Quote Originally Posted by arguskos View Post
I... do not know how to explain this beyond what I have already said. I feel that I am not entitled to anything from my partners. Instead, I must earn their time, affection, love, etc. How these things are earned depends on the partner in question, of course. It just seems clear to me that this is how things should work.
Yeah, that's probably part of your problem, right there. Thinking you have to earn things rather than them being a natural part of caring about someone else... That just sounds like it'll lead to problems with all aspects of the relationship.