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    Quote Originally Posted by Grytorm View Post
    I think he has a genderfluid child of Loki in an even later book.
    Awesome, it'd be really cool to see how he presented that character. (And now I'm even madder at my local library, but hey, inter-library loan is a thing.)

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    I was actually referring to the ones that if you mention on the internet people will start complaining about the “PC bull” and “SJW crap” and how Rick Riordan will no longer be being read in people’s houses

    So yes, you were both right.
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    At this point I would rather not be referred to as "they/them" anymore. Male pronouns work on the few occasions I do willingly present male, but by default I would prefer she/her now.

    I'm kind of gradually shifting more and more toward female now as I have grown more comfortable with being a girl. Not sure how to explain it considering in the past I largely just thought of myself as a guy, but still I can't deny what I'm going through now.
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    Bleargh. Just got a wave of dysphoria for the first time in ages. Hormones have been doing wonders for making me not hate my body, but apparently it's back now
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    . . . people are idiots.
    People are generally just people. It´s important to keep a keen eye on the gap between "conservatives" and "progressives" and accept that society changes at an almost glacial rate compared to, say, technology - but it does change. When you are at the "spear tip" of change, it´s key to accept that what you accept as "normal" or even "good" will take some while and a lot of work to really hit the mainstream and trigger the huge step forward in accepting and incorporating that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Florian View Post
    People are generally just people. It´s important to keep a keen eye on the gap between "conservatives" and "progressives" and accept that society changes at an almost glacial rate compared to, say, technology - but it does change. When you are at the "spear tip" of change, it´s key to accept that what you accept as "normal" or even "good" will take some while and a lot of work to really hit the mainstream and trigger the huge step forward in accepting and incorporating that.
    Apologies for speaking out of turn.

    I wasn't thinking of conservative viewpoints themselves, so much as just dropping an author and a story over political views. The rest of the story is still there and fun, and you don't have to agree with people to read about them.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Serpentine View Post
    Ah right, yeah, sorry. I did come across pibling. That seems to be a recent invention, along with something like "auncle".
    It's odd, the things English genders and the things it doesn't, and the ones that change over time (eg "girl" used to be neuter).

    So let's see, we have:

    Son/Daughter/Offspring - Old English from "off-spring" - or Progeny - From Latin for "beget" via Old French (or child, spawn, etc)
    Mother/Father/Parent - From Latin for "bring forth" via Old French
    Brother/Sister/Sibling - Old English for any relative
    Niece/Nephew/Nibling? - apparently goes back to 1951 and coined by a linguist, so that's not a bad provenance really
    Uncle/Aunt/??Pibling - From Urban Dictionary. Hmm.
    ??/??/Cousin - From Latin for "cousin", go figure, via Old French.
    Husband/Wife/Spouse - From Latin for "betrothed" via Old French

    So it seems like Old French might be worth plundering if it has something for these missing words... Any Old French speakers in the Playground?
    I speak modern French? "spouse" probably comes from what is now "épouse" (female word for spouse, the male one being "époux") and "cousin" is the male form of "cousin" (the female form being "cousine". We don't have a gender neutral for sibling, cousin, aunt/uncle, niece/nephew or spouse. We have "parent" and "child" which are gender-neutral though. I don't think French will be much help here :P

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    Took way too long to put the photos from last Christmas out there, but here they are. This was also the first time my parents got to see the female me in person, and it went well:

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    Quote Originally Posted by Heliomance View Post
    Bleargh. Just got a wave of dysphoria for the first time in ages. Hormones have been doing wonders for making me not hate my body, but apparently it's back now
    Sorry to hear that. You feeling any better now?
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    So I have kind of vaguely danced around this one issue a lot because of how absurd it would sound, but I'm hitting a critical point in transition mentally and can't handle it anymore. There is one major thing tying me to being male that I just cannot get past. And it is tearing me apart.

    I have been a huge fan of Legend of Zelda ever since my best friend got me Ocarina of Time for Christmas many years ago. I enjoyed the story, the gameplay, everything. But most of all, what I loved about this series was truly being able to see myself in the main character. Link and I do look very much alike, and the designers created the character as mainly a blank slate to fill in with your own personality. So I did. Link and I became more and more intertwined over time as I began seeing parallels to my life in the stories of the games, applying certain philosophical aspects of them to my own life, etc. I have even cosplaying Link at many conventions.

    As I figured out more aspects of myself I simply integrated them into my version of Link. I realized I was probably mildly autistic? Well then Link must be mildly autistic too. After I came out as bisexual, I began viewing Link as bisexual as well.

    This brings us to a rather obvious problem. I have now hit on the idea that I am transgender. And that I prefer being female over being male. And this is not something that I can treat like everything else. Applying that to Link is impossible as there is no "gender option" in the game. Link is clearly male. And to maintain the previously established connection, that would have to change. But it can't be changed. So therefore, I have no choice but to retain some identity as male, even if otherwise I'd rather not.

    This must seem really silly to anyone reading this. After all, it's just a video game, right? And you can still be female and play a male character, right? Well, I tried that. Attempting to play while identifying and presenting female gave me such a sense of pain that I could feel it physically. It was as if something had been physically severed. Subsequent attempts led to me having to fight so hard to retain a sense of female identity that any enjoyment of the game was lost, and a sense of every bit of joy in it being gone, the experience being dead, and me just going through the motions. It seems it just isn't possible to have that kind of enjoyment as female because the connection is lost.

    I have been dealing with the loss now by just not playing any of the games, but I look back and really wish I could play them, and feeling sad that I can't. Especially since life as female feels more vibrant, more exciting, and more joyful than life as male. There just is no way to integrate this one thing I really love into my identity as female, and it's driving me insane. I have been trying to think of any solution to this problem, even just find someone, anyone else who has gone through something similar, but no matter what I look for, it seems to me that nobody has ever had to deal with anything even remotely like this, ever.

    So that's it. That's the one thing keeping me from jumping into transition. As stupid and silly as it may sound, it is very real and very frustrating to me. And I'm finally posting it here now because I'm getting to a point where I can't keep avoiding it anymore. Please let me know if there is anything that can be done or any way to deal with this.

    A few other points:

    Don't mention Linkle. She was a side character from one game that isn't even part of the series canon, and is thus irrelevant.

    Don't point out that Link is androgynous. Androgynous and female are different things.
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    I can't offer solutions, or say I've been in a similar one, because neither would be true. I can at least sympathize with whag you're going through, and understand a little. The Legend of Zelda series are some of my favorite gamez. (OoT, Majora's Mask, Windwaker...)

    The best I can offer is, try to find a game that you feel similarly about with a female charactee? Or hope Nintendo eventually releases a female option in their next LoZ game.

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    A few years ago, I read about a dad who'd been playing a Zelda game with his young daughter (3-year-old, too young to read), and he'd been changing Link's pronouns on the fly so it became a story about a brave young girl instead of a brave young boy. He eventually wrote a patch to modify the gender-specific descriptions (as well as pronouns) within the game. It's described in this blog post (it looks like if you read down in the comments, someone else wrote a wrapper to make applying the patch easier).

    I don't know if there's something similar out there for other Zelda games, but would something like this be helpful, or counterproductive?

    (FWIW, when I was a kid I loved Legend of Zelda: Link's Awakening on the Gameboy. The Gameboy character design is pretty darn androgynous - there's only a small number of pixels to work with - and the game let you select your character's own name, so I played the entire game with the firm headcanon that my character was a girl and it was just that everyone in the game world kept mistaking her for a boy.)
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    Been on hormones for a year at this point. Time sure does fly.

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    I am trying to play Metroid to compensate, but for some reason it just isn't the same.

    The idea to mentally switch pronouns is one I've heard before, but the guy was only using it for The Wind Waker. It's a lot less believable when you try it on something like Twilight Princess.

    I just wish there was a gender option in the games. This would not have been an issue if they had just done that.

    Also, it concerns me that apparently, absolutely nobody has had to deal with an issue like this before. Why is it only me?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Dire Moose View Post
    I am trying to play Metroid to compensate, but for some reason it just isn't the same.

    The idea to mentally switch pronouns is one I've heard before, but the guy was only using it for The Wind Waker. It's a lot less believable when you try it on something like Twilight Princess.

    I just wish there was a gender option in the games. This would not have been an issue if they had just done that.

    Also, it concerns me that apparently, absolutely nobody has had to deal with an issue like this before. Why is it only me?
    I'm sure someone else has had a similar issue, they just might not post here, or feel embarrassed about it because they think it's silly and never posted it anywhere.

    That being said, while I don't have the same issue, I definitely understand that this matters to you. It's an important part of your personal history that's being affected by transitioning. I honestly wish I could say something that would make it better, but I don't know.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dire Moose View Post
    So I have kind of vaguely danced around this one issue a lot because of how absurd it would sound, but I'm hitting a critical point in transition mentally and can't handle it anymore. There is one major thing tying me to being male that I just cannot get past. And it is tearing me apart.

    I have been a huge fan of Legend of Zelda ever since my best friend got me Ocarina of Time for Christmas many years ago. I enjoyed the story, the gameplay, everything. But most of all, what I loved about this series was truly being able to see myself in the main character. Link and I do look very much alike, and the designers created the character as mainly a blank slate to fill in with your own personality. So I did. Link and I became more and more intertwined over time as I began seeing parallels to my life in the stories of the games, applying certain philosophical aspects of them to my own life, etc. I have even cosplaying Link at many conventions.

    As I figured out more aspects of myself I simply integrated them into my version of Link. I realized I was probably mildly autistic? Well then Link must be mildly autistic too. After I came out as bisexual, I began viewing Link as bisexual as well.

    This brings us to a rather obvious problem. I have now hit on the idea that I am transgender. And that I prefer being female over being male. And this is not something that I can treat like everything else. Applying that to Link is impossible as there is no "gender option" in the game. Link is clearly male. And to maintain the previously established connection, that would have to change. But it can't be changed. So therefore, I have no choice but to retain some identity as male, even if otherwise I'd rather not.

    This must seem really silly to anyone reading this. After all, it's just a video game, right? And you can still be female and play a male character, right? Well, I tried that. Attempting to play while identifying and presenting female gave me such a sense of pain that I could feel it physically. It was as if something had been physically severed. Subsequent attempts led to me having to fight so hard to retain a sense of female identity that any enjoyment of the game was lost, and a sense of every bit of joy in it being gone, the experience being dead, and me just going through the motions. It seems it just isn't possible to have that kind of enjoyment as female because the connection is lost.

    I have been dealing with the loss now by just not playing any of the games, but I look back and really wish I could play them, and feeling sad that I can't. Especially since life as female feels more vibrant, more exciting, and more joyful than life as male. There just is no way to integrate this one thing I really love into my identity as female, and it's driving me insane. I have been trying to think of any solution to this problem, even just find someone, anyone else who has gone through something similar, but no matter what I look for, it seems to me that nobody has ever had to deal with anything even remotely like this, ever.

    So that's it. That's the one thing keeping me from jumping into transition. As stupid and silly as it may sound, it is very real and very frustrating to me. And I'm finally posting it here now because I'm getting to a point where I can't keep avoiding it anymore. Please let me know if there is anything that can be done or any way to deal with this.

    A few other points:

    Don't mention Linkle. She was a side character from one game that isn't even part of the series canon, and is thus irrelevant.

    Don't point out that Link is androgynous. Androgynous and female are different things.
    May I ask what is stopping Link from simply being a transwoman?
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    May I ask what is stopping Link from simply being a transwoman?
    I think I'd enjoy playing a permanently closeted transwoman even less than playing a guy.
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    Depending on what games you like and how you like to play them, a quick google for "zelda rom hacking tools" can allow you to find text editors. I don't know how in-depth you'd have to muck with the scripts for a lot of them (I haven't played a zelda game in a while), but simple "he" to "she" and "boy" to "girl" should be easy to just find and replace on your own. Depending on how in depth you want to go, you can even have Link start out being referred to as a boy, only to become the prophesied girl as the story progresses. Doesn't work on consoles (and good luck with any game with involved voice acting), but tools have been made so that you don't need messy hex editing to just make a few dialogue tweaks.

    And I probably shouldn't mention that there used to be a Zelda cartoon that you can youtube. Giving a voiceless protagonist a voice can do things to your mental image.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Anymage View Post
    Depending on what games you like and how you like to play them, a quick google for "zelda rom hacking tools" can allow you to find text editors. I don't know how in-depth you'd have to muck with the scripts for a lot of them (I haven't played a zelda game in a while), but simple "he" to "she" and "boy" to "girl" should be easy to just find and replace on your own. Depending on how in depth you want to go, you can even have Link start out being referred to as a boy, only to become the prophesied girl as the story progresses. Doesn't work on consoles (and good luck with any game with involved voice acting), but tools have been made so that you don't need messy hex editing to just make a few dialogue tweaks.

    And I probably shouldn't mention that there used to be a Zelda cartoon that you can youtube. Giving a voiceless protagonist a voice can do things to your mental image.
    I cannot, in good conscience, recommend that cartoon. It is awful, but somehow hilarious, but at the same time... Just no.
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    No good. Nothing works.

    I wanted to play Zelda today, but I couldn't because I was too afraid of losing my female identity in it and feeling miserable again. And yet when I think about it, I would very much prefer playing as a female version of Link in those games if there was a choice. This would suggest I do actually identify more as female.

    However, playing the games now still hurts me due to the disconnect between myself and Link. I feel no joy in playing the game as female due to the painful disconnect between myself and the character.

    I feel like I can't make any progress unless Nintendo goes back .and adds a gender option to be female.
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    Only sugguestion at this point would be to play some games with a female character (or where you have a choice). You've talked recently about all the changes you're going through so perhaps at a later time the feeling will be less problematic when playing said games.

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    I've calmed down a bit from last night. I suppose that's part of the reason I identify as genderfluid though; it still gives me the option of going back to male when I need to. Might still be necessary at least for now to be able to revert temporarily to male when needed.

    With regards to female characters, I have started playing the Metroid Prime trilogy as well.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Serpentine View Post
    I'm watching a show called A Korean Odyssey, and I think one of the characters (and/or actors?) might be a trans woman. There's a lot of body-hopping in this show, though, so I don't know whether it was, like, a female demon in a male body or something like that. But it wasn't played for laughs or anything like that, seemed pretty low-key. I also didn't catch the character's name, so I can't look up her or the actor. Until I found out anything otherwise, though, I'm just gonna go with "one of the characters just happens to be a trans woman, neat".
    They just explained it! I'm not sure whether it's good, bad or neutral from a lagerbeta perspective, though, so I'll spoil it just for the interested.
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    It turns out she's the sister of another character.
    She's the Summer Fairy, and he's the Winter General. The protagonist met the Winter General first, and then the Summer Fairy.
    After the Summer Fairy left the room, she asked, "Isn't she the man we just saw?" and was told that, no, they're siblings. He's male, she's female, and they're (in English, quote) "One body, two souls".
    Also, so far, aside from the protagonist, General Winter and the Summer Fairy seem to be the only genuinely decent, kind people in this whole show. So there's that. They're lovely, hope they turn up more.


    edit: Uuuugh General Winter and the Summer Fairy are so lovely and gorgeous and great.
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    So, anyone been up to anything fun lately?

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    So, anyone been up to anything fun lately?
    I played a 4v4 Apocalypse scale game of Warhammer that lasted 5 hours and it only got a quarter through the start of round 2.

    So, no.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mystic Muse View Post
    I played a 4v4 Apocalypse scale game of Warhammer that lasted 5 hours and it only got a quarter through the start of round 2.

    So, no.
    I love Warhammer, it at least sounds amusing :P

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shadowscale View Post
    So, anyone been up to anything fun lately?
    My wife and I are about to celebrate 1 year of marriage together, and we're going to pay a visit to the Tucson Gem and Mineral Show next weekend. Been thinking about trying to start up a new Pathfinder campaign, but haven't got very far.

    Also Shadowscale, I hope you've heard about my coming out as genderfluid/nonbinary and starting hormones to achieve a more androgynous look and feel; if not, you're hearing it now. Congratulations on 1 year of hormones yourself, by the way.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Dire Moose View Post
    My wife and I are about to celebrate 1 year of marriage together, and we're going to pay a visit to the Tucson Gem and Mineral Show next weekend. Been thinking about trying to start up a new Pathfinder campaign, but haven't got very far.

    Also Shadowscale, I hope you've heard about my coming out as genderfluid/nonbinary and starting hormones to achieve a more androgynous look and feel; if not, you're hearing it now. Congratulations on 1 year of hormones yourself, by the way.
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    I am trying to play Metroid to compensate, but for some reason it just isn't the same.

    The idea to mentally switch pronouns is one I've heard before, but the guy was only using it for The Wind Waker. It's a lot less believable when you try it on something like Twilight Princess.

    I just wish there was a gender option in the games. This would not have been an issue if they had just done that.

    Also, it concerns me that apparently, absolutely nobody has had to deal with an issue like this before. Why is it only me?
    I can sort of understand how you feel. For a long time I've used video games as escapism, but a lot of games have definitively straight main characters, which really pulls me out of it. I have many fond childhood memories of the Legend of Zelda, Mario, and Donkey Kong series, but when I play most of those games now, it feels a lot more uncomfortable. I can get out of it to some extent by playing Metroid or Kirby or even Animal Crossing instead, but those games aren't quite the same.

    And congratulations on your anniversary!

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    So I have kind of vaguely danced around this one issue a lot because of how absurd it would sound, but I'm hitting a critical point in transition mentally and can't handle it anymore. There is one major thing tying me to being male that I just cannot get past. And it is tearing me apart.

    I have been a huge fan of Legend of Zelda ever since my best friend got me Ocarina of Time for Christmas many years ago. I enjoyed the story, the gameplay, everything. But most of all, what I loved about this series was truly being able to see myself in the main character. Link and I do look very much alike, and the designers created the character as mainly a blank slate to fill in with your own personality. So I did. Link and I became more and more intertwined over time as I began seeing parallels to my life in the stories of the games, applying certain philosophical aspects of them to my own life, etc. I have even cosplaying Link at many conventions.

    As I figured out more aspects of myself I simply integrated them into my version of Link. I realized I was probably mildly autistic? Well then Link must be mildly autistic too. After I came out as bisexual, I began viewing Link as bisexual as well.

    This brings us to a rather obvious problem. I have now hit on the idea that I am transgender. And that I prefer being female over being male. And this is not something that I can treat like everything else. Applying that to Link is impossible as there is no "gender option" in the game. Link is clearly male. And to maintain the previously established connection, that would have to change. But it can't be changed. So therefore, I have no choice but to retain some identity as male, even if otherwise I'd rather not.

    This must seem really silly to anyone reading this. After all, it's just a video game, right? And you can still be female and play a male character, right? Well, I tried that. Attempting to play while identifying and presenting female gave me such a sense of pain that I could feel it physically. It was as if something had been physically severed. Subsequent attempts led to me having to fight so hard to retain a sense of female identity that any enjoyment of the game was lost, and a sense of every bit of joy in it being gone, the experience being dead, and me just going through the motions. It seems it just isn't possible to have that kind of enjoyment as female because the connection is lost.

    I have been dealing with the loss now by just not playing any of the games, but I look back and really wish I could play them, and feeling sad that I can't. Especially since life as female feels more vibrant, more exciting, and more joyful than life as male. There just is no way to integrate this one thing I really love into my identity as female, and it's driving me insane. I have been trying to think of any solution to this problem, even just find someone, anyone else who has gone through something similar, but no matter what I look for, it seems to me that nobody has ever had to deal with anything even remotely like this, ever.

    So that's it. That's the one thing keeping me from jumping into transition. As stupid and silly as it may sound, it is very real and very frustrating to me. And I'm finally posting it here now because I'm getting to a point where I can't keep avoiding it anymore. Please let me know if there is anything that can be done or any way to deal with this.

    A few other points:

    Don't mention Linkle. She was a side character from one game that isn't even part of the series canon, and is thus irrelevant.

    Don't point out that Link is androgynous. Androgynous and female are different things.
    Which version or edition of Zelda are you playing?
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    Which version or edition of Zelda are you playing?
    Mostly been doing Ocarina of Time, Majora's Mask, Twilight Princess, and Skyward Sword.
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