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2016-07-29, 08:54 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #58 Infinity 2.0: The Darth Arminius Apology Thread
Am I allowed to chuckle at that? Because your mom sounds hilariously ignorant. But! She also seems like she loves you and is understanding, so while she might know jack and squat, you can teach her and she'll accept it.
So I'm happy for you. It sounds like you have someone who'll support you, even if they aren't 100% sure how.
You do deserve nice things. You're a nice woman. I wish I could do more than just reassure you, but at least have some e-hugs. *Sends e-hugs your way.*I have a LOT of Homebrew!
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2016-07-29, 09:31 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #58 Infinity 2.0: The Darth Arminius Apology Thread
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2016-07-29, 09:32 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #58 Infinity 2.0: The Darth Arminius Apology Thread
I have a LOT of Homebrew!
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2016-07-29, 09:37 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #58 Infinity 2.0: The Darth Arminius Apology Thread
Yeah, it may take a while for it to percolate through her understanding, bit by bit, especially the more advanced concepts. Thankfully, if she's willing to take the time with you, then you should reach a point where there's a functional understanding eventually with patience.
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2016-07-30, 11:19 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #58 Infinity 2.0: The Darth Arminius Apology Thread
*flops into the thread*
Hi thread. I'm just really tired right now. My girlfriend went in for surgery the other day (which went fine, she is fine, everything is fine), but it has several weeks of recovery time, so I'm out at work during the day, and playing nurse at home at night (and not the fun kind). She's not unwell, but she has a limited range of motion, and she needs a lot of help with basic things like lifting, moving, dressing, bathing...I've had to worry about wrangling unreliable friends and relatives to come and visit her while I'm out, and she's so sensitive in bed that I'm not getting much sleep, and I know things will be better in a few days...but right now I'm just so tired.
I'm glad nether of us ever wants to be a mom, because dear lord this probably still isn't as bad as having a child, and I simply couldn't handle that. Maternal instinct be damned, I would eat it.
*AliceLost keels over and starts accepting hugs*My awesome avatar by the lovely "the_fennecfox"
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2016-07-30, 11:20 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #58 Infinity 2.0: The Darth Arminius Apology Thread
I have a LOT of Homebrew!
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2016-07-31, 12:34 AM (ISO 8601)
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2016-07-31, 12:40 AM (ISO 8601)
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2016-08-01, 10:45 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #58 Infinity 2.0: The Darth Arminius Apology Thread
I hope she gets well soon, and I hope you got some sleep last night on the air mattress!
Also, can I just say, that is both an amazing name and an amazing Avatar. Alice is one of my fav books and cartoon movies (though the more recent one I think they did a good job on too). Just wanted to say how awesome your name and avatar was
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2016-08-01, 07:01 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #58 Infinity 2.0: The Darth Arminius Apology Thread
Aww, thank you. I've always felt a kinship with the character, I suppose partly because of my name, partly because the world is often a confusing place. (Also there was an old TV movie starring Kate Beckinsale as Alice that played a formative role in my sexual awakening )
the_fennecfox did a great job with the avatar, I was super happy with it!
I've had a bit more sleep, and had a bit less to do today, so I'm feeling a bit less dead, although it'll still be a while before things are back to normal. I'm not the best nurse in the world .My awesome avatar by the lovely "the_fennecfox"
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2016-08-01, 08:07 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #58 Infinity 2.0: The Darth Arminius Apology Thread
No one cares. Cutting used to be a thing and I never got help for it. . . this is just weird to be thirty two and for no one to care. . . like I'm stuck in High School.
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2016-08-01, 11:33 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #58 Infinity 2.0: The Darth Arminius Apology Thread
I'm also playing nurse to my husband right now. He got surgery on his foot, a bad abscess, they were going to amputate but managed to save his foot, but he's got a long recovery in front of him because the surgery was still pretty extensive, even though they manage to save the bones.
Anyway, my point is, I totally sympathize. Playing nurse is difficult. And I have the luxury of being able to take a break from work as I nurse him, so considering how tired I am I can't imagine how exhausted you must be. AND he has neuropathy in his foot, so he's not in pain. (Which is great, but at the same time, the reason why it got so bad in the first place).
Anyway, hang in there, It's awesome that you're there for her, and I hope she recovers well and that you get to rest better, and relax. I have been doing everything I can to find ways to relax (meditating, lots of reading) while still being "on call" if he needs me, and it has helped a lot. Maybe you can find something that helps you relax and escape the responsibilities now and then, too?
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2016-08-02, 02:06 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #58 Infinity 2.0: The Darth Arminius Apology Thread
Thank you, that actually means a lot. I'm not actually great at being nurturing and caring for someone...I need a lot of space and me time, and when I can't control when I get it, it stresses me out. I don't feel like a great nurse, or even a great girlfriend, right now.
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2016-08-02, 08:56 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #58 Infinity 2.0: The Darth Arminius Apology Thread
My kinship has always been with the Cheshire Cat (which I actually played in a show in college, so much fun), but Alice has always been a big fav of mine. (and I'm with you on the Kate thing, she is the one who made me realize I'm definitely not gay. There was a confusing time for a bit, but she pretty much hit the nail on the head there).
The fact that you are even taking care of her, and trying to do your best and sacrificing your own immediate relaxation and happiness, says something to your character and person. Being a good partner isn't always about always being happy or everything going correctly for everyone all the time. The fact that you are putting her needs first is part of what makes a good partner (I'm using partner here because it isn't just restricted to girlfriends, or boyfriends, or husbands, or wives, or whatever else people might decide they are to each other). So you both seem to be luck ladies to have found each other.My Extended Signature, Check it out!
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2016-08-02, 12:11 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #58 Infinity 2.0: The Darth Arminius Apology Thread
Aw. I'm sorry to hear your husband had that, but good thing they managed to save the foot! Best of luck in your nursing, and best wishes to you and husband!
Seconding what Irish said. You're putting your girlfriend first-that's being the best partner you can be.I have a LOT of Homebrew!
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2016-08-03, 04:12 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #58 Infinity 2.0: The Darth Arminius Apology Thread
*breaks down and cries*
I'm just so bad at this. I'm so tired, and it doesn't even feel like I'm getting that much done. I snapped at her today, and made her cry, and now I'm the one lying in bed, and I'm just so... useless.
Fortunately, she's recovering quickly, and we have lots of friends who have been supportive and helpful, and everything is getting done, and she appreciates me, and everything is fine.
But I'm still lying in bed crying and feeling like a failure who can't even make lunch for her sick girlfriend...My awesome avatar by the lovely "the_fennecfox"
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2016-08-03, 04:45 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #58 Infinity 2.0: The Darth Arminius Apology Thread
::offers hugs::
Times like these can always be a hard time for a relationship, snaps are to be expected. But, to misquote someone whose name escapes my mind, "Don't be sad because it happened, be happy because it's over."
And given that you tried to make lunch for her, I know it's a similarly old chestnut, but it's the thought that counts. Trying and failing to make lunch is so much better than just not trying at all.
And if you care so much about your girlfriend that you feel so bad about this, you're clearly not a failure.Spoiler: things in which I used to be involved before i was claimed by the great pestilence of examsThe One Sane Drow (Vergil: Drow Sorcerer 5, CN)
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2016-08-03, 04:47 PM (ISO 8601)
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2016-08-03, 06:21 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #58 Infinity 2.0: The Darth Arminius Apology Thread
Hey Alice, sorry to hear you're going through such a stressful time. It's times like these that really challenge a relationship, but they can also strengthen them once you're one the other side of the situation as long as you hang in there. She's lucky to have you.
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2016-08-03, 07:54 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #58 Infinity 2.0: The Darth Arminius Apology Thread
Have you heard of the ring theory of support? Comfort in, Dump out? Here is an article about it. Find your own support network, get support from them (actually that might be us, come to think of it :P But you probably need less anonymous support too, like friends and family) and you'll be able to comfort her better without dumping your stress on her.
Maybe call people if you can't see them in person. Chat about your stress. Feel better. You're still human, you can't be expected to always be fine just because she needs you. You can dump it, just preferably not on her. And if you snap a bit, just say you're sorry and do your best going forward. She'll understand and I'm sure she's very grateful to you either way.
*hugs*
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2016-08-03, 09:05 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #58 Infinity 2.0: The Darth Arminius Apology Thread
Thanks for the advice; it's basically what I am doing with you kind internet folks. I'm fortunate to have a good support network to help with difficulties, but it's also therapeutic to have an outlet for negative emotions in the outermost rings of the ring theory. Sometimes, you don't want or need people to actually help, you just need to be able to vent your emotions and have people who are sympathetic and willing to listen. It's nice to be able to complain from time to time without people who know both of us worrying about our relationship or trying to fix things.
So I appreciate anonymous internet people willing to listen, it really is the help that I'm looking for.
Thank you, y'all.My awesome avatar by the lovely "the_fennecfox"
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2016-08-04, 02:07 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #58 Infinity 2.0: The Darth Arminius Apology Thread
So an amusing thought occurred to me in the shower. Way back when, I auditioned to be Harry Potter in the films. Got a fair way through the selection process, too. Can you imagine the media furore a few years later, if I'd got it?
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2016-08-04, 02:22 AM (ISO 8601)
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2016-08-04, 09:55 AM (ISO 8601)
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2016-08-04, 10:21 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #58 Infinity 2.0: The Darth Arminius Apology Thread
I have a LOT of Homebrew!
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2016-08-04, 11:38 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #58 Infinity 2.0: The Darth Arminius Apology Thread
That would have been amusing, especially if you had still ended up nerdy and posting here.
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2016-08-04, 01:31 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #58 Infinity 2.0: The Darth Arminius Apology Thread
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2016-08-04, 02:20 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #58 Infinity 2.0: The Darth Arminius Apology Thread
So in the self revelation department..
Planning a camping trip with the family, with my niece. Had an internal monologue along the lines of "So this is totally a girl trip? No, my husband is a guy, and my niece is nonbinary, so we have one of each between the three of us.... ..... .... . Crap, I'm a girl, aren't I?"
I still have no clue what "feeling feminine" or "feeling masculine" is, though."We were once so close to heaven, Peter came out and gave us medals declaring us 'The nicest of the damned'.."
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2016-08-04, 03:47 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #58 Infinity 2.0: The Darth Arminius Apology Thread
My Extended Signature, Check it out!
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2016-08-04, 04:57 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #58 Infinity 2.0: The Darth Arminius Apology Thread
If only we lived in the world of Harry Potter... Magic would be so useful.
Also, damn. It woulda been so cool to have been able to do that. The only thing I have with that kind of brush with acting was being on vacation and driving through the Badlands while they were filming Starship Troopers. They needed some kids to fill in ranks of extras, but I was just a bit too young to sign the releases to be in a movie. Ah, well.
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