We don't disagree here, but the statement you supposedly defend said way more. Let me repeat it.
We have here not only how he raises his son, but also
Questioning the general approach to threats.
The effect of it on people other than Carl.
How society is supposed to work.
That is the conjecture I criticized. Far as I can see, it was all about how his son grows up and sees life.
And that in turn is my criticism of Rick's leadership. A leader's ultimate decision shouldn't be determined by how he raises his son. In a damn apocalypse there are way more important things to worry about.