LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax

[Selpharia]

So I had my first therapy appointment with my new therapist this week. He was easily one of the nicest, most understanding people I've ever met. I mean I know my fears were groundless, really, but it's nice to e proven wrong. That and seeing someone who's transitioned in the flesh made me feel like it's a possible thing and less a bizarre product of my fevered imagination. That and when I mentioned that I don't come across as very feminine, he told me that I didn't come across as masculine either because my shoulders aren't broad and my face and hair are soft-looking. I am, if nothing else, extremely susceptible to flattery. Although it did lead to the following humorous exchange:

Him: [stuff mentioned above]
Me: (internal SQUEE) Hearing that makes me so happy, you have no idea!
Me: *realizes who she's talking to.* Oh, wait, I guess you do
Him: Yep

EDIT; I love your new avatar, Pheenie, it's really majestic

I've been thinking of changing mine, she looks a little to crabby for me at the moment, but I have no better replacement

~Laura

[Zorg]

I for one welcome our new Anatidaen overlords...


Really great news there Selpharia

[Lentrax]

Not to crack wise at the well reasoned argument of Duck superiority over Man, but I love how the argument was so perfectly devised by a fourteen year old.

And here I thought the youth of the world were forgetting how to make clever and witty arguments.

(Anyone else think maybe we should call Emilio Estevez and ask him to be our envoy?)

And I am so glad your therapy session went well. If only everyone could see us all that way.

[Keveak]

Originally Posted by Selpharia

So I had my first therapy appointment with my new therapist this week. He was easily one of the nicest, most understanding people I've ever met. I mean I know my fears were groundless, really, but it's nice to e proven wrong. That and seeing someone who's transitioned in the flesh made me feel like it's a possible thing and less a bizarre product of my fevered imagination. That and when I mentioned that I don't come across as very feminine, he told me that I didn't come across as masculine either because my shoulders aren't broad and my face and hair are soft-looking. I am, if nothing else, extremely susceptible to flattery. Although it did lead to the following humorous exchange:

Him: [stuff mentioned above]
Me: (internal SQUEE) Hearing that makes me so happy, you have no idea!
Me: *realizes who she's talking to.* Oh, wait, I guess you do :smallredfIace:
Him: Yep

EDIT; I love your new avatar, Pheenie, it's really majestic

I've been thinking of changing mine, she looks a little to crabby for me at the moment, but I have no better replacement

~Laura

Amazingly uplifting to hear that your therapist is that great, meeting someone who have gone through what is before you is a wonderful thing.

That exchange is just cuddley-dorable, by the way. :3

PS: I agree, a lovably majestic avatar, Phoenix.

[PairO'Dice Lost]

Originally Posted by Asta Kask

Best argument against gay marriage ever:

Spoiler

Well, I'm convinced.

I'm disappointed. I was expecting a slippery slope argument involving the expression "get all your ducks in a row" and polygamy, or an argument that we're all depraved because we've taken to homosexuality like ducks to water, or something. So much wasted potential.

[Kindablue]

Originally Posted by Asta Kask

Best argument against gay marriage ever:

Spoiler

*snip*

Well, I'm convinced.

I only have several problems with that.

[Lentrax]

Is it wrong of to only be able to think about why anyone would watch two ducks mating for over an hour?

And he took pictures?

[Coidzor]

Originally Posted by Lentrax

Is it wrong of to only be able to think about why anyone would watch two ducks mating for over an hour?

And he took pictures?

SCIENCE! It's not all about explosions.

[Kindablue]

Originally Posted by Lentrax

And he took pictures?

Yes. And, like so many things on the Internet, they are as disturbing as they are easy to find.

[gunnar11]

Originally Posted by Kindablue

I only have several problems with that.

And the fact that ducks are (sexwise) the most like men. You see, they aren't just the only creatures that ever practiced necrophilia, but also one of the three species on the world that practice gang rape. (The other one being dolphins)

People do weird ****
Ducks too.

[noparlpf]

Originally Posted by gunnar11

And the fact that ducks are (sexwise) the most like men. You see, they aren't just the only creatures that ever practiced necrophilia, but also one of the three species on the world that practice gang rape. (The other one being dolphins)

People do weird ****
Ducks too.

Not so, some sorts of penguins sometimes engage in necrophilia.

[KenderWizard]

Originally Posted by gunnar11

here's pictures of kittens:

WOW!

Originally Posted by bluewind95

I just found out that a person I considered a friend... is a horrible transphobe that hates a transgirl who is really a beautiful person just because she's trans and oh-so-unnatural.

I'm not trans. But I can't abide by such things. I feel pretty sad now.

That sucks.

Originally Posted by Asta Kask

Best argument against gay marriage ever:

Spoiler

Well, I'm convinced.

... ... ... *spontaneous nosebleed*

That's awesome, Selpharia! I'm so glad it went well and you got on with him!

[Arachu]

Originally Posted by Asta Kask

Best argument against gay marriage ever:

Spoiler

Well, I'm convinced.

Seems legit.

Originally Posted by Musashi

To be fair, when I originally saw that, I had no idea if that was a genuine opinion or a parody.
I still don't.
Otherwise, well, we're still walking over the Earth's surface, like our ancestors did. Whales' ancestors left water only for a brief time, before going back to the sea. That means we're behind whales evolutionarily. We should rush to the ocean, become sea-faring creatures, and show those damn whales who's boss.

Who needs the ocean? The amphibians know where it's at! They sit wherever the heck they want, obeying no law but hunger, and breathe through their skins! We should go amphibi-ize. X3

Originally Posted by Serpentine

I'd prefer not to have rape as a standard reproduction method, if it's all the same to you :I

Actually, I've heard that rape doesn't usually impregnate ducks because of the way the females' genitals evolved. Rape itself does happen fairly often, though... :/

Originally Posted by Selpharia

So I had my first therapy appointment with my new therapist this week. He was easily one of the nicest, most understanding people I've ever met. I mean I know my fears were groundless, really, but it's nice to e proven wrong. That and seeing someone who's transitioned in the flesh made me feel like it's a possible thing and less a bizarre product of my fevered imagination. That and when I mentioned that I don't come across as very feminine, he told me that I didn't come across as masculine either because my shoulders aren't broad and my face and hair are soft-looking. I am, if nothing else, extremely susceptible to flattery. Although it did lead to the following humorous exchange:

Him: [stuff mentioned above]
Me: (internal SQUEE) Hearing that makes me so happy, you have no idea!
Me: *realizes who she's talking to.* Oh, wait, I guess you do
Him: Yep

~Laura

^_^ *Hugs~*

Originally Posted by Coidzor

SCIENCE! It's not all about explosions.

*Would sig this if she had space left in her sig*


~Bianca

[Thajocoth]

Originally Posted by gunnar11

And the fact that ducks are (sexwise) the most like men. You see, they aren't just the only creatures that ever practiced necrophilia, but also one of the three species on the world that practice gang rape. (The other one being dolphins)

People do weird ****
Ducks too.

Animals do a lot of things we would not accept humans doing... If a species is overpopulated by a large enough margin, even herbivores will turn cannibal. And let's not even get started on all the animals not wearing any clothes in public...

[Lix Lorn]

Originally Posted by Thajocoth

And let's not even get started on all the animals not wearing any clothes in public...

Yeah. Lucky animals. :(

[Absol197]

Spoiler

Originally Posted by Heliomance

I love your new avatar, Phee. It's gorgeous.

Originally Posted by Kindablue

It is, yeah.

Originally Posted by Celtic_D&Der

Very Much agree. Also, love the idea behind the Phoenix, not only in name but in what it means to you. Your old self "dying" and you being born as a new person from your old self, or rather the person you were meant to be. Simply Beautiful.

Originally Posted by Astrella

I hope it all works out!

Also so many sorries that I didn't get round to working on your avatar; but I've been really bad about keeping up with my work. Though with how great of a job Lycunadari did, it's probably for the best.

Originally Posted by Arachu

It is~

Originally Posted by Selpharia

EDIT; I love your new avatar, Pheenie, it's really majestic

I've been thinking of changing mine, she looks a little to crabby for me at the moment, but I have no better replacement

Originally Posted by Keveak

PS: I agree, a lovably majestic avatar, Phoenix.

Thanks, all you guys! I like it a lot, too! I'm a big fan of the poetry of it, like Celtic mentioned. And that's okay, Lena! People get busy sometimes!

Originally Posted by bluewind95

I just found out that a person I considered a friend... is a horrible transphobe that hates a transgirl who is really a beautiful person just because she's trans and oh-so-unnatural.

I'm not trans. But I can't abide by such things. I feel pretty sad now.

Originally Posted by bluewind95

I didn't quite lose my cool, but I did call him a disgusting human being (calmly), and told him that if he hated that transwoman for being trans, then he hated me too because I'm (sort of? I am not sure I quite understand this in myself.. it's so confusing) transgendered (in that I fluctuate from slightly female-feeling to slightly male-feeling and mostly agendered).

Edit: Sleepy, sleepy, posting without finishing. Anyways, I can't take it. I can't consider a transphobe, or a homophobe a friend. I mean... this place is my home. And it's because of YOU people. LGBTA people. You guys even helped me identify myself comfortably as an asexual, and thanks to you guys I no longer feel I'm a straight person with something seriously wrong. Someone that can't accept the extended family I adopted (you guys and some other friends), I can't consider friends.

That's so sad . I'm sorry that he feels that way. And I'm glad you consider us your adopted family. I feel the same way about all of you!

Originally Posted by Arachu

I bet you'd look good in any color, but that one is so yours~

This is so true!

Originally Posted by Arachu

*So many hugs* Here's hoping it goes well, whatever happens. Worst-case scenario, you can probably start transitioning and just conceal signs around her like Lena suggested~

~Bianca

We'll see, but that's what I'm hoping for...

Originally Posted by Keveak

I caught up with the thread! Yay! ^_^

It's hard sometimes, isn't it .

Originally Posted by Keveak

I too think that might be the least hurtful choice, but I hope very much that you can find a way to be out without it harming your family's financial situation. Is it possible to make your grandparent promise not to let their opinion of you affect the inheritance to your parent? ^_^'

Hopefully your grandparent is much less bigoted than we fear. But if not, then remember that it is that person's choice to sacrifice family and see them suffer over petty dislikes of who they are, not yours. You are who they are, and their bigotry has no say in that.

Let's hope!

Originally Posted by Asta Kask

Best argument against gay marriage ever:

Spoiler

Well, I'm convinced.

That makes soooo much sense.
Not!

Originally Posted by Selpharia

So I had my first therapy appointment with my new therapist this week. He was easily one of the nicest, most understanding people I've ever met. I mean I know my fears were groundless, really, but it's nice to e proven wrong. That and seeing someone who's transitioned in the flesh made me feel like it's a possible thing and less a bizarre product of my fevered imagination. That and when I mentioned that I don't come across as very feminine, he told me that I didn't come across as masculine either because my shoulders aren't broad and my face and hair are soft-looking. I am, if nothing else, extremely susceptible to flattery. Although it did lead to the following humorous exchange:

Him: [stuff mentioned above]
Me: (internal SQUEE) Hearing that makes me so happy, you have no idea!
Me: *realizes who she's talking to.* Oh, wait, I guess you do
Him: Yep


~Laura

That sounds so great! Good for you!

Originally Posted by Kindablue

I only have several problems with that.

That's disgusting!

[Lix Lorn]

I seem to recall community stances of Katy Perry being conflicted
But I just saw a youtube comment on her video, pointing out '0:06 WHAT THE! did anybody notice the boy in a flower girl's dress?'

Thank you, luqman127. Thank you.
(Hot N Cold)

[noparlpf]

Originally Posted by Lix Lorn

I seem to recall community stances of Katy Perry being conflicted
But I just saw a youtube comment on her video, pointing out '0:06 WHAT THE! did anybody notice the boy in a flower girl's dress?'

Thank you, luqman127. Thank you.
(Hot N Cold)

Congratulations, luqman127Caption Obvious.
I'm not a fan of her music, myself. It's also hard to guess why there's a guy in a dress; it could just be "being edgy" or whatever.

[Triscuitable]

I've grown to ignore a lot of celebrities before, due to how incredibly cruel and stupid they tend to be. But when I see one retort to one of their fans being sexist, homophobic, transphobic, decline their political views, etc., it really does give me respect to said individual.

Oh yeah, I'm talking about Miley Cyrus here. The Kardashians are still horrible people.

[Coidzor]

No, the flower girl is a little girl that you can see on the far left of the video at the very, very beginning. And another flower girl on the far right who I initially mistook for a ring bearer.

The individual next to Katy Perry is a bridesmaid or the maid of honor who is a man in drag, if I recall the use of the term correctly. Or possibly Genderqueer of some variety, though I don't know that one would be able to make the visual distinction, at least in the limited window provided here.

...I think by position the Maid of Honor and Best Man are supposed to be the ones closest to the bride and groom, so I'd go with Made of Honor reference.

[THAC0]

I know it's kinda stupid, but hey.

I'm a teacher in a part of the country that is rather...regressive on LGBTA issues. And last week I laid into some kids who were using slurs. I've done it before in more tolerant parts of the country, but was really nervous about having to do it here. But I did. And it was good. And hopefully it has an effect.

[Heliomance]

I just had a really satisfying night out.

First of all, I ran into an ex I never got closure on (detailed more in RWA if you're interested). Then I met a coursemate from last year who'd never seen me as a girl before. I was expecting awkwardness, but she didn't bat an eyelid, and when I commented that I was impressed how unfazed she was, her reaction was more or less "Why would I care? You look amazing!"

Then, towards the end of the night, I had a long conversation with a cis girl I met there wherin she gave me fashion tips, seemed to have absolutely no idea I was anything other than a cis girl myself, and actually expressed jealousy over my body, and said she wouldn't have anything to complain about if she had my body!

All in all, I'm in a really good mood at the moment. Everything's come up Tam tonight.

[Thajocoth]

Originally Posted by THAC0

I know it's kinda stupid, but hey.

I'm a teacher in a part of the country that is rather...regressive on LGBTA issues. And last week I laid into some kids who were using slurs. I've done it before in more tolerant parts of the country, but was really nervous about having to do it here. But I did. And it was good. And hopefully it has an effect.

It's even more important in places like that. Good job!

[Absol197]

Originally Posted by Heliomance

I just had a really satisfying night out.

First of all, I ran into an ex I never got closure on (detailed more in RWA if you're interested). Then I met a coursemate from last year who'd never seen me as a girl before. I was expecting awkwardness, but she didn't bat an eyelid, and when I commented that I was impressed how unfazed she was, her reaction was more or less "Why would I care? You look amazing!"

Then, towards the end of the night, I had a long conversation with a cis girl I met there wherin she gave me fashion tips, seemed to have absolutely no idea I was anything other than a cis girl myself, and actually expressed jealousy over my body, and said she wouldn't have anything to complain about if she had my body!

All in all, I'm in a really good mood at the moment. Everything's come up Tam tonight.

Wow! Go you! That's exactly what you deserve to be able to hear!

[Lentrax]

Originally Posted by Heliomance

I just had a really satisfying night out.

First of all, I ran into an ex I never got closure on (detailed more in RWA if you're interested). Then I met a coursemate from last year who'd never seen me as a girl before. I was expecting awkwardness, but she didn't bat an eyelid, and when I commented that I was impressed how unfazed she was, her reaction was more or less "Why would I care? You look amazing!"

Then, towards the end of the night, I had a long conversation with a cis girl I met there wherin she gave me fashion tips, seemed to have absolutely no idea I was anything other than a cis girl myself, and actually expressed jealousy over my body, and said she wouldn't have anything to complain about if she had my body!

All in all, I'm in a really good mood at the moment. Everything's come up Tam tonight.

Woo! You deserved all that. I'm so glad you got it.

[Coidzor]

Any of you all ever do this?

Spoiler

Or is it just considered crass?

[Triscuitable]

My parents flip some serious... curse words if I ever bring more than 2 bottles of soda home. I'm envious.

[Coidzor]

Originally Posted by Triscuitable

My parents flip some serious... curse words if I ever bring more than 2 bottles of soda home. I'm envious.

It was for a party, really. Otherwise I try not to drink soda because of what it does to my teeth and to my gut.

And the ability to throw parties was one of the fringe benefits of having to pay for the luxury of not freezing to death in the winter, I suppose.

[C'nor]

Originally Posted by Absol197

That's so sad . I'm sorry that he feels that way. And I'm glad you consider us your adopted family. I feel the same way about all of you!

I don't know about everyone, since I don't really spend enough time here for that, but there are certainly people from here I consider extended family too.

Originally Posted by Heliomance

All in all, I'm in a really good mood at the moment. Everything's come up Tam tonight.

Tam?

[golentan]

Welp, very sexually confused at the moment. My preferences for men vs women flipped back and forth several times during a single... recreational interlude. It was all very weird.