Relationship Woes and Advice 25: Now with extra Valentine

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Sorry, but I don't sugarcoat. It doesn't help anybody.

When people don't know how to be happy alone, it is often because of some sort of emptiness in their life? There are things you love to do, so do them. Make them the priority. Find whatever it is in life that gives you fulfillment, and do it without apologies. Volunteer at an animal rescue, play guitar, take up squirrel suit jumping, whatever.

But if you cant be happy by yourself, nobody else will be able to change that. You will be a cancer on the relationship, and immature, douchebaggish behavior will continue.

Do what you love, and make it the top priority in your life. You know, after you take care of the basic needs of survival and integrity of course. After that, everything, and I mean everything, will get better. *Don't make excuses to NOT take care of yourself first.* If you're not being taken care of by you first, you won't be helping anyone in the long run.