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2018-03-19, 11:18 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Dec 2013
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Re: Trouble with uncompromising players.
For the dryad player, ask them what it is about the Dryad is fun for them. Its more work, and its kind of obnoxious, but its not inherently game ending to work with this person as long as it doesn't escalate into them demanding other special favors from the DM, or trying to use their dryad race to get away with stuff you don't want to allow them to do.
For the rape roleplayer, they get one warning. That is not acceptable behavior, no tolerance. If he needs to do it to have fun, he has to find his fun elsewhere. That is the sort of behavior that can legitimately offend or hurt the real players at the table, and if even one person* is not OK with it, it needs to stop. No amount of fun is worth any real world harm done to a group of friends. Don't allow any room for ambiguity here, he needs to know this problem is entirely on him.
*assuming this is a person you want to game with. If its a random person who asked to join the group and not somebody you actually invited, then they should probably try to game elsewhere.“Evil is evil. Lesser, greater, middling, it's all the same. Proportions are negotiated, boundaries blurred. I'm not a pious hermit, I haven't done only good in my life. But if I'm to choose between one evil and another, then I prefer not to choose at all.”
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2018-03-19, 05:11 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Jul 2007
- Location
- New York
- Gender
Re: Trouble with uncompromising players.
Players are a dime a dozen, whereas DMs are hard to find. Boot the "speshul snowflake" Dryad player unless he accepts that "no, you can't play a dryad." And then tell the rapist that he's out.
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2018-03-19, 09:02 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Oct 2010
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- Dallas, TX
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2018-03-20, 03:16 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Mar 2011
Re: Trouble with uncompromising players.
That may be an incredibly useful thing to say to him actually. "Ok, you are insisting on roleplaying the aggressor. Whom do you think then has to play the victim? Yeah, me. Do you think I want to play the victim? Rhetorical question, I don't. I absolutely do not. And I will not. Now, you have your 3 options to pursue, pick one."
"I Burn!"
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2018-03-20, 04:55 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Jan 2007
- Location
- Norway
- Gender
Re: Trouble with uncompromising players.
The half-orc rapist sounds like a player I wouldn't want to play with, even if he picked up the slack. It just comes across as really creepy.
The dryad thing can be resolved like the other players have suggested, but I can suggest that you can tell him about the problems with dryads, as they are bound to their trees and meadows, so it's difficult for dryads to leave their homes and go adventuring. If he doesn't provide a backstory to accomodate her loss of home, let her know she has to play something she can actually roleplay.
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2018-03-20, 11:22 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Aug 2011
- Location
- Sharangar's Revenge
- Gender
Re: Trouble with uncompromising players.
"Hey, guys? I'm REALLY not having a fun time with all the rape jokes and juvenile bathroom humor. I would rather play MONOPOLY than run another session for you like the last one. So we've got two options here: stop the rape jokes - right now - or end the campaign right now and play <insert favorite board game here>, which I just happen to have brought with me today. What's it to be?"
Leave option three - pack my stuff up, and go see a movie without you three lugs - unsaid, but keep it in the back of your mind.
As a group, we forumites tend to be incredibly arrogant, and always assume our solutions will work (just like Dr. McKay). But we can never really tell unless you come back and let us know how things worked out for you. So (channeling Iago from Aladin here), how'd it go? Jaffar: I think she took it... rather well!Warhammer 40,000 Campaign Skirmish Game: Warpstrike
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2018-03-20, 11:33 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Aug 2010
Re: Trouble with uncompromising players.
That solution will work, for some value of "working".
In any situation like this, you can ask the person to stop doing what's bugging you. They either will or they won't. If they won't, you can decide whether it's worth continuing to game with them. Which it either is or it isn't.
It's pretty much that simple.
What doesn't work is "how can I get this person to change?". You can't. You can ask them to modify their behavior, and you can decide whether it's so intolerable you can't deal with it. That's the choice you get."Gosh 2D8HP, you are so very correct (and also good looking)"
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2018-03-20, 12:26 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Mar 2018
Re: Trouble with uncompromising players.
Thanks for all the helpful advice folks. The Dryad player actually decided that playing a Dryad was annoying, so dropped it completely in favor of a planetouched (undecided which kind) Warlock. Totally out of left field and brought it up himself.
The Orc listened and switched to a human Paladin, who now gives out pamphlets to everyone he meets in an effort to get them to worship his chosen god. Eccentric, but I guess all is well?
Appreciate all the help everyone. Can close out this thread.
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2018-03-20, 11:25 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Mar 2011
Re: Trouble with uncompromising players.
Former Dryad Player: That should work as long as the type of Planetouched you pick is something there are Player Character Race stats for.
Former Orc:That, went FAR better than I imagined it would. Yeah, a religious character handing out pamphlets Jehovah's Witness style is quirky but harmless in and of itself in my estimation. Certainly much more so than what he was doing before.
Well done, I'd call this one more or less solved! =)"I Burn!"
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2018-03-21, 02:23 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Jan 2007
- Location
- Norway
- Gender
Re: Trouble with uncompromising players.
That's an all round happy end if I ever saw one. Amazing.
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2018-03-21, 08:31 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Mar 2015
Re: Trouble with uncompromising players.
Wow. Player 1 may have just latched onto a different idea to obsess about, but I think player 2 may have actually had a moment of meaningful self-reflection there. That was unexpected but... that is a pretty good sign.
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2018-03-21, 04:31 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Oct 2010
- Location
- Dallas, TX
- Gender
Re: Trouble with uncompromising players.
I want to believe that the backstory of the human paladin is that he's a reformed and polymorphed half-orc.
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2018-03-24, 10:40 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Mar 2011
Re: Trouble with uncompromising players.
Does it matter though? Player 1 is now obsessing about something that's effectively harmless to the game. So he gives people a bit of paper at every opportunity and makes a small sermon to try and get them on board with his temple. Big deal. He's a character who get's divine ability's.
"I Burn!"
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2018-03-25, 07:52 AM (ISO 8601)
- Join Date
- Oct 2009
- Location
- In my library
Re: Trouble with uncompromising players.
That's Player 2 (Orc McOhnoputthatinnocentpersondownthisinstandyousicko ), not Player 1 (Dryady treedude).
The problem with Player 1 wasn't that his obsession was harmful, just hard to implement in a satisfying way (you know, as borked as it was Level Adjustment did at least try to make such characters viable). Although apart from misinterpreting which player is which you're spot on.
There is the problem of Player 1 going to a specialist snowflake character, but that's not certain yet, Player 2 is just being stereotypical, which in a tabletop game is completely fine as long as the group is in on it (I mean, in my current group I'm making fun of my RL religion if I get the chance, but not those of other members).