Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 22: In Which Two Problems Prevent Each Others' Solut
1) I do realise that your girlfriend's situation is far from laughable and quite serious indeed..so no, I'm not trying to make fun of it
2) I'm afraid I don't have anything meaningful to suggest other than to stay close to her by whatever means you have..
that said.. reactive hypoglycemia sounds like a prank waiting to happen more than a serious illness which I'm sure it is..
being able to affect someone's mood simply by deciding the menu..
the possibilities are endless!!
I do wish there were ingredients that could actually improve her mood..
is this so? please say it is!
I'll go hide under the bed before I'm scolded by everybody... (which would be the totally correct thing to do)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 22: In Which Two Problems Prevent Each Others' Solut
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Originally Posted by dehro
I do wish there were ingredients that could actually improve her mood..
is this so? please say it is!
Not related to the issue, no... But there are a few foods she particularly likes... Tofu, broccoli dipped in ranch dressing, chocolate, etc...
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 22: In Which Two Problems Prevent Each Others' Solut
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Originally Posted by Cobra_Ikari
Depends on how formal the dance is. Did she say yes? =3
Well, it's homecoming. Which for a dude means a button down and tie if you care. And I dunno yet, as I haven't actually asked yet ... I am asking sometime between this evening and Thursday. This evening'd be 11 days before, Thursday'd be 9 before.
Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 22: In Which Two Problems Prevent Each Others' Solut
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Originally Posted by AtlanteanTroll
Well, it's homecoming. Which for a dude means a button down and tie if you care. And I dunno yet, as I haven't actually asked yet ... I am asking sometime between this evening and Thursday. This evening'd be 11 days before, Thursday'd be 9 before.
I don't see why asking a week ahead would be too early. Go for it.
And a button-down and tie is a bit much, even, at least for homecomings.
Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 22: In Which Two Problems Prevent Each Others' Solut
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Originally Posted by AtlanteanTroll
Asking someone to a dance about 10 days beforehand ... How big of a goof is that? (I know she isn't going with someone else as of yet.)
Depends on if tickets are still available.
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+3 Girlfriend is totally unoptimized. You are better off with a +1 Keen Witty girlfriend and then appling Greater Magic Make-up to increase her enhancement bonus.
Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 22: In Which Two Problems Prevent Each Others' Solut
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Originally Posted by AtlanteanTroll
Well either way it doesn't matter.
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"Something something best guy friend and I love you something something I'm sorry something something can't fake what I can't feel."
Sorry to hear it, rejection is never easy. If you're like me though, at least knowing for sure is better than always wondering and having things being awkward and uncertain.
Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 22: In Which Two Problems Prevent Each Others' Solut
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Originally Posted by Arutema
So, I don't feel comfortable discussing the full extent of my relationship woes in a public forum. Is there someone I can PM?
I'm always open as a friendly ear.
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 22: In Which Two Problems Prevent Each Others' Solut
There's nothing quite for getting rid of your goodwill for someone
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as being informed by them that any kind of interaction with you from inquiring about their day to discussing the antics of the neighbourhood cats or the plain old nitty-gritty of household chore allocations and such business makes them want to commit suicide.
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Especially given that if it weren't for our prior friendship/acquaintance she'd be homeless or prostituting herself for a roof over her head.
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Originally Posted by Keld Denar
+3 Girlfriend is totally unoptimized. You are better off with a +1 Keen Witty girlfriend and then appling Greater Magic Make-up to increase her enhancement bonus.
Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 22: In Which Two Problems Prevent Each Others' Solut
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Originally Posted by Coidzor
There's nothing quite for getting rid of your goodwill for someone
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as being informed by them that any kind of interaction with you from inquiring about their day to discussing the antics of the neighbourhood cats or the plain old nitty-gritty of household chore allocations and such business makes them want to commit suicide.
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Especially given that if it weren't for our prior friendship/acquaintance she'd be homeless or prostituting herself for a roof over her head.
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Originally Posted by Coidzor
There's nothing quite for getting rid of your goodwill for someone
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as being informed by them that any kind of interaction with you from inquiring about their day to discussing the antics of the neighbourhood cats or the plain old nitty-gritty of household chore allocations and such business makes them want to commit suicide.
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Especially given that if it weren't for our prior friendship/acquaintance she'd be homeless or prostituting herself for a roof over her head.
I think there is story there, just waiting to be told.
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Originally Posted by ThiagoMartell
I think there is story there, just waiting to be told.
Maybe if I get in a good ranting mood and feel like taking it to a PM, or maybe offsite, haha.
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Granted, now I've just got a stupid situation with an older woman I never should have touched with a ten foot pole in the first place. While helping care for my best friend's sick/dying mother who goes from wanting no interference or assistance from anyone to needing lots of assistance at the drop of a hat and with no prior warning. While trying to take care of the uniquely fun situation when the people with power over my life keep losing the bloody paperwork that'll let me can get on with life. Yay!
So what I'm saying is that maybe I am close to breaking down and unloading a possibly entertaining rant onto anyone morbid enough to be curious.
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"Children afraid of the night
Who have never been happy or good." - September 1, 1939. W.H. Auden
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Originally Posted by Keld Denar
+3 Girlfriend is totally unoptimized. You are better off with a +1 Keen Witty girlfriend and then appling Greater Magic Make-up to increase her enhancement bonus.
Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 22: In Which Two Problems Prevent Each Others' Solut
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Originally Posted by Coidzor
Maybe if I get in a good ranting mood and feel like taking it to a PM, or maybe offsite, haha.
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Granted, now I've just got a stupid situation with an older woman I never should have touched with a ten foot pole in the first place. While helping care for my best friend's sick/dying mother who goes from wanting no interference or assistance from anyone to needing lots of assistance at the drop of a hat and with no prior warning. While trying to take care of the uniquely fun situation when the people with power over my life keep losing the bloody paperwork that'll let me can get on with life. Yay!
So what I'm saying is that maybe I am close to breaking down and unloading a possibly entertaining rant onto anyone morbid enough to be curious.
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Originally Posted by Coidzor
Maybe if I get in a good ranting mood and feel like taking it to a PM, or maybe offsite, haha.
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Granted, now I've just got a stupid situation with an older woman I never should have touched with a ten foot pole in the first place. While helping care for my best friend's sick/dying mother who goes from wanting no interference or assistance from anyone to needing lots of assistance at the drop of a hat and with no prior warning. While trying to take care of the uniquely fun situation when the people with power over my life keep losing the bloody paperwork that'll let me can get on with life. Yay!
So what I'm saying is that maybe I am close to breaking down and unloading a possibly entertaining rant onto anyone morbid enough to be curious.
Oh man. Sounds like a lot of stress right now. Hope things work out somehow, soon.
Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 22: In Which Two Problems Prevent Each Others' Solut
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Originally Posted by Rawhide
Did she start it before or after you confessed your love?
Afterwards. I told her just before I left Gen Con. She was, at that point, two months out of a 3 year relationship, but I wasn't going to get the chance to tell her in person until next year, so time was a factor.
Several mutual friends have been goading me for years to tell her how I felt, to the point that if I didn't, they would.
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That sucks
How did she react to you admitting it? How are you feeling right now. Also I strongly suggest that in the future, you keep your friends out of the loop when it comes to relationships, or you make it clear that they're not to pressure you into anything. ''Friendly'' interference has never led anywhere good in my experience.
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Originally Posted by Lord Loss
That sucks
How did she react to you admitting it? How are you feeling right now. Also I strongly suggest that in the future, you keep your friends out of the loop when it comes to relationships, or you make it clear that they're not to pressure you into anything. ''Friendly'' interference has never led anywhere good in my experience.
After telling me that she already knew (because I'm terrible at keeping secrets, apparently), she told me she needed time to get used to the idea of being single.
To be honest, this feels worse than the last time I was here; after being cheated on, and left for, a guy the girl in question met at a V:tM LARP. I hate to say it, but I almost feel betrayed.
The friends, in addition to also being in on my worst-kept secret, were so adamant about it because, according to them, they didn't want to see me suffer over it.
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After telling me that she already knew (because I'm terrible at keeping secrets, apparently), she told me she needed time to get used to the idea of being single.
If she started a relationship just after your confession, that was code for "I'm not interested but don't want to hurt your feelings". My sympathies.
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 22: In Which Two Problems Prevent Each Others' Solut
I am asking sometime between this evening and Thursday. This evening'd be 11 days before, Thursday'd be 9 before.
