LGBTAI+ #58 Infinity 2.0: The Darth Arminius Apology Thread

[ArlEammon]

Of course. Feel free to speak your mind.

PM maybe? :D

[lio45]

FWIW, I'm perfectly willing to be a listening ear too, if it can help. (I was also kinda wondering why you abruptly cut off the PMing that we had happened to start a little while ago; I don't think I said anything that should've scared you off...? I did try my best to offer helpful, constructive advice.)

[Kittenwolf]

As someone who did it recently for a few weeks, I can say that going off and back on hormones can be weird, though sometimes it does make you realise just how much of an effect they have (yay moods?).
But that was me specifically and only a low dosage, and hormones tend to affect everyone differently.
*offers hugs*

Hi everyone else! Just on my tram to work so haven't been able to read through the whole thread yet, I hope everyone is doing well :)

Also, wanted to share a couple of pics of new shiny things that arrived yesterday, though yes, the hoodie is way too big!

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[JNAProductions]

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Cutie is cutie. Looking great, KW!

[Kittenwolf]

Cutie is cutie. Looking great, KW!

'Cutie'? Now you're just trying to make me blush! :)
Not too much pink? I've never actually owned anything pink in my life before this :P

[AliceLost]

'Cutie'? Now you're just trying to make me blush! :)
Not too much pink? I've never actually owned anything pink in my life before this :P

Girl, as long as you want it, there's never such a thing as too much pink.

[golentan]

Girl, as long as you want it, there's never such a thing as too much pink.

'Cutie'? Now you're just trying to make me blush! :)
Not too much pink? I've never actually owned anything pink in my life before this :P

I don't know if that's true. You could in theory have so much pink that it obscures your facial features under an enamel pink shellac, causing you to suffocate.

In this case, though, the amount of pink seems plenty reasonable.

[Kittenwolf]

I don't know if that's true. You could in theory have so much pink that it obscures your facial features under an enamel pink shellac, causing you to suffocate.

In this case, though, the amount of pink seems plenty reasonable.

That.. sounds quite terrifying.
I'm imagining a pink shellac beetle carapace kind of thing, but sealed like a statue...

[JNAProductions]

'Cutie'? Now you're just trying to make me blush! :)
Not too much pink? I've never actually owned anything pink in my life before this :P

MWAHAHAHAH! My plan is complete! You have blushed, and now, you are my minion for taking over the world! MWAHAHAHAHAH!

Or, you know, it was just a compliment. One of those two. :P

And I think the amount of pink is just fine.

[Asmodean_]

Personally I don't have anything much against the colour pink, I just think that's not a very photogenic skirt. IMHO it looks like a cardigan tied around the waist.

[noparlpf]

Oh, neat. Just got an email from school (Tufts vet) asking us to fill out a form with our legal name, preferred name, pronouns, and any dietary restrictions so they can plan orientation next week.

"We ask that ALL students send us confirmation of how you would like your name to appear on your name tag for orientation. The name you use at orientation and during your time at Cummings need not correspond with your legal name, and we encourage students to introduce themselves as they would like to be addressed. We also encourage students to share with us the pronouns by which they would like to be referred. We ask that all students consider sharing their pronouns on their name tags, if they feel comfortable doing so, so that we don’t make assumptions about your identity based on your name or appearance."

[Lissou]

That's really neat, noparlpf!

[Xihirli]

Oh, neat. Just got an email from school (Tufts vet) asking us to fill out a form with our legal name, preferred name, pronouns, and any dietary restrictions so they can plan orientation next week.

"We ask that ALL students send us confirmation of how you would like your name to appear on your name tag for orientation. The name you use at orientation and during your time at Cummings need not correspond with your legal name, and we encourage students to introduce themselves as they would like to be addressed. We also encourage students to share with us the pronouns by which they would like to be referred. We ask that all students consider sharing their pronouns on their name tags, if they feel comfortable doing so, so that we don’t make assumptions about your identity based on your name or appearance."

That sounds nice.

[JusticeZero]

My supervisor came out to me with gushing squeeing and cheer and conversation, with what seemed like a 'zomg another queer person in the office I can talk to yay!' sort of thing. A bit confusing since I am still hazy as to exactly how she found out about this fact at that particular moment, mind. Not that I am being secretive, I even put 'female' on an internal application for a job (I didn't get it, btw) that I had interviewed for that day. Apparently it had something to do with both of us giving different boilerplates to the head of HR for an updated trans protection clause. Still, she met with someone else then came back gushing and wording things in a way that felt like it was a continuation of a conversation I wasn't actually present for, which is a bit disorienting. Hopefully I wasn't especially put off by it.

Still... no... damned.. word.. from.. the.. endo... *eyetwitch* Seriously, I have been trying to get in to talk to one since October. At this point, I would pay cash to see a doctor outside of the system to get the starting prescription, just to force some movement.

[Asmodean_]

I think I need someone to talk to over PM regarding religion and an LGBT friend. Any takers?

[YossarianLives]

I think I need someone to talk to over PM regarding religion and an LGBT friend. Any takers?

My inbox is open, though I'm not always the best at giving advice.

[JNAProductions]

I think I need someone to talk to over PM regarding religion and an LGBT friend. Any takers?

Same as MK-I'd be glad to talk to you, Asmodean.

[Asmodean_]

Sent yous both a PM.

[Merellis]

Really starting to think I should just say I'm straight instead of bisexual to a lot of people I know. Because I am really getting tired of having the fun conversation of "If you haven't done it with a dude, how would you know?" and the ever so fun one of "So your wife is your beard?"

Also because I don't think breaking knees is conducive to having a proper conversation as to why those two questions fill me with an urge to lash out. I mean, it'd get the gist of my point across, but then I'd have some other issues to deal with after that.

Uuuuuugh.

Edit: And I don't even want to get started on having to have a certain conversation with other people who are LGBT about how the B does stand for Bisexual, and yes, that is a real damn thing.

[Asmodean_]

I'm just curious as to what conversation you might have been having that would lead straight* to that. I've never been asked my sexuality except in a joking manner.





*Pun always intended.

[Merellis]

I'm just curious as to what conversation you might have been having that would lead straight* to that. I've never been asked my sexuality except in a joking manner.





*Pun always intended.

Slip of the tongue when I mention someone interests me. Which me and my wife are more used to doing with each other, so I've gotten too used to that, which isn't really a bad thing considering we both get to poke fun at each others taste. That or in some LGBTQA+ spaces I get the whole bit of fun conversation that has me wondering if this is what irony tastes like.

I did like the pun.

[Lissou]

Uh, why did they think the B stood for? I thought it was pretty common knowledge that it stood for "bisexual".

[Siosilvar]

Uh, why did they think the B stood for? I thought it was pretty common knowledge that it stood for "bisexual".

Somebody gets a little bit of privilege, "screw you I got mine" starts to kick in. See also: "drop the T" and the aro/ace inclusion fight. It's nothing new, but it is a little more prevalent nowadays. There's a really surprising amount of infighting between certain people in each of the letters, considering we all face very similar challenges.

[Merellis]

The B stands for Bisexual might have been a little hyperbole on my part to get the general point across and not a literal thing that I've been asked. (Though with how its been going, I assume that question will pop up sooner or later.)

Sorry, just wanted to vent for a quick minute.

[Lissou]

Oh, the venting is fine. It just went way over my head that you were being metaphorical here. And I'm sadly very aware of bi erasure (and if I were bi myself I'm sure I would be made more aware of it on pretty much a daily basis).

Really sorry you have to deal with that kind of stuff. Hugs if you want them.

[Asmodean_]

As someone who is bi, I've never heard of bi erasure before. What exactly is it?

[JNAProductions]

The idea that you're either pretending to be gay or pretending to be straight and should just pick a side. Where you're obviously going to cheat on your SO because bi people are just more promiscuous. Where you're obviously going to leave a woman for a man because you aren't really gay, or just are really gay.

And so on and so forth.

And the lovely tv portrayal of where you don't need a label, or just have an exception and they just won't say bisexual on the damn screen even though they keep toeing the line of saying it.

Admittedly, people don't really need a label. But yeah, I don't get people who don't believe in bisexuality. Why is that any harder to believe than being straight, or being gay?

[AmberVael]

Admittedly, people don't really need a label. But yeah, I don't get people who don't believe in bisexuality. Why is that any harder to believe than being straight, or being gay?

You can't like chocolate ice cream and vanilla ice cream. That's ridiculous.

[EternalMelon]

As someone who is bi, I've never heard of bi erasure before. What exactly is it?

Bi erasure is when people don't believe in or downplay a persons Bisexuality. Usually by insinuating that a Bi person is lieing about their sexual preferences, or hasn't chosen yet...

Its hard to explain because its so dumb.

Alternitavly, Bi-erasure.

You can't like chocolate ice cream and vanilla ice cream. That's ridiculous.

Spoiler: Lies Slander and Icecream

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[Siosilvar]

Spoiler: Lies Slander and Icecream

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But I saw you eating chocolate ice cream the other day, you can't like vanilla!