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Thread: Relationship Woes and Advice
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2007-05-04, 07:53 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice
I lost.
Probably made a fool of myself too...Last edited by Closet_Skeleton; 2007-05-04 at 07:53 AM.
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When a man decides another's future behind his back, it is a conspiracy. When a god does it, it's destiny.
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2007-05-04, 07:59 AM (ISO 8601)
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Don't feel sorry for yourself. If she can't understand that you were taking a leap, and doing something hard for you to actually compliment her, and she wasn't flattered, she is not worth your time.
But you probalby shouldn't take advice from me when it comes to asking out women. My record isn't exactly good when it comes to these things.
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2007-05-04, 08:19 AM (ISO 8601)
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She might have turned you down, but that's not a "loss"; yeah, it's a drag, but at least you know one person to stop wasting your time on.
Besides, you never know. In a few months, she might call you up and say, "Remember that letter you gave me...?" Or not.
And making a fool of yourself? Might as well get used to it, you're a human and will be doing it for the rest of your life.
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2007-05-04, 10:57 AM (ISO 8601)
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I agree with El Jaspero. Bad luck, I'm sure you can live with it though, and at least you now know what she thinks about a relationship of you. Think of it as freedom from at least one crush
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2007-05-04, 11:32 AM (ISO 8601)
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Dammit, dammit, dammit!!! *headdesk* !!!!!!!
I had the perfect opportunity!! She lead me over to an out of the way tree, but not too out of the way... she even told our friend who was walking with us to go wait over there (where everyone else was)... and I didn't do it!! DAMMIT!!! Now I gotta wait till Tuesday before I can even see her again (stupid Bank Holiday!!)!!!!
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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2007-05-04, 11:34 AM (ISO 8601)
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2007-05-04, 11:39 AM (ISO 8601)
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I sort of realised what she was doing... but its kinda blurry now... and I think I don't think it was all down to chickening out... I actually had no idea what to say...
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2007-05-04, 12:20 PM (ISO 8601)
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In caps to help you remember; "WOULD YOU LIKE TO GO OUT WITH ME THIS WEEKEND?"
Why do people need to complicate this? It's a first date. You don't need a plan, All you need is a question. The plan can come later when you've had a chance to come down off the high caused by the question.Avatar by Sneak - The Midnight Son by CeikaNo more a lone wolf, The Midnight Son rides again.Give thanks ye mortals, for he rides on the wings of an angel.Spoiler
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2007-05-04, 12:22 PM (ISO 8601)
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The thing I always remember is that if I'm confident about asking, and I ask almost casually, then she'll be a lot less concerned with saying "yes." Just make sure that you're not visibly shaking; the few moments before you do it, take a few deep, deep breaths, and close your eyes. Try to slow your heartbeat down. Breathe. Relax your posture. Lean against something if you can.
Everything will work, trust me. :DDruid-Ninjatar by the sensuous Serpentine.
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2007-05-04, 01:51 PM (ISO 8601)
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oh... yes... I see what's happening here... its the whole 'when dating cultures collide' thing... lol...
I'm gonna say culture cos I'm not really sure how else to put it... its effectively what you do where I live in secondary school... You dont technically need to ask someone if they wanna meet up at the weekend... you just ask them out as in 'Will you go out with me?' which means will you be my bf/gf? so you know... thats why its difficult... there's no inbetween... its just that one question...
EDIT: damn slow internet connection messing things up! cheers guys... I'll try out Ranis' idea and also whoever mentioned chocolate as wellLast edited by Dib; 2007-05-04 at 02:31 PM.
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2007-05-04, 05:37 PM (ISO 8601)
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Last edited by Closet_Skeleton; 2007-05-04 at 05:37 PM.
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2007-05-04, 05:39 PM (ISO 8601)
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2007-05-04, 06:04 PM (ISO 8601)
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You're sure she was the one who had her dad do it? Given the way my stepfather acts, I would not be surprised at all to hear he did the same to someone who was wanting to date my little sister. If she did.. well, yeah, you're only option is to just drop it and move on. If it was her dad, you still have to do the same, but at least you can feel better knowing that it was a highly overprotective father who was responsible.
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2007-05-04, 07:05 PM (ISO 8601)
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Dude, if it's not a first date, what's the effin problem? You like her. You know she likes you. Again, it comes down to a question. If you're not sure what to say, see your own post. It's as easy as, "Will you go out with me?"
Relationships are complicated, folks. Gettin' into them?...not so much.Avatar by Sneak - The Midnight Son by CeikaNo more a lone wolf, The Midnight Son rides again.Give thanks ye mortals, for he rides on the wings of an angel.Spoiler
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2007-05-04, 08:45 PM (ISO 8601)
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2007-05-05, 12:21 AM (ISO 8601)
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How many times have you asked the question I mentioned above. I'm not saying I've been stellar at it myself in recent years, but I did just fine for myself in my twenties. All it takes is asking that one question. If she says no, then what are you out? If she says yes, then you've gained. As my mother used to say, "You'll never catch any fish if your hook's not in the water." Of course, she always said it while we were out fishing and caught us messing around instead of fishing, but the point's still valid.
Edit: Just noticed you mentioned second dates. I'm talkin' about first ones. The second one is up to you, sorry. That's where the "relationships are complicated" part comes in.Last edited by Midnight Son; 2007-05-05 at 12:24 AM.
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2007-05-05, 01:09 AM (ISO 8601)
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Dib, if it helps any.... I've found my 'asking out technique' has improved greatly since I started thinking of it as akin to taking off a plaster. There's an initila moment of doubt, the thought that maybe the situation will work itself out to your benefit on its own. Then a couple of seconds discomfort as you start followed by the relief of knowing an anwser is imminent.
I'm not saying its massively improved my success with getting into relationships... but thats partly because I have a set of standards about how I need to feel about them and veiw them, due to some really bad choices made in the past. And the last young lady who said yes I've seen once in the two months after, kept in resonable text contact with and now she's in parts, foreign for about 10 weeks.
In dating, victory is a sliding scale, and you need to work out how far your willing to slide.
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2007-05-05, 01:17 AM (ISO 8601)
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2007-05-05, 01:53 AM (ISO 8601)
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Heavy stuff guys, I can't even get a girlfriend. Havn't really tried though. I'm only fifteen though, so plenty of time ay?
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2007-05-05, 01:54 AM (ISO 8601)
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2007-05-05, 01:55 AM (ISO 8601)
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not many chicks in the seventh dimension though, just a boys high school and a comic book shop. Just my luck.
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2007-05-05, 01:57 AM (ISO 8601)
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Alara, your lucky. I have nil contact with the female of the species. All I have is my drama class, and no one would go out with me there. At least I think?
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2007-05-05, 02:21 AM (ISO 8601)
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2007-05-05, 02:27 AM (ISO 8601)
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Hmm, I have a serious question for you people here...
I've been dating this girl from basically the beginning of this school year (which is about 8-9 months) and we quite close to one another even before then.
However, today she told me "I'm calling no contact" (I had given her a light peck on the cheek earlier that morning and had gotten a negative reaction) after asking me, "we're leaving each other next year [and probably never see each other again], right?" This was after me asking her why she gave me a negative reaction that morning.
Has she just given me the "let's just be friends" speech?
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2007-05-05, 02:42 AM (ISO 8601)
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yeah, I think she's just trying to save herself from heart break, I'm sure she's messed up about it to.
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2007-05-05, 02:45 AM (ISO 8601)
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OK, my turn.
I have very little contact with girls and it's starting to get me down that everyone else has dated. I'm only fifteen and I know that it doesn't really matter, but I'd like to try it out. Any tips?
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2007-05-05, 03:48 AM (ISO 8601)
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I will be the world's biggest hypocrite, since I find myself incapable of following my own advice.
Be confidant, not arrogant.
Be honest, but not painfully so.
Be open to communication, not stubborn.
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2007-05-05, 04:05 AM (ISO 8601)
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Vuzzmop, the best advice I've EVER been given on dating (or rather, how to get one) was by a female freind. Go to places you enjoy. If you don't like clubbing, hate coffee shops and can't STAND fashion, night clubs, coffee shops and clothe's shops are REALLY bad places to look for a date because even if she says yes, the chance's you'll have a lot in common are SLIM.
As for the odd 'guys looking to get into relationships, girls looking for advice on their relationships' thing.... I know for me a large part of it is where I live. Oxfordshire (the original, UK one) has a much higher male to femal population ratio. I think a big part of this is to do with the uni and the local research facilities, which tend to have a very male presence in the city (talking to freinds at uni, its clear most of their lecturers are men, same goes for all the labs, pretty much all you seem of them is men in white coats).
There fore single women are a 'rare commoditity' with out trying to be to sexist, and tend to have a number of men they can pick and choose from.
It would be interesting to hear from women who live in places where they out number the men.
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2007-05-05, 04:06 AM (ISO 8601)
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Thanks man, good tips.
Also, anyone wanting to share their feelings, go to my thread, "vuzzmop is lonely, how are you feeling?" and vent to your hearts content
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2007-05-05, 04:09 AM (ISO 8601)
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Hey Bayushi, they say that NZ is going through a man drought, if your looking for eligible bachalorettes, look no further.