too, and I know this would've been a very sensitive topic around that time. Willing to talk/try to explain views by PM, if you like.
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    It just seems wrong to me, though that's due to reasons we can't discuss here.
    Given how things have gone, I'm planning to just drop the subject..
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    First, I found this tonight on Imgur and as a straight guy, nerd, and Harry Potter fan, I can only imagine this is how it goes: http://imgur.com/gallery/EKh7T
    That was awesome!

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    I met a really awesome girl last night. Funny, witty, nice, we really hit it off, got on like a house on fire, there was some kissing involved.

    Then I woke up >_>
    I had a dream like that once. Except I was already married, and the woman in question wasn't my wife. And I knew that in the dream, and kept trying to get myself out of the situation. (As in, The Voice In My Head kept saying "this isn't right. This isn't {wife's name}! Stop it!")
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    Thanks for the hugs guys.

    Sorry, Togath. I didn't mean to upset anyone, just needed some hugs

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    Quote Originally Posted by CWater View Post
    (Also, I'm not going to even consider explaining demisexuality to someone who doesn't realize that asexuality is a thing, because I have an unpleasant expectation of how that would go..)
    I don't have much useful advice, but that's definitely a good idea.

    Quote Originally Posted by Irish Musician View Post
    First, I found this tonight on Imgur and as a straight guy, nerd, and Harry Potter fan, I can only imagine this is how it goes: http://imgur.com/gallery/EKh7T
    Heh, those two are great.

    Second, I have to put one of my cats down tomorrow so any hugs would be a nice thing. She is an old girl that have been with us for about 8 years now, but she is getting depressed and hurting and not coming out to see us much. I do love her and will miss her, but I know this is the best thing for her. I know this isn't LGBTA+ related....but I just needed some hugs.
    I'm sorry. *hugs* At least she won't be in pain anymore though, right?
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    Le goathugs to Irish :<


    I have an unconventional problem (sort of...I guess it's pretty conventional for trans girls but bleh). I need help identifying some heels. I've got two pictures for reference, but one's nsfw-ish and I can't share it here. Anybody know their shoes?

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    Normally, I really hate heeled shoes, but there are a couple kinds that appeal to me...this is one of them. Not knowing what they're called or where to find them is killing me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Heliomance View Post
    Nah, that's not the problem. Problem is that I never really learned the dimensions of my car. I have great trouble knowing where the edges of it are. It's not that I don't see things, or don't see them clearly, it's that I don't realise the far side of my car has got too close to them because I don't have an instinctive knowledge of how far out it goes.
    I have that problem when I borrow someone's Juke for errands. I'm used to driving a big-ass Jeep, so I keep overcompensating in parking spaces.
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    Sorry about the cat. I am just glad you could keep her for eight years.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jaycemonde View Post
    Le goathugs to Irish :<


    I have an unconventional problem (sort of...I guess it's pretty conventional for trans girls but bleh). I need help identifying some heels. I've got two pictures for reference, but one's nsfw-ish and I can't share it here. Anybody know their shoes?

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    Normally, I really hate heeled shoes, but there are a couple kinds that appeal to me...this is one of them. Not knowing what they're called or where to find them is killing me.

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    I have that problem when I borrow someone's Juke for errands. I'm used to driving a big-ass Jeep, so I keep overcompensating in parking spaces.
    Sorry, no idea on the shoes. I wouldn't mind seeing the NSFW picture, but I don't think it would help. I tried searching by type, but couldn't find anything. Is there maybe some hidden manufacturer's info on the inside?
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    Quote Originally Posted by golentan View Post
    Sorry, no idea on the shoes. I wouldn't mind seeing the NSFW picture, but I don't think it would help. I tried searching by type, but couldn't find anything. Is there maybe some hidden manufacturer's info on the inside?
    They aren't my shoes, I can't check. I want them, which is the problem. (although I'd never, ever find any my size, probably) They came from some online Japanese store or something, that's all I can really say about them.
    And I could probably send it to you if you're on Skype. It's not grossly nsfw.
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    That was more joke-y than anything else. Though if it's from an online store... If the image is actually used in the advertising, you could tineye it. That picture doesn't register, but maybe the other would?
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    Quote Originally Posted by golentan View Post
    That was more joke-y than anything else. Though if it's from an online store... If the image is actually used in the advertising, you could tineye it. That picture doesn't register, but maybe the other would?
    No, they aren't used in advertising. They were taken by the person who bought them and put up on their sideblog on Tumblr (which got nuked like six months ago).
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    [QUOTE=Jaycemonde;17904505]Le goathugs to Irish :<


    I have an unconventional problem (sort of...I guess it's pretty conventional for trans girls but bleh). I need help identifying some heels. I've got two pictures for reference, but one's nsfw-ish and I can't share it here. Anybody know their shoes?

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    Normally, I really hate heeled shoes, but there are a couple kinds that appeal to me...this is one of them. Not knowing what they're called or where to find them is killing me.

    Women's High Heel Oxford Saddle Shoes 4.5 inch.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Taet View Post
    Women's High Heel Oxford Saddle Shoes 4.5 inch.
    Oxford heels seem to come the closest, but these aren't anywhere near as clunky as all the ones I see from searching for any of those terms. They're also sort of an inverse pattern to the Oxford ones, where the raised/lowered surfaces are concerned.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jaycemonde View Post
    Oxford heels seem to come the closest, but these aren't anywhere near as clunky as all the ones I see from searching for any of those terms. They're also sort of an inverse pattern to the Oxford ones, where the raised/lowered surfaces are concerned.
    Wingtip instead of oxford gets thinner shoes. I do not know why. But the patterns have all been wrong so far. What I put first pulled up the right pattern.

    I think I got it! http://www.amazon.com/Funtasma-Pleas...20213&sr=1-159
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    Quote Originally Posted by taet View Post

    i think those are it!
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    *awkward Finnish hugs to Irish* That's never an easy decision and it must be hard. Try to remember the good things about her later.

    Quote Originally Posted by Athedia View Post
    Hugs, because it can be tough. I have been coming out in stages. When I told my mom things I used the "bi the way" formula in which I casually mention it and pretend nothing happens. Which always backfired so don't do it.

    When I told my dad I had us watch the documentary "Asexuality" which does have flaws but also gives a decent picture and a jumping off point, I started off my saying the school's Queer Support/Advocacy group suggested it and then told him after it was finished.
    Hm, a documentary might actually work at least somewhat (because if it's in television, it's got to be a real thing, right?). Unfortunately I don't think there is anything in Finnish available. My parents speak English relatively well, but wouldn't watch anything without Finnish subtitles.

    A lot of time there is a worry on the part of the parents that you will never be happy or find someone. Not that you need too, but I have found most parents want their kids to find a SO. You may want to assure them that you are healthy, happy and can fall in love. Even though those seem silly to say, my mom broke down crying once because she was afraid I wouldn't ever find love. Find an example to show them what being asexual is like, maybe ask them how they feel toward good friends of the same sex. Be ready for a LOT of questions, and for the questions to repeat. It will get frustrating but not many people know much about asexuality and by asking questions they are trying to help. They may lash out a little, mostly because they are frightened about your future (I experienced this a little), but just comfort them when this happens.

    Does that help at all?
    Thank you for the answer. And about finding love and being happy... Well, that is one of the key things really that I'd want them to understand. Hmm, how should I explain.. Um, see, I'm not sure if I am interested about this idea of finding a romance. If I could be with my ex, I would grab the chance in a heartbeat, but in general, I don't know if it's something I really want or long for in my life.. Can you say someone is demiromantic? I think that would apply to me.

    I guess what I mean is that I wish my parents would accept that I might well live my whole life 'alone' and be happy like that. If I run into another person that triggers same kind of emotions in me than my ex then that's great, but it's not something that would be necessary. Do I make sense?

    I really don't wish belittle the fact that romance can make you happy, and that for many people (proabably most) that is an essential part of their happiness. I hope I didn't sound like that.

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    I don't know if any of this will help, I don't know your parents and have zero personal experience with this. That said, I can try to share how I (as a vaguely romantic and vaguely sexual person) wrapped my head around the concept of asexuality/aromanticism…

    Food analogies seem to make sense to me, for some reason. Let’s say there’s a food (or drink) that most of your friends love, that you don’t care for at all - cheeseburgers, maybe, or brussel sprouts, or champagne. (For best effect, insert a food that you/your parents don’t care for here.) When this comes up, people say things like, "how can you not like cheeseburgers? Everyone likes cheeseburgers!" or "You’re really missing out, brussel sprouts are amazing" or "I bet you just haven’t found the right vintage yet." But you don’t feel like you’re missing out. You’ve tried these things, or maybe just smelled them, and they don't appeal. You like plenty of other things, like mixed greens and fruit juice and Chinese takeout. You’re fine with that, and sort of wish people would stop making such a fuss about it.

    Alternatively, you might try substituting a hobby or sport: football, gardening, skiing, horseback writing, chess. Many people enjoy these things, some people make them a central part of their lives, but very few people expect everyone to embrace their hobby, no matter how much they like it. They get that other people have differing interests. And most people can think of activities they find boring or actively repulsive.

    (These aren’t perfect analogies, obviously - hobbies and food are pretty superficial preferences compared to orientation and sexuality, and a lot of people would probably protest that they’re completely different - but they make sense to me, and might work for some other people too.)
    Thank you for the answer. Sigh, I'm afraid my mother is one of those people who would think sexuality is something so entirely different that you can't compare it to other things.. My father, hmm, I don't really know, maybe.

    I suspect Athedia is on to something when she mentions parents worrying about you not being happy. I mean, I can imagine worse reactions, but I feel this is a likely stumbling block for parents who are normally pretty progressive or supportive: they won’t reject you or refuse to believe you (hopefully), but they might be worried about it or think of it as a deficiency of some kind rather than just, you know, the way you are.
    True, I suppose. That is probably what my mother thinks.. It's just that I am so tired of my general lack of interest in these things to be treated as a somekind of deficiency that requires fixing. -_-

    There are a lot of fun and fulfilling things in the world, too many for anyone to experience in one lifetime. If you remove all the options that involve sex and/or romance... I’m pretty sure there’s still too many for one lifetime.
    This is actually exactly how I feel! ^_^ Those two are nice, but there's also so many other things you can fill your life with.

    (None of this helps with how to raise the topic in the first place, I know - I'd be equally stumped in your place.)
    No worries, I'll just have to figure something out. It's proabably going to be awkward, but you know, whatever. How I start is hopefully not important. :J

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    I don't have much useful advice, but that's definitely a good idea.
    Yeah, I would kind of like to talk about being demi, but... Yeah. Might be better not to.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CWater View Post
    Hm, a documentary might actually work at least somewhat (because if it's in television, it's got to be a real thing, right?). Unfortunately I don't think there is anything in Finnish available. My parents speak English relatively well, but wouldn't watch anything without Finnish subtitles.


    Thank you for the answer. And about finding love and being happy... Well, that is one of the key things really that I'd want them to understand. Hmm, how should I explain.. Um, see, I'm not sure if I am interested about this idea of finding a romance. If I could be with my ex, I would grab the chance in a heartbeat, but in general, I don't know if it's something I really want or long for in my life.. Can you say someone is demiromantic? I think that would apply to me.

    I guess what I mean is that I wish my parents would accept that I might well live my whole life 'alone' and be happy like that. If I run into another person that triggers same kind of emotions in me than my ex then that's great, but it's not something that would be necessary. Do I make sense?

    I really don't wish belittle the fact that romance can make you happy, and that for many people (proabably most) that is an essential part of their happiness. I hope I didn't sound like that.
    No, I get it. I was talking from my experience since I am biromantic. Still assuring them that this is what makes you happy is important. You make plenty of sense to me.

    I would stress the fact that your friendships are important to you. Again it will take multiple explanations, and sometimes it is helpful to start with the largest idea (asexuality) and move down (romantic orientation).
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    Quote Originally Posted by Athedia View Post
    No, I get it. I was talking from my experience since I am biromantic. Still assuring them that this is what makes you happy is important. You make plenty of sense to me.
    Okay, that's nice to hear.

    I would stress the fact that your friendships are important to you. Again it will take multiple explanations, and sometimes it is helpful to start with the largest idea (asexuality) and move down (romantic orientation).
    Good points, I'll add them to my list.
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    Sex makes everything confusing.

    It's also incredibly enjoyable.

    I hate feeling the need to be sexual, then getting crushed between that need and all my hangups and confusion. I'm not even with anyone, and I'm having problems.
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    So, bad news: I'm probably fired. The job was terrible though, plus I wasn't allowed to wear nail polish or even keep my earring in (???) so, hey.

    Good news: I met a very cute trans boy at a meetup on Wednesday, we started talking online on Thursday and I somehow managed to get a date to IKEA before I even realised he was flirting with me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Graustein View Post
    So, bad news: I'm probably fired. The job was terrible though, plus I wasn't allowed to wear nail polish or even keep my earring in (???) so, hey.

    Good news: I met a very cute trans boy at a meetup on Wednesday, we started talking online on Thursday and I somehow managed to get a date to IKEA before I even realised he was flirting with me.
    Food things, right? I wasn't allowed earrings and nail polish either, so while strange, it's standard practice.

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    Food things, right? I wasn't allowed earrings and nail polish either, so while strange, it's standard practice.

    And good luck on the date
    Nail polish can chip and be toxic, and earings fall out. It's standard practice in any food or health setting, any circumstance really where something that drops off you could wind up inside and agitating the innards of others.
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    People on HRT:

    Please tell me I won't always feel like this. Please tell me dysphoria goes away. There is a gilded yellow electricty beneath my skin. It sits on my meat like crawling beetles. My body is wrong. My skin is wrong. My everything is wrong. I feel like I've squeezed into a rubber suit too small for me. I feel like I will always feel this way. I feel uncomfortably masculine tucked behind lies and delusion. My body feels wrong I am worried it will always feel wrong. I've been on the edge of an anxiety attack for hours. I want to cry. I want to claw out my eyes and scream.

    Hitting walls is temporary relief. Feeling anything visceral blocks it out, scatters the bugs between me and the world. But they come back and there is an omnipresent psychic buzz. I am going crazy.

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    It just seems wrong to me, though that's due to reasons we can't discuss here.
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    Normally, I really hate heeled shoes, but there are a couple kinds that appeal to me...this is one of them. Not knowing what they're called or where to find them is killing me.

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    I have that problem when I borrow someone's Juke for errands. I'm used to driving a big-ass Jeep, so I keep overcompensating in parking spaces.
    I want to say stilleto heel, but I suppose I missed the point and you wanted brand and season.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SiuiS View Post
    People on HRT:

    Please tell me I won't always feel like this. Please tell me dysphoria goes away. There is a gilded yellow electricty beneath my skin. It sits on my meat like crawling beetles. My body is wrong. My skin is wrong. My everything is wrong. I feel like I've squeezed into a rubber suit too small for me. I feel like I will always feel this way. I feel uncomfortably masculine tucked behind lies and delusion. My body feels wrong I am worried it will always feel wrong. I've been on the edge of an anxiety attack for hours. I want to cry. I want to claw out my eyes and scream.

    Hitting walls is temporary relief. Feeling anything visceral blocks it out, scatters the bugs between me and the world. But they come back and there is an omnipresent psychic buzz. I am going crazy.
    If you're talking about the feeling of not being on HRT and having dysphoria, then yes, all hose feelings are things that I remember, bur were swallowed by the magnificent and deep calm that flooded in with the spiro and the ineffable joy of the estrogen. It really is amazing the difference. I almost don't remember myself sometimes from before the changeover, as though it was a different person who lived that dysphoric half-life, it's so different now...
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    So this is going to seem pretty minor compared to all of the ACTUAL persecution gay people face, and the discrimination and potential psychological issues a lot of trans-folks have, but...

    How the hell is an asexual guy supposed to date? I've tried not talking about it until the subject "comes up" (teehee) but then I just come off as untrustworthy; "if you wouldn't tell me this during the first date then what else are you keeping from me" and that kind of thing. But on the occasions where I "out myself" to my date early in the relationship, they've usually found it off-putting. I'm trying to figure out when the best time to bring it up might be, because it's caused the demise (or premature self-destruction) of several otherwise lovely relationships already. I'm not a terribly socially-adept guy to begin with, so figuring out the dating scene was never going to be easy, let alone with this particular wrinkle thrown in.
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    Quote Originally Posted by PhallicWarrior View Post
    So this is going to seem pretty minor compared to all of the ACTUAL persecution gay people face, and the discrimination and potential psychological issues a lot of trans-folks have, but...

    How the hell is an asexual guy supposed to date? I've tried not talking about it until the subject "comes up" (teehee) but then I just come off as untrustworthy; "if you wouldn't tell me this during the first date then what else are you keeping from me" and that kind of thing. But on the occasions where I "out myself" to my date early in the relationship, they've usually found it off-putting. I'm trying to figure out when the best time to bring it up might be, because it's caused the demise (or premature self-destruction) of several otherwise lovely relationships already. I'm not a terribly socially-adept guy to begin with, so figuring out the dating scene was never going to be easy, let alone with this particular wrinkle thrown in.
    Well personally I don't think I'd even consider dating someone unless they were a close friend, and my close friends know I'm asexual. But that's just me. I've never actually dated but it does seem like a problem. It would probably be best to get it out of the way early, just in case they're not okay with it. Or, I'm not sure how open you are about your orientation, but if many of your acquaintances knew about it you might be able to get a date with someone who has heard it already and is okay with it? Or even another ace person!

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    i think my girlfriend raped me last night and im so confused and i cant eat
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    i think my girlfriend raped me last night and im so confused and i cant eat
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    Seek help, immediately. If you're still living with her, seek other accommodations is my first advice: if the environment has become toxic...

    If you need someone to vent to, I'm available. But try to get local support. A friend, a coworker, social services, your college counselor, SOMEONE. If you think it's the right thing to do, go to the police. If you don't feel up to file a police report, at least get somewhere safe and be safe, okay?

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