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2013-07-08, 03:37 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Guys: Stop Being The White Knight
I don't normally read about introversion being paired with a lack of interest in romantic relationships, or an unwillingness to do nice things on behalf of a person high on one's "awesome and smoochable" list, so I don't see how being an introvert would keep someone out of a healthy relationship. Or at least once you get around the problem of enduring social gatherings long enough to meet someone and get to know that they're awesome and smoochable.
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2013-07-08, 04:56 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Guys: Stop Being The White Knight
If it helps, having studied sports psychology (or more accurately, dabbled with reading something resembling a book), the terms introverted and extroverted take on a different meaning, stemming from intrinsic vs. extrinsic motivation:
Introverted athletes draw inspiration and motivation for success from within themselves, ie. they perform becasue they want to fulfill their own needs - like the guy who gets knocked down and has a little word with himself before gritting hsi teetch and getting back up again.
Extroverted athletes draw inspiration and motivation from others, they desire to perform to impress their teamates/opposition/coaches etc. or achieve rewards, such as bonuses, better contracts, sponsorship deals, tv spots and adulation from their home nation and press/media. That would be the guy who gets knocked down, and the crowd start chanting and cheering, willing him back on to his feet as he rides the wave of emotion to spur him on.
I always used to think of myself as an extrovert, but when i was taught this i realised i wasn't at all - measuring how popular you think you are and how you interact with varying groups of friends and aquaintances is a really inaccurate way to define yourself (especially as everyone has close friends and a wider circle of aquaintances, colleagues and indirect friends, and how quickly you make new friends or how confident you are leading a group or talking in front of a crowd doesn't really reflect your character as much as your personality, confidence and situational needs). I like these alternative definitions!Last edited by JustSomeGuy; 2013-07-08 at 04:57 PM.
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2013-07-08, 05:28 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Guys: Stop Being The White Knight
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2013-07-08, 05:35 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Guys: Stop Being The White Knight
All I know is, I prefer to be alone when the alternative is in a noisy room filled with people I don't know, because such situations are stressful. Maybe I'm a secret extrovert though, as my stress comes almost entirely from a desire to not be disliked or considered "weird" or whatever.
My angst over others' perception of me and my inability to make decisions have gotten me called "needy" which is why I mentioned my introverted nature in the first place.
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2013-07-08, 05:53 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Guys: Stop Being The White Knight
I am introverted also. And for guys is worse, because we are supossed to take the first step.
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2013-07-08, 09:12 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Guys: Stop Being The White Knight
Former Ghosts?
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2013-07-08, 09:16 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Guys: Stop Being The White Knight
Most people I know have gone through at least some anxiety over whether or not other people like them or think they're weird. It makes you normal. If your anxiety is serious enough to keep you from living the life you want, would you consider seeing a counselor? Counseling has been instrumental in helping me shape myself into the man I want to be. I recommend looking into it if you feel that a part of you is holding yourself back from a fulfilling life. And many workplace insurance plans will at least partially cover mental health services.
You're roguishly handsome and have a cool sword and leather jacket. Just swagger around town and I'm sure the ladies will throw themselves at you.
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2013-07-08, 10:39 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Guys: Stop Being The White Knight
Spanish ladies can be difficult to conquest, and i am not so optmistic about myself. But thanks, you are very nice
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2013-07-09, 02:51 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Guys: Stop Being The White Knight
Who the hell said anything about that? Did you even read the OP?
To everyone else: Great discussion. Even though I am not piping in, I am following along. As I expected, some people are getting it, while others are not. I chalk that up to my poor writing and inability to put to text the things that go through my head in a clear manner. So sorry about that! Some simply disagree, and that's fine.
There's nothing wrong with introverted women, or those who actually do need a little help with things. We all do from time to time. No hostility is going your way. The hostility is directed towards the boys. In fact, if you're reading this post, chances are you are not the type of woman this topic is discussing.Last edited by Crow; 2013-07-09 at 02:55 AM.
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2013-07-09, 03:00 AM (ISO 8601)
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2013-07-09, 03:11 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Guys: Stop Being The White Knight
Holy crap it was a joke. Yes, it can go both ways. I am not saying that female white knights can be disregarded. I wouldn't even go as far as to say that it is rarer in any one gender than the other.
But as a male with a lifetime of experience being male, I was directing my OP to other males, as per the title. I don't feel confident taking a stab at addressing cases of feminine white knighting.
It seems like there are a few people here who disagree with me, and that is fine. But accusing me of sexism isn't fair, and assumes that I targeted my post towards all men, and within it was discussing all women.Last edited by Crow; 2013-07-09 at 03:20 AM.
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Styx Rivermen, Feets Reloaded, and Selene's Seductive Strut
Record: 42-17-13
3-time Division Champ, Cup Champion
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2013-07-09, 03:12 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Guys: Stop Being The White Knight
I find that for every possible approach to dealing with women, someone will denounce it as sexist, demeaning, boring, patronizing, ineffective, or otherwise morally wrong. I am thus tempted to conclude that there is no right answer, only an abundance of wrong ones.
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2013-07-09, 04:07 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Guys: Stop Being The White Knight
Guys, you should know that interacting with women at all is morally wrong, because cooties.
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2013-07-09, 04:09 AM (ISO 8601)
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2013-07-09, 04:12 AM (ISO 8601)
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2013-07-09, 05:15 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Guys: Stop Being The White Knight
Ah, gender wars in the playground. It's like a real playground, but we're older.
\A/ Why play fair when you can "Technically" play fair. \A/
SpoilerAh say ah canno' jump, ya' jus' 'ave ta' toss meh!
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2013-07-09, 05:27 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Guys: Stop Being The White Knight
Personally, I advocate uploading every adult into a personalized virtual paradise and creating new humans by randomized in-vitro fertilization followed by growing in vats.
It solves so many relationship problems.Resident Vancian Apologist
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2013-07-09, 06:02 AM (ISO 8601)
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2013-07-09, 06:05 AM (ISO 8601)
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2013-07-09, 06:17 AM (ISO 8601)
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2013-07-09, 06:20 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Guys: Stop Being The White Knight
Yeah, it is scientifically proven we have cooties.
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2013-07-09, 06:32 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Guys: Stop Being The White Knight
Ha ha... girls have cooties
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2013-07-09, 07:29 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Guys: Stop Being The White Knight
Hmm.
A man starts a thread in a public forum, loudly and Socratically berating members of his own gender for their jerkish treatment of women, and letting them know what women are really looking for in a man. And letting any women who may be reading know what they ought to be looking for in a man, and hoping they'll applaud him for saving them from the sea of jerks with his reasoned, self-effacing performance.
Does that sound a bit White Knight-ish to anyone else?Last edited by Hazyshade; 2013-07-09 at 07:32 AM.
There are bad times just around the corner,
There are dark clouds hurtling through the sky, tiddley-pom!
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2013-07-09, 07:38 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Guys: Stop Being The White Knight
That sounds more like Neon Mauve Knight behavior.
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2013-07-09, 07:44 AM (ISO 8601)
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2013-07-09, 07:53 AM (ISO 8601)
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2013-07-09, 07:55 AM (ISO 8601)
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2013-07-09, 08:25 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Guys: Stop Being The White Knight
Basically if a relationship exhibits the same characteristics as a harmful drug addiction for an extended period of time then it needs to stop. There are other reasons to terminate relationships, but I don't think it's easy to disagree with that one.
Also taupe is clearly the best colour and taupe knights are what women wantLast edited by Just_Ice; 2013-07-09 at 08:27 AM.
Playground in the Playground
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2013-07-09, 09:40 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Guys: Stop Being The White Knight
I vote for romantic moonlit knights by the shore
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2013-07-09, 09:50 AM (ISO 8601)
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