LGBTAitP #28: Come Taste the Rainbow!

[Lentrax]

Originally Posted by Arti3

Do people in relationships generally not talk to each other much or something? I've done nothing but communicate with zir since it started :P Also it's an LDR so we can't physically do anything but yeah, zie is adorable and wonderful and stuff ^_^

The problem is they usually don't talk enough.

But even there, there is a caveat. You have to talk effectively. You can't just drone on about boring things, and you can't gush about useless things. You need to know how much to talk about everything, but if you talk enough, you will find that balance.

And don't upset it when you do, cause then the universe will explode.

[Coidzor]

Originally Posted by Arti3

Do people in relationships generally not talk to each other much or something? I've done nothing but communicate with zir since it started :P Also it's an LDR so we can't physically do anything but yeah, zie is adorable and wonderful and stuff ^_^

Well there's talking and then there's listening and then there's communication, no?

[Musashi]

Originally Posted by Arti3

Do people in relationships generally not talk to each other much or something? I've done nothing but communicate with zir since it started :P Also it's an LDR so we can't physically do anything but yeah, zie is adorable and wonderful and stuff ^_^

Don't know what people in relationships generally do, but what I do know is that misunderstandings (either one-sided or two-sided) happen much more frequently than you might think, and that those same misunderstandings can cause a plethora of much more serious problems.
(Proof: the plot of every single damn romantic comedy could easily be resolved with honest communication very early on. Yes, even the one where the woman pretends to be about to marry her employee to avoid being kicked out of the US, except they should have explained the situation to the guy's family. No, I don't like romantic comedies. In no small part because when those "cute" misunderstandings happen IRL, it doesn't end happily for everyone.)

[Selpharia]

Originally Posted by Asta Kask

Nonsense. Just watch this video.

I'm trying to imagine myself doing that without looking like a a clown of some kind because I've done it all wrong. Hmm, nope. Imagination Check = Failed. Still it's always impressive to see what kind of transformative magic can be worked with such sorcerous implements as properly applied makeup. Maybe one day...

~Laura

[KenderWizard]

Originally Posted by Selpharia

I keep thinking I want to dress up, but then getting cold feet and/or freaking out about how detailed I want to get, and deciding it's not worth it, especially since I don't expect to be going to any parties or anything.

~Laura

Mmh, yeah, I want to dress up but I'm not sure what I'll be doing. I've got a big con this weekend I'm involved with and I'm moving into my new apartment tomorrow so I'm totally disorganised! I think even if you're not going out, it's fun to dress up!

Originally Posted by Heliomance

You're over 12ft? O_o

I laughed!

Originally Posted by Arti3

Do people in relationships generally not talk to each other much or something? I've done nothing but communicate with zir since it started :P Also it's an LDR so we can't physically do anything but yeah, zie is adorable and wonderful and stuff ^_^

It's a fairly common problem for couples to not properly communicate enough. It's one thing to chat, but it's another thing to actually talk and listen such that you and your partner are both happy and secure. You should be able to talk about your likes and dislikes and fears and expectations. Inside and outside of the bedroom!

[Astrella]

Originally Posted by Selpharia

I'm trying to imagine myself doing that without looking like a a clown of some kind because I've done it all wrong. Hmm, nope. Imagination Check = Failed. Still it's always impressive to see what kind of transformative magic can be worked with such sorcerous implements as properly applied makeup. Maybe one day...

~Laura

You should do it. Dressing up feels really nice. (She says while only having one top; well, it's a nice one. >.> )

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Also I just got back from hanging out with a trans girl friend of mine and we talked a bunch and it was fun. Especially since I don't really do the whole hanging out with offline people often.

[Coidzor]

Originally Posted by Selpharia

I'm trying to imagine myself doing that without looking like a a clown of some kind because I've done it all wrong. Hmm, nope. Imagination Check = Failed. Still it's always impressive to see what kind of transformative magic can be worked with such sorcerous implements as properly applied makeup. Maybe one day...

~Laura

Only one way to make that day today.

[Nix Nihila]

Originally Posted by Selpharia

I'm trying to imagine myself doing that without looking like a a clown of some kind because I've done it all wrong. Hmm, nope. Imagination Check = Failed. Still it's always impressive to see what kind of transformative magic can be worked with such sorcerous implements as properly applied makeup. Maybe one day...

~Laura

I would highly recommend playing around with makeup (or clothes) if you get the opportunity. It may be uncomfortable at first, and it likely won't come out too well, but you have to start somewhere, and it can feel really excellent.

I suppose that's a good way of describing most of transitioning, actually.

[Lentrax]

Originally Posted by Nix Nihila

I would highly recommend playing around with makeup (or clothes) if you get the opportunity. It may be uncomfortable at first, and it likely won't come out too well, but you have to start somewhere, and it can feel really excellent.

I suppose that's a good way of describing most of transitioning, actually.

That really sums it up. Yeah, we all go through the 'clown makeup' phase (unless you're perfect or have someone sympathetic to assist you. Yay you)

But we all have to start somewhere. The only thing I can add is to start small. You will have a 'comfort zone.' Push it a little bit. Then a little more.

Just don't get overwhelmed. That's a surefire way to make yourself feel bad about yourself.

[Heliomance]

Originally Posted by Absol197

Hey Helio, re-read what you quoted. 6 feet does not equal 12 feet. Now, if he'd said 6 meters...


~Phoenix~

EDIT: ...No, wait, that wouldn't work, either...I can do math! Really, I promise! <_<; ;>_>

He said he used to be 6 foot, now he's more than twice that.

[KenderWizard]

Originally Posted by Lentrax

That really sums it up. Yeah, we all go through the 'clown makeup' phase (unless you're perfect or have someone sympathetic to assist you. Yay you)

I'm reasonably sure this happens to most women and at least some non-women, regardless of what equipment you start with! Women are taught to learn quickly and invisibly how to groom themselves; make-up, hair, shaving, etc, but there is learning and it can be hilarious. The first time I tried to use kohl I just drew that stuff on all over. I think I was about 12. The astonishing thing is my mother just let me go out like that, and my friend fell around laughing at me and said I looked like I was trying to be Cleopatra. So ... yeah!

Edit:
And, here's Lana Wachowski talking about growing up trans. It's quite long so I haven't watched it yet but I thought I'd share it now anyway.

[Absol197]

Originally Posted by Heliomance

He said he used to be 6 foot, now he's more than twice that.

Ah, right. Sorries, I didn't think of that! I didn't mean to sound so...Like that.

[SiuiS]

Originally Posted by Absol197

Hello, everyone, and welcome to the thread for the discussion, celebration and support of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Asexual, Allied, and Queer individuals, and anyone else who fits into the alphabet soup somewhere! Maybe since I'm making this thread, I'll remember to update the link in my signature*!
* Not likely...
Here's the in-thread rules!

Thanks, luv! I was goin to say something but I forgotted it.

OH RIGHT! Using a double space on a notepad fiction from a mobile device replaces the second space with an asterisk when you copy and paste it. Just so you know~

Originally Posted by Socratov

Wow, that was quick.

Now I see the Op again, I have always wondered about these:

Ω, ♅

anyone care to explain?

Omega seems just to be a "we have everything! Letters! Numbers! Symbols! _________! Yes, even blank concepts filled in by by your own imaginings! So come on down to the Crazy Giant's LGBTQAthread, where WE have an attribution for YOU!"

Neptune was, quite literally, "I don't feel like mars, I don't feel like Venus, what's left? Neptune?"

Originally Posted by Lentrax

But I don't like skittles.

I prefer starburst.

In which Starry remembers she is to turn off her Adult Humor Centers score reading LGBTQAthreads.

Originally Posted by Astrella

Yar, I didn't mention her name cause I don't think we're supposed to discuss banned people?

I am a curious creature. This is like, low grade torture. Would anyone be willing to weather extraforumular contact from moi?

Originally Posted by Zorg

I plan on not dressing up and if people ask about it I'll tell them I'm going as one of the X-Men.

Edit: people commented on my slender frame- I'm 6ft tall and weigh 60kg, so yeah, skinny.

Youch. I am painfully scrawny right now and almost exactly 65kg. I'm actually trying to reacquire some of my muscle mass, get back up to 70kg and backdown to a 24" waist.

Originally Posted by Heliomance

You're over 12ft? O_o

Asta kask is actually a reptile. His length has increased, hence 6 to 12. Never said tall, right?

Alternately, same idea, adult themes. Viewer discretion advised.

[Triscuitable]

Originally Posted by Socratov

♅

anyone care to explain?

Oh, Qaera used to use that one. Anyways...

Originally Posted by Heliomance

You're over 12ft? O_o

Originally Posted by Asta Kask

I had quite a growth spurt.

I lol'd.

Originally Posted by Nix Nihila

I would highly recommend playing around with makeup (or clothes) if you get the opportunity. It may be uncomfortable at first, and it likely won't come out too well, but you have to start somewhere, and it can feel really excellent.

I suppose that's a good way of describing most of transitioning, actually.

I like bright colors.
I hate makeup. Feels artificial.
On a "girly day", I'll wear brightly-colored jackets everywhere I go. I already have this bright-blue one.

Originally Posted by Heliomance

Asta kask is actually a reptile. His length has increased, hence 6 to 12. Never said tall, right?

Alternately, same idea, adult themes. Viewer discretion advised.

Don't be silly. He's much more than just a reptile. We have this suspicion that he's a "Safe" classified SCP at the Foundation. We've just yet to confirm it.

[WarKitty]

*pounces in, hugs thread, pounces out*

[Irish Musician]

OMG I never get in the new thread until, like, 2nd page!! I'm so slow

Originally Posted by Arti3

Do people in relationships generally not talk to each other much or something? I've done nothing but communicate with zir since it started :P Also it's an LDR so we can't physically do anything but yeah, zie is adorable and wonderful and stuff ^_^

A lot of people, actually, don't communicate well. They talk to each other, but there is a difference between talking to each other, and having meaningful communication between each other.

Originally Posted by Zorg

Edit: people commented on my slender frame- I'm 6ft tall and weigh 60kg, so yeah, skinny.

Just an FYI, that is like model size. Kinda just throwing that out there lady!
EDIT: Not that I really know what 60kg means, being in 'Merica

~Matthew~

[Coidzor]

Originally Posted by Celtic_D&Der

Just an FYI, that is like model size. Kinda just throwing that out there lady!
EDIT: Not that I really know what 60kg means, being in 'Merica

About 130 pounds or what a 5'4" woman of middlingly-slight build weighs from what I recall.

[golentan]

Guys, I need a hug.

Spoiler

So, I just went to a dark place in my memories, between (interestingly enough) Khaos Komix and a conversation with Serps on facebook. (No blame to you Serpentine, I love you and I chose to go there). Anyway, I'm revisiting all my history of abuse and dysfunction in my mind, and I'm just stuck thinking that I'll never be comfortable with or understand my own sexuality. I don't know where I'm coming from, I don't know why one day something or someone can be so attractive and the next day thinking of the same thing will find me feeling so bad.

I'm glad I got to spend time with my girlfriend though. She's snuggly and wonderful.

[Irish Musician]

Originally Posted by golentan

Guys, I need a hug.

Spoiler

So, I just went to a dark place in my memories, between (interestingly enough) Khaos Komix and a conversation with Serps on facebook. (No blame to you Serpentine, I love you and I chose to go there). Anyway, I'm revisiting all my history of abuse and dysfunction in my mind, and I'm just stuck thinking that I'll never be comfortable with or understand my own sexuality. I don't know where I'm coming from, I don't know why one day something or someone can be so attractive and the next day thinking of the same thing will find me feeling so bad.

I'm glad I got to spend time with my girlfriend though. She's snuggly and wonderful.

SUPER HUGZ!!!!!!!!!!!

[Mystic Muse]

*Hugs for Golentan*

Sorry to hear how things aren't working out very well.

Glad to hear your girlfriend helps.

[Socratov]

good ol' brohug for golentan. Remember that after rain the sun will come out again

and yes, girlfriends are wonderful that way... really wonderful...

Also, Thanks Siuis and Trisc

[Arachu]

Originally Posted by Zorg

I plan on not dressing up and if people ask about it I'll tell them I'm going as one of the X-Men.

Edit: people commented on my slender frame- I'm 6ft tall and weigh 60kg, so yeah, skinny.

I think I'll do the same and just say I'm dressed as a vampire. Then later switch to zombie. Maybe werewolf.

*Agrees with Lentrax* X3

Originally Posted by Astrella

You should do it. Dressing up feels really nice. (She says while only having one top; well, it's a nice one. >.> )

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Also I just got back from hanging out with a trans girl friend of mine and we talked a bunch and it was fun. Especially since I don't really do the whole hanging out with offline people often.

:3

Originally Posted by WarKitty

*pounces in, hugs thread, pounces out*

*Pouncehugs afterimage~*

Originally Posted by golentan

Guys, I need a hug.

Spoiler

So, I just went to a dark place in my memories, between (interestingly enough) Khaos Komix and a conversation with Serps on facebook. (No blame to you Serpentine, I love you and I chose to go there). Anyway, I'm revisiting all my history of abuse and dysfunction in my mind, and I'm just stuck thinking that I'll never be comfortable with or understand my own sexuality. I don't know where I'm coming from, I don't know why one day something or someone can be so attractive and the next day thinking of the same thing will find me feeling so bad.

I'm glad I got to spend time with my girlfriend though. She's snuggly and wonderful.

*So many hugs*


~Bianca

[supernerd]

Originally Posted by golentan

Guys, I need a hug.

Spoiler

So, I just went to a dark place in my memories, between (interestingly enough) Khaos Komix and a conversation with Serps on facebook. (No blame to you Serpentine, I love you and I chose to go there). Anyway, I'm revisiting all my history of abuse and dysfunction in my mind, and I'm just stuck thinking that I'll never be comfortable with or understand my own sexuality. I don't know where I'm coming from, I don't know why one day something or someone can be so attractive and the next day thinking of the same thing will find me feeling so bad.

I'm glad I got to spend time with my girlfriend though. She's snuggly and wonderful.

My first post of the new thread, and I'm glad it's *HUGS!* for Golly.

[Zorg]

*Hugs for Golly*


Bianca, that works, but you miss the terrible, terrible pun that way.

[KenderWizard]

Oh, Golly, that's tough. *hugs*

[Lentrax]

Originally Posted by golentan

Guys, I need a hug.

Spoiler

So, I just went to a dark place in my memories, between (interestingly enough) Khaos Komix and a conversation with Serps on facebook. (No blame to you Serpentine, I love you and I chose to go there). Anyway, I'm revisiting all my history of abuse and dysfunction in my mind, and I'm just stuck thinking that I'll never be comfortable with or understand my own sexuality. I don't know where I'm coming from, I don't know why one day something or someone can be so attractive and the next day thinking of the same thing will find me feeling so bad.

I'm glad I got to spend time with my girlfriend though. She's snuggly and wonderful.

*Hugs. So many hugs.*
I'm sorry to hear about your dark place. I cannot, and will not compare your memories and experiences to mine because that is just wrong for anyone to do. But I will share a lesson it took me a really long time to learn (read: I still haven't fully learnt it yet.): Your past doesn't rule you. It affects you, yes. But it will only rule you if you let it.

Sorry I can't help more. Glad you have a snuggly thing to snuggle with though. *hugs*

Originally Posted by Zorg

*Hugs for Golly*


Bianca, that works, but you miss the terrible, terrible pun that way.

Oh. Just got it. Clever, Zorgie. You cunning minx, you.

[Arachu]

Originally Posted by Zorg

Bianca, that works, but you miss the terrible, terrible pun that way.

... *Sees what you did there* XD


~Bianca

[C'nor]

*Hugs Golentan*

On Halloween, the guy threatening to break my arm last year kinda soured me on the whole experience. Which, admittedly, was specifically a result of volunteering in a haunted house, but... Yeah.

[Blue1005]

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[Musashi]

Multi-hugs for Golentan. >.< *hugs!*

Originally Posted by Blue1005

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