Don't forget to stay clear on the difference between Shaping a Soulmeld and Binding it. Merely shaping a Soulmeld lets you continue to use a magic item there, while binding overrides it.

But other than that, basically yes, Split Chakra is the way to go. Identify slots where you want to have both a magic item and the Bound effect of a Soulmeld and take the feat accordingly. it'll leave you a touch feat-starved in other places unless the other half of your gestalt offers some kind of bonus feats. Since you mentioned melee