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2018-09-25, 08:21 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Confessions 3: Spilling The Beans Remix
Do note, however, that although the
ruleguideline is supposedly about whether such a relationship is socially acceptable, it is also a rough guideline on predicting whether such a relationship has a strong chance of working out.
With such an age gap, it'd be tricky, and can easily come across as creepy if handled poorly. Try to couch it in something like "Forgive me if I've misread anything, but I really enjoy our time together..."Last edited by Willie the Duck; 2018-09-25 at 08:21 AM.
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2018-09-25, 07:44 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Confessions 3: Spilling The Beans Remix
I haven't figured it out either. On a dating site I do okay (though I haven't used one in awhile now), but in person I have never figured out how to ask, and have to be beaten over the head with a clue bat to know if a woman is flirting with me.
I agree with this. Once you're both adults with enough life experience to know what you want, it's just a matter of what you are comfortable with. The half your age plus seven "rule" is an arbitrary societal more.
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2018-09-26, 03:27 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Confessions 3: Spilling The Beans Remix
While I can sort of do it myself, I'm admittedly terrible at it. Plus the entire 'can't tell if a woman is flirting' deal, I'm convinced that when a woman finally does decided to to beat me over the head with it I'll still manage to misinterpret it, and convince them that she should have used a cricket bat instead.
Although there's the added trouble that the girl I'm crushing on is one of the people who man's reception, so if I ask her out and she says no it'll make turning up to work incredibly awkward.
Also, turns out my ability to flirt gets even worse when I think that HR might hear, but my ability to joke about coffee goes up.
Real confession: I spend too much time cooing over the terrapin at work. It doesn't cause a problem because I do it during break, but I think the terrapin might be trying to escape.
Confession 2: the fact that the terrapin is in reception is a coincidence, I like cute animals just as much as I like cute girls.
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2018-09-26, 09:23 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Confessions 3: Spilling The Beans Remix
There's a girl that I have something of an interest in, but she's at the extreme low end of the "half your age plus 7" guideline that I just finished calling arbitrary. However, in this case it means I'm 35 and she's 23, and that feels like a bigger deal than it would if we were older. Plus, as we established, I am really bad at telling whether she has any interest. So I think what I'm going to do is just do nothing... which is what I usually do anyway.
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2018-09-26, 05:28 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Confessions 3: Spilling The Beans Remix
Real Confession: I'm single.
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2018-09-27, 05:56 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Oct 2009
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Re: Confessions 3: Spilling The Beans Remix
'Aren't we all?'
Anonymouswizard sighed, knowing that he'd have to resume working in a couple of minutes. He'd managed to catch a brief window not flirting with the girl he liked, but he didn't even know if she already had somebody.
At least she smiled and sometimes laughed, but half of him was convinced sure was just being polite. The other half remembered what he had learnt over all these years, that being polite was the sign of hatred.
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2018-09-27, 06:47 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Confessions 3: Spilling The Beans Remix
Sadly, you're in the 'not allowed to initiate' position. Spooky-wooky-magic social rules ban you from taking the first action; you're on the wrong side of the age gap, and in that scenario the 'men initiate' rule is reversed.
You can only act charming and hope she develops some interest.
C'est la vie.
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2018-09-27, 01:35 PM (ISO 8601)
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2018-09-27, 01:54 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Dec 2015
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Re: Confessions 3: Spilling The Beans Remix
Wise not to initiate.
The "half your age plus seven" is out the window when they're younger than their mid-twenties as people are usually very different in their early 20's compared to their late 20's.
If someone is younger than 26 years old you should be no more than five years of them if you want something long-term, as they will change too much.
It's a big world and they are exceptions, but not likely.
Still be charming/kind/polite (it's just good practice) but wait for them to mature, or for you to fall for someone else.
DON'T PINE!
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2018-09-27, 03:13 PM (ISO 8601)
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2018-09-27, 03:28 PM (ISO 8601)
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2018-09-27, 03:55 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Confessions 3: Spilling The Beans Remix
Hmmmm.... might have to push the pining back for a few hours, I need to assemble a new playlist on Spotify. I think I might be able to scavange some songs off the mopey playlist.
(In all seriousness, I kind of don't pine. While I hate being single with a passion, I'd much rather just do something with my time. Plus I don't even know if she's single, if she's already in a monogamous relationship pining would just feel stupid when I should be looking for somebody else.)
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2018-09-27, 04:08 PM (ISO 8601)
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2018-09-27, 04:12 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Dec 2015
Re: Confessions 3: Spilling The Beans Remix
This should be in the relationship thread but whatever.
Real Confession:
I play Boss Monster Card Game by myself even though it's a multi-player card game.
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2018-09-27, 04:25 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Confessions 3: Spilling The Beans Remix
Nah, the people in that thread will tell me to be sensible, which is hard when I've got a friend continually telling me to talk to Smiles and chase her.
He seems to think I might have a chance romantically for some strange reason, something about actually finding women I'm attracted to and being willing to try and talk to them.
Real confession: I'm somehow both incredibly insecure and incredibly proud. Quite often about the same things.
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2018-09-27, 04:33 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Confessions 3: Spilling The Beans Remix
Real Confession: A decade ago I used to work with a female supervisor who treat me like garbage and I report her behind to the Human Resources and she got in trouble for it.
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2018-09-29, 01:09 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Confessions 3: Spilling The Beans Remix
I woke and got up at 1230 today because of a pain filled night.
Has any one seen my jar of anti-protons or my cyclotron of positrons?
Side employment:
Professor Emeritus:Studies of Supernatural Events and Countermeasures;
Miscatonic University, Nashville Campus
sig thread is here
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2018-09-29, 01:20 PM (ISO 8601)
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2018-09-29, 02:03 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Confessions 3: Spilling The Beans Remix
i do light assy in a factory but,
1. I helped the IT guy with a computer relocate - time on my feet is not good.
2. went to the grocery story - more time on my feet
3. waited on my feet for a bus running late due to traffic
4. gave up on bus, called taxi, then saw bus go by while waiting for the taxi
5. Taxi never came, then saw bus headed toward end point so figured the bus would come before the taxi.
6. canceled cab 1 hour after standing and waiting and took bus home.
I weigh almost 300 lbs with about40 lbs being scar tissues. very hard on my feet, and some dufus forgot to take his pain meds for 24 hours.
so here is my confession: I am a dufus for forgetting to take my pain meds for 24 hours!Has any one seen my jar of anti-protons or my cyclotron of positrons?
Side employment:
Professor Emeritus:Studies of Supernatural Events and Countermeasures;
Miscatonic University, Nashville Campus
sig thread is here
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2018-09-29, 07:10 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Confessions 3: Spilling The Beans Remix
I don't know how applicable it would be, but if it gives you any hope, for a few years after an injury in 2001 I was in a great deal of pain most every week, sometimes some pain comes back (I was very sore this morning) and I fear re-occurrence, but the pain hasn't been as chronic as 15 years ago.
I think part of it was a change in status, in that I became a full Journeyman in 2007 (behind schedule), and while the job is still physical, I'm not expected to perform as a human forklift as much as when I was an apprentice.
Best wishes to you Insane Jeenyus
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2018-09-30, 11:26 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Confessions 3: Spilling The Beans Remix
Yeah, I agree. No pining here.
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On a completely opposite note, in a couple weeks I'll be going to a professional conference, just for one day (it goes on for three, with a few events on the night before the first day as well, so more like three and a half I guess). While going over the list of presenters to choose which day, I discovered that my ex (with whom I was pretty serious and had a very hard time getting over) is doing a presentation.
I'm going to a different day - not just to avoid her but also because there's a lot more stuff that's relevant to me on one of the other days anyway. However, I'm still nervous that I might run into her. I've told myself over and over that I don't want to encounter her, but deep down there's a part of me that wants to finally tell her off in a way that I never did when I had the chance. It's a bad idea and I don't think it will happen anyway, but it's been in the back of my mind ever since I found out.
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2018-10-01, 05:45 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Confessions 3: Spilling The Beans Remix
Has any one seen my jar of anti-protons or my cyclotron of positrons?
Side employment:
Professor Emeritus:Studies of Supernatural Events and Countermeasures;
Miscatonic University, Nashville Campus
sig thread is here
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2018-10-01, 10:32 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Confessions 3: Spilling The Beans Remix
I have someone like that. A former friend whom I had financial entanglements that went south. She ran into her ex-husband, who I game with, and it brought up similar thoughts in my mind. If I did run into her, I'd have the urge to tell her off. What devastating thing do I want to say? 'Oh, hi. How are you? That's nice. Okay, have a nice <event>.' That's it. Just indifference. No magic comeback is going to be more withering than the fact that she's no longer important to my life and isn't living rent free in my head.
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2018-10-01, 12:25 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Dec 2015
Re: Confessions 3: Spilling The Beans Remix
Real Confession: I can't stand people who lacks communication.
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2018-10-03, 11:46 PM (ISO 8601)
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2018-10-05, 09:11 PM (ISO 8601)
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Real Confession:
I got high metabolism.
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2018-10-06, 06:16 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Confessions 3: Spilling The Beans Remix
Has any one seen my jar of anti-protons or my cyclotron of positrons?
Side employment:
Professor Emeritus:Studies of Supernatural Events and Countermeasures;
Miscatonic University, Nashville Campus
sig thread is here
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2018-10-06, 06:22 PM (ISO 8601)
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2018-10-06, 11:24 PM (ISO 8601)
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2018-10-06, 11:27 PM (ISO 8601)
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