LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is

[Mono Vertigo]

Feelings of guilt because you think you should not complain because you don't have problems observable by outsiders are normal. Or rather say, common.

It's feeling that all you really need to do is pulling yourself together and the problems are gone, as there are no outside factors that would hold you back. Complaining that you need help even though there seems nothing wrong with you would make you look whiny and disrespectful about people with actual problems. It's like you're just too lazy to solve your problems and want someone else to do it for you instead.

Been there, like lots of other people.
But that's not how it works and any specialist you might see about it understands that. They won't tell you that you're fine and are just wasting their time. If you feel bad about your situation and it does not go away, you have something, even if it's completely irrational. And most often it can be treated, but it's not a matter of willpower. It needs treatment.

Trust me, I've been there as well.
Comparing one's suffering to another person's is only a demonstration of pity, or sympathy at best, though. It still doesn't make one an ally of the cause. My mother constantly undermines her own pain or problems, sometimes mentioning kids starving in Africa, but that doesn't make her non-racist. (She's the ignorant kind of racist, not the hateful kind.)

But in a world that makes 19 year old virgins appear as slightly messed up, I am not comfortable about discussing that subject.

Ah, that stereotype that seriously made me think I was a freak, or that I wouldn't find anyone who would respect my lack of libido.
I still don't like talking about my own sexuality either. Heck, just mentioning I do have one (being demisexual and not strictly asexual) is a weird thing for me.
Otherwise, I don't speak about it because I think it's a very private and intimate thing. It's like bodily fluids, personal fantasies, fears and weaknesses. Now, I admit it's not a healthy attitude for everybody; I'm just quite the prude. I know and promote sexual liberty, but I'm just not practicing it myself, for reasons that I ignore. I feel just fine not sharing that part of my life, so why should I fight against it?