LGBTAitP #28: Come Taste the Rainbow!

[Absol197]

Hello, everyone, and welcome to the thread for the discussion, celebration and support of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Asexual, Allied, and Queer individuals, and anyone else who fits into the alphabet soup somewhere! Maybe since I'm making this thread, I'll remember to update the link in my signature*!
* Not likely...
Here's the in-thread rules!

1. No adult sexual content. It's against site rules;
2. Let's keep things as A-political as possible;
3. Similarly, try to leave religion out of it;
4. NO discussing if LGBTAetc. is "good" or "right" for the above reasons, mostly;
5. Let's try and keep the in-thread flirting and horseplay to a reasonable level; while all us old hands are a big family, it can make it difficult for the people who are new and have important things to discuss to break in;
6. Everyone is welcome. L, G, B,T, A, Q, A, N, V, P, R, Q, Ω, ♅, everyone. As long as they behave themselves.

If you have a question or two about LGBTA+, you can ask it here! You can ask for advice and support in here.

In addition, many members are willing to give private advice one on one, either through email or PM. The best ways to do this are initiating the PM, or asking for PM help in thread.

Previous threads, because archives are important.

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1. LGBT people in the playground
   
2. LGBT people in the playground - part II
   
3. LGBTitp - part III
   
4. LGBTitp 4: We are a family?
   
5. LGBTitp - Part Five
   
6. LGBTitp - Part Six
   
7. LGBTitp - Part Seven
   
8. LGBTitp - Part Eight
   
9. LGBTitp - Part Nine
   
10. LGBTAitp - Part Ten
    
11. LGBTAitp - Part Eleven
    
12. LGBTAitp - Part Twelve
    
13. LGBTAitp - Part Thirteen
    
14. LGBTAitp - Part Fourteen
    
15. LGBTAitp - Part Fifteen
    
16. LGBTAitp - Part Sixteen
    
17. LGBTAitp - Part Seventeen
    
18. LGBTAitp - Part Eighteen!
    
19. LGBTAitp - Part Nineteen
    
20. LGBTAitp - Part Twenty - Critical Hit!
    
21. LGBTAitp - Part Twenty-One - BLACKJACK!
    
22. LGBTAitP Part 22: The Best There Is
    
23. LGBTAitP Part 23: Et tu, ~Bianca?
    
24. LGBTAitP: Alphabet Soup-with 24 different Vitamins!
    
25. LGBTAitP part 25: Doing Away With Subtitles
    
26. LGBTAitP 26: No Time For Snappy Titles
    
27. LGBTAitP 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax

And the community's previously posted list of Thousand&Wordster Dictionary of Commonly Used LGBTAitP Words and Phrases, originally scribed by AThousandWords (now Qaera) and added to thereafter.

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Lagerbeta: A fine brewski to be drunk by queers and allies.
LGBT: Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans~
Trans~: Transsexual and Transgender
LGBTA: LGBT+Asexual/Allies
QUILTBAG:

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Q - Queer and Questioning
U - Unidentified
I - Intersex
L - Lesbian
T - Transgender, Transexual
B - Bisexual
A - Asexual
G - Gay, Genderqueer

Allies: Straight people that support equality for sexuality and gender minorities.
MtF: Male-to-Female: A woman born with male nibblies, who may or may not be seeking HRT and/or SRS. (AKA: trans woman)
FtM: Female-to-Male: A man born with female nibblies, who may or may not be seeking HRT and/or SRS. (AKA: trans man)
GQ: Genderqueer.
CS: Cis-sexual: sex and gender match (a male with male nibblies, a female with female nibblies.
TS: Transsexual: Sex and gender disparity.
HRT: Hormone replacement therapy. MtF's take more progestrogens and oestrogens and FtM's take more testosterone (I think?)
SRS: Sex Reassignment Surgery: Surgery to replace/transform a vagina into a penis, or vice versa depending on direction. Mastectomies or plastic surgery may be used on breasts.
FFS: Facial Feminization Surgery: Plastic surgery to reduce chin/nose/cheekbones. Not very common.

Man: A cisman or transman. Male.
Woman: A ciswoman or transwoman. Female.
Androgyne: Gender Identity with male and female aspects.
Genderfluid: Someone who fluctuates between male and female.
Agendered: Someone who feels neither male nor female.
Third-gendered: Someone who fits in a local society's third gender, usually male performing female tasks, occasionally vice versa.
Masculine: Something generally associated with men.
Feminine: Something generally associated with women.

Lesbian: A woman who is attracted to women.
Gay: A man who is attracted to men.
Homosexual: A person who is attracted to members of their gender.
Heterosexual: A person who is attracted to members of the opposite gender.
Bisexual: A person who is attracted to both male and female people.
Pansexual: A person who is attracted to people regardless of gender.
Asexual: A person who does not feel any/some sexual attraction.
Demisexual: A person who is only sexually attracted to someone(s) they have formed an intense emotional relationship with.
Androsexual: A person (of any gender identity) who is sexually attracted to the male-bodied form.
Gynosexual: A person (of any gender identity) who is sexually attracted to the female-bodied form
Polyamorous: A person who is interested in a relationship with more than one person.
Radosexual: A person who is only attracted to rad people.
Pomosexual: A person who avoids SO labels.

Sexual Orientation: How one identifies who they are attracted to. (SO)
Gender Identity: How one feels inside society's idea of "man, woman, or other". (GI)
Gender Expression: How one expresses their GI to society. (GE)
Significant Other(s): Person you are in a relationship with. (SO)

Okay everybody, have fun!


~Phoenix~

[Socratov]

Wow, that was quick.

Now I see the Op again, I have always wondered about these:

Ω, ♅

anyone care to explain?

[Lentrax]

But I don't like skittles.

I prefer starburst.

[Absol197]

But I don't like skittles.

I prefer starburst.

Who said I was talking about candy?

Anywho, sorry, Socratov: I have no idea what those mean. I was actually wondering about them, myself. Maybe some other nice person will wander by and enlighten us?


~Phoenix~

[Kindablue]

That thread title...

Wow, that was quick.

Now I see the Op again, I have always wondered about these:

Ω, ♅

anyone care to explain?

It means the same as "OMGBBQ."

[Astrella]

Pretty sure they're symbols for certain gender identities?

[Socratov]

Pretty sure they're symbols for certain gender identities?

That I had assumed (good to know my assumption was correct here) but the question is what gender identity they represent. Purely out of curiosity

[Astrella]

Someone in the thread used to use the second one for themselves and pretty sure they id'd as genderqueer at the moment.

[The Succubus]

But I don't like skittles.

I prefer starburst.

Starburst? STARBURST?!!

In *MY* day we called them Opal Fruits. No good punk kids.

[KenderWizard]

Wow, that was quick.

Now I see the Op again, I have always wondered about these:

Ω, ♅

anyone care to explain?

I think the omega was to just poke gentle fun at the alphabet soup, like, we've got everything here! The other one was what Qaera (who isn't around anymore) used as a gender symbol, I think as a statement that neither the male nor the female symbol fitted them, but they also didn't have no gender. Like "other".

[Socratov]

Someone in the thread used to use the second one for themselves and pretty sure they id'd as genderqueer at the moment.

I think the omega was to just poke gentle fun at the alphabet soup, like, we've got everything here! The other one was what Qaera used as a gender symbol, I think as a statement that neither the male nor the female symbol fitted them, but they also didn't have no gender. Like "other".

thanks. My curiosity has been satisfied (for now)

[Lentrax]

Starburst? STARBURST?!!

In *MY* day we called them Opal Fruits. No good punk kids.

It's called progress, mmkay?

But seriously, it was a joke.

[Rawhide]

[Asta Kask]

One notices there's nothing in the in-thread rules about remaining on-topic.

[The Succubus]

Topics are a very nice chocolate bar, if a little hard to find these days in the UK. I'm also slightly creeped out by them as well, given that a year back someone bit into one and found a severed mouse head in it.

[Astrella]

I think the omega was to just poke gentle fun at the alphabet soup, like, we've got everything here! The other one was what Qaera used as a gender symbol, I think as a statement that neither the male nor the female symbol fitted them, but they also didn't have no gender. Like "other".

Yar, I didn't mention her name cause I don't think we're supposed to discuss banned people?

[Lentrax]

That's because our topic is everything under the sun.

From breakups, to self-identity, to tying Lixie up.

I don't think we have an 'on-topic' topic do we?

[Socratov]

Yar, I didn't mention her name cause I don't think we're supposed to discuss banned people?

If I may speculate upon that, whouldn't that be about the reason of the ban and not the person him-/her-/itself?

Anyway I agree with the wide selection of things to be on-topic about

[KenderWizard]

Yar, I didn't mention her name cause I don't think we're supposed to discuss banned people?

I only thought of that afterwards, but I looked at the rules again recently and I'm pretty sure it's discussing the ban or glorifying the banned person is not allowed, and that just mentioning their existence is okay. Probably best if we just drop it.

Oh! I've been meaning to ask! Anyone planning any rainbowy Hallowe'en costumes?

[Zorg]

I plan on not dressing up and if people ask about it I'll tell them I'm going as one of the X-Men.

Edit: people commented on my slender frame- I'm 6ft tall and weigh 60kg, so yeah, skinny.

[Selpharia]

I keep thinking I want to dress up, but then getting cold feet and/or freaking out about how detailed I want to get, and deciding it's not worth it, especially since I don't expect to be going to any parties or anything.

~Laura

[Asta Kask]

I keep thinking I want to dress up, but then getting cold feet and/or freaking out about how detailed I want to get, and deciding it's not worth it, especially since I don't expect to be going to any parties or anything.

~Laura

Nonsense. Just watch this video.

[noparlpf]

I only thought of that afterwards, but I looked at the rules again recently and I'm pretty sure it's discussing the ban or glorifying the banned person is not allowed, and that just mentioning their existence is okay. Probably best if we just drop it.

Oh! I've been meaning to ask! Anyone planning any rainbowy Hallowe'en costumes?

I'm going to dress as a teenager. Apathetic and angsty. Also, every parent's worst nightmare, so it fits the horror theme.

I plan on not dressing up and if people ask about it I'll tell them I'm going as one of the X-Men.

Edit: people commented on my slender frame- I'm 6ft tall and weigh 60kg, so yeah, skinny.

I'm 175cm and 82kg. Dang. You're like a twig.

[Asta Kask]

When I was young and foolish, I was 6 ft and 48 kgs. Now it's more than twice that.

[noparlpf]

When I was young and foolish, I was 6 ft and 48 kgs. Now it's more than twice that.

How do you do that without being just bones?

[Heliomance]

When I was young and foolish, I was 6 ft and 48 kgs. Now it's more than twice that.

You're over 12ft? O_o

[Asta Kask]

I had quite a growth spurt.

I had a neighbor who was 165-ish and weighed 33 kgs. But she was old and sick.

So, I thought of an idea for NaNoWiMo (is that it?) Making a coming-out story from Dickens's A Christmas Carol. The original story is essentially one of transformation so why not twist it?

I won't do it myself, but if anyone wants to discuss ideas, feel free.

[Absol197]

You're over 12ft? O_o

Hey Helio, re-read what you quoted. 6 feet does not equal 12 feet. Now, if he'd said 6 meters...


~Phoenix~

EDIT: ...No, wait, that wouldn't work, either...I can do math! Really, I promise! <_<; ;>_>

[Lentrax]

I only thought of that afterwards, but I looked at the rules again recently and I'm pretty sure it's discussing the ban or glorifying the banned person is not allowed, and that just mentioning their existence is okay. Probably best if we just drop it.

Oh! I've been meaning to ask! Anyone planning any rainbowy Hallowe'en costumes?

I keep telling myself I am going to, but then I can never afford it, so I'll prolly throw on my TOS costume shirt, and head out as Captain Kirk. Again.

I plan on not dressing up and if people ask about it I'll tell them I'm going as one of the X-Men.

Edit: people commented on my slender frame- I'm 6ft tall and weigh 60kg, so yeah, skinny.

Skinny but cute, hon.

[Arti3]

Communication, Communication, Communication......this very much helps everything. Good Communication, anyway, not sniping at each other and attacking each other. Try to give the benefit of the doubt and do your best to trust them. Don't be completely gullible, but also don't be paranoid. There is a nice middle ground there somewhere, just takes time to find it. And don't rush things. Things will happen when they happen, and just go the speed both of you are comfortable with.

That is all atm. Take it or leave it. Probably isn't all that good advise anyway

Well, communication is key. Hints don't work. The Relationship Woes and Advice has some handy stuff in its OP and Serpentine may have some useful links about particular topics though I don't think those are in her signature anymore.

Cuddle and talk! Enjoy it, do what feels good and don't do anything that doesn't feel good.

Do people in relationships generally not talk to each other much or something? I've done nothing but communicate with zir since it started :P Also it's an LDR so we can't physically do anything but yeah, zie is adorable and wonderful and stuff ^_^