LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?

**Ravens_cry** · 2018-12-30, 10:49 AM (ISO 8601)

Originally Posted by Dire Moose

I have an appointment to get my hair dyed pink on January 13.

Neat! Can't wait to see pics. I'd like to dye mine a bloody auburn. Probably not something that occurs naturally, but what the hey.

**137beth** · 2019-01-03, 08:09 PM (ISO 8601)

I saw an endocrinologist today. I'm starting on an anti-androgen tonight, although I will be holding of on estrogen for now.

**Ravens_cry** · 2019-01-04, 04:38 PM (ISO 8601)

Originally Posted by 137ben

I saw an endocrinologist today. I'm starting on an anti-androgen tonight, although I will be holding of on estrogen for now.

Congratulations! Best hopes on this step of your journey.

**The Extinguisher** · 2019-01-04, 09:43 PM (ISO 8601)

Some good news, i might ending fronting a really cool queer local band which is exciting and terrifying cause they're all very cool people and im going to a practice on monday to see how things work
Also ive quit smoking, which was unfortunately bad timing given:

Some bad news,

Spoiler: cw: death, family, transphobia

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my nanny died over the new years. i knew it was coming cause she was in really bad condition right before, and i had started to make plans with my parents to go to the funeral, because i wouldnt make it in time to see her. but when my mom called me to tell me she passed, she also said that i shouldnt go down there for the funeral cause "with all thats going on" it "wouldnt be the right time" to tell my family im trans.

so yeah

it doesnt come from a place of hate, just that subtle rejection of not bothering to understand it. i almost wish they just hated me because thats almost easier to work through

**Honest Tiefling** · 2019-01-05, 01:30 PM (ISO 8601)

Go to the funeral if you can go with support. Don't miss out on it, you might end up regretting it, but it'll help if you have some burly family members on your side. Or bring a very large and socially adroit friend along. It'll probably help if you go without cross-dressing to have a friendly face or two as some seem like they might freak out that you're in a dress.

**Heliomance** · 2019-01-07, 06:58 AM (ISO 8601)

Ugh, I haven't heard anything more about surgery yet. I was told to expect that I'd get it done this January, but it doesn't look like that's going to happen because if it was surely they'd have told me by now

**Ravens_cry** · 2019-01-07, 10:27 PM (ISO 8601)

Originally Posted by Heliomance

Ugh, I haven't heard anything more about surgery yet. I was told to expect that I'd get it done this January, but it doesn't look like that's going to happen because if it was surely they'd have told me by now

Contact them to find out what's up?

**Heliomance** · 2019-01-09, 02:19 AM (ISO 8601)

Originally Posted by Ravens_cry

Contact them to find out what's up?

Surgeon is just back from maternity leave, there's no surgery slots free until February because another surgeon is using them all, they're going to discuss my case on Friday

**Prospekt** · 2019-01-09, 02:52 PM (ISO 8601)

I'm getting laser next week! I'm excited, and maybe a bit scared of the pain, but mostly excited! Besides, I had the skin on my right hand melted off a couple months ago, so how bad can it be, eh?

**JusticeZero** · 2019-01-09, 04:19 PM (ISO 8601)

Hey, is there anybody around who is strongly genderfluid, as in "sense of gender wanders and spends substantial amounts of time in one or the other binary in a strong way"? I'm trying to include a character like that in writing as a secondary character, but my gender is static and I don't know what that experience is like, so I would rather not work from secondary sources. Or if I have been misled, I need to know that too. PM-able.

**Lycunadari** · 2019-01-09, 04:28 PM (ISO 8601)

Originally Posted by JusticeZero

Hey, is there anybody around who is strongly genderfluid, as in "sense of gender wanders and spends substantial amounts of time in one or the other binary in a strong way"? I'm trying to include a character like that in writing as a secondary character, but my gender is static and I don't know what that experience is like, so I would rather not work from secondary sources. Or if I have been misled, I need to know that too. PM-able.

*raises hand* My gender changes around a lot, and while I'm most often some nonbinary gender, I'm also frequently a man and occasionally a woman. Feel free to PM me your questions.

**Heliomance** · 2019-01-10, 03:30 AM (ISO 8601)

Originally Posted by JusticeZero

Hey, is there anybody around who is strongly genderfluid, as in "sense of gender wanders and spends substantial amounts of time in one or the other binary in a strong way"? I'm trying to include a character like that in writing as a secondary character, but my gender is static and I don't know what that experience is like, so I would rather not work from secondary sources. Or if I have been misled, I need to know that too. PM-able.

Not anymore, but I was for a year or so. Mostly I found it really bloody annoying. I am answer questions, though, if you like

**Dire Moose** · 2019-01-10, 08:23 AM (ISO 8601)

Originally Posted by JusticeZero

Hey, is there anybody around who is strongly genderfluid, as in "sense of gender wanders and spends substantial amounts of time in one or the other binary in a strong way"? I'm trying to include a character like that in writing as a secondary character, but my gender is static and I don't know what that experience is like, so I would rather not work from secondary sources. Or if I have been misled, I need to know that too. PM-able.

I’m actually like that, and you can PM me.

**TaiLiu** · 2019-01-30, 08:49 PM (ISO 8601)

Does anyone else think we should maybe update the list of Topical Consultants? I was there when it was first constructed, so my name is on it, and once in a blue moon, I'll get a message. But the list is severely outdated, and a lot of people on it aren't here anymore. I figured a fresh list might be helpful for those who might seek consultation in the future.

**Lentrax** · 2019-01-30, 10:33 PM (ISO 8601)

It might be a good idea.

Perhaps for the next thread, we just delete everyone off the list, then ask who wants to be on it?

**Dire Moose** · 2019-01-31, 07:23 AM (ISO 8601)

Well, I’m willing to volunteer for non-binary advice.

**TaiLiu** · 2019-02-02, 10:53 PM (ISO 8601)

Originally Posted by Lentrax

Perhaps for the next thread, we just delete everyone off the list, then ask who wants to be on it?

That's a good idea. My only concern would be the speed of this thread - it might be a very long while before we'll get to do it.

Originally Posted by Dire Moose

Well, I’m willing to volunteer for non-binary advice.

Nice!

**Mystic Muse** · 2019-02-03, 12:17 AM (ISO 8601)

I can provide general support.

**Lentrax** · 2019-02-03, 12:30 AM (ISO 8601)

True, but so long as we remember having this conversation, we can remember to bring the topic up again as we approach page 50 here. Give folks a chance to get used to it, to volunteer if they want to, or to even recall we have such a list.

**137beth** · 2019-02-04, 09:41 AM (ISO 8601)

Originally Posted by Lentrax

It might be a good idea.

Perhaps for the next thread, we just delete everyone off the list, then ask who wants to be on it?

I think a better solution would be to delete only people who are inactive. Say, remove everyone who hasn't logged on in at least six months?

**Algeh** · 2019-02-04, 10:33 AM (ISO 8601)

Originally Posted by 137ben

I think a better solution would be to delete only people who are inactive. Say, remove everyone who hasn't logged on in at least six months?

Maybe PM anyone who doesn't mention whether or not they want to be in the list anymore in this thread, but who is still logging in somewhat regularly to the site/posting elsewhere on the board? It's possible for people to be still on the board but going through a place of not being able to be particularly supportive right now, and those are the active people who are least likely to be watching this thread to see that we're updating the contact list and know to post here about being taken off.

**Lentrax** · 2019-02-04, 04:59 PM (ISO 8601)

That’s a lot of messages. Frankly, it would just be easier for those of us who are still active here to post that we still want to be on the list. Plus, with the folks that are active elsewhere on the boards but not here have reasons for staying away, and would likely appreciate not having raw memories being brought up.

**Kesnit** · 2019-02-04, 07:27 PM (ISO 8601)

I'm good to stay on the list

**Lycunadari** · 2019-02-05, 04:53 AM (ISO 8601)

I'm also still here, I can do advice on being genderqueer/genderfluid/nonbinary, (grey)asexuality and bi/pansexuality.

**Lissou** · 2019-02-05, 06:46 PM (ISO 8601)

I'm happy to consult for polyamory.

**Eldest** · 2019-02-06, 03:32 AM (ISO 8601)

I can still talk about polyamory, pansexuality/bisexuality, and the basics, and can add trans stuff to that.

**DocWoollybear** · 2019-02-07, 12:26 AM (ISO 8601)

Hey everyone! I've been lurking this thread for a while, and I just wanted to pop in and say hi. I figured out that I'm trans a few months ago, and started coming out to my family back in January. I've slowly started acquiring my new wardrobe, and I have my first laser appointment tomorrow!

I'd also be willing to consult on Bi and trans stuff. This thread made me feel less isolated when I was grappling with my identity, so I'd love to pay it forward

**Lentrax** · 2019-02-07, 01:14 AM (ISO 8601)

Well, DocWoolybear, allow me to welcome you into the thread with open arms, and offers of cake!

**Heliomance** · 2019-02-15, 08:54 AM (ISO 8601)

I HAVE A SURGERY DATE! AFTER SIX YEARS, I'M FINALLY THERE! ONE MORE MONTH, AND I'M AT THE FINISH LINE! AAAAAAHHHHH!
(small letters)

**Domino Quartz** · 2019-02-15, 11:07 AM (ISO 8601)

Originally Posted by Heliomance

I HAVE A SURGERY DATE! AFTER SIX YEARS, I'M FINALLY THERE! ONE MORE MONTH, AND I'M AT THE FINISH LINE! AAAAAAHHHHH!
(small letters)

Yay for you!!

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