If you are comfortable with reflashing the firmware of your laptop DVD-Drive, then you can find the correct firmwares on this forum: http://forum.rpc1.org
Warning: A wrong firmware / bad flashing or mistake will break your drive.
To find which one to use, you need the exact model of your drive (Example: MATSH_ITA DVD-RAM UJ-822S on my T43 IBM Thinkpad) and search for that on the forum. The model name is available in Windows in the "Device Manager" under DVD/CD-Rom drives.
Edit: MATSH_ITA because without the _ it gets censored.