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Thread: Relationship Woes and Advice
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2007-07-25, 07:24 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice
First, I wish I could give you all hugs. When I woke up this morning and saw my PM box I about cried when I read your stuff. :) I couldn't ask for a better bunch.
Yah, something changed. Everything was going really well yesterday, as I said. Then late last night he suddenly tries asking who told me again.
It devolved fast. I may have said somethings that I shouldn't have, but it was definitely provoked. He said he thought someone was trying to eff him and come between us. He also said I hide stuff from him, and when I asked when, he said I never answer him about "real stuff". Evidently all I talk about his video games, anime, music, and situations and people that aren't real...
Uh huh, yah. That's totally true when I can come up with at least three specific instances where it isn't, and he couldn't come up with any. He said at one point I was being mean, but I also told him that once he could treat me like a friend he could call me. He said he'd moved on, because it seemed like I didn't care since I did it over AIM. First I told him, well he had asked me out AND said I loved you over AIM, did those not matter? Then I said I care, but I'm not going to fall apart over someone who hans't shown me that they care.
It ended with me saying I had to go, and him finishing off with saying whoever is trying to screw him is trying to screw me too, and I will see that he is really the good guy and was trying to protect us both.
So...I'm not going to be on AIM much until after the test. I can deal with it if he feels like hammering this out later, but not now. And I'm really considering just cutting off the friendship all together. He did not treat me right at all last night, even for a friend.
*shakes head* I didn't see this coming. I thought it was ok, he hadn't seemed like anything was bothering him when we had talked. So what do you guys think, give it up as lost and that he would keep doing stuff like this, or try once the weekend hits? My mom, sis, and her boyfriend are all rooting for the not being friends thing.
Cheers,
SykaShow me how pretty the world is
'Cause I envy the way that you move
Show me how pretty the world is
'Cause I want something a little bit louder
Show me how pretty the world is
'Cause you're brilliant when you try
Show me how pretty the whole world is tonight
-Matt Nathanson "Pretty the World"
Various Syka-Foxes done by the wonderful Ceika
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2007-07-25, 07:38 AM (ISO 8601)
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(1d20+1)[2] -sense motive on Ex...Drat. >_<
Aw, geez Syka...that's rough. Nothing like someone dragging these things out to make them more painful. If you want my opinion based upon what you've said, I think you ought to leave it up to him. Stay away for a while. If he's fixated on only some sort of romantic relationship, and you find him unattractive for reasons beyond what other people have told you (This seems increasingly to be the case...), then you've got to make it clear to him that romance is not what you want from him. Either he'll have to deal with it and tone things down, or I think you'll have to part company on a sour note.
Sometimes I wish us guys weren't so persistent about these things.
We really ought to realize that we aren't the leading man in a romantic film or show, and just being persistent will NOT win you the lady-type.
*Hugs*If there's nothing out there, then what was that noise?
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2007-07-25, 07:41 AM (ISO 8601)
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No one reads these topics
I just thought I'd point out before anyone gets restart or lock happy, that Syka intends to restart the thread when she gets back.
"My Hobby: Replacing your soap with gravy" by rtg0922, Doll and Clint "Rawhide" Eastwood by Sneak
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2007-07-25, 07:43 AM (ISO 8601)
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Yes they Do Rawhide
Ah, I'll take my hand off the restart button.
Last edited by Death, your friend the Reaper; 2007-07-25 at 07:43 AM. Reason: It's the eidting area no one reads.
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2007-07-25, 07:49 AM (ISO 8601)
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2007-07-25, 07:56 AM (ISO 8601)
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2007-07-25, 08:21 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice
So you are angry because you got dumped and claim that she was exploiting you.
So your plan is to be exploitive back? To get revenge?
If it is wrong for her to do it to you, than why does it become right for you to do it? Life is not a soap opera!! Do not treat it like one.
SpoilerLast edited by mudbunny; 2007-07-25 at 08:24 AM.
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2007-07-25, 09:07 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice
Spoiler
No-one likes it when people they care about don't show any signs of caring in return.
That is one of the things that comes along with being a functioning member of society. You need to show feelings and emotions for the people around you. If you care about someone, you need to let them know. And not just by words, but also by your actions and demeanor.
To be apathetic towards someone indicates to them that you don't feel anything towards them. That they don't register enough in your mind for you to even care, one way or another, about them.
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2007-07-25, 09:55 AM (ISO 8601)
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2007-07-25, 10:04 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice
@Syka
I think your ex- needs a little time alone before you give up on anything all together. It sounds like right now he's just searching for someone to lay the blame on.. and he hasn't had enough time to figure out that it was his own doing. Just try to remember he's hurtin' now too.Last edited by magicwalker; 2007-07-25 at 10:09 AM.
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2007-07-25, 11:14 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice
Well, it doesn't help I've got my mom telling me she's shocked that I even wanted to remain friends with him in the first place.
I'm really not sure after that though. I have done nothing wrong, and for him to say that stuff was extremely hurtful, especially when he was trying to place the blame on me. Bully for him, that he's hurting. He's the one that's hid stuff. I've never acted accusatory toward him, I've only ever asked questions and expected honesty. He knows if he's truthful, I'm generally not going to get mad, but if he hides stuff...Yah, I'll get mad. He knows that from experience.
*shakes head*
Thanks all. I'll put the link in here to the new thread.
Cheers,
Syka
NEW THREADLast edited by Syka; 2007-07-25 at 11:17 AM.
Show me how pretty the world is
'Cause I envy the way that you move
Show me how pretty the world is
'Cause I want something a little bit louder
Show me how pretty the world is
'Cause you're brilliant when you try
Show me how pretty the whole world is tonight
-Matt Nathanson "Pretty the World"
Various Syka-Foxes done by the wonderful Ceika