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2019-05-16, 06:12 PM (ISO 8601)
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- May 2018
Re: How to run a D&D game with depression?
I was player in 3 campaigns where the DM entered a depression.
The first one, while I loved the campaign, but we never got to continue it (people moving around the country), the only thing I wish is that the DM would have started seeing a therapist sooner. He is fine now, but it could have been much worse...
The second one, the campaign was slowly deteriorating, and stopping it before would have been better.
The third time was with the same guy than the second. This time, the campaign was not deteriorating, we did continue the campaign, and it was a success. But even in this case, the summer break helped a lot, and the "resolution" of one of the main factors of the depression helped a lot too.
The conclusion of my humble experience is:
1) Your mental health matter, and should be the priority here. You guys have probably accumulated enough good memories to say that "it was a good time", and stopping it is far less "catastrophic" than what you would think.
2) Taking a temporary break is not the end of a campaign.
3) Just because you temporarily stoped having RPG should not mean you should stop seing each others.
4) If you build a lot in this universe, even if you never continue the campaign, what you've build is not lost. I could says here "it still lives in your Players's memories", but I will take a more concrete argument here: I find that the best reward you can give to a player invested in the campaign is for its exploit to be incorporated in the lore of the universe when you use the universe again in another campaign. (One of our player got the capital renamed after its name, for example).Last edited by MoiMagnus; 2019-05-17 at 06:07 AM.
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2019-05-17, 09:30 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Dec 2018
Re: How to run a D&D game with depression?
I've gotta agree to a degree here, but I'll also say that I have met allot of prescription happy quacks, and while I think that there are plenty of good, well trained therapists, there are also people... I'll keep my language PG, but they are not all good people.
It depends on where you live, but you should seek help in some form, preferably professional... Just make sure to find a good one.
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2019-05-17, 10:19 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: How to run a D&D game with depression?
It's already been said but bears repeating.
1. get professional help. It really can help.
2. If they really are your friends, they will be fine with you needing a break. If they aren't (which is unlikely - I have yet to meet someone who prioritizes game night over other people's wellbeing), you're better off without them. You don't even have to tell them you're struggling with depression, just say you're under a lot of stress for 'reasons' and need a break. Talk to them about other people running a game, other types of games or pastimes, or even just putting all social interaction on hold, but don't push yourself to run a game if it makes things worse for you.
If it turns out you can't continue, so be it.
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2019-05-17, 11:58 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Jul 2005
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- Vancouver, BC, Canada
Re: How to run a D&D game with depression?
It is perfectly fine to take a break from DMing and that doesn't mean taking a break from your friends. For example, you could become a player and one of them could run a game (either in the same campaign or somethign completely different). Or you could try one of those DMless games, like Microscope. Or just a card game or board game.
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2019-05-17, 12:06 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: How to run a D&D game with depression?
A lot of us going through issues with depression and I hope the original poster gives us an update
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2019-05-17, 04:36 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: How to run a D&D game with depression?
The only differences between us and the quacks who call themselves mental health professionals are thus
1. We arent trying to fill you with largely untested chemicals we pretend we know the effect of despite mountains of evidence to the contrary.
2. We dont have over blown egos.
3. We actually have experience with the problems instead of just reading about them.
4. We dont charge you an arm and a leg for OUR bad advice.
So called professionals will give the exact same advice, plus drugs. And when it doesnt work they just shrug their shoulders, bill you again and give some other advice that anyone with an ounce of common sense would have also come up with.
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2019-05-17, 04:48 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: How to run a D&D game with depression?
Despite what gepetto claims, mental health professionals are, in fact, professionals. As with any profession, there are going to be therapists who don't fit for you, and you should definitely feel comfortable looking for someone that does (provided you have insurance or coverage, and depending on your country of origin.)
But absolutely, if you feel overwhelmed and are financially able to go looking, you should go looking for help from people who aren't just elfgamers.
(Also, gepetto, as someone whose partner is in fact training in social work and psychology, I can assure you that programs for mental health professionals heavily focus on drawing from people who do, in fact, have personal experience with mental health difficulties.)If you like my thoughts, you'll love my writing. Visit me at www.mishahandman.com.
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2019-05-17, 05:34 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: How to run a D&D game with depression?
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2019-05-17, 05:50 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: How to run a D&D game with depression?
Update since some people wanted it...
I'm not going to leave the game. It's one of the few happy events in my week. I do enjoy most of my prep. The players are really good with taking initiative and coming up with ideas, anyways.
I don't think professional help will be good for me. I've tried 3 separate therapists and it hasn't helped.
I'm just going to keep living. I would like to get some antidepressants, but that's... Difficult for me to do.
Thank you for all your advice.
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2019-05-17, 06:09 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Feb 2013
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Re: How to run a D&D game with depression?
Thank you for replying.
I have had recognized depression for thirty years, I have had about a dozen counselors and six psychiatrists, (I moved a bit) and for me anyway the chemical imbalance in my brain has to be corrected with meds before I can conscious apply the attitude adjustment of therapy. Without the drugs, therapy would be worthless as I would slide into psychotic binary thinking to every situation. The therapy has helped, I notice I am a lot more easygoing than coworkers facing the same stress and I am the most forgiving of my siblings about our childhood.
If you'll forgive some advice, I think 3 is a low number to renounce therapy, and you might try therapy combined with a psychiatric regimen of medication.
Looks like Gaston is in Washington County, they have a link for mental health services here https://www.co.washington.or.us/HHS/MentalHealth/
I found my psychiatrists through county mental health in several states, I have always found they are quality medical care allowing me to find a good therapy program in or out of county health services. I currently get my meds free as I cannot work full time and qualify for indigent care.
Lemme stress I am just sharing what has happened with me, I was a full-time paralegal with a BA and good career and now live with my mother and work part-time, and I feel relatively happy and enjoy stretching my faculties with D&D. I never had the math for bridge. I believe that you can achieve contentment with your situation if you believe its possible and experiment with treatment solutions.
I don't think it wrong to continue but always remember reducing stress is an option that friends will accept you doing.Empyreal Lord of the Elysian Realm of Well-Intentioned Fail
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2019-05-17, 06:22 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Jan 2019
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Re: How to run a D&D game with depression?
For the record, this is only one avenue that I'm getting advice from.
I like to get a variety of sources.
I'm getting help elsewhere, too.
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2019-05-17, 06:27 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Feb 2013
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- Phoenix, AZ
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Re: How to run a D&D game with depression?
That's good, this forum is fun but it only goes so far.
I'm glad you still feel free to coordinate your options. I didn't get my stuff together until I was in an involuntary hold and got a caseworker to make sure I got a psychiatrist and a therapist at the same time. I don't always function effectively.Empyreal Lord of the Elysian Realm of Well-Intentioned Fail