LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?

[sneakykitten]

The guy yelled at me because I was actually emotional and raising my voice that time. I was just wondering where my handbag with like all my cards and money in it was. And I thought people would notice me more if I raised my voice so they could hear me. I was definitely not attempting to terrorize or intimidate anyone. And the guy yells at me, "HAVE A GREAT DAY SIR." Misgendering me and hurting my feelings.

And I have been experimenting with being quieter. Now I just make a joke out of when people are hostile to me. I never mean to hurt people by yelling I just... have a naturally loud voice even when I am talking to my friends and stuffs, I laugh loud too.

GED is my option for high school level education. I'm just trying to sort out having no access to my bank account first. I make social security for my mental illnesses I'm not sure which ones they consider social security worthy though. I think mostly it's the obsessive need for perfection and strange rituals from OCD.

[AuthorGirl]

I never mean to hurt people by yelling I just... have a naturally loud voice even when I am talking to my friends and stuffs, I laugh loud too.

That's a bit heartbreaking, actually - that your "default" mode of expression causes you trouble. I do know the feeling to some extent.

Anyway, it's great to hear that you can work on a GED!

[Sermil]

I don't know your personal stance on faith, so ignore the following if you're not a believer. But since you sound like you are one deep down, I've known plenty of people in your shoes who have found their place with both God and a good faith-based community. Giving chapter and verse would fall afoul of board rules. But you aren't irredeemably broken just because of who you are.

Ya, I promise you there are plenty of trans-positive faith communities out there if faith is something important to you. Look for one that vocally supports its LGBTAI+ members; they are out there and waiting to welcome you. Don't accept one that doesn't accept you.

Good luck!

[AuthorGirl]

Ya, I promise you there are plenty of trans-positive faith communities out there if faith is something important to you. Look for one that vocally supports its LGBTAI+ members; they are out there and waiting to welcome you. Don't accept one that doesn't accept you.

Good luck!

Just gonna quickly and passionately second (third?) this. There IS a faith community, a family, that will accept, affirm, and enhance the person you truly are; do not settle for less.

[sneakykitten]

I dunno I don't think my Christian brothers and sisters are very fond of me. And it's not like I'm devout and Need It in my life or whatever. It's mostly only when I need comfort that I look to God because... I tried praying to Him over and over to help me become a girl and I never even got guidance just silence. :(

[AuthorGirl]

I dunno I don't think my Christian brothers and sisters are very fond of me. And it's not like I'm devout and Need It in my life or whatever. It's mostly only when I need comfort that I look to God because... I tried praying to Him over and over to help me become a girl and I never even got guidance just silence. :(

Not fond of you on a personal level, or not fond of you "because trans"?

As for your personal relationship with God, I'm pretty sure that crosses the line we were flirting with (and . . . idk, may have crossed already): no discussion of real-world religion on these forums (it's in the Forum Rules). I will say these two things: you're already a girl, and my PM box is open <3

[sneakykitten]

Oh sorry. Well, I dunno, I guess I got nothing more to say if I can't discuss that stuff. And PMs are all cut up on my screen I can't read them. Sorry everyone.

[Domino Quartz]

I think I've made some more progress with my sexual identity. For now at least, I identify as bisexual. Again, thanks to everyone who has helped me with this.

[noparlpf]

How do you tell whether you actually want to do something irreversible (for example a tattoo or an orchiectomy) or if it's just anxiety asking you but what if you change your mind in ten years?

[Jormengand]

How do you tell whether you actually want to do something irreversible (for example a tattoo or an orchiectomy) or if it's just anxiety asking you but what if you change your mind in ten years?

The conventional wisdom about tattoos is "Wait a year, then if you still want to, go for it." But I have no clue if that's accurate.

[Florian]

The conventional wisdom about tattoos is "Wait a year, then if you still want to, go for it." But I have no clue if that's accurate.

Jupp, pretty much accurate.

[AuthorGirl]

I think I've made some more progress with my sexual identity. For now at least, I identify as bisexual. Again, thanks to everyone who has helped me with this.

*showers you in rainbow sparkles*

[Comrade]

How do you tell whether you actually want to do something irreversible (for example a tattoo or an orchiectomy) or if it's just anxiety asking you but what if you change your mind in ten years?

There's not really any way to tell for sure. You could wait twenty years to make sure before doing it and still wake up the next morning and regret it. You have to just kind of intuitively know if it's the right decision for you. Waiting a while like others have suggested is still a good idea, but it's still not going to guarantee you won't regret it later.

[Domino Quartz]

*showers you in rainbow sparkles*

Thank you!

[AuthorGirl]

Thank you!

Wait a sec, did you actually add the sparkles to your avatar?



That's awesome.

[Asmodean_]

Exams are over, and my school has an LGBT society now! It's part support, part education, part awareness. My school is really academic, and there are societies for every subject (Maths Society, Chemistry Society, etc), to the point that, apart from chess, LGBTsoc is actually the first extra-curricular society at the school!

[Jormengand]

Exams are over, and my school has an LGBT society now! It's part support, part education, part awareness. My school is really academic, and there are societies for every subject (Maths Society, Chemistry Society, etc), to the point that, apart from chess, LGBTsoc is actually the first extra-curricular society at the school!

Woo!

Also, you're back on the forums! Huzzah! Now you can remove one from the number of things you need to do but haven't got around to.

(You can't remove one from the list of things you shouldn't have critted, though. That stays forever.)

[Dire Moose]

Just a recent picture of me.

https://imgur.com/a/PhP5CTP

[Asmodean_]

Woo!

Also, you're back on the forums! Huzzah! Now you can remove one from the number of things you need to do but haven't got around to.

(You can't remove one from the list of things you shouldn't have critted, though. That stays forever.)

It's the number of things I said I was going to do and then subsequently forgot to do

Just because I'm back on the forums doesn't mean I didn't procrastinate it for over a week

[super dark33]

Hi hi


Im having some feels about being Non Binary, but its kinda hard to wrap my head around it due to being raised into a language with no gender neutrality at all and im not sure if im actually non binary or somthing else.

[Anymage]

Hi hi


Im having some feels about being Non Binary, but its kinda hard to wrap my head around it due to being raised into a language with no gender neutrality at all and im not sure if im actually non binary or somthing else.

This isn't Harry Potter, where once you're sorted into house enbee you're in there for life. You're allowed to feel like a word might not be the most perfect fit, but that it's the best one you've seen so far. And that if you find something that fits better, you'll move on to that.

I mean, I'd look at you oddly if you decided to have a big coming out party and have NB tattooed on your forehead if you weren't really sure. But trying different things and seeing how they suit you is how you figure out who you actually are.

[Heliomance]

Happy birthday me! Life is pretty good, I have an amazing girlfriend (did I tell y'all about that?) who sent me some beautiful opal earrings for my birthday

I have a surgical pre-assessment booked

I'm in love

Life is great

[Comrade]

Happy birthday! Glad to hear things are going well.

[JNAProductions]

Happy birthday me! Life is pretty good, I have an amazing girlfriend (did I tell y'all about that?) who sent me some beautiful opal earrings for my birthday

I have a surgical pre-assessment booked

I'm in love

Life is great

*Offers hugs and birthday cookies.*

Awesome, Helio! Hope it stays going great.

[AuthorGirl]

Happy birthday me! Life is pretty good, I have an amazing girlfriend (did I tell y'all about that?) who sent me some beautiful opal earrings for my birthday

I have a surgical pre-assessment booked

I'm in love

Life is great

squeee

*hugs Heliomance*

How old are you now?

Also, do we get to see a picture of you looking beautiful with the earrings on?

[noparlpf]

Hey, happy birthday! Glad to hear things are going well.

[Xihirli]

Happy birthday me! Life is pretty good, I have an amazing girlfriend (did I tell y'all about that?) who sent me some beautiful opal earrings for my birthday

I have a surgical pre-assessment booked

I'm in love

Life is great

Ooh! What kind of opal?

[Dire Moose]

Little bit of a correction for ArlEammon if you're still here: The gay bars I mentioned were between Indian School and Camelback, not Camelback and Bethany Home.

[AuthorGirl]

Is it common for friends to try to set you up with people once you come out?

Because my friend has started trying to set me up with another friend of his (a total stranger to me).

As much as I want a girlfriend, I'm not particularly keen on the idea of being pushed into an intimate situation with a stranger just because I "should" be curious/horny/whatever the heck.

I should add that Friendo did back off a bit once I said "no, I don't want to kiss your friend, thanks." But it's still sort of a weird and uncomfortable thing, and I was wondering if anyone else has experienced it.

[Recherché]

Is it common for friends to try to set you up with people once you come out?

Because my friend has started trying to set me up with another friend of his (a total stranger to me).

As much as I want a girlfriend, I'm not particularly keen on the idea of being pushed into an intimate situation with a stranger just because I "should" be curious/horny/whatever the heck.

I should add that Friendo did back off a bit once I said "no, I don't want to kiss your friend, thanks." But it's still sort of a weird and uncomfortable thing, and I was wondering if anyone else has experienced it.

Yes, it's pretty common in my experience. I think part of it is that people want their friends to be happy and setting up two people with a shared hobby or who otherwise seem compatible might make them happy. And surely being whatever flavor of queer qualifies as a shared hobby, right? It doesn't really bother me at this point, it's honestly people trying to be nice and kind. If I get a decent date out of it then Yay! If not then they meant well and it's not something os harmful that I would hold it against them for not turning out well. Unless the person they're trying to set me up with is a stalker or the like of course.