So, my social life has taken several steps from non-existent to puzzling. I've got acquianted with two girls and am now wondering what direction to go to.
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First is a childhood friend I recently got re-acquianted with, and have dated her a couple of times. Last time we met, we had a little chat of whether we're going anywhere, and she said she won't mind at all if I keep pursuing her, so for the moment I have a green light. I don't know how far we'll go yet, but part of me really wants to be with her. She's boyish and plain-looking, but she's great company and keeps triggering my romantic side - she's in a similar(ly sucky) position with her family, and I want to give her a reprieve from that and see her smile.
Second is a new friend I met this Halloween. When we met, she was engaged, though contemplating breaking up with him. Back then, I kissed her goodbye, and thought that the end of it unless she actually followed through, though we kept meeting as friends. Well, now she's done it. She (rather loudly) proclaimed to me she's single, and clearly finds my company pleasant. I'm obviously not the only one she's interested in (or who is interested in her); I've seen her flirt with a good deal of guys, and she has an old flame in her ex-fiancé's best friend (awkward, that). She's also a bit flawed, to put it mildly, in that she smokes and drinks waaaayyyy too much for her own health. (Last time, I had to haul her drunken ass out of snow twice, and when I let my eyes off her for a second, she glued herself to one less-interested males who had to drag her home [poor guy]. Later, she came to me asking what happened, since she barely remembers a thing of what happened after we got to the bar). There are two sides to my feelings towards her: for one, I'm very attracted physically towards her and would like to plow her like a prize field, like Reluctance's euphenism goes. Second, as a friend, I just want to help her somehow. Watch over her and possibly keep her in check - see what happened priorly to understand why. She's just had a kid, and I dread to think what kind of a mother she'll end up being if she continues on her current tracks.
My gut reaction is to just keep seeing both of them and see what happens. It's entirely possible Miss #1 will get cold feet, or that Miss #2 finds someone else; but I'd rather not have both dump or hate me because I have feelings for both. I don't want to lie to either of that important detail if/when it becomes topical to talk about it, but if I'm to be open, how to do that without breaking ties with two great persons?