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2012-02-17, 12:22 AM (ISO 8601)
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Wait a second, a drunken tossup with spiderman and two cage fighters in drag is a bad night? That sounds like AWESOME FUN to me.
Then again, my urge to war has been high this past... decade. Stupid biological conditioning with its stupid predisposition towards combat and its... Anyhoo.
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2012-02-17, 12:31 AM (ISO 8601)
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Sleepy but can't sleep. Bugger.
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2012-02-17, 12:36 AM (ISO 8601)
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Well, get over here and sleep with me then.
I'm going to give you my go to advice for sleep. Heat up some water or milk (chamomile tea if you've got it).. about half a teaspoon to a teaspoon of ground nutmeg, honey to taste, and ground cloves if aching or other pain is what's keeping you up. Drain it all down and go read for half an hour. If you haven't fallen asleep where you sit by then, go ahead and lie back and make a fresh effort.
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2012-02-17, 12:42 AM (ISO 8601)
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Add a little bit of cinnamon to that, say, about 1-3 dashes, and a dollop of vanilla and you've got the drink my dad always used to make me when I was having trouble getting to sleep as a little kid.
It may or may not have been an example of the placebo effect at its finest.
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2012-02-17, 12:47 AM (ISO 8601)
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I took my new medication in the evening rather than in the morning. It causes sleeplessness...
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2012-02-17, 12:49 AM (ISO 8601)
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It isn't. Nutmeg and Chamomile are (verified) soporifics, and clove is a painkiller. Warm milk may be placebo (I'm not sure), but does seem to help (I think it makes it easier for the digestive system to uptake).
Cinnamon and Vanilla would just be there for flavoring, I think. I know the honey is.
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2012-02-17, 01:56 AM (ISO 8601)
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Pah! That's terrible.
Where is this, exactly? I have the good luck to be in California, and was able to work in a kilt (tastefully colored of course) at Starbucks, because it fit within the regs that said employees could wear skirts. But be often wondered if that's because management just didn't care what you had under the apron, as long as it was black or khaki.
Granted, that's backwards from the obvious suggestion here (wear a skirt and get away with it because it's a kilt) but pretty identical otherwise.
To paraphrase Ian Malcolm, "the mind... Finds a way."
Cool! Glad things worked out so well.
Generally? Terrible. It means you aren't actually getting what you need.
It's also more a... A symbol, say. Wanting to be hugged generally means you want someone wrapped around you; a nod to being comforted, someone else taking the guardian position so you can let your guard down for once and relax, all armor removed. It's an indulgence, and often considered a selfish one. But everyone needs a bit of indulgence every now and then. Indulging in an honest to goodness hug, no strings attached, is a sign of trust.
Luckily, I've got an accommodating filly, but otherwise I'd go stir crazy.
Eyup. I have to second this partic'lar motion.
Define expensive. A kilt can be bought for several hundred pre-sewn and all that, but a traditional kilt (well, "traditional") isn't sewn at all. Ya buy a five yard long, five foot wide bolt of plaid bolt of woolen fabric, measure out your hip width, and then pleat it by hand, line to line, until you've got a pelvis width panel on either side of a bunch of pleats. Pull one side over, then another; belt it on and gussy it up. The wool, based on quality, can be as low as $65 USD.
The downside is that when you're done and take it off, it unpleats. It's a good amount of effort every day you wan to wear it, unless you have the foresight to fold it the night before.
Aye. It's also darn breathable in the summer. It was the most comfortable garment is worn on a camp out, where it was a record-breaking 117 F in the shade. The fabric creating small breezes as it swayed was helpful, too.
I'm also inclined to say its darn warm in the cold. I hate the cold, and it made it tolerable for me.
*waves* hi! I'm a massage therapist.
Much like gender studies have ruined movies for Serpentine, I have trouble with a lot of common words which don't quite mean what people think they mean. For one, I cnnot help but since whenever I hear 'happy ending' no matter the context. And those who know that but still use the word? I have to wonder. Is it intentional? Are they just being absent minded? Do they disregard my feelings about it? Etc.
There is also masseuse. People often comment on how weird it is that I'm a masseuse. But I'm not a masseuse silly! By matter of technicality, I would be a masseur, not a masseuse. That's just linguistics. Except I'm not a masseur or a masseuse, because those are slang terms for prostitutes, at least in America, Canada and parts of the UK.
It also makes Internet scrounging for jobs more cringeworthy. Red go to craig's list and looked up stuff related to massage? It distresses me that some people throw around sensual massage and cathartic release and spiritual terms like they are valid medical terms.
And Of course there is the weird place where I have to know medical stuff but I can't do medicine. Folks ask me to crack their back all the time, but that's chiropractic medicine. I'd be liable for suing, as it's both malpractice and practicing without a license. Which is dumb, because lay folk can crack each other's joints all the time and no one cares. They don't know enough to be held accountable. And then, well, I'll be honest. Seeing exactly how much of the body excretes and is covered by mucus?
Any knowledge brings a shift in perceptions and responsibilities. Doesn't matter what it is.
the act of heating up the milk and mixing the drink itself is supposed to be meditative, but I suppose that falls under placebo doesn't it?Last edited by SiuiS; 2012-02-17 at 02:08 AM.
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2012-02-17, 02:10 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 20: Critical Hit!
I got a facial today hahaha I've never felt so feminine or pampered~
Followed by a few hours of power tools, PVC, and lumber. Grrrr mantime!
It was weird my mom set up the facial and she is pretty anti lgbt so I dunno whats going on
*rubs cheeks*
~ ♅
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2012-02-17, 02:26 AM (ISO 8601)
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2012-02-17, 02:45 AM (ISO 8601)
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I'm going to my first conference today, and presenting research! Eee!
Okay, if it was Utopian Solution, rather than Utopian Feminist Solution, we would also have solved bullying and extreme wealth inequality. But if we're just fixing gender inequality, gender neutral uniforms, with options, are the way to go. Anyway, I think uniforms are kind of nice, they're simple and harmonising.
I would feel bad for people like Nix, whose presentation is very important to them, but you still have hairstyle, jewellery, cut of shirt, shoes, etc. Because also in this particular utopia, there wouldn't be stupid rules like "boys have to have short hair" and stuff.
Damn, I always forget that one!
Exactly.
That makes me anxious, because most people who aren't conforming to gender roles are not highly trained fighters.
Hate that. Mine causes drowsiness, so I had to change to taking it in the evening.
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2012-02-17, 03:01 AM (ISO 8601)
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2012-02-17, 03:34 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 20: Critical Hit!
Hell, I was just pointing out that this is one of those things where there's not necessarily a clear consensus about what the utopian solution would be.
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Forcing people to all dress the same would not fix gender inequality in and of itself. Forcing people to all dress the same and then giving them options to not do so just sound contradictory and would allow a loophole allowing your intended goal to be circumvented by those who you would force to change.
And, again, once you're giving non-trivial "options," one might as well be using a dress code rather than having a "uniform" which is anything but.
*shudder* You just reminded me of the horrible, skin-tight jumpsuit uniforms of science fiction.
I'm pretty sure the general definition of uniform covers cut of shirt and shoes. Though it is rather illuminating to see the cultural differences highlighted.
I'm not sure why, but something about your general tone here just really rubs me the wrong way and reminds me of those satirical lists about privilege that sometimes circulate my feminist contacts on social networks.
Isn't that half the point of the tradition of forcing children to wear uniforms? The nonsensical rules handed down and then garbled in translation from preparatory schools for nobles and people with far too much money.
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2012-02-17, 04:43 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 20: Critical Hit!
I'd go for anti-bullying campaigns and classes on gender and equality, uniforms would be like taking a cookie from the child. It looks mean to the kid, but clearly it must be OK to take away stuff from those under you if the adults do it. Authoritative parenting* is quite counter-productive that way. ^_^'
Wouldn't freedom with hair and accessories just allow the bullies to reinforce arbitrary rules, by the way? If they already think they can force people to follow their rules, then they would probably continue with whatever they can latch on to. I think, I could easily have missed an important point
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2012-02-17, 04:53 AM (ISO 8601)
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Why hello again, dysmorphia. It's been a while. Oh, and I see you're stronger than I remember. Fantastic.
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2012-02-17, 04:55 AM (ISO 8601)
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On the subject of school uniforms: heh... I'm against them because I don't enjoy that sort of conformity. On the other hand, I've never had to wear one, never met anyone my age who had to, and I haven't really given much thought to the issue, so my opinion isn't worth more than the 2 proverbial cents.
On the subject of comedic movies centered about a man disguising himself as a woman: that conversation reminded me of a movie I'm not entirely sure what to make of.
In Chouchou, the main character is a migrant who arrived illegally in France to look for his nephew. He turns out to be a transvestite singer, and Chouchou decides to work in the same cabaret as the nephew, as a transvestite. During the movie, Chouchou meets a man at that cabaret, and it's love at first sight. Notably that man always respects and treats Chouchou as a woman, is not surprised by any kind of reveal, and the movie ends with their wedding (in a country that still doesn't allow homosexual marriage). The shenanigans are less about his double identity than about the fact he's an illegal migrant and doesn't know a lot about French culture and norms.
Since Chouchou spends a lot of time disguised as a feminine woman and truly enjoys that persona, I have no idea if he should be considered here as "just" a crossdresser, or as a MtF who has no medical treatment. And I saw the movie a long time ago, so details may be off (for example, I can't remember for sure if Chouchou was a transvestite before or after finding his nephew... I thought he was, but most reviews I'm seeing imply the opposite).
So yeah. I personally think it's better than most other movies on the subject. It, however, wasn't amazing of very memorable.Originally Posted by on Dwarf Fortress succession gamesOriginally Posted by Dwarf Fortress 0.40.01 bugs
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2012-02-17, 05:45 AM (ISO 8601)
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2012-02-17, 05:45 AM (ISO 8601)
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I have a long lazy Sunday ahead of me with nothing planned, so I'll be able to work on a certain picture and hopefully have it ready by Sunday evening.
I would give your stupid body a bonk on the head but I'm worried about damaging the wonderful contents of it. >.>
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2012-02-17, 05:54 AM (ISO 8601)
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After having about two and a haf months of being relatively content being a male - which annoyingly happened just as I'd finally resolved to start working on this androgyny business - I woke up this morning hating my body hair, lack of curves, and general maleness. It drove me to shave my arms this morning, and I'm currently doing something I've never done before - I'm wearing an (admittedly unstuffed) bra on campus.
It's wonderful. It's a really subtle effect, it doesn't look too blatant, but it definitely does feminise my figure. Coupled with a blouse, it hints at the possiility of curves without making me look like a drag queen.
Course, I'd rather have the real curves, but you take what you can get. I'm still not happy with my body at the moment, but it makes it bearable.Quotebox
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2012-02-17, 05:56 AM (ISO 8601)
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Poor you. I hope you can resolve this somehow.
In other news:
SpoilerLast edited by Asta Kask; 2012-02-17 at 05:57 AM.
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2012-02-17, 06:14 AM (ISO 8601)
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2012-02-17, 07:06 AM (ISO 8601)
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I like this idea. If everyone wore the same thing, like slacks and a shirt and tie, it would be fine.
A difference between us?! If I go a while without a hug I get a physically uncomfortable sensation in my chest, like an emptiness. I can stave it off by tightly cuddling a teddy, but I need a proper hug with a person to cure it. It comes on faster when I'm tired or stressed or lonely. I think I actually run on cuddles.
Is this possible?
I'm not sure what's up with me and hugs because I used to not have issues touching people. I know I liked hugging my ex when we were dating. Nowadays I often sleep hugging my pillows, but the other half of the time hugging my pillows reminds me too much of touching people and I can't so I turn around.
I had similar, only I was the sibling who did worse. ( A difference between us?! ) My brother is about as weird as I am, but for some reason, more popular. I think he would agree that I generally have slightly higher cha than he does; we can both make speeches and present ourselves well, but I can talk to strangers, make small talk, tell jokes and deal with crowds better. But I cannot make friends in a class of my peers. I think after all the horrific experiences of my early secondary school career, I just go on the defensive really fast in a group of people the same age as me who are all learning together, and people think I'm aloof and insane, rather than fun and eccentric.
I also tend to act really weird around people and they all think I'm crazy. I'm really just an eccentric genius. Totally.
Once you see it, you can never unsee it! ("It" being subtle cultural gender inequality, in this context.) I had forgotten about the "He thinks he's attracted to 'her', but 'she's' a dude! So it's, like, GAY!" thing.
I would have preferred uniforms just because of how much trouble some of the kids seemed to have dressing themselves. (Skirts too short, pants too low, necklines too low and breasts falling out...)Jude P.
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2012-02-17, 08:32 AM (ISO 8601)
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A solution to the problem with the blog post and it's troublesome link:
Go to Sincerely, Natalie Reed, scroll down to the post made at 15 February, 2012 at 9:00 am. It's about how persons like me - who for one reason or another like-like trans persons - should and shouldn't behave. Anders (Asta Kask) made some great replies to that post.
PS. Natalie promised me on Twitter to avoid using... *naughty words* in the links in the future.Last edited by H Birchgrove; 2012-02-17 at 08:49 AM.
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2012-02-17, 10:58 AM (ISO 8601)
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How not to compliment trans people.
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2012-02-17, 11:04 AM (ISO 8601)
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2012-02-17, 11:07 AM (ISO 8601)
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Yep. That's what I get for mucking things up. :)
Spoilered so I don't fill up the page with whining that nobody needs to suffer through.
SpoilerWhich is interesting to me as I have absolutely no interest in fashion. I've really been thinking about my gender lately. I've made friends with some folks on Facebook who are in the process of, or already have transitioned. What really scares me is lots of pictures really strike me as "guy in drag" not "transwoman." It immediately turns of me mentally and doesn't fit what I see myself as.
I feel really shallow when this happens, because I know that if I actually can't *look* like a woman, I would never be able to go through with transition. I mean I get that people have good and bad days. That's a given but... *sigh*
At first I struggled with what it means to be trans. Then I struggled with being a "real" woman. Now I'm struggling with being a "real" transwoman. No, I'm not trying to be offensive, I'm being sincere. I don't think my mind has wrapped around all of my issues.
Couple this with the fact that I'm a chameleon in society (meaning I change my behaviors (sometimes drastically) depending on the context I'm in and what is accepted) and what it boils down to is the fact that I have no freaking clue where the real me begins and where all the bs ends. Some days it feels like I'm all bs. That there *is* no "real" me.
Edit: Dang it!!! I just read Natalie's blog for the first time, and the very first thing I read is how horribly cis-biased what I just wrote was!!! Gah, I hate myself now. I'm so, so sorry to everybody I just offended.
This is wonderful, hon! I'm so proud that you had the courage to do this, and the looks to pull it off. :) Please keep us updated on how things progress. It's refreshing to see somebody identify an issue getting them down, and executing a plan to successfully handle it.
How wonderful! :) Sorry you couldn't have more time to enjoy it though. I'm curious as to why your mom set it up. How aware is she of your situation?
I'm curious as to what it was like getting the facial. I've wanted to do something like get my nails done or get laser hair removal of my facial hair or.. something. But I always worry about how I'd be received.
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2012-02-17, 11:39 AM (ISO 8601)
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2012-02-17, 11:48 AM (ISO 8601)
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2012-02-17, 11:48 AM (ISO 8601)
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Sucks. Wings are awesome. :(
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2012-02-17, 12:09 PM (ISO 8601)
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2012-02-17, 12:16 PM (ISO 8601)
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Went shopping today with a friend, I now have more feminine clothes (including a rather nicely flattering pair of bootleg jeans!) tweezers for doing something about my eyebrows, and foundation. I felt bad enough about my body today that I had to do something about it.
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