LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?

[Miriel]

Hey. Not sure if people remember me, haven't been here for a while, but I might be back because I've been struggling lately with stuff. Sorry.

[JusticeZero]

Honestly, I am not afraid of personal violence here. I pass and people are incredibly supportive. But... That doesn't mean that I am less terrified of the legal situation changing on me. My husband is unemployed, and it seems to vaguely and deniably follow a pattern of "Have you been known by any other names? What other name? *read, pause* We aren't hiring right now."

[Lentrax]

Hey. Not sure if people remember me, haven't been here for a while, but I might be back because I've been struggling lately with stuff. Sorry.

Hi, Miriel! Good to see you around here again! Sorry you have stuff. If you need an ear just PM me.

[ArgentiAertheri]

I'm a bit frustrated right now. I have "sleep-safe" falsies, and I want to try actually sleeping with them to get a feel for what having breasts would be like. Unfortunately, they need a bra to keep them attached, and every bra I can find is either
a)Itchy, and so would make sleeping harder, or
b)Somewhat tight.
I'm somewhat concerned about sleeping in tight elastic, since I've read in can mess up your breathing. An elastic sports-bra probably won't be as bad to sleep in as, say, binders for trans men, but I'm still nervous about wearing anything tight while I sleep.

I guess the only thing I can do is try and find some looser bras that are also comfortable, if such things even exist.


And unrelatedly, someone is insisting that it's bad for media to depict fictional trans men because it "takes away" representation from cis women

As long as it's comfortable and you can breathe and such, it's safe! Source: my surgeon after my reduction. I wore a bra 24-freakin-7 for a solid 8 weeks after surgery, and fairly continuously for awhile after that.

[Ravens_cry]

{Scrubbed}

[CWater]

{Scrubbed}

[JusticeZero]

Yeah, everything has been nightmarish. I've been trying to figure out how to explain to people that it's not that I am afraid of being attacked, it's that I am increasingly certain that things will get to the point where I have to watch people put their lives on the line to protect me, very soon, and I don't know if I can handle being here to watch it.

[Ravens_cry]

I'm lucky, damn lucky, to live in Canada instead, but one of my long-term hopes is to move down to The States to be with my long-distance boyfriend full time. Now though, I am not so sure.

[Comrade]

We obviously can't get into the politics of it or anything, but I would just say we shouldn't be so quick to lose hope. None of this is irreparable.

[Dire Moose]

Yeah, everything has been nightmarish. I've been trying to figure out how to explain to people that it's not that I am afraid of being attacked, it's that I am increasingly certain that things will get to the point where I have to watch people put their lives on the line to protect me, very soon, and I don't know if I can handle being here to watch it.

Would he be able to move to Canada?

[Ravens_cry]

Would he be able to move to Canada?

No easy task, I've looked into it for personal reasons for getting someone up here.
Still, the way stuff is going down, maybe one could apply for refugee status?
I'm only slightly joking.

[Lentrax]

The situation we are going through right now is the only reason I have to be glad I am not out full time.

If I was, well, it would be far worse.

For what it’s worth, my friends, I am here. If any one needs anything, I will do whatever I can to help you.

[Iethloc]

I've really felt overwhelmed the past week, due to a lot of personal stuff along with the, ah, "situation" in my country. I am very fortunate to live in an accepting and supportive environment. Last week I decided to start wearing skirts (and other women's clothing) as often as I can. Despite everything that's going on right now...I'm actually feeling happy about being me. I still have a lot to be unhappy about, but at the end of the day I'm living and presenting as a woman, and that provides some much-needed comfort.

I've asked for support here in the past, but now I feel like I'm in a position where I can offer support for people. Whoever you are, I'm here for you.

[137beth]

Finally got an endo appointment...four February 25, which was their earliest available time.

[noparlpf]

Finally got an endo appointment...four February 25, which was their earliest available time.

That sucks. I'm trying to see a doctor who might be the only person in Massachusetts who treats what I think I have, and he's booked til June. Sorry I don't have a silver lining, just commiserating.

[Dire Moose]

I’m in one of my female moods right now. It’s interesting how I tend to jump from boy to girl and back like this. Also, I’m approaching 1 year on hormones now.

Also, recent Halloweenish picture:

[Nemirthel]

I just wrote to come out to my advisor.

I'm both excited to be close to living full time and terrified that it won't go over well. I don't really know how she'll react, though at least the university does have a nondiscrimination policy that includes gender identity.

Update: she's entirely on my side. I'm now incredibly relieved and the least anxious I've been since... ever, as far as I can remember. Still have to come out to some co-workers who might respond differently, but no one who can cause serious problems without blatantly violating the EO policy. The people who could do so subtly have all turned out to be accepting.

[WarKitty]

Annual reminder for everyone: A lot of cheap makeup gift sets go on sale right around this time. So for anyone who wants to learn makeup, it's often a very good way to see what you like. Because of the gift-giving season as well, it's probably a bit less awkward to buy for people who aren't presenting female or otherwise feel uncomfortable purchasing makeup.

[Dire Moose]

New avatar! I’m experimenting with some new possibilities for my overall look.

I’m also going to dye my hair pink after Christmas.

[Honest Tiefling]

Because of the gift-giving season as well, it's probably a bit less awkward to buy for people who aren't presenting female or otherwise feel uncomfortable purchasing makeup.

And if you still feel awkward...Remember to buy it with a card. Sure it adds to the purchase, but hey, you have an emergency card on hand in case you forget.

[Sobol]

Just started reading Good Deeds Gone Unpunished. Page 19 is about two Azure City men in a relationship and it's kind of cute.

[137beth]

My favorite part of GDGU was on page 152:

Spoiler: GDGU

Show

Shojo: You can't even tell your spouse about this.
O'Chul: I am not married, and have no interest in such pursuits.

[Lissou]

I dyed my hair rainbowy (purple to yellow, not blue or green) and bought binders and corsets to better embrace dressing sometimes as a guy and sometimes as a gal.

[Kesnit]

Even in sadness, there can be a small bit of joy.

My mother passed away suddenly last Friday. My dad just sent me (and several other members of the family) a draft of the obituary. It has me listed as their son, with my legal name.

[Mith]

Even in sadness, there can be a small bit of joy.

My mother passed away suddenly last Friday. My dad just sent me (and several other members of the family) a draft of the obituary. It has me listed as their son, with my legal name.

My condolances for your loss. It's also good that you can draw some silver lining from dark clouds.

[CWater]

My condolances for your loss. It's also good that you can draw some silver lining from dark clouds.

Seconded. My condolences.

[Dire Moose]

Why are there so many trans people in the Playground? Did someone drop a cauldron full of Elixir of Sex Shifting in the water supply here or something?

[Mystic Muse]

Why are there so many trans people in the Playground? Did someone drop a cauldron full of Elixir of Sex Shifting in the water supply here or something?

Probably just a case of us trying to be a very welcoming place so people feel comfortable bringing the topic up.

[Thufir]

Yeah, it's kind of to be expected that the forum which has had a thriving LGBT+ support thread for many years attracts and retains more trans members than one which hasn't.

[ArlEammon]

If anyone has some helpful advice for a subject I could get infracted or banned for mentioning out in the open I would appreciate it.
I'm asking for someone to help me in PM, so no one gets in trouble. Hopefully, I would get some help from a gay, or bi man.