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2018-06-27, 10:41 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Tongue Splitting
A tattoo is a mutilation of a functional body part. So are earrings, nose rings, any brands. The problem is that you're conflating something that is a "red flag" with being "proof positive" which it is not. A mentally deranged person might be more likely to do something like this. But not all people who do are going to be mentally deranged, that's why it's a red flag, not a case closed, because you need more evidence before jumping to conclusions in that regard.
I mean, 3-5 times a week I go and tear my muscles deliberately for hours. Sometimes until I'm too sore to move properly and I can lose up to 50% of my ROM. But I don't think I'm mentally ill.
I think it's more that teens behave pretty erratically anyways because of their hormones, not because of any kind of eccentricity. Because their mental state is changing it can be very difficult to pin down abnormal behavior. Also most teens are away from their parents for the first time for the longest time, which means that it's now the job of random adults to have the attention to notice if they're having problems and that isn't going to be something that they're going to be sufficiently motivated to do.
A teenager isn't typically deemed to be mentally competent with regards to any kind of body alteration though. Even earrings typically require parental consent. So introducing teenagers isn't very useful since that whole thing changes the dynamic since they are not mentally competent by default.My Avatar is Glimtwizzle, a Gnomish Fighter/Illusionist by Cuthalion.
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2018-06-27, 10:57 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Tongue Splitting
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2018-06-28, 01:57 AM (ISO 8601)
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2018-06-28, 06:37 AM (ISO 8601)
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2018-06-28, 06:42 AM (ISO 8601)
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2018-06-28, 09:58 AM (ISO 8601)
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2018-06-28, 01:22 PM (ISO 8601)
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I think there are bigger red flags for mental stability than body mutilation. Eating disorders, to name one. The thing with fooling around with your body is that you don't get as many tries with it. When you screw it, you usually screw it once and for good, like Eyeball Girl (I won't sleep well tonight, thank you). Either you do it good (slowly fill yourself with tattoos/piercings all on sensible places) or you slip beyond any possible help (people who literally become more humanoid than human). Self-destructiveness tends to be a lot more subtle than what people into body mods usually do.
From what I gathered in my life, most people into that kind of thing do it to signal something. Cultural identity, status, fashion, show the world how they see themselves, etc. For instance, my GF did her piercing both because of fashion and (more importantly) because she was trying to prove herself a point. Doesn't matter which point really, some people just like daring themselves and taking calculated risks (or what they believe are "calculated"). Some people like to go beyond, because "nobody else" does. I can totally picture Tongue Splitting Person feeling smug about their bravery/wild life/freewill.
In my case, I did it for completely different reasons than the common ones. My tattoo isn't for show. It's just there for me. It's my Wilson in my castaway trip through time and space(sic)
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2018-06-28, 03:52 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Tongue Splitting
French revolutionnary turned king of Sweden and Norway, Karl XIV Johan Bernadotte alledgedly refused to take off his shirt when having sex and, contrary to royal etiquette, took all his baths alone.
The legends say that when he died, the undertakers discovered a tatoo on his chest that explained that behaviour. It read:
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2018-06-28, 09:01 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Tongue Splitting
Drat! I always forget to add variables! *scribbles exceptions to include: the wealthy, moody artists, colorful athletes, etc...*
Don't equate minimal damage with severe. An ear pierced closes itself with time, a split tongue doesn't. I assume you mean you weightlift, which reverses itself in a few weeks. Stop lifting and you get flabby again. If you were truly tearing your muscles so that you couldn't move your arms again even after rest, you would be deranged. But as I said, it's a "red flag", which means: call in a professional.
Hormones can explain abnormal behaviour, but they don't make it less abnormal. I agree it takes the random adult, usually a boss who fires them, that identifies that the mentally ill youngster is in trouble because his behaviour has continued past his teens.
I use teens as an example because everyone is aware of them behaving in a crazy manner ( mood swings, depression, anger), but having the behaviour dismissed "as a phase" or with a "he's just an excitable boy" to quote Warren Zevon. Suicide in young men is often under-reported because many deaths get lumped in as accidents that befall boys taking stupid risks ( driving too fast, falling off high spots, etc.)."We are the people our parents warned us about!" - J.Buffett
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2018-07-01, 09:09 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Tongue Splitting
What somebody else chooses to do is none of my business.
But it's not for me. In the words of a great 20th century philosopher, "I yam what I yam, and that's all what I yam."
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2018-08-01, 12:01 AM (ISO 8601)
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2018-08-01, 12:11 AM (ISO 8601)
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I would really like to see a game made by Obryn, Kurald Galain, and Knaight from these forums.
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2018-08-01, 11:30 AM (ISO 8601)
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2018-08-01, 01:25 PM (ISO 8601)
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I would really like to see a game made by Obryn, Kurald Galain, and Knaight from these forums.
I'm not joking one bit. I would buy the hell out of that. -- ChubbyRain
Current Design Project: Legacy, a game of masters and apprentices for two players and a GM.
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2018-08-01, 02:43 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Tongue Splitting
I would hope that neither situation would actually happen, since the ability to pay for ink to be quasi-permanently inserted under your skin should not be the basis by which to judge someone's employable ability.
But I'm a cynic, so I am sure both are absolutely true, although I would not hazard a guess as to which is more common.
(I also wonder if you could game it with non-permanent skin art)
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2018-08-01, 07:03 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Tongue Splitting
"That's a horrible idea! What time?"
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2018-08-01, 08:22 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Tongue Splitting
It's not just that--some old-fashioned business owners see getting a tattoo as a sign of rebelliousness, and figure they wouldn't get along with you, so why would they hire you?
Also, what a lot of people don't realize, in a lot of smaller workplaces where the hiring decision is being made by someone who will actually be working with you on a regular basis, the main question on their minds when interviewing an applicant is, "Do I want to have to actually work with this person?". If the person doing that interview has a negative view of tattoos, and you have visible tats, you're probably not getting hired, even if there is no formal policy against them.
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2018-08-01, 09:19 PM (ISO 8601)
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2018-08-01, 09:30 PM (ISO 8601)
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I respectfully disagree. While employee appearance should not be the ONLY basis by which to judge someone's employable ability, appearance is a message a person sends to the world, & therefore you can get alot of accurate information about a person by their appearance.
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2018-08-01, 09:52 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Tongue Splitting
You can get very inaccurate information about a person from their appearance - mostly based on prejudice - but you cannot get any information about their employable abilities, which is what an employment offer should be based on. Even for customer-facing positions, such judgements are irrelevant, if the individual to be hired is to be given explicit instructions post-hire of appearance expectations and one of the actual employable abilities is their ability to accept and follow such instructions.
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2018-08-02, 10:55 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Tongue Splitting
I very strongly feel that employees should be rated on their ability to do the job, and not a lot else. Unfortunately, there are no tests for that at this time, for almost all jobs. There are many mostly suitable applicants for almost all jobs, so employers pick the ones that most appeal to them, in whichever ways they choose.
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2018-08-02, 12:00 PM (ISO 8601)
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I don't.
I don't feel that those with lousy jobs should be cursed and those with good jobs rewarded just because they're good at them.
If I was King of California I'd like time spent doing both good and lousy jobs be more equitably distributed.
I'd rather more who have spent time in their lives as Alaskan fishermen and California tomato pickers (the two lousiest jobs I can think of) get to be tenured professors (the best job that I can think of).
Or in other words, I'd like every minute that I've spent doing heavy lifting or pulling hair out of the drains in the autopsy room be compensated with time in a classroom or library.
I'm decidedly underwhelmed by the "skilled" who have the gravy jobs (chiefly because their parents had gravy jobs), and "ability" just doesn't matter that much to me.
I'd rather a lottery and periodic rotations.
As to those who say "But efficiency"?
Bah!
Increasingly time spent at work by many people is just on flattering someone, enduring abuse, or on meetings and reports the results of which are hardly noticed (see). so there's enough "slack in the system" to handle people doing different tasks then the "same-old-same-old".
I don't like it that some go their lives without having to get dirty (real dirt) earning a living and I don't like it that it's often hard to earn a living without feeling dirty (metaphorically) i.e. the soul destroying nature of working for employers who insist that you lie.
Pretty much I'd abolish almost every job that had "market", "marketing", and "sales" in the title, I really don't care how good people are at them (yes, I'm totally fantasizing, I don't expect any of this)!
Instead (in my fantasies) time spent working would go towards things that would do people good other than flattering managers or enriching owners, so instead of desperate for income people having to "cold-call" me to buy something they'd be fixing leaks with me and then we'd both chill at a bookstore, classroom, library, or tavern.
Though I suppose "ability" is a (slightly) better meter than just whom the employer likes to look at being hired, but I'm still think "ability" has more to do with luck than anything else, and as the old saying goes "What's the reward for hard work? More work.", so as well the reward for being lucky is more good luck.
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2018-08-02, 01:37 PM (ISO 8601)
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I think I sort of probably agree with most of that (haven't looked at the links).
Being unemployed was very bad, and not being accepted for or at interviews was no fun at all.
I'm not saying being stuck in a rubbish job is good or necessary, but being stuck on none because there is no relevant aptitude test is probably marginally worse. Not having any aptitude might be worse still, I'm not denying that.The end of what Son? The story? There is no end. There's just the point where the storytellers stop talking.
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2018-08-02, 04:05 PM (ISO 8601)
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The links are just book reviews, and I well remember being unemployed, and the indignity of the application and interview process.
My grandparents gave me a motor scooter for my 18th birthday, and my job of 1993 to 2000 (motorcycle shop) basically happened because I had hair that pleased the lady who was the parts department manager (ironically the owner hated it and I had to cut it after getting hired) and because I got the microfiche that listed parts numbers (which I would read using the machines at the library), so I ordered parts by number as their customer, so I demonstrated that ability despite knowing very little about mechanics (I was a fast learner back then), my jobs of 2000 to 20011 was because I did well on the test to apply to be an apprentice plumber, and for my current job I did well on the test the City made up to work for them, so more luck than anything else.
My brother got his job because his father-in-law, who worked for the State of Maryland, along with me, my mother and my grandparents all chipped in so he could go to college, and with his diploma he got a job...
....with the State of Maryland.
School admittance, hiring, et cetera could be done by lottery, saving a lot of wasted time.
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2018-08-02, 06:27 PM (ISO 8601)
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Yeah, I can't get a job in my degree field by the luck of having a heavily exam based degree, and really sucking at them. Seriously, I got solid Bs in my coursework easily, but Ds and Es on my exams. I'm currently trying to work out some form of project that'll make me look better, because I've got one more year before I've lost my chance at the graduate schemes Maybe two, it all depends on if the fact I technically graduated this year despite my degree finishing nearly a year ago counts for everything.
EDIT: I got the current job I have essentially because I talk posh enough to empress people and work quickly enough that I'd already picked it up by the end of the trial shift. Oh, and because I have amazing curly hair.
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2018-08-03, 07:33 AM (ISO 8601)
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2018-08-03, 08:56 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Tongue Splitting
I have worked for at least 20 different companies, and I can assure you that employers do want competent people. Working with, for or in close proximity to incompetents (whether due to ability or attitude) is not desirable.
But hey, you want to build strawman about how everyone working at any company is evil, you do you. But on the other hand, "if you don't fit at one job, maybe the problem is them. But if you don't fit in any job, maybe the problem is you".
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2018-08-03, 11:17 AM (ISO 8601)
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I agree with Grey Wolf here; every job wants workers who know what they're doing. It makes worklife better for everyone.
I find the problems with appearance fall with the phrase "Working with, for, or in close proximity to..." & I believe where we disagree is the quality of information gathered from appearance. When I was young I fought to be judged on my skills and not the length of my hair or my apache tie.
As the years have passed I realized when someone tells you something about themself, you should listen.
No one wants to hire a worker who's appearance declares "I am a rebel & I stick it to 'the Man!'" (unless you're looking for a teen idol) because you would not expect him to follow instructions if he disagreed with them.
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2018-08-03, 01:33 PM (ISO 8601)
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Everyone wants competent workers with whom they get along, true. But sometimes they want more than that, and frankly it's a bit unreasonable to call that unreasonable.
I work in a field where there is a surplus. A lot of people go to school for this kind of work, a lot of people enter the job market, and as a result, the bosses have their pick.
Yes, they want someone qualified. That's obvious. And yes, they want someone competent and with whom they'll get along. 90% of the interview process is just that - does this person know one hand from the other, and can I walk into the office and see this person without wanting to vomit? That's the bulk of it.
But a premium is placed on good judgment and good presentation. This is an industry built around the appearance of professionalism and sound decisionmaking. And part of that is how you show.
If you show up to an interview in a t-shirt and jeans, no matter how glowing your resume, charming your personality, and brilliant your skills, you will not get the job. You are not showing off your good judgment and professionalism.
Similarly, if you have tattoos, you cover them up. If they're on your arms, wear sleeves; on your forearms, wear thick bracelets. (On your face, you're out of luck.) Employers won't necessarily kick you out simply for having them, but having them in a prominent, unavoidable place, or refusing to cover them up, shows that you either make bad decisions or aren't professional about it.
You can say, "But bosses shouldn't do that." You're not entirely wrong. You can say, "Your competence and personality should matter more than your appearance," and that's generally true. But, particularly in some industries, those things do matter. And if you can't - or won't - pay attention to these details, you're sending a signal to a potential employer about what matters to you.
And in a densely-packed industry where a dozen people are waiting right outside to take your spot, that's lethal.My headache medicine has a little "Ex" inscribed on the pill. It's not a brand name; it's an indicator that it works inside an Anti-Magic Field.
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2018-08-03, 11:10 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Tongue Splitting
I would really like to see a game made by Obryn, Kurald Galain, and Knaight from these forums.
I'm not joking one bit. I would buy the hell out of that. -- ChubbyRain
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