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2014-12-25, 04:39 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
Oop. Wrong thread.
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2014-12-25, 04:55 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
It's from his "letter from Birmingham jail". Not sure if it's too political to post here considering it was just a few years ago and ancient historical politics are even sometimes problematic...
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2014-12-25, 05:05 PM (ISO 8601)
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2014-12-25, 05:13 PM (ISO 8601)
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I'm sorry your dad died of prostrate cancer. Mine died of bile duct. That doesn't mean I resent Transexuals getting a sex change because I wish that money had been spent on cancer research. That's a fairly spiteful way of looking at medicine and insurance providers if I am reading you right. Unless you are just talking about people lying about conditions rather than upset that insurance companies cover SRS.
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It was clearly said in jest.
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2014-12-25, 05:19 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
Clearly to you. In light of how often it's happened completely unironically, I tend to take zurvan's condemnations of LGBT matters at face value.
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2014-12-25, 05:24 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
Zurvan was saying he was crushing on one of the other acolytes and the other acolyte was male. I assumed that Z was using self-deprecating humor about his crush on said acolyte as opposed to sincerely condemning his own feelings. I could be wrong about his intentions or the context of the story, I suppose. The unholy thoughts thing I read as more talking about sexual thoughts during church in general as opposed to specifically talking about homosexual thoughts. That was just my reading, however.
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2014-12-25, 05:39 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
Hey there, the last couple pages contain quite a few posts that might dwell a little too into political and religious matters, so I suggest we turn to less charged topics.
@Mystic Muse and Asta Kask: not 100% what the point of the original question is, but if that's what we thought it is, it's not a good idea. Even if the medication might be identical for both conditions, the dosing might not be, and following (broadly) the principle that the dosing is what makes the poison, you might get in trouble (or at least not the results you're seeking).
I've said it a lot already, but I'll say it again: you're better off asking a health professional. If not IRL, do it somewhere on the Internet that allows it.
(And I'm not very hot personally on pretending to have a different disease/disorder than the one you actually have even if the intentions are very understandable. If I misunderstood the intentions, please accept my deepest apologies.)Originally Posted by on Dwarf Fortress succession gamesOriginally Posted by Dwarf Fortress 0.40.01 bugs
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2014-12-25, 06:15 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
I'm not interested in the actual letters of the man nor the actual civil rights movement. The quote was used because it addresses a similar context; the idea that supposed friends who are trying to protect their own interests as friends over the interests of the group they've friended are as bad or worse than open antagonists.
I point to the fact that an ally would completely shut down a line of conjecture because a technical point makes them look bad, and that it's a self fulfilling prophecy.
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2014-12-25, 07:31 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
I'm going to repeat a point I said earlier. There are different stages of debate and decision-making. When you're thinking and weighing options, that's a fine time for many opinions. Even hostile thoughts should be welcome at that time, imo because they help to understand the consequences of various decisions. That's the time for someone who claims to be an ally to urge caution, care, and moderation.
On the other hand, decisions can only be debated so long. Eventually, they are made. Whether they're individual ("I choose to come out") or group consensus ("the movement chooses to spend money on X thing"), there is a time when decisions must become action.
At that time, when options have already been weighed and action is happening, a person who claims to be an "ally" while opposing the action has ceased to be an ally. The person decrying the decision might still be right, keep in mind, they're simply no longer an ally.
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2014-12-25, 07:39 PM (ISO 8601)
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2014-12-25, 07:41 PM (ISO 8601)
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2014-12-25, 07:48 PM (ISO 8601)
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[For the record, it was basically entirely a question of curiosity. I have absolutely no intention of committing insurance fraud. I plan on getting HRT at some point in the near future , and have been debating what to tell my extended family is going on. I was basically lookimg for something else I could claim I have, but will avoid going that route and just see how many of them decide to cut me out entirely.
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2014-12-25, 07:52 PM (ISO 8601)
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2014-12-25, 08:06 PM (ISO 8601)
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2014-12-25, 08:21 PM (ISO 8601)
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2014-12-26, 01:20 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
It's probably better to be honest with family members anyway. If you make something up, all it takes is one person to do a little research into it and find some inconsistency, then they'll tell everyone else and they'll be more upset at you for lying than for what you're actually doing.
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2014-12-26, 01:48 AM (ISO 8601)
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2014-12-26, 02:17 AM (ISO 8601)
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It sounded like that to me, and there has been a tendency in the LGBTA support thread to think of doctors as antagonists, not as people who try to do their jobs. For instance, there was a person who had a potentially lethal condition that could be worsened by hormone treatment. The GP wanted to postpone treatment until a specialist had been consulted, and the person was understandably distraught and said this in the support thread. Most people there agreed that the doctor was indeed a mean meany-head and that this was an example of gatekeeping. That's an easy position to take if you don't have to face the possibility that your actions killed a patient. My parents were doctors and believe me, that's not something you just shrug off.
Did Mystic Muse imply that ze was going to fake a condition? I'm not the only one who thought that, and since there is a market for gender-changing rings at eBay, and people cavalierly shrug off the dangers of treating yourself with hormones purchased on the internet, it seems to me that there's a great deal of desperation in the trans community. I understand that desperation. I am not a stranger to mental agony. I still do not think that viewing doctors as antagonists or incompetents is a good idea.
However, I agree that I overreacted and I will apologize to Mystic_Muse.
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How do you know they are trying to protect their own interests, and aren't motivated by genuine concern? Are you a mind-reader?
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And I agree that I overreacted, and I am sorry about that. Prostate cancer seems to be main indication for men, breast cancer for women.
I am sorry that I caused this kerfuffle. Those of you who read the Random Banter thread know that I have been under a lot of pressure lately. Sometimes I crack. That is not an excuse, but it is an explanation.Last edited by Castaras; 2014-12-27 at 06:03 AM.
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2014-12-26, 02:35 AM (ISO 8601)
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I'm sorry that I posted vaguely enough that it came across that I was going to commit insurance fraud. It was honestly just curiosity combined with me wondering if there's anything I could BS my extended family into believing I had. Since there's not, that plan is getting abandoned.
This really should be so much easier and simpler than it's going to be.
Good thing I live a couple hundred miles away from most of them now, so even if there is a problem...Last edited by Mystic Muse; 2014-12-26 at 02:35 AM.
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2014-12-26, 02:44 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
The only other thing I can think of off-hand is dopamine antagonists, which can cause lactation and breast growth (I assume here you are MtF - if you are not then I apologize). Risperidone in particular is notorious for this, and it can be prescribed for anxiety or irritability in autistic children (or schizophrenia, but you may not want to say you have that). It would probably not be a first-hand treatment, but if you've tried many of the conventional drugs, and say that you are afraid of benzo because you feel you may get addicted... it would probably fly for a casual net inspection.
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2014-12-26, 02:47 AM (ISO 8601)
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2014-12-26, 02:59 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
1. This isn't about race. If you can't keep it abstract enough to not be political, don't bring it up.
2. It doesn't matter if the people asking for moderation "were right". There is no "were right". There is going to be stress and strife, end of story, full stop; you are causing social upheaval. That's not going away. It still needed to be done, and the poor reaction of the people who are in power and trying to stomp out change is not the fault of the oppressed. "Look what you made me do" has never been a valid excuse.
They didn't, but we can see that with the benefit of hindsight. What about controversial methods like raping white women to strike at the man? The leader of the Black Panthers thought this was a good method in his youth.
What if my mailman once thought poor people should be euthanized?
Do we ban PTAs and never admit they had a valid purpose? Do we eliminate the mail service?
You're not criticizing methods used. You're attacking people for bringing up something abstract because one time one jerk got the concrete expression wrong. And you're being over the top villain about it.
Third: The term you are looking for is pluralis majestatis. It is also called pluralis majestaticus and pluralis excellentiae. The general use of the term is called 'nosism'.
How do you know they are trying to protect their own interests, and aren't motivated by genuine concern?
If an ally is my ally only when I say nice things and don't want to actively make the world a better place, they're not my ally. They're dead weight trying to keep me from moving using guilt and manipulation. And as for other allies and antagonists? I will continue doig what I always advocate doing; assess the situation based on it's unique merits and decide then, rather than following a rule that may not apply.Last edited by SiuiS; 2014-12-26 at 03:02 AM.
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2014-12-26, 03:02 AM (ISO 8601)
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*shrug*
You will always have my passive support, but apparently my help is not wanted. I may not be an ally, but I will always be a friend.
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2014-12-26, 03:05 AM (ISO 8601)
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Your help is wanted, Anders. Baseless accusations, hyperbolic rhetoric, and shut downs to make a vague point is not help. It is not support. It is an attack.
That you would rather walk away indignant than critique your own methods is why I'm against having you critique someone else's so violently.Last edited by SiuiS; 2014-12-26 at 03:08 AM.
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2014-12-26, 03:31 AM (ISO 8601)
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Ok. Clarification time - your conditions for accepting my help are not compatible with my ideals about intellectual honesty. I think you are promoting a culture of groupthink and yes-mannishness (?). I would reserve the right to criticize idiotic ideas like "DIE CIS SCUM!"*. If that is not in keeping with your ideas for the movement then I cannot be an ally. If I have to accept that LGBTA people always know what is best for them, and are always above criticism then I must bow and take my leave.
*Incidentally, there were quite a number of trans people who agreed with me that this was a stupid idea. Do they also harm the movement? Are they also worse threats than a man with a non-trivial chance of becoming in 2012, who won the Iowa caucus and is running again in 2016? Because that attitude would risk setting some really nasty human emotions in motion. You may have to think about the term 'purge' in a non-trans context.Avatar by CoffeeIncluded
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2014-12-26, 04:27 AM (ISO 8601)
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Good lord, the point is that questioning has a time and a place. If you do it in a safe space and have open discussion, it's fine. If you call someone out in the middle of a hostile environment, you are harming them. Use your head, and stop talking about intellectual honesty. Nobody is telling you not to think, they're telling you that being an ally means that sometimes what you think is best has to take a back seat to supporting people.
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A clarification I think might help: when we talk about allies, are we talking about being an ally to a whole movement or concept (e.g. Civil rights, trans people should be treated with respect) or to a specific group or organisation (e.g. The black panthers, a specific trans person you disagree on something with? That is, is it possible to be an ally to the civil rights cause while not being an ally to the Black Panthers? To be an LGBT ally, do I have to stay silent if a trans person attacks a friend of mine for being cis or be cast out as the enemy?
There was an article a while ago that discussed this without drawing a distinction in the article itself, but when an argument flared up clarified in the comments that what she meant was that if you disagree strongly with what *she* said on a regular basis you should remove yourself as an ally to *her*, but that didn't mean you could no longer be an ally to the cause in general and/or to other sections of the movement. Do you also make this distinction?The Iron Avatarist Hall of Fame!
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2014-12-26, 05:01 AM (ISO 8601)
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I agree with you. I distinguish any person or group and I think one can be an ally or friend to some while not being to others, including helping a movement while antagonizing people in it or vice versa. I'm not sure which one we're talking about as a group though. The original question from a couple pages back was about being a general movement ally, so that maybe? But we've kinda shifted now.
Regardless, I think the mechanism is the same. Whether the collective decision of a movement or the individual decision of a person, there is a time for questioning and debate, and a time when a decision has been made, for better or for worse.