My "Guide To Self-Image" is pretty much about this... Making who you want to be, who you are. Because "be yourself" is all well and good, but if "being yourself" consists of picking your nose and flicking it at attractive young ladies while sitting around with a beer-gut barely covered by a "Get Back In The Kitchen" T-shirt, the fact of the matter is you're probably not going to get all that much positive attention, and that isn't anyone else's fault.